TTC 10 months plus, supporting each other and staying positive. Another BFP one of course :-)

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New thread for the rest of us to get our BFP's on, by whatever means!!!

hi all. sorry I've not been around. moved house on Friday and only got broadband today

mrschatty congratulations!

Nordic sounds like it could be an ovulation bleed?

Lucie so sorry it didn't work out. I've heard 2nd time lucky is the new third time lucky if you want to join me and get a round 2 win!!

mama glad to hear you are doing better.

Laura it's hard work but it will be worth it. keep going and think of your future baby as you hit the gym to motivate you

Hi ladies! Sorry not been checking in, been on holiday to Malta and got back yesterday!

Congrats to mrschatty! Great news hun!

Hi Nordic I remember you from the threads yonks ago and you're on the PD FB page now are you not? Good luck ttc! No idea about your odd cycles I'm afraid.

Glad you're feeling stronger every day mama Hope you get another bfp soon!

lil and Laura hello! Hope you get lucky soon too!

Me and metal are both on the same AN thread, who'd have thought it! We are both doing ok, apart from the nausea. metal has it worse though plus has her child to look after too. Wierdly I wasn't feeling ill much at all on holiday and as soon as we got back on UK soil I was hanging again! Roll on warmer weather if that's the affect it has! Lol!

Thanks for the congrats ladies- I'm feeling anxious because my symptoms are so mild but I'm still only 5 weeks so hopefully will feel more pregnant soon...imagine wishing for morning sickness eh...:)

Good to see how everyone is getting on!

mrschatty don't worry about the lack of symptoms at 5 weeks. I felt like I had a bit of a hangover at that stage. 6 weeks on the dot I had my head down the pan! Hope you don't end up feeling too ill x

Aw victoria thanks for that- I'm feeling 'mild hangover' today x

Hi I hope you don't mind me joining in and asking some advice?

Been ttc since dec13, I got pregnant within four cycles but sadly had a mc at ten weeks (natural), in June 14. Had a months break then have been trying since but with no luck. I have used the cbfm so know when I ovulate and have been timing things as best we can. I've just got af today on what is the 11th cycle of trying after mc and its hit me really hard. I feel such a failure that I couldn't hold onto the baby I had and now can't get pg again.

I think it's time to head to the doctors but concerned that because I have got pg in the past that I will just be told to keep trying as I have shown that I can get pg, I hate going to doctors as don't want to waste anyone's time, DH is even worse, I can't remember the last time he went for anything. Do I go on my own or do we both go together? What should I expect, I get upset talking about it and don't want to appear a mess in front of the doctor, is it best to see a male or female gp?

Sorry for all the questions but basically has anyone here had a mc then struggled to get pg and has been through the same thing? Any advice would be appreciated, Thanks.

Welcome myblackcat and I'm so sorry for your loss. I have just had a mmc in april but that took a long time for me to conceive and I am just waiting to see what happens now. We are on the waiting list for ivf due to mild male factor (sperm antibodies). I would suggest going to your gp, probably a female would be best and just discussing how your feeling and request initial blood tests to check your hormone profile. Also send DH to his gp to request a sperm analysis. At least if you get those results you will feel better informed on where to go next. If there are any issues, it's good to get referred to fertility clinic sooner rather than later as depending where you live, waiting lists can be very long. We won't get ivf until the New Year but have been with the fertility clinic since Jan so it can take a long time and best to get the ball rolling.

And don't worry about getting upset, I think most of us on here have crumbled and cried to our GP's, it is only natural and they should understand if you have a good, supportive GP.

I hope you find lots of comfort and support on here. We all have very different experiences but all want the same thing so much and will support eachother whatever stage we are all at.

Lil are you loving your new house? Congrats on the move! How are you doing with everything else?

Everyone else doing ok?

I'm doing a lot better but still no where near ovulation yet....wish it would hurry up!

blackcat hello- welcome :)

Like mama said it's best to go to docs and see if they can advise/test

There may be an easily remidied reason as to why your not conceiving- good luck xxx

Hi blackcat welcome. If you have been ttc for 12 months with no luck, regardless of if you've conceived in the past, you are entitled to tests. Anything could have changed in you and your dh's body and lifestyle in the past year? We had a lady on here who had been ttc for a year or more since a mc and had all the tests. But without treatment we are both on the December antenatal thread together! It could still happen very soon, don't feel bad about your loss, it was really nothing you did. Losses happen because of a genetic issue with the embryo not your inability to keep hold of it. I wish you all the luck in the world

Thanks for the replies - I appreciate it, I will go to docs next week and see what they say x

Sorry posted as chopsface again

black I went to gp alone and she booked dhs sa for me as well as my bloods. we are at same surgery though, and I have a fantastic gp. you are definitely entitled to tests,don't let them fob you off with 2 years crap. they can refer sooner if there are indicators of infertility a d indicators need tests to find!

mama we are in and unpacked! took 2+ days just to clean as it was filthy. left the loft room until tonight but all carpets have now been cleaned except master bedroom as we are ripping out en suite and redoing and taking out built in wardrobe. so excited.

in other news I've booked our next ivf. bcp starts July and first scan 26/8 with ec around 7/9.

Lil that's great news! All very exciting for you! Nice to have a timescale for ivf and you can focus on your lovely new house in the interim. I'm sure you are delighted :)

Vic/chopsface I hope all is going well, I'm sure Malta was beautiful!

lil brilliant news with ivf cycle! And like mama said tge new house offers a welcome distraction!!! It's so exciting buying a new home isn't it! Although I don't have the patience for remodeling...hence why I've only bought new builds...!! I'm jealous though you really get to put YOUR stamp on tge house xx

Exciting news for you lil! Nice to have a date for ivf, are you still trying naturally til then? Be great if you need to cancel beforehand. I know it sounds unbelievable but it happens, I'm proof! Have fun doing your house in the meantime x

mama Malta was the perfect 'last couple holiday' no regrets :-)

Hi girls- hope everyone has had a nice weekend so far. I've read back a bit and see congrats are in order for MrsChatty! Xoxo

This has been one of the most difficult months of our 2 year long journey. We got to the top of the IVF waiting list and received the letter for our appointments.... And DH had a major freak out and decided he couldn't go through with it. He feels conception should be natural and loving and if we had a baby this way, he would always feel uncomfortable about it. He says we would be forcing something to happen, against nature.

I'm obviously gutted, he is terrified I will resent him and so upset for taking something away from us. But he has to be honest, I guess.

Just don't know where we go from here. Similar to how DH feels about IVF, I struggle with the thought of adoption. Making the call to cancel those appointments was so gut wrenching! :-(

Oh Lindsay how awful for you :-( is there any chance he will change his mind? Would you have to start again with the ivf waiting list? Is dh ok with adoption then? That seems like an awful gruelling process that you might not even pass. Plus you got get a baby as the process is so long, the child is at least 6 months old. Plus you need to have left a gap between not being able to conceive your own with proof of counselling etc. Shudder. I forget what your fertility issues are, is there a chance you could still fall naturally? Big hugs luvvie

No, I don't think he'll change his mind chops I'm pretty certain he won't and in a weird way I'm glad that's he's now certain about it because if he was back and forward, that would make things worse. Similarly, I don't think I'll change my mind on adoption.

We have no explained pertikity issues, despite TTC for 2 years. My luteal phase rarely exceeds 10 days though, even though hormone results always come back ok.

Thanks for the well wishes! X

Pertikity... LOL!

I got what you meant lol! It happened for us after 2 and half years. I hope it does happen for you and that it happens soon.

Thanks victoria I think of your story often and also selfishly wish for the same. Hope you're well!

Lindsay oh my that is such a difficult thing for you both to go through as a couple. I really, really hope so much that it happens naturally for you both soon. I got my bfp at almost 2 years and I am determined to get another one before we would be up the ivf waiting list around dec-jan time. All we can do is keep trying and praying hard that it will happen. I'm sorry you have gone through such an emotional rollercoaster with it all, it must be very difficult to havesuch differing views. I hope you can stay strong together and conceive naturally very soon. Big hugs!

Lindsay that is awful. I don't know what I'd do of my dh said that to me. he didn't like the idea of ivf at first for similar reasons to ur dh but I was quite clear that for me it was not up for debate and he cane round to the idea by the time we had our referral appointment. I really hope you get your miracle. forgive me if you've said but have you tried b complex for your lp?

Vic yeah still trying naturally, tho probably only one more try left. AF was a day late. turned up today on 16dpo. bitch! luckily I've learnt not to get my hopes up!

I took 50mg b6 plus b100 complex, it lengthened my LP about 2-4 days.