TTC 10 months plus, supporting each other and staying positive. Another BFP one of course :-)

[victoria401]

New thread for the rest of us to get our BFP's on, by whatever means!!!

Hello ladies hope you don't mind me joining in... I'Ve been TTC no 2 for 18mths + and now on my first cycle of clomid. In the 2ww at the moment, trying not to raise my hopes! It took a year almost to conceive my son, and I guess I'm not any younger! :)

Anyone else on clomid? Any success stories out there??

hi kat, not been on clomid myself but we did have a lady a whole back who got her bfp from clomid. think it was her third cycle on it. fx it works quickly for you.

So I've turned into the person I've been dreading. Close friends have told us last night they're pregnant again. I don't know why but I feel jealous and bitter that it's not us. I can't stop crying. I've called in sick and can't face anyone today. Who is that person?! Argh. Any coping tips lovely ladies please?

Lindsay, that's a really tough situation - hope you're doing ok. Fingers crossed it happens naturally for you soon x

Laura- I'm not sure I have any good tips but I would say don't be too hard on yourself, I think most of us have moments like that from time to time! I had a couple of moments this week where I was out with friends who were with their toddlers and started to get tears in my eyes. Felt so silly but couldn't help myself. Maybe once you feel a little bit better later today you could talk to DH or a friend, sometimes it can help?? Hugs

Laura I hit a low period like that around the 18 month mark, I felt completely consumed by ttc and was not enjoying life on a day to day basis- all I could think about was getting pregnant. Don't be hard on yourself, everything you are feeling is natural and normal in this crazy long process and I really feel like you have to let yourself go through those dark times to come out the other side again and to start enjoying life again. I booked myself a holiday at the time to look forward to, tried to see friends often and did a lot of day trips with DH and had a lot of family time. I learned that this is all beyond my control and that stopping enjoying life is not the answer, I also learned to appreciate all the things I do have in my life and although I never stopped wishing, praying, hoping and believing that I would get pregnant....i didn't stop living my life and that is what got me through it. Big hugs to you, I know it's so so hard and feels at times like a very sad, lonely place...but you are not alone, we all understand how you feel on this thread and will support eachother until we all get our little babies....and we will! x

couldn't have put it any better than mama did Laura. I recommend crying it out

Had some cramps yesterday and a tiny bit of spotting! I'm actually willing af to arrive now so I can begin ttc with a fresh new cycle but it's just teasing me...no sign today! After mc it's so strange to be willing af to arrive and hoping for negative tests as soon as possible....so warped!

Thanks for the advice last week, I went to see a really nice doctor today who is referring me for an ultrasound and also for day 3 and 21 bloods, don't know what I was worrying about, feel at least it's a step in the right direction.

myblack I meant to say on other thread (think it was you) why haven't they done sa for dh? clinic usually want results to be fairly recent when you're referred and him not getting sa will only delay things, and referral if he's the issue.

laura we've all been there just need to throw a bi*ch fit have a cry throw something and eventually it starts to ease. I cried in a restaurant because DH had the audacity to briefly mention in passing that Mr and Mrs j who we are not very close to were expecting! He never did that again...x

lil I asked if DH needed to do anything but she said not at the moment, if she needed to refer us to fertility clinic he would have a sa then. Think she was more concerned about me after having a mc. I think DH would need to see doc himself to get a sa and can't see that happening, I'm trying to get him to take 1000mg of vit C a day but that's a bit of a struggle. He thinks he has super sperm

black tell him to bloody prove it! not fair to delay things because he is a child!

Hello can I join. I'm 33 ttc #1 cycle 10 2dpo. My dp had sa last week. I had 21 day bloods got results yesterday, Dr said my progesterone was slightly low, he said test may have been wrong day or I'm not oving every month. He said when he gets dp's sa results he will then refer us to fertility clinic. It's getting me down bfn every month. Everywhere I look there's babies. My sister has 5 children and I can't even have 1

Really impressed with my doctors - got a letter through with my scan appointment for 3 weeks time, will have my first blood test in two weeks, hopefully we can invoke the law of sod and not need them

Ladies I need some help. We have been ttc dec 2013. I went to the gp in March as I keep spotting from 9dpo and no bfp. I got 21 day bloods and told results satisfactory by receptionist. Told to see gp once hubs SA results were back and I would get full breakdown. Hubs had his SA on May 14. He got a call today from the receptionist to say he has to do another sample on August 6th. He asked for the results and was told gp never told her she could tell him so she's asked the GP. What in the world is going on here? We are at the same practice. In the meantime I'm blinking spotting/bleeding 10 days of the fecking month with no bfp in sight :(

Ella my dh had bad sa and receptionist called us to arrange for a Dr to call him. fx its not too bad a result but as they are booking 2nd sample I'd prepare for bad news hunny. sorry

Ella wait and see what the GP says before you panic as it may just ne numbers down in one or some places but maybe start him on wellmans conception vits and 1000mg vit c if he hasn't already started vits as these both improve sperm and best to start now regardless of the results.

Ladies my first af has arrives after my mmc, feeling absolutely grim...was doing so well and being positive but it's like I'm reliving the feelings I had after my mmc....please let it ease off soon! I know it's hormones but it is so unbearable and disappointing when I felt I had come a long way from how I had been feeling :(

I thought I'd be received to have af finally....strangely I now feel the opposite...bloody hormones!!!!

*relieved not received!

mamma I know first hand that nothing I can say can ease your pain, so just know I'm thinking of you and you are not alone x

Thank you Lil, hormones really f#*k you up don't they! I am a mess! Things can only get better!

Oh mama big hugs. I can't imagine how you feel but I know it can't be nice. I hope the sadness moves off soon and you can press forward.

Ella if the GP wants to speak to your dh about the sa then the results are probably low in at least one area. But it might be a blip and the next ones might be fine. Sperm renews every 3 months approx, hence the time between tests. They could be low because of an illness or even a weekend of booze that happened 3 months previous! My dh suffered from low morphology but over the course of a year, with diet and vitamins, we got it into normal ranges and I got my bfp after 2.5 years ttc. lil recommended he take 1000mg Vit C daily as well as his Wellman vits. He started taking it and bam! 3 months later we got preg. I'm not saying it's a miracle cure for everyone but I think it must have helped in our particular case. But yea, don't panic until you get the full picture of what's going on. And a lot of things can be fixed with both of you x

Thanks Vic. We have decided to take a break from ttc for a couple of months until after our holiday in August. The pressure of it is just too much now and I need a break from counting days and wishing my life away. I just want to live and have fun for a while as that will be the best thing to help me move on from what has happened. DH and I discussed this today and I now feel a huge relief not to have to think about it at all for a couple of months.

I will still check in on you ladies and hopefully to find some good news from you when I do. Good luck! X

That sounds like a great plan mama we had 3 months off and it was bliss. So relaxed and had no idea where I was in my cycle and af was a surprise :-) Best to wait until after your holiday too. I recently went abroad at 7 weeks preg and I was worried all the time about something going wrong and being away from the nhs! Have a lovely break and a lovely holiday :-) x

Hope you're ok everyone x

Hi can I join? Me n partner have been ttc for nearly 2yrs, fell in Jan but mc at 6wks but we started ttc again straight away. Using my fertility monitor and fertility friend and finally got my peak this mth and am 2dpo :) now have a 9 day wait....