April TTC girls! Where there's a new baby! Tons of BFP's! And lots more to come!

[Cupcake92]

New thread girlies!! :) hope this is okay.

Just catching up ! Ducky I am so sorry to hear your ds has been so poorly ,hes really putting mummy through her paces !! Sounds like your doing really well ,good example if sticking to your mummy instincts !!

Lulu who did better on the Mensa test? :p

Ducky I'm so glad to hear ur all home. Bless Ds he needs a good rest from all this illness ! But as poppet said Ur doing well!! :) Ur helping ur Ds get better :)

We ended up trying to work them out together Cupcake ! They are really hard. I can do the Maths ones, we can both do the word ones and DH can do the sequence, pattern ones. And there were some neither of us could do- the code type ones.

So glad he is home Ducky. Hope you have a good night.

I am off to bed.

Just waiting for a call back from the dr at the hosp he wouldn't settle, he was screaming unless he had skin to skin. Then I managed to get him to sleep and he woke up for a feed and then threw the whole thing up

I know this sounds selfish but I just feel upset, I went through all that with dd and now I feel like I'm having bad luck again (and I feel bad for saying that too because i am so so lucky to have ds ) I'm terrified of anything happening to him

How is he now ducky?
And ur bound to feel upset! Ur allowed to be. The first year is very very hard. But carry in what ur doing n Ds will get better my DS was in ans out of hospital for a good 6 months and I was so worried and just exhausted. He was constantly sick and had really bad nappies all the time... Turns out he had the Rotavirus! Even tho he had the vaccinations for it! He still got it! But DS will get better Ducky ur doing a really great job

You and DS don't deserve all of this Ducky. It does seem unfair. What did the Dr say when he/she called back? And how is DS?

They wanted him in for observations incase they had to put the tube in to feed him I went up at midnight and got back at 3am then he wouldn't settle and was just screaming so I had to get up and the only thing that would settle him was skin to skin so I did that then he just had another feed and threw tht up because he was coughing so I haven't slept at all and barely slept the past two nights in hospital.

H is going to mil today. I said we wouldn't go so dm will take ds for a bit today

Gosh u must be so exhausted Ducky :( if I could I would help u out. That's nice dm is taking DS for a bit, make sure u just sleep and don't worry too much. I know it's easier said than done. He'll be okay soon and get better it'll just take time.
H shouldn't even be thinking of going to ur mil!!! He should be staying and helping with DS and she should be telling him to stay at home!

Tbh cupcake I prefer it that way!

I don't trust him with ds, I don't think he would sterilise and things properly and Everytime he has a fag it ends in an argument because I tell him to wash his hands before touching ds

Ducky I can completely understand that. I was the same with my DH when DS was small. He never did a bottle right (when he bothered to do one) and I kept showing him how to do it and he said 'does it matter? As long as it's water from kettle and powder in that should do it.' He didn't get that the kettle had to have been boiled and bottles sterilised and water before formula lol. So i totally understand where ur coming from!

Glad to hear it's not just me being weird cupcake!

Where do these strange posts come from!?!?

I'm still quite over protective of DS now. I don't know why I feel like this but I hate other people having him. I just feel I know how to keep him safe n what he likes and how he has things. I just worry if he's with someone else. Like if something bad happened id blame myself because I wasn't there. If that makes sense?

And ive no idea :s !!

It's strange cus I'm completely fine with my mom having him but no one else

I've got a feeling that I'll be the same when our little one is born. And I'm dreading MIL being interfering. She's come over today to see the new house and told us all the ways that we've laid out the furniture wrong in the living room and bedroom. She's the most opinionated and interfering woman I've ever met, and if course DP takes everything she says as gospel! They've just moved the furniture around in the living room without asking me what I thought, despite the fact that when we first moved in me and DP discussed at length where things should go and he knows I didn't want to sofa in the window which is where they've put it. I've had to pretend that I'm very tired and go to bed because I'm so angry! I know we'll end up rowing about it when she's gone and it makes me so mad because he knows how I feel about her interfering and how stressed out I get at the moment. I've had to take a diazepam which I really hate doing now I'm pregnant but I don't want the baby to feel my stress

I hope DS is getting better Ducky

Just realised how stupid that sounds. I've got a real problem with not being in control of where things go in the house, as well as tidiness and cleanliness. DP has just been up and thinks I'm overreacting. I hope he doesn't tell MIL!

I don't think you are over reacting lil. It's up to you and your DP where things go in your own home. If it were me I would have spoken up while your MIL was there though, I know if you were posting in AIBU people would say your DP is the "issue" but men just don't tend to think about things in the way women do (in my experience anyway).

But also I would try and keep things amicable between you and MIL, because you never know how long people will be here.

Ooohhh lil that would piss me right off

I can't stand my mil and avoid me and ds seeing her wherever possible! I don't want him around her! She's poisonous!

Lill that would really annoy me too!! I'd have a panic attack if someone moved the furniture around! Itd be moved straight back lol!
See with me it's not the mother in law, it's the grandma in law!! Always thinks she knows best and always lets the dog around DS which I hate as its a pitbul cross! I always say "the dog needs to go in a different room please" but she doesn't listen and says he wouldn't hurt a fly, but who knows what could happen! And I hate how she tells me I have to do everything for DH like he's not capable of doing things himself. Always tell her "he's grown up now, he's able to cook for us all sometimes too" she replies with "oo no he should be sitting down relaxing! It's hard being the man of the house". DH is hardly the man of the house anyway!

Oo sorry uve got me off on a rant now

Ducky hope DS is alright

Hope you have had some sleep Ducky and that DS behaved himself with your mum. How is he today?

My MIL is lovely. She has been great with me right from the start. She treats me like someone she likes very much- chooses to spend time with me, discusses things with me, offers help but doesn't interfere, supports me. And on top of that loves me as her DIL and thinks DH being with me is very good for him. I know how lucky I am. She and FIL are eccentric in their own ways but I get on very well with both of them.

We are going down there for a couple of days this week and she has bought tickets to the theatre for me, SIL and her as a treat and we are having a meal at an Italian restaurant beforehand. DH and FIL are babysitting.

He had a lovely time with dm today, plenty of smiles!!!

He's still got a cough and apparently that can last for a few weeks

The thing I'm worried about is if he eats a little bit too much (he's on reduced feeds) it squashes his insides and he coughs more and is sick I'm so terrified he will be sick in the night and could choke

Yes siarie, I'm having to try very hard not to fall out with MIL because our personalities clash terribly and I've already had one bust up with her! But I'd hate there to be a divide in the family, and it would cause so much stress if we fell out and put a lot of pressure on mine and DP's relationship. I'm very nervous about how she'll be when the baby arrives
DP was very nice though, we didn't have a row and he put the furniture back as soon as she'd gone! I think he's beginning to realise how badly she pushes my buttons!!
Ducky I remember you talking about your MIL before, she sounds like a witch!! How's she been with the duckling?
Cupcake your GIL sounds horrendous! That would make me so mad! dogs like that are really unpredictable, especially with young children. And as for telling you you have to do everything for DH, how dare she?! What century does she think it is?!!! Bloody in-laws eh?
How's duckling, Ducky? I hope he's getting better.

Just seen your post Ducky. Glad he's had such a lovely day with DM! is he sleeping in the same room as you? If you hear him coughing maybe it'll wake you up and you can check on him? Or could you prop him so he's sleeping on his side in case he's sick? I don't know about putting babies to bed

He sleeps right next to me in his Moses basket I'm just worried incase i don't wake up or I wake up too late I do have an angel care monitor but I have been told not to use them in Moses baskets, I don't know why.

Mil has been more awful than usual with me since ds is here!

Cupcake I have a pb cross, I have had him since he was a puppy (he was taken from his mother too early ) and I know he is as soft as anything but I also know they are very unpredictable no matter how well people think they know them. Je has been brought up around babies
and small children but under very VERY close supervision and proper training. He is kept in the kitchen with the door shut and baby gate locked and ds is never in any situation where thy can get to him even when supervised. It's awful that they let them around your ds if you are uncomfortable with it mine can sense people who are uncomfortable and that is the one thng that can make him act a bit loopy. (He hasn't been aggressive towards anyone but would focus all his attention on that person, causing them to be more uncomfortable )