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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Looking for a TTC buddy!

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Lorriella · 04/12/2014 13:59

Hello! I'm needing a TTC buddy as I'm finding myself constantly over thinking things and it's driving my husband mad so would be great to discuss it with someone else in the same boat!

I'm TTC baby number 3. I came off the pill 3 days ago and I'm very impatient, want to get started right now! Anyone else in a similar situation want to buddy up?

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Cantbelieveimdoingthisagain · 23/12/2014 14:06

Systems? Or symptoms!!

Cantbelieveimdoingthisagain · 25/12/2014 15:10

Hey ladies,

Had my moment earlier this morning when SIL came up in a very bump figure hugging dress. Had a cry, then had a prosecco with my dinner.

Anyway, just wanted to wish you all a merry Christmas xxx

Boyle1884 · 26/12/2014 14:03

Merry christmas all... Aunt Flo came here at lunchtime yesterday! Wonderful christmas cramps.

Hope the prosecco helped relieve the pain can't!! I'm glad I could drink... Parents bought round 3 bottles of pink moet to celebrate with us! Delicious!

lastnightiwenttomanderley · 26/12/2014 18:45

Hello All.
Can't that muat have been difficult, I can only imagine how hard it can be not to resent someone for something out of their control. Sounds like you did the best you could given the circumstances?
We've had an awful Christmas really. My grandfather slipped and broke his hip last week and got taken into hospital. We had a call on Christmas eve to say he'd died in the night. Can't even begin to explain how devastated I am. He was an incredible man - so intelligent and kind. He was the only one of my grandparents who properly 'got' me and was one of my inspirations in getting to where I am today in my career - I won a national industry award recently and they did a video about my career and he even managed to pop up in that. He was such a character and it all happened so suddenly. A part of me is grateful that this was the case, as I'd have hated to see him decline mentally and physically (he was very spritely!). At Yeh same time I feel like I never got to say goodbye. That same career I'd worked so hard in was part of the reason why I was always putting off visiting him (he lived abroad, a 3hr flight away). I introduced him to Skype recently so at least I got to chat to him a few weeks back.
I'm also worried about my mum who separated from my dad a couple of years ago (he's now engaged to OW) and so is having to deal with this alone. She's such a kind, generous person and it breaks my heart to think of everything she's having to cope with.
I feel like such an oddball on this thread, first I'm happy for a bfn, now I'm outpouring what I can't vocalise. Promise to be more positive in the future. Ironically this was going to be our first month tcc but not really in the mood for it now.

Cantbelieveimdoingthisagain · 28/12/2014 14:06

boyle sorry to hear flo turned up! She packed her bags from here yesterday, and according to ff, I ov'd on day 20 in a 33 day cycle. Next fertile window is 17-20th jan. OH & I had big chat before Xmas and I got a few things off my chest. We have new lease of life and have been at it like rabbits again since she left so hoping this will be our lucky month! However, he did buy me a trip to Amsterdam for our anniversary (not wedding, just relationship) which is March 10th ... Not ideal to be ill and abroad but we have agreed to keep trying and if we are lucky but I'm unwell, then we will just take each day as it comes!

So so sorry to hear your news about grandad manderley Flowers
What an absolute awful time you've been having. Nothing that anybody could say to make you feel remotely better but take comfort in the fact that he didn't suffer too long and was very proud to have helped you to become what you are. Sending lots of unmumsnetty hugs your way. Perhaps may but be the best time to start. The upset and stress may effect your body and cycle, therefore causing unnecessary worry if it doesn't happen right away xx

Cantbelieveimdoingthisagain · 28/12/2014 14:07

Ps. You are not an oddball!

Boyle1884 · 28/12/2014 22:10

Oh manderley so sorry to hear your news... Let's hope that your wonderful memories help to create the most amazing child that you can pass on your grandpas wisdom on to... As and when you and oh are fully ready. Important to he there for your mum!!!

booboobeedoo11 · 30/12/2014 11:26

Hey Ladies...not been on in a few days and lost my place so just marking my space to get back in. Not read through the thread again so don't know what I've missed yet, need to catch up. I've actually managed not to be so obsessive up until this point anyway lol. Cd 18 for me so i'm sure crazy lady will return in the next few days!

Emma321q · 31/12/2014 20:31

Well it's New Year's Eve and the hubby and I have really made a big effort with ttc over Christmas. Really hope we get a BFP early January. Can't help but feel a bit down tonight as I think about how much I want us to have a baby. Anyone feeling the same?

Cantbelieveimdoingthisagain · 01/01/2015 11:04

Hey emma I think that's it's such a poignant time of year that it does get to us. My feeling is to jump on the 'new year, new me' positive approach wagon and just try to keep myself upbeat. Saw new year out with a bang & 2015 in with a bang Wink starting as we mean to go on and all that other crap I'm on cd9 o farrrr to early for me as ovulation not predicted until cd20! But you're not out yet! When are you due to test?

Happy New Year to all you lovely ladies! 2015 - the year of the BFP!

Emma321q · 01/01/2015 11:14

Thanks for your reply cantbelieveimdoingthisagain. I am in a much more positive mood this morning. My period is due on the 11th but I am determined to try to carry on as normal and just see how things develop without over analysing every potential symptom.

Cantbelieveimdoingthisagain · 01/01/2015 12:09

Yep, just keep doing what you're doing, you'll have a happy hubby & just try to take the rough with the smooth Smile

booboobeedoo11 · 01/01/2015 13:42

Hey Ladies...I was feeling fine, not really been over thinking ttc because I've been so busy, which is prob a good thing! But I'm now cd20 and I just know that now things have calmed down a little that I'll be back to the torture of the 2ww! AF should be due around the 10th, no idea when/if I ovulated as all i'm currently using is fertility friend but basically just for the calendar. Going by cycle dates I should've been most fertile 23rd-26th, wasn't really making sure this month as we were running around mad getting things organised but I think we prob dtd every second day at least around that point.

I'm only on cycle 5 after stopping bc and prob only started taking notice of dates for dtd the last 2 cycles but the more AF shows her face, the more disappointed I feel each time. So really gona start charting and try opk's this month.

Boyle1884 · 01/01/2015 19:11

Happy new year all!!! I'm about to head into fertile window next week and oh and I have promised to dtd every other day haha... The things he agrees to after a bottle if champagne! Good luck for bfps in January.

MrsLOL2015 · 01/01/2015 22:55

Hi Everyone,

I am a newbie, TTC for first-time :o) Feeling very odd (excited nervousness?!)

Came off Cerazette last September 2014 after 6 years, had previously been on the depo injection for 4 years before that. Now at the ripe age of 28 its 2015 and the husband and I have decided time to try...

This is all very new to me, never tracked periods (always been few and far between due to contraceptives) or understood ovulation, learning all about it via mumsnet and google. Most importantly revising the mumsnet glossary of terms Wink

Good luck to everyone x

Emma321q · 01/01/2015 23:44

Hi mrslol2015

Just wanted to wish you well in your efforts in ttc. We have only been trying for two months so far and I can't believe the wealth of info I have learnt already. This forum is brilliant!

lastnightiwenttomanderley · 02/01/2015 13:00

Hello All!
Hope you had a fab New Year? Ours was pretty low key just snuggled up on the sofa with the dog (who is probably our 'pfb'). Thank you for all of your kind words about recent events, it's been a tough few weeks but here's to all that 2015 can bring.
Hi MrsLOL - hopefully things will go smoothly for you.
I'm off to the doctors in an hour - we're going to China at Easter and need to work out what to do about injections. Oh the joy...

booboobeedoo11 · 03/01/2015 15:59

1 week til AF or POAS time for me! Feeling the opposite from last month...not really symptom spotting and not feeling positive at all! Might be because I was so disappointed last month as I thought I really could've been and don't want to put myself through that again.

Hi MrsLOL I'm ttc #2 after 10yrs on bc and I'm 31...feel as though I'm against the clock!!

Cantbelieveimdoingthisagain · 03/01/2015 19:14

Hi all!

Welcome Mrs Lol, we are a friendly bunch! How are things going so far?

Glad you're doing ok manderley how did docs go?

Booboo! Feel sorry for you in the TWW!! Maybe it's a positive thing that you are not feeling same as last month?!

All good here, nothing really to report.. DTD every day this YEAR Grin haha, doing as much as we can to get into habit! Fertile window will apparently be end of next week but no harm in practice.

Oh and my bloody acupuncture hurt today!! More the reflexology that he mixes in with it - apparently after a period, your feet are more tense. I swear there is a banjo string in my heel. Ouchie!!

Themrsgray · 03/01/2015 21:36

Hi everyone hope you dont mind me joining.
Manderley so sorry to hear about your grandfather. I am a believer though that when a family member is lost they are replaced by another so maybe this will be your month? It has happened in my family everytime somebody has passed away....there has been a pregnancy.

I am currently cd10 and due to ovulate around 8th Jan. A quick question I take sirtriline as I suffer with anxiety does anyone think this may decrease my chances of a bfp? I know people often say it happened once they relaxed but thats hard for me though I am trying my best.

lastnightiwenttomanderley · 04/01/2015 13:07

Mrsgray (or as my phone's autocorrect calls you muskrat Wink ) that is a really lovely thought. I really hope there's truth in it.

No idea about sertraline and TTC, as I understand it it's the one which is OK for during pregnancy, especially if your anxiety is bad without it. Maybe ask your GP?

cant I only need to have Hep A which is low risk as it's an inactive vaccine. Apparently they wouldnt normally give it during pg though, even though no evidence of risk, so as long as I'm still TTC then that's technically ok. Nurse was very good and pragmatic, saying it's no different to the assault of germs you get every day. Booked in for a fortnight which could be fun as I'm needle phobic!

I'm on CD21, find it hard to pinpoint OV though and getting to stay away from tempting, opks etc for a while as I know I'll become a crazy lady!

Back to work.tomorrow thoigh,boo!

Cantbelieveimdoingthisagain · 04/01/2015 18:01

Hi mrsgray

Welcome. So an a scale of obsessed to obsessed... Where are you so far?! Haha.

Very nice thought about the family thing I agree!

I have no wisdom on your medication I'm sorry and would be inclined to say speak to GP? Or start a thread on here about it? Maybe others taking it.

manderley I'm not the best with needles,. But only in my arms for some reason?! At least it's just the one though hey. And all for a fantastic reason!! Very jealous!

In cd13 and have had the tiniest barely noticeable bit of EWCM, which is 3 days earlier than last month - all good for me. Don't know if it's the acupuncture or the soy but I'm not asking questions and keep doing both!!

Boyle1884 · 05/01/2015 07:57

Hi all.. Hope everyone is well?! Going to be a long cycle for me as so impatient about this baby making lark.

Have given up alcohol for January and hoping this helps my efforts to get pg this month. Dtd lots do occupying time though haha.

Welcome newbies... You're in safe hands. Lovely group here.

Only my second cycle post pill this time and my boobs are HUGE!!! Anyone else have this around ovulation? Bloody hormones! Can anyone recommend any opks?! Am I best just to do eBay cheapies?

Can't-what does the acupuncture do? Is it cycle related?

Cantbelieveimdoingthisagain · 05/01/2015 08:21

Hi Boyle

Glad to hear you're doing well and given up the alcohol. I am also dtd instead of the vino... It has it's moments I guess haha.

I don't recommend OPKs at all. 2 reasons, my GP told me they are a waste of time and money, because sometimes you may have only a 12 hour window to catch it right and secondly - because I can never bloody get one!! I have given up on them, and solely relying on EWCM now. Haven't been able to temp over xmas as have been so out of routine. Not noticed the huge boobies due to OV but my OH has definitely noticed my big boobies after Christmas!!Unfortunately they are not the only place I have gained some timber so... Back to the salad!!

The acupuncture is to regulate my cycle. Has brought them down from around 90/100 days to 33 days so far. I've read that it's popular for people having IVF and brings miscarriage rate down by about 30% What are your cycles like?

booboobeedoo11 · 05/01/2015 15:37

Hi all...think I'm around 10dpo, af should be due saturday. Just dont feel optimistic at all this month! Not been as obsessed because we've been so busy but def dtd around when I think my fertile window was so I know I'm not out yet. Also been loaded with the cold, which I think I'm just about over but have not noticed sore boobs or anything yet, not even dying to POAS yet because I just dont feel its our month. When is everyone due to test/AF. Hope we get some nice BFPs on this thread!