Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Original poster

March bus for those of us who drive right on through feb without stopping!

999 replies

shinysparklythings · 28/01/2015 07:26

Hope nobody minds, Thought I'd start a march bus especially for those people like me who skip feb out due to it being 28 days and having a 32 day cycle, or those already kicked off the feb bus. But all are welcome expecting bfps in March!

Found the jan bus was a great place to be to discuss the madness that is ttc!

So welcome aboard! Grin

Shinysparklythings 29, ttc#1, cycle 2, bfp due 1st march.

OP posts:
Thread gallery
32
chasingtherainbow · 20/02/2015 10:28

Shiny is it to do with the LP? mine is 14 days and so I usually ov cd14 on a 28 day cycle. If my cycle was regularly 30 days but I always ov'd on cd14 then that'd make the LP 16 days long? I think I've got that right.

pulpi · 20/02/2015 10:44

Just got run over by the Feb bus. My stats are 32, ttc #1, cycle #3, BFP due 25ish March. I'll check in again once I down that bottle of wine with my name on it. And maybe the one beside it...

juneybean · 20/02/2015 10:44

I would have thought ov would be later in a longer cycle?

chasingtherainbow · 20/02/2015 11:00

I think standard LP range from 12-16 days long so I guess if you had a 35 day cycle you could ovulate anywhere between cd14 - cd 23

I think I read somewhere that your ovulation day can change any time depending on circumstances influencing it (like using soy.. or stress etc) but your LP never changes?

Hairstylisttoboris · 20/02/2015 11:03

Morning ladies. I pee into a ramekin kept specially for the purpose. I am unbearably middle class aren't I?

gennibugs · 20/02/2015 11:05

Welcome pulpi sorry AF arrived. Enjoy your Wine

chasing I've read the same re LP.

It's frustrating it's not an exact science!

Amyyy27 · 20/02/2015 11:24

Hi ladies can anyone tell me if you think this is a positive opk? To me it looks darker on one side of the line and then fades a little... what do you think?

March bus for those of us who drive right on through feb without stopping!
March bus for those of us who drive right on through feb without stopping!
Amyyy27 · 20/02/2015 11:31

Think this ones a bit clearer

March bus for those of us who drive right on through feb without stopping!
DizzyNorthernBird · 20/02/2015 12:25

amyy that looks like mine did on Wednesday. I decided it was a positive however I don't think I've ovulated yet as I haven't seen a temp rise and I still saw a load of ewcm this morning! Think it was just a fluke, will see what mine looks like later as yesterday's was dark but not enough to be a positive.

Pee pots - I use a small container that has a lid, which my teriyaki dip came in when I got a Chinese takeaway!

Amyyy27 · 20/02/2015 12:54

Thanks dizzy ive just done another on a boots stick one and thats gotta be positive right?

March bus for those of us who drive right on through feb without stopping!
gennibugs · 20/02/2015 12:58

I think that's positive amy - that's how mine look anyway! I use the same cheapies as you. I know some people get even darker lines - you could keep testing over the weekend to see if it gets darker but in the meantime keep DtD? Grin

I'm hoping I might get a positive later as I had a line of sorts on my opk this lunchtime......fx

Amyyy27 · 20/02/2015 13:06

Thanks genni i have warned my OH hes in for a weekend of fun haha! Fx for your positive! X

spinningirl10 · 20/02/2015 13:46

Yay for all the positive opks, just in time for the weekend Wink

Ooh live Eastenders tonight, is it sad that I'm very excited about this?!Smile

Only 1 week tomorrow until I'm student free, I can't bloody wait!Grin

BabyBumpHopeful · 20/02/2015 13:47

Re long cycle. I've got a 34 day cycle. I'm currently cd 22 and I got positive opk yesterday and the day prior (so CD20 and CD21). I'm officially 1 dpo today i think but FF hasn't said so yet. So if my cycle stays about where it should, then I have a 14 or so day lp.

spinningirl10 · 20/02/2015 13:56

Goodness Pikz, pleased to hear it was benign. Hope you soon have your bfpThanks

Original poster
shinysparklythings · 20/02/2015 15:11

Good news there pikz Flowers

Ok, I think I understand now. I ovd I think on the 14th. Bfp due 1st March, so that is a standard 14 day lp.

I think on the calculator, I had probably put 28 day cycle, but ov on day 18, which is why it squished the lp up.

This ttc stuff is so confusing at times!!! Feeling a bit down today, and this is only month 2 of trying. I think I naively thought, it will just happen the second I hve unprotected sex obviously not the case when you actually want a baby I think it will be better when I am back at work next week.

The stupid clear blue advert keeps playing on the tv too the one with the really stupidly bad dubbing as well as the Aldo nappies advert!!

OP posts:
chasingtherainbow · 20/02/2015 15:27

Shiny try not to be down- though I know that once you've made a decision to have a baby it's all you pretty much think of and each month suddenly seems three times as long as they ever felt pre ttc.

Think of it this way. There is really only a very small window of opportunity to catch in one month or cycle. I think unless you were the sort of pay close attention to your cycles prior to ttc, and you get it spot on.. its so very easy to miss that little window and all of a sudden that is another cycle gone. Obviously some people are just very lucky, but I can see how it can take standard, healthy couples a few months or so to catch because it can be as simple as just misunderstanding your ovulation.

I try not to get sad myself, I know that for 10 months of the 19 months I've been trying, I wasn't even having periods fucking depo but the dr said you never know when I'd ovulate so we were just constantly trying in vain. When my cycles finally came back they were so long and totally irregular it was like fishing in the dark for ovulation and month after month kept rolling by. When we finally caught I think I stared at the test for two hours in disbelief. I honestly started to think I'd never see a positive pregnancy test again. . Moving on now I can see it's not always about relaxing or eating certain things or any other of the crazy things we do. It's science. The sperm is either in the right place at the right time or its not. Don't get down, our bodies are I'm control but it doesn't mean we are if you know what I mean? It's an extremely frustrating time. Sometimes I prefer the dtd over my fertile week because it's one of the only things I feel I have control over or that I'm being proactive about ttc. . . When the tww kicks in its hard to think.. that's it.. nothing more I can do!

Anyways. I've begun waffling. Have cake instead Cake

Amyyy27 · 20/02/2015 15:45

chasing totally agree theres only so much we can do and the rest is down to science!

shiny i got pg last time having missed my pill on and off for 2 weeks but unfortunately it wasnt meant to be. however i wasnt clued up enough on ttc and just expected to get pg straight away after not going back on pill. We are now on cycle 4 and hoping this is the month! Feel like we have done everything physically possible so gunna be pissed if its a BFN!

Original poster
shinysparklythings · 20/02/2015 15:49

Thanks chasing. I know it's silly and that its all just science, just need to try and get that into my head. Glad things are settled for you. That must of been frustrating waiting for everything to go back to normal.

I had my appendix out last year and there was a burst ovarian cyst too, I missed two periods, and then they were a bit random, but seem to of settled down now.

I think it's the uncertainty I hate, the tww is awful, and then when people ask me stuff, the change of being pg is always on my mind. It's my 30th in August, and people keep asking what I'm doing to celebrate, but I don't have a clue as it will all depend on if I'm pregnant /how far. As lots of things, I'd like to do are not suitable in pregnancy.

OP posts:
TrixieRay · 20/02/2015 15:50

It's got busy on here since I last checked in. I have missed loads!
Welcome newbies and everyone who's been kicked off the Feb bus. Flowers to those having a tough time of it.

Spinning, I'm excited about Eastenders too. I don't usually watch it but was drawn in this week.

Genni, I hope being back at work isn't too bad. I've struggled with work stress and worrying about how it affects ttc. This time last year I was convinced that I would be on maternity by now.

Pikz, a relief that everything was benign. We've set ourselves a May deadline before going down the IVF route.

Cariad, how are you doing? Are you using the old or new style CBFM? I used one for a few cycles last year and never got a peak (despite confirming ov by temping)

So much for the laid back approach. I can't stop counting cycle days (CD14) - had a few CB OPKs left so did one this morning - negative.

victoria401 · 20/02/2015 15:57

I'm fed up to the back teeth of TTC too. I've spent the last 26months not planning too much into the future in case i'm preg, have small baby etc. Now i've got to factor in "I might be having treatment" into my future plans this year. Sometimes I just want to accept my "barren" life, go back on BC and forget the last few years never happened. But I know I would always be thinking "what if" and that's the worst bit. But I can't keep doing this until I hit menopause. There has to be a stop somewhere but I don't know when it will come...

chasingtherainbow · 20/02/2015 16:12

You're not silly shiny. My first pregnancy was with my daughter and I am a planning queen. I spent 1 month "researching" cycles etc then a further 2 tracking everything about my cycle (hello panty checker weirdo over here!) Then went for it and boom. Pregnant. It was all perfect.
Stupidly I thought I knew it all and he'd just look at me....

Victoria like you some days I wish I just wanted one and could just move forward with my life in other ways. Iv spent so long in limo thinking I won't do this or that or book something. . Even passing up work opportunities so so so stupid because I thought it'd be soon or there was a chance etc..

It has to be this month. It just has to be. I don't know how much longer I can continue truthfully

gennibugs · 20/02/2015 16:20

Afternoon all.

Very wise words there chasing I have to remind myself sometimes that we are doing all we can and the rest is out of our hands.

I too always feel like I can't plan stuff properly in case I get my BFP and now I have the added fear that if I do get my BFP something might go wrong again and I wouldn't want to be away from home etc. DH has suggested a holiday in the spring but I got cross as May is when we will begin IvF if no joy before then and I thought, how on earth can we go on holiday if we are starting ivf? It's always what if, what if, what if! Yet who knows, I could get my BFP by then, my cycles could conspire against me and make May not a possibility etc, my clinic might want to do more tests etc. I am trying now to be more rational and not put my life on hold but it's hard.

Ooh spinning will you not have any students for a while then? I like hearing your student stories Grin

Glad it was benign pikz fx you get your BFP soon.

trixie nice to see you. How is work at the moment? I think you mentioned before you reduced your hours for a bit -did that help? I, am thinking of doing similar or asking to WFH a day or two a week as I'm beginning to become convinced my work situation is not helping ttc at all. Sincerely hope a more relaxed approach works for you! May is now our ivf deadline too.

victoria it's so hard. Hopefully you can start treatment soon and that is one more step towards a BFP. I'm only 15months compared to your 26 months and there are days I feel like I can't be bothered to try anymore.

On a separate note, DH has just texted to say he wants to take me out to dinner to take my mind of returning to work on Monday and because we haven't seen each other due to him working 14 hour days this week. Very nice of him.....but what about Eastenders??!! Grin

dojo123 · 20/02/2015 16:48

genni there is always iPlayer! Let your OH treat you.

spinningirl10 · 20/02/2015 17:06

Well said Chasing Smile

Genni, yes we will he student free until July! This one has been found another home, he's been here since September 1st and I don't really like him. I feel bad saying that but he's just not my cup of tea and he gives me the creeps! We are moving abroad, at least for part of the year so we've used that as an excuse to get rid although we're not going until after Easter.