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TTC after mc #4

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 12/02/2015 14:44

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MsJupiter · 15/02/2015 15:06

Hello all, I lost you there. Just reading through to catch up.

To anyone who doesn't know me, I am 38, have one DS (2) and had a mc on 22 November last year at 9 weeks. I've had one AF since then, on 22 Jan.

Well after last month's wobble, we have finally got back on the horse so to speak and dtd three times in the last week. As my wft cycle was 2 months long I have no idea when I'll ovulate but I did have a small amount of EWCM so will try and aim for dtd eod for the rest of the cycle, however long that is.

I am having recurrent dreams about bleeding but in general feeling better about things and a bit less anxious.

chasingtherainbow · 15/02/2015 16:31

Brickie. . We dtd (i needed to feel close) quite quickly. Within a week I think.

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 15/02/2015 17:24

DTD whenever you are ready- as long as no longer bleeding. You won't do any harm.

Ovia app is so fucking stupid. I have a 33 day cycle and ov on day 19. I only track using cm but I get 4 clear days of ewcm and then 14 days later I get my period so it's pretty obvious when I ovulate. Ovia just make shit up! It claims I'm ovulating today, day 13 without any ewcm and with no other signs reported! It knows that I ovulated on day 19 the last 2 months based on cm and when my period arrived. I even put in a negative opk just to convince it I'm not ovulating. It's still insisting in in the last day of my fertile window today.

It's a total idiot.

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chasingtherainbow · 15/02/2015 17:32

I stopped using my clear blue fm because it was fucking useless. Now I use the ov sticks with the smiley face. Means I don't waste shed loads of money peeing on sticks when I know I'm not ov. The smiley face ones you pee on whenever you are ready so I just use 2 or 3 a month when I know for sure myself and just want confirmation x

MsJupiter · 15/02/2015 17:52

Re. apps, I am only using Period Tracker at the mo. I have got a bunch of ov sticks but just using cm as a guide for now. If I don't get a BFP in a couple of months I might start using the opks but I am not going back to temp charting, I did it for months when ttc DS (using Fertility Friend) and it just stressed me out. Period Tracker is not very intuitive and just uses average cycle lengths but I use it more to keep track of things myself.

I hope Snoopy is ok, I was so sorry to read of the spotting and then bleeding. Thinking of you Snoopy.

Reverse my wft cycle was 2 months exactly so I know how you are feeling - frankly it was a relief when AF finally arrived and I feel more on an even keel now. I definitely got very hormonal around AF though - it felt like 2 months' worth of PMT came at once. Hope that isn't the case for you but if it is go easy on yourself.

Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 15/02/2015 17:58

The bleeding is lighter. My cervix is closed but it seems to have been the whole time (probably just the progesterone) I haven't really had any pain (had more twinges in the early weeks of mmc which I oresumed were just normal) I don't really know what to do. Obviously the gp surgery is closed.

Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 15/02/2015 18:04

Hi Ms Jupiter, glad to hear you're feeling a little better. You must have the patience of a saint.

I was using ovia and glow. I too seem to have 33 day cycles. My fertile period jumped around all the time on ovia so we pretty much just dtd every day to cover all our bases.

Fuck knows what's going to happen to my cycle this time. Can't get lucky twice can I ( if I can call this lucky)

On a positive note I'm back on my green smoothies and I bought something called bioglan supergreens to add to them, figured it won't do any harm

chasingtherainbow · 15/02/2015 18:17

Snoopy what's your plan of action... how are you feeling? Xx

I've been using the app "my days X" just to keep a quick reference of my cycle to hand. It's definitely basic.

Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 15/02/2015 18:25

I just feel sad.

I don't think I can go to a and e because it's not an emergency.

I will try and make a gp appointment tomorrow

I just want it over with. I can call OH for some counselling and see what my options are at work. I can exercise, I can eat well and I can try again.

epskie · 15/02/2015 18:58

So sorry snoopy

Has the doctor confirmed it? Xx

Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 15/02/2015 19:15

Not yet epskie. I might see about getting a scan tomorrow.

How are you feeling? Did you ever get an answer to your ovulation question?

chasingtherainbow · 15/02/2015 19:16

Get yourself to epu first thing tomo for a scan and a blood test. Big love snoopy..don't give up hope yet x

Gr33dyeggs · 15/02/2015 20:18

Hi stocking - what a predicament. You sound like you would be ok with a BFP to decline MAP. Tricky situation with OH nonetheless.

Re dtd, I bled for nearly 3 weeks so had to wait for that to end.

Heres a question. As I am now in 'enjoy the now, what will be will be' mode I'm thinking of booking a holiday in summer which would involve 3 to 4 hour flight depending where we go. Would you/ have you flown in pregnancy? I really feel like DS is missing out while we're in limbo land.

epskie · 15/02/2015 20:28

Ah snoopy hold onto your hope! Wait and see what they say, I'll be hoping for the best news for you.

Well we dtd for the first time last night and will do it tonight too. Pos opk on Friday but neg last night so not sure if I have caught it in time or not :-/ x

chasingtherainbow · 15/02/2015 20:29

Greedy I went abroad on a 4 hr flight at 28 wks. It was ok but the heat made me sick and I didn't enjoy it much.

I worked for a maternity dr not long ago and when I mentioned I'd been abroad she said she'd never fly pregnant but then refused to elaborate because she didn't want to scare me!

chasingtherainbow · 15/02/2015 20:31

If it were me I'd use the money to have an extra long holiday somewhere in the UK. Given my history now I wouldn't ever risk being out of the UK pregnant now. If I needed any medical help I'd want to be "near" home

CirrusClouds · 15/02/2015 21:03

snoopy just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you.

reverse you're being put through the mill still, poor you.

Re flying there is no evidence that it affects pregnancy. I'm sure I'm not alone in having to travel abroad regularly for work and I think it's a bit unfair to plant worries about flying without any evidence especially when people like me may have to fly when pg...

chasingtherainbow · 15/02/2015 21:11

clouds as far as I'm aware there's no risk to baby flying - obviously midwives sign you a note to say so.

For me it was about being a long way from home if I had any trouble with the pregnancy itself. Apologies if my above post up at you clouds. X

CirrusClouds · 15/02/2015 21:21

No worries chasing! There's already so much to worry about and I just think it's important not to have yet more worries that aren't justified.

I think I would be fine to travel as long as I was confident in the country's healthcare system, so that would be most of Europe I would imagine. And as long as you have your EHIC any care you might need would be covered (although of course hopefully wouldn't be needed at all!)

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 15/02/2015 21:45

I'm going to go against the grain here and say book the holiday abroad. We've all put our lives on hold in so many ways for hypothetical pregnancies. We've all had real pregnancies and we all know that things don't always work out how you plan. But the world has to keep turning and you can't just press pause indefinitely on every plan which might be slightly impacted by a possible pregnancy. That's why we've decided to ttc despite job worries and other uncertainties. Because we have to hope that everything will work out but if we try and completely control it, we are going to be very disappointed.

Easier said than done though!

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chasingtherainbow · 16/02/2015 08:10

I think that's a good way to look at it guy. The hols I went on we booked so we had something to look forward to if we weren't pregnant. EasyJet said they wouldn't let me fly home because I was 28 weeks and I was scared grateful of how lax the security was at Cyprus airport that I just strolled right on through and got home. It hadn't even registered to me back then any of my worries now. Pregnancy was textbook and I was living in my lovely little bubble.

I did throw up behind a bus stop and offend several locals when a bus pulled up and I was wafted with a huge wave of heat on top of the hotter than the weather forecast promised weather. My thighs swelled so much I could only fit in one pair of linens and after insisting we all go to tomb of the Kings we got ten minutes in, I had a hormonal meltdown and ended up in the pub sipping Pepsi :-D

Anyways, enjoy your hols! Where do you think you'll go? Xx

ReverseTheTrend · 16/02/2015 12:00

Taken another test, swear there is a line again, on an IC but clearblue digi on Sat said not pregnant. Dodgy batch of ic

ReverseTheTrend · 16/02/2015 12:04

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TTC after mc #4
ReverseTheTrend · 16/02/2015 12:12

Sorry that should have been a question, should I assume a dodgy batch of IC, or should I start to get excited/terrified?

northdownmummy · 16/02/2015 12:28

I can see it too Reverse Congrats

My due date would have been 1st March. We both wanted some way to remember and decided to plant some bulbs in that garden which would flower around that time each year.
Well the beautiful Snowdrops and Iris have just started to flower. I never imagined when planting them that I'd still not be pregnant when they were blooming. I'm still very glad we did it, but it makes me sad. My daughter who's two spotted them yesterday and said "look mummy, little pretty wee new baby flowers" almost broke my heart.

I'm currently 12dpo. Waiting to POAS, Waiting for blood test results to come back from the doctor, Waiting for my EDD... waiting waiting waiting.

I'm really struggling to live in the present and feeling constantly tearful and angry. I know you ladies all understand just how unfair it all is.