March bus for those of us who drive right on through feb without stopping!

[shinysparklythings]

Hope nobody minds, Thought I'd start a march bus especially for those people like me who skip feb out due to it being 28 days and having a 32 day cycle, or those already kicked off the feb bus. But all are welcome expecting bfps in March!

Found the jan bus was a great place to be to discuss the madness that is ttc!

So welcome aboard!

Shinysparklythings 29, ttc#1, cycle 2, bfp due 1st march.

Thanks guys. I'm getting tired of temping, ovulation tests and never seeing s positive anything!!!

And that hideous "when will you have a baby" comment from friends and family!!!!

That is such an awful question inasimilar and there is just no real response other than 'mind your own business' which people seem to take offence to for some reason

Like Dizzy says we are here for you. On the Feb bus is someone called purdey who is incredibly knowledgeable and friendly and I am sure would be able to shed some light on things for you :)

I'm quite lucky when it comes to THAT question. My relatives are all up north so I'm only faced with the inquisition a few times a year. I think my mum knows I'm ttc but she will know better than to start asking questions. I work in a male dominated industry so colleagues generally aren't interested in asking such questions

I get it all the time from my in laws (my own family rarely mention children) and incessantly at work (very female office). My line manager seems to delight in telling me that my clock is ticking (I'm 26 for pity's sake!).

The worst thing is I have wanted children since forever but has taken me over a year to persuade DH but always have to pretend it was a joint decision.

I think my in laws are hoping that DP doesnt have any more children! Lol. Tough!

Right, just ordered thermometer which will be delivered tomorrow so I can get started charting right away. Feeling excited about being more proactive. DP won't be happy about me charting but hey ho!

Popping over from the February bus, which is moving far too quickly for me to keep up to say hello. I'm fairly sure I'll be joining you in 12 days time in any event!

Waves at Brummie - I really hope your consultant's appointment goes well. Do keep us posted. I will be thinking of you.

Inthesameboat - if it's any consolation, I know exactly how you feel. We've been ttc number 1 since May 2014, and a cp and a ruptured ectopic later I'm now less fertile than I was (having had my right fallopian tube removed) but no closer to that sticky BFP. In the meantime, all my close friends have either had babies or fallen pregnant quickly. The feeling of being left behind is awful, so I very much empathise. Here's hoping your ultrasound goes well and that you get your BFP very soon.

Have been feeling a bit glum all week after a GP appointment on Monday morning. I'd gone along to enquire how soon we could have tests (presumably a lap and dye) to check my other Fallopian tube was healthy. I assumed they might say that we'd need to try for a maximum of 6 cycles after my ectopic.

How wrong was I! I was in fact told that fertility treatment is a total postcode lottery, and that where we live is truly terrible on this front. All they offer is 1 cycle of IVF after 3 years of ttc/ proven infertility. Any pregnancies in that period re-start the clock, so our clock has been re-set to September when I had my ectopic. Because of this, they offer NO investigative treatment whatsoever until you've had 2 years of ttc and no pregnancy. It's very infuriating.

Where do you live cariad, from your name I am assuming Wales?

Hi Cariad, nice to have you with us. How has January been for you otherwise?

I think it's an absolute disgrace how a couple living in one area can receive more help when it comes to ttc than another couple who might only live a few miles down the road . My DP has friends who upped sticks and moved 200 miles away from the area they both grew up just to get the help they needed. Thankfully they now have their DD but it shouldn't take couples having to uproot their lives to get a chance that everyone should be entitled to. We all pay into the system so goodness knows how it can be so discriminatory.

Sorry for the rant. I really hope you get your sticky bean soon xx

Night - Just thought I would add that I totally feel your pain re: not being able to ttc this cycle. After my ectopic in September, I was told to wait 2 cycles before ttc again (although in the end we only sat out one) - but I know from experience that when all you want is a BFP there's nothing worse than watching time march on without being able to do anything about it. I hope you feel better soon.

In answer to your question, I am Welsh but I actually live in London. It just happens that my Borough is truly terrible when it comes to fertility treatment. What's even more infuriating is that some nearby Boroughs are so much more generous.

Thanks Dizzy. It is indeed very infuriating! I just don't think those people in power who choose to cut access to fertility treatment in order to save money have any comprehension as to how difficult ttc can be.

No they don't, it's all right for them seeing as they can more than likely afford to go private. There should be the same set of rules across the board to make it fair. Not everyone can or should have to move to get access to help.

Thanks cariad it is really frustrating. I originally joined the Jan bus but was kicked off that by DH changing his mind. He then quickly reversed his decision so I immediately got my coil taken out but it was too late in the cycle for me to conceive so it was a waiting game for AF which was a week late. Then the day AF arrived so did the shingles :( so have been on three buses so far but not actually able to start!

Must be so frustrating for you about the NHS in your area, it is disgraceful that care is so different, especially between neighbouring London borough's! I take it you can't sneakily register with a GP in one of the better areas?

Also v sorry about your ecoptic cariad

Go ahead nightandthelight :) I'll still being doing the Feb stats :)

Awesome thanks baby bump, you have your hands full with the Feb bus, it is very busy :)

cariad v sorry to hear about your ectopic experience and that you didn't get more answers from GP. If it helps at all when I had my csection with dd1 they noticed my right fallopian tube is 'blind' and doesn't open to ovary at all (though that looked normal). My obstetrician reckon eggs can move from one ovary round to the other tube anyway though it might take a day or two longer to get there! No idea if he's right but maybe just extend the dtdathon a day or two longer just in case?

Fingers crossed March is a lucky month for all of us.

Elegant - from what I've read online, it is possible to ov on 'the wrong side' and for the egg to go down the other fallopian tube - although this only happens 15-25% of the time, so you're still far more likely to conceive if you ov from your 'good' side.

I didn't know about the egg taking longer to get to the other side. If that's true, then it's definitely a good reason to extend the dtdathon. Thanks for the tip.

Hi ladies

I'm on the feb bus, but my af (bfp?!) date is actually 1st March so thought id better hop on here too.

Sammylou, 29, ttc#1, cycle 16

Cariad thats rubbish about it being a postcode lottery!

Hello to everyone else joining the bus

Im jumping on too! X

Dizzy haven't ordered it yet no. I have been researching best kind and all that though. I'm going to see if I can just get one from the chemist (now I know what to look for) as the Amazon choices don't thrill me... which did you end up getting?

Morning baby, I wasn't overly impressed with the choice on Amazon either due to mixed reviews on most of them and I didn't want to spend over a fiver. I was ordering other items though so I ended up getting the babymad hot pink thermometer with the large display with was reduced to £5. There wasn't any reviews on that one but it seems to be the new version of their other hot pink model which doesn't have a back light, but the large model does. I hope it's ok!

DP wasn't impressed when I told him what I'd ordered, which was the reaction I was expecting. He said it'll make baby making not sexy! I've told him I won't discuss the sciencey stuff with him in that case but God help us if we ever have to start with AI or IVF lol.

Men just don't get it I don't think. My DH genuinely believes that he can get me pregnant at any time of the month. When I try and explain the reality he just starts talking about his super sperm! To be fair they have spent their whole lives being warned not to get people pregnant which must make them think it's always really easy.

I actually don't think DP realised how difficult it actually is until I explained it to him last month! I wish I could talk to him about temping though, we discuss most things very openly and I want him to understand what I'm trying to achieve, because I'll bet he's just thinking its me being a bit crazy. I always like to know the sciencey stuff though. I ran my first marathon last year and I spent weeks reading up on training plans, sports injuries, proper nutrition etc. DP just thinks I'm a bit mad I think!