Rolling rolling rolling, the February bus is still rolling!

[juneybean]

Here we are...

You lot have been extremely busy and I've got so much to catch up on. Was stalking the chat board and read a very heartbreaking thread, which I haven't stopped thinking about and don't think I'll be getting much sleep.

I also hope things improve for you victoria. It's a tough enough journey as it is without having any added problems.

I remember bum pillows when we were ttc the first time and legs in the air. Some days I didn't have the energy and DH would hold my legs up for 20 mins! Stopped doing it after a couple of cycles.

Oh and mummy ha that's funny your dh saying about imaginary friends ... My dh commented the other night:

"How do you even know these are real people?" ( Eh by real what exactly do you mean...Human? From another point In time?An alternative universe perhaps...? )

"I mean, they could be old men you know, or like folk that just have nothing better to do.."

Right, so the creepy 55 year old male sitting at home on the dole has nothing better to do than discuss cervical mucus and analyse fertility charts daily on MumsNet of all forums? ... No husband. I think you are severely mistaken darling.

victoria stay strong. I hope things look better for you in the morning.

Lots of bums on pillows tonight!

I've been in bed nearly 3 hours and I've had to get up to pee 3 times already. 3 whole times! If no af in the morning I'm going to go and buy me some pee sticks.......wish me luck!

Morning all. Good luck kissing

Hit the wine last night... Regret it now...

Sorry about the rant... I was hoping that a baby would be the making of dh. Give him something to do and live for. Then we can't flipping make one and I start to resent him and his shite sperm. I still live in hope that things will suddenly change and we'll be happy again.

Larf at you lot being weird old men who like to talk about cm!!

Sparkly haha. Yeah mine said something like that last week. He said what if they are old men getting off at the things we discuss. I said as we discuss cervical mucus I dontthink that's a worry. He just told me well there are some sick people out there!

Victoria hope you're feeling happier today - though I'm sure you could do without that banging head!

No temp rise this mornings so regretting not setting the alarm this morning for extra sex.

Apologies to any old men on here who I upset by calling creepy. If you have fertility advice and don't mind analysing our charts then you are more than welcome to stay. What you do behind that screen is up to you.

Morning all

Lol at your dhs thinking we're all dirty old men!

Cd11 and I've woken up very wet 'down there' - question is, is it cm or left over semen from last night.... No way of knowing is there? Xx

Morning ladies. Af appeared this morning so I'm off to the march bus. Will keep an eye on you for all the pillow bums turning into BFPs. Good luck!

After a few tears yesterday DH and I agreed that this next cycle we are throwing everything at it so am feeling much more Positive.

Hang on in there everyone who is finding things hard we will get there in the end. Unless we really are all just dirty old men with cyber cm fantasies.

Victoria I am so sympathetic to your situation. My ex was addicted to computer games and it is awful. Like any other addiction though it can be treated. Does your DH acknowledge that he has a problem? As Purdey said is he willing to go to Relate counselling with you? Stay strong lovely

AF this morning for me too. After huge snotty tears last night I'm trying to see the positives - a much more 'normal' cycle length this time, two positive OPKs mean I am at least ovulating, and AF now means I should be good for lots of shagging when we go on holiday next Friday!

See you on the March bus - though not many I hope as you'll all be upduffed.

kissinggiraffe, that's exactly how it happened for me too. #1 by accident, #2 first month, #3 a year of OPK's, temps, SMEP etc.
I'd hope most men have better things to be doing than reading our Cm descriptions but you never know!
For those who are planning to lie down for half an hour afterwards, be careful! I narrowly avoided cystitis this month after doing just that. I think it's important to go to the toilet within 15 minutes of dtd.
Sorry for those of you who are out this month. I'll probably see you on the March bus in a few days.
10dpo, no symptoms and not expecting a BFP. I feel much better about it than last month. Probably because we dtd 6 days in a row so I had my hopes up quite high. Only 3 days in a row after positive OPK this time.

Sorry about AF ninja glad you are feeling positive about your next cycle.

Good luck kissing!

Sammy there is a way of knowing: taste it. After inseminating the other day I found glistening slimy stuff on the loo roll after a wee. I pulled it to test its elasticity and it stretched between my fingers (semen cannot do that) so I licked it on my finger and it was tasteless: ewcm

Sorry Ninja

No spotting yet this morning... Not been up long though so gravity might not have taken hold... I can only hope that if it was implantation that I didn't bugger things up by filling my face full of booze last night :-(

victoria it would be too soon for the alcohol to do any damage. Fx for you x

Sorry to everyone having a crappy time, for whatever reason.

Victoria, I'm sure things can get better with you and your dh, but it won't be by magic. My oh and I have had a rough time since ds born (tigress mother and too laid back dad) but we got back on track after talking about how crap things were and really making an effort to be kinder to each other. I'm sure you can make it work - so hard when you're so stressed about other stuff. X

Purdey, was you last post just there to titillate our old men friends?!

I was missing from here last night as was rooting through bin pulling out cbfm pee sticks to visually inspect them researching my ovulation prospects. It appears, though you are not supposed to look at them, that I had two lines but now I have one. Which makes me think that maybe I did ovulate but cbfm was tricked into missing it as first cycle and b'feedig has messed with it...

I tell him I'm sad and lonely and he needs to put more into 'us'. He says 'i know baby, I'll try' and he's as sweet as pie for about 3 weeks and then it tails back off to crapness again and we have the same fallout... But he thinks watching tv with dinner counts as spending time together... I don't. We don't even talk about day to day crap let alone the big issues in life.

Aw vic. X. We have started having a weekly date. Nothing big or flash needed as we don't have tonnes of cash to throw about, and not romantic as we take ds with us, but just going for a coffee, or taking advantage of half price fish and chips every now and again.... We like planning it and it's nice to get off the sofa, like you say, and talk to each other without other distractions. We'd got out of the habit of having fun and laughing together. I also found id lost touch with my friends a bit since ds arrived and I now make more effort to see them a bit more often so not so reliant on oh for support and entertainment. Xxxx

Giddy's idea of a date night is a great one Victoria, DH and I do it and I believe it is really beneficial. Life can get so busy and stressful that having one evening where tv,phones, computers etc are off and you just talk, play scrabble, go out for dinner, go for a walk, whatever is lovely

Morning!

Disclaimer- THIS IS AN OPK NOT A PREGNANCY TEST.

It's my first time using these- is this a positive or does the line have to be even darker? Thanks please xox

Morning chaps

well I'm on cd 21 now, and having shagged on cds 6, 10, 11, 13, 15 and 17 I am bloody well hoping for better luck this month (we only got round to it twice last month, because we are lazy. So much for love's young dream, newlyweds, etc )

Ovia thinks I ovulate on cd 17 which seems rather late in a 27 day cycle? But I like to think we've covered all the bases....

(DH is away with work this week and I think is, frankly, glad to be relieved of his husbandly duties )

Bowie that looks positive to me - get DTD!

Victoria, I will stick my neck out here and say you are in for a pretty miserable life if that man doesn't sort out his addiction sharpish (and I mean with professional help). Nothing in your marriage will change while he has this fantasy world to escape to whenever his feelings don't sit comfortably with him (missing his brother/missing his old life/missing his boyhood home). In all honesty he needs a kick up the arse. He is beyond going for walks or making you laugh on date nights. You didn't sign up for this when you married him - and no matter how seismic a shift moving to London was, he has a duty to you, his wife, to make as full a life as possible for you both.

I'm sorry. I know you were drunk last night and probably didn't anticipate a lecture on your marriage, but I'm worried about you, Victoria, because the yearning to have a baby is not going to leave you. Tell him you want him to take action to cure his addiction to the computer or you will start making plans to begin a new life without him. Sounds harsh, I know, but look at the depth of your unhappiness.

I promise not to mention your situation again, Victoria (unless, of course, you want to talk)

I am royally nettled that babies and cats precluded the taking of my temp this morning. My cats are not so cute that the prospect of them ending up in the Leeds Liverpool canal with bricks around their scrawny necks is not becoming a very real possibility. It is annoying to have made all that AI effort/charting/opks/cm watch to then not be able to see definitively if you have ov'd