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TTC 10 months plus, supporting each other and staying positive. Another BFP one of course :-)

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victoria401 · 11/02/2015 20:43

New thread for the rest of us to get our BFP's on, by whatever means!!!

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Metalhead · 16/02/2015 17:12

So sorry lil, I know how agonising that wait is. I hope you get a happy ending. x

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Mamama31 · 16/02/2015 17:22

Lil I will be praying hard for you x

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Landy10 · 16/02/2015 17:33

Lil - same as what everyone else is saying. Think positive and I've got my fingers crossed for you too. Big cyber hugs xx

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victoria401 · 16/02/2015 22:20

Massive hugs lil I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now. Much love x x

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hotnspicy12 · 17/02/2015 16:33

OK so had my ultra sound today and it's confirmed I have PCOS. Not surprising i Know, as my cycles have been 41-45 days and currently on my 47 day and still no signs of AF but I am still really upset by this.
Yes i know a lot of ppl have this and it's not a big fat NO you cant conceive but I still cant help but feel like shit about it.
Ive spent years thinking it's OK im still young build a solid foundation with a good career, healthy lifestyle and kids will happen easy. Well I guess today has felt like a slap in the face with reality.
Anyway Dh had his test today and ive got bloods tmr but next step ive been told will be a referral to fertility clinic.

Ok rant over just needed to let that out. Thanks

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Lauraqc · 17/02/2015 20:30

Hi Hot sorry to hear that - i've been diagnosed with that too. I'm also at least 2 stone overweight and can't seem to shift it. Been to dr tonight to get some help with losing the weight. I was having cycles of around 4-6 months so I definitely relate and I remember thinking if I even at least had regular (albeit long) cycles then that would be better. Am on Metformin now and cycles seem to just be starting to get under control and I've started on soya isoflavones. DH also has an abnormally low count so we're a double whammy issue.

It's our fertility appt tomorrow with the consultant. Will ask re DH's latest test and ask for another appt in 6 months I think and hopefully have lost the weight (and got pregnant!) by then. Otherwise it's ICSI for us. Good luck with it all.

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victoria401 · 17/02/2015 20:36

This was meant to be OUR year ladies. We must stay positive!

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Lauraqc · 17/02/2015 20:41

Definitely Vic! Weirdly I do feel it'll happen this year - either with help or without...I'm 10dpo tomorrow and my LP is usually 10 days and no sign of af as yet, but then no sign of anything else either! So i'm going to test in the morning before I go off to my fertility appt - I'm hoping I'll be one of those people who cancels because they got up the duff!!

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BertieBoo10 · 17/02/2015 20:51

Hi! I'm new to this thread, I sort of talked myself out of being on threads for a while but I feel there's so much to gain from them. Myself and my fiancé have been trying for 17 months now. Found myself in a really dark place around Christmas time when I simply couldn't bear to be around those with children regardless of who they were to us. From the darkness came support from a close friend who felt them same not so very long ago and I feel very fortunate that we have these two wonderful friends who have been through similar and have a beautiful little girl and just seeing her keeps me hoping ever so slightly. It offers support for me and my partner which I love but sometimes you really do just want to talk to someone who is going through it here and now. We have yet to seek medical advice we are due to go on holiday with these friends in June and we have decided should nothing happen after being away then we will seek support from out GP. I've heard such terrible things though that I'm so embarrassed and nervous to seek advice.

Hoping for us all that our wishes come true soon.

X

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Lauraqc · 17/02/2015 21:43

Hi Bertie welcome - hopefully you're feeling better just by joining this thread...good luck and fingers crossed for you.

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lildottie · 17/02/2015 23:18

hi Bertie. I'd honestly suggest seeing gp sooner rather than later. the referral process is long long long. you may have to wait months for an appointment at fertility clinic and time is of the essence with fertility. it took a year from seeing my gp to starting ivf.

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victoria401 · 18/02/2015 07:59

Hi Bertie, welcome. This is not like a normal conception thread full of charts and symptom spotting much but somewhere where we can talk about our ttc issues which a lot of people on the buses who are just starting out ttc don't understand. Most of us here are having/have had tests and a few are moving onto the treatment stages. You're in the right place.

I agree though, it takes ages to get all the fertility tests. I think about 8 or 9 months before we got referred. It can be longer if you live in Scotland or Wales too. You don't say how old you are, do you have time on your side?

Feel free to say/ask anything. We like to think we know a lot about tests and their results and what comes next from our own experiences.

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Metalhead · 18/02/2015 09:35

Did you poas laura?

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hotnspicy12 · 18/02/2015 09:43

Thanks Laura, positive thoughts and good luck to everyone xoxo

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Lauraqc · 18/02/2015 14:38

BFN for me, and think I'm having phantom af cramps now lol. Not too upset with result though, maybe it is a bit early if my cycles are thinking about being nearly normal..?

Just got back from our fertility appt though and its bad news...DH's sample has gone from 1.1m to 0.7ml in 6 months. Oh. So no point really concentrating on af/ov/temps etc as our chances are pretty slim. We've been declared eligible for our one round of ICSI, just as soon as I've lost that pesky 2 stone. Our neighbouring CCG may allow 3 rounds and so we may swap to come under that (we had the choice which hosp to be referred to). Final choice is private treatment which we think we'll do. Not a great day but spirits are ok and I don't feel as bad as I thought I would. No telling how DH is though, he's out cleaning the car with seemingly no second thought.

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Metalhead · 18/02/2015 14:56

Sorry to hear that laura, but glad you're keeping positive! Maybe your DH just needs a bit of time on his own to clear his head?

I'm having a bit of a crap week myself, I thought I'd managed to get my cycles a bit more regular with the acupuncture and soy but today I'm CD22 and have still not had a +opk, so looks like it will be another 35+day cycle. Pretty pissed off with my body, all told (and with having to carry on dtd for another week...).

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Metalhead · 18/02/2015 15:35

Also just realised it's a year today that I had the erpc after my mmc. I never thought I'd not even be pregnant again by now... Sad

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victoria401 · 18/02/2015 15:43

Oh dear it is doom and gloom in here today Sad

Sorry for the crap results Laura it prob is affecting dh but inwardly. I thought my dh didn't care til a sudden outburst on how inadequate he was and why don't I divorce him!

You might find that its your postcode that deems you elligible for the rounds of ivf not what hospital you go to. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. I know a person who brought their 2 goes from Somerset to a bristol hospital where we only get one...

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Landy10 · 18/02/2015 15:56

Welcome Bertie - totally echo what the others say and get to the GP as soon as you can. They will have seen loads of couples in the same boat.

Laura - although it wasn't good news it's good up be told a reason and Ivf/icsi when male factor is the issue works so well. What Vic said is very valid - I'm in London so loads of different councils go to the same hospitals and the doctor actually asked us which council we live in and then looked up a booklet to tell us our funding.

I've had my egg collection this morning. It's a totally fine procedure. The only bit that hurts is the morphine injection! Got 11 eggs - totally thrilled with that given my rubbish amh. Will find out tomorrow what the fertilisation is. DH sample was apparently very good so fingers crossed for high fertilisation. Can't wait for my pizza tonight after going low carb for the past 2 months!

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victoria401 · 18/02/2015 17:19

Yay great news landy totally forgotten you had reached this stage! Fingers crossed for good news tomorrow x

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lildottie · 18/02/2015 18:29

landy ec and et is the easy bit, the time after is hard!

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lucieloos · 18/02/2015 23:52

Is it true that ivf/icsi works quite well for male factor? I really hope so as I think that's our main problem. We will be starting before long and font think I can face another bfn!

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Lauraqc · 19/02/2015 06:36

Thanks all. Didn't sleep too well last night with all this stuff going on. Just feel it's so unfair having to deal with all this crap and why can't we just be 'normal'. We definitely come under the CCG which gives us one round (but if we'd have been referred before 1st Feb it would've been 3 rounds) - I'm just so pissed off with the world.

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lildottie · 19/02/2015 09:19

also pissed off with the world Laura why is it a f'ing postcode lottery!

Lucie in theory yes, but MF was our issue and whilst I did get pg the embryos weren't good enough quality to be viable. (or so is my assumption based on what ive read and our lack of any thing to freeze from 11 eggs). we had a mix of ivf and icsi embryos and one of each put back.

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Landy10 · 19/02/2015 09:42

Lucie the way I've heard it explained is this - if the problem is sperm getting to the egg to enable the creation of an embryo, then ICSI gets around this by taking sperm and injecting into egg creating an embryo. The rest of your parts should be working correctly therefore good chance of it working so long as you can create the embryos. It still might take more than one go to find that good egg obviously.

I'm so nervous waiting for my call to find out how many eggs fertilised!!!

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