April TTC girls! Where there's a new baby! Tons of BFP's! And lots more to come!

[Cupcake92]

New thread girlies!! :) hope this is okay.

Three days ago is still possible, I saw loads of charts with positives when DTD three days before. In fact I think lots do that so they can try shettles method for a girl.

I can't say if that method works, we did try it and did get a girl but with a 50/50 chance you never really know.

Yes Cupcake, DH loves it. Does not flinch from nappies or night feeds- not as yet anyway. Has long conversations with him. He is looking forward to next weekend when his paternity leave starts.

He has done bath and feeds tonight and I have cooked for his grandmas and PIL coming tomorrow. I honestly think he would like to be a SAHD if he could. But I know I would come home to a house that was a tip if it was left to him, and now DS is here, I am not giving up my maternity leave with him for anyone

If you have to wait another few weeks Cupcake it isn't the end of the world. It will happen when it happens. You don't have problems getting pregnant.
Isn't that typical of a man though to get distracted by a computer game. DH is the same with football. Not that either of us has the energy for sex or football at the moment.

It could still be possible cupcake

Hope you have a nice day with the grandmas lulu, do you feel better about not being at work now hes here? You were worried before wasn't you?

Well it looks like with ds we take one step forward and two steps back. He hasn't slept all night I don't know what to do for him. He was just shouting, then he'd cry. I thought at first he might be constipated and about 4am the poo came and it was loads! And I thought it would make him feel better but it hasn't. He will only sleep on me but I don't feel safe holding him to sleep incase i fall asleep and drop him

Siarie ive heard of the shettles method but ive never thought to try it.

Lulu that's lovely that DH loves being with DS so much! :) hooe u have a lovely time with PIL and grandmas today :) oh and Lulu Id love to get pregnant soon as I just hate sex now! I'd love to have a few months of no sex haha!

Ducky, don't worry as most babies are like this and don't sleep at all, it happens every so often. And I can tell u from experience DS was like that. But I realised he had a few bad days (sometimes lasted a week) then he'd be himself again :) oh and as for falling asleep with him... I was terrible!! I'd always fall asleep with him in bed as I was just a exhausted. DH was usually on his playstation so had the bed to myself and he'd then wake me when he came to bed and tell me to put DS in the Moses basket he'd tell me off. BUT there are safe ways to sleep with Ur baby. Our next baby we are getting this Moses basket that u unzip one side of the basket and place it next to ur bed as it feels like u and baby are sleeping next to each other but u aren't able to roll on them etc. and babies tend to sleep better with the mother next to them.
Sorry for the slight essay lol!

Technically speaking you've just done it . I had a look at my last chart and we DTD on cd12 and cd13 and I ovulated on cd15 so you are still in for a chance.

Men like to play games, in fact me and DH with another friend played a game online last night for about five hours! It was good fun too. Although not possible when you have children to look after (you'd have to play after their bed time or something).

Ducky that is kind of what I had the other day. DS just would not sleep. He was just awake. He didn't cry much but he is learning how to make noises other than crying and snuffling and there was lots of that. I couldn't put him down,because he did cry then, he just wanted to be with me. He was exhausting. When DH came home I plonked DS on him and the relief was huge
It wears you out.I have dozed a couple of times with him next to me on the bed. Not deliberately; we have just been lying on the bed and we have both dozed off. I don't toss and turn or move around much so I haven't worried or felt bad.

Hate to say this but I hope I'm not pg this month anymore. 'H' has been so so horrible to me today. Called me such awful names and been so mean. He's just thrown car my car keys at my face and they just barely missed my eye. They have left a scratch just under my eye.
Why the hell does he suddenly change into a horrible person?
:(

Cupcake that's awful what an idiot. Are you still doing your break thing with him?

That is horrible, disrespectful behaviour Cupcake. You have been here so many times before though. You are going to have to make a decision. You can't change him so you either accept it and go on or end it. I know that sounds harsh but you just keep going round in circles.

The PIl and Grandmas have been. DS was a little star. He was awake, in one of their outfits, happy to be passed round and held and fed. He demonstrated all of his cute moves and did a very poopy nappy which allowed DH to take him away and change him showing how hands on a dad he is. He fell asleep for lunch and woke up afterwards. Deserves an oscar. Has been photoed to the Nth degree. There was only one occasion when the pet lip appeared and he started to wail- when his bottle wasn't there on time- and even that was cute.

The Grandmas were quite emotional. Then DH got emotional when he saw how much it meant to his grandmas and we had a little hug in the kitchen.

As they left, one of the Grandmas hugged me and said 'DH'll probably grow up a bit now Lulu' in a comforting way.

Tori I agree, I think he should have definitely conrinued with the army application. He got quite far and could have gone to do the training this year. It would have definitely sorted him out and probably showed him what respect is.

Ducky yes but he doesn't go for the week like we said he only goes for 2 nights a month. He's going to his dad's the last week of this month which will be nice!

Lulu sounds like uve had a lovely day with PIL and grandmas! They sound like they love DS.
And I know I should make a decision but it's just not that easy if I was to end it, he wouldn't leave, and I can't afford to put a deposit or anything down on a house etc. I'd literally be left with nothing.
He's left before and said its over but always comes straight back and then tells me he doesn't want to leave. Things were going so well an all! He's was being amazing!

If you wanted to you could make him leave Cupcake. You could have rang the police today- sounds drastic I know but what he did is an assault. Once he is out of the house change the locks. He would not take you to court over tenancy. You have DS and would get help. It's a choice he makes to behave like this- not a mistake. I know it isn't easy but the alternative is you keep going and accept it. Only you know if you can or want to do that. Go and talk to Citizens' Advice about tenenacy.

I think DS has worn himself out. He has just had his feed and is flat out. Hopefully he'll go until half 2 now at least. He is managing 3 1/2 hrs between feeds. DH is in the bath and I am tucked up with my ipad in bed. We are planning a cuddle and a bit of peace and quiet and some sleep.

It is hard to believe DS has just been here 12 days. Don't know what we did before him. He has taken over the house.

Tori, how many weeks are you now?

How you feeling today cupcake?

I really don't know what to do with ds, whether to continue with reduced feeds or go on the prescription formula. Last night for the first time in days he had a feed and just sat there happily without screaming, it was amazing! He also did quite well in the night but then when I think he is better he seems to get all upset again.

Sounds awful Tori. And I should know better too as I also had to see my mom go through horrible things and once she finally got out of it she was so happy.

And Lulu if I had phoned the police he would have been sent to prison. As a child/teen he wasn't the most well behaved and got involved in the police and was nearly sent down for 6 months when he was 16 years old. They told him anything else he does he will not get off next time and it'll be automatic jail sentence.
I wouldn't want that for DS as he clearly loves his dad a lot. It's all very confusing.
And Lulu it sounds like u had a nice night! 31/2 hours between feeds sounds bliss as well!

Ducky, I'm fine today as I have work haha so having my coffee and getting ready to go :) plus DS woke up so happy today for some reason! Now he's happily drinking his milk and eating some toast
Ducky I think it's completely up to u what u do :) DS seems to be responding well with reduced feeds. It sounds like ur doing an amazing job! :)

Tori I don't know if you've tried them (I'm sure you have) but I still wear my sickness bands. If I take them off I feel things start to go back but with them on I seem to be able to feel normal.

Maybe it's in my head but I'm keeping them on now until the end lol!

Cupcake your DH just sounds like a bad egg, he seems to have anger management issues and those don't go away. So I suppose it's like the other have said, you can accept that a large percentage of the time you'll be ok together but there will be a part always that you won't.

Whether you're happy to keep going around repeating that's up to you and depends how worth it he is I suppose.

I've got my midwife appointment this morning (25 weeks). Going to mention a few of the things I've said about SPD etc. It's getting less comfy the bigger I get now.

Argh I'm so frustrated with myself, I forgot my maternity notes! I told myself the night before I wouldn't and also this morning while I was getting ready I thought about it but totally forgot as I walked out the door.

The midwife was ok about it but I'm usually so good at remembering things I'm just annoyed with myself.

The morning got worse though the GP reception was so hot I started to feel funny while sitting waiting. Then I was fine until I had to wait in reception to book my blood and glucose test.

While trying to book that I had to ask to go sit down, lucky I did as I went to the toilets and threw up my breakfast! Then of course I felt fine and booked everything. Heat and pregnant ladies do not go. I haven't been sick for weeks!

Still I'm measuring on target and everything's fine so far.

I've been worrying all morning that I've had reduced movement, then over lunch he'd been wriggling non-stop and has now lodged in a mega uncomfortable position . Midwife tomorrow to find out exactly what he's up to!

How do the rest of you get on with your midwives? I don't like mine much at all, she's really hard to talk to and always seems in a rush to get me out. I don't know if she's put out because I'm consultant-led and overseen by the high risk team at the hospital or if she's like this with everyone. [tmi alert] I'm a bit worried I have thrush, and also would like to talk about DP's MH issues, but just don't know how to broach it with her :(

cupcake - I do agree with the others, you need to decide what your boundaries are with DP and stick to them. DP can be difficult, but he would never hurt me physically. Some couples argue in a way I couldn't put up with, but it works for them, but there are so many things you've said on here that worry me and it has been less than a year since these thread's started. You and DS deserve better :(

Bears I am the same with mine . I never feel I can bring up any concerns she just rushes through the basic questions ,last time there were people coming in and out of the appointment and the door was open . At 28week she was meant to do a little risk assessment social factors/mental health etc wasnt until I got home and checked my notes I noticed . Shes the head midwife and is clearly just waiting to retire . Luckily I've been very well and so is baby .

Bears how many weeks are you now? If you are over 24 and are worried about movement call the hospital and go in, they will monitor baby to make sure everything is ok. They won't mind and it's better to be safe than sorry

My midwife was fab but that was because I was able to choose my midwife. If you don't feel comfortable with her can you speak to your gp about changing, there's usually a team of them for one area

Sorry I haven't been on much just read back - cupcake you deserve better I know it's hard but sometimes you have to make a big change for a better future. I totally understand though it is a massive decision and it will be hard to start with but sometimes you don't realise how good your life can be until you make the change

Lovely hearing about how you are all getting on in your pregnancies and with your babies.

I am on cd 17 started spotting again today so not quite sure what's happening.