Let's get Pregvember off with a bang! November BFP bus (thread 2)

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Time for some fireworks!!

Morning
Cariad
I'm so lucky to have an awesome DS and definitely didn't realise quite the emotional trauma month after month of those for whom it wasn't happening. I'm still relatively recently TTC compared to some (9 months TTC) and definitely didn't expect this amount of stress. Got nothing but sympathy and hugs for those trying far longer.

My NCT friend whose now heavily pregnant with DC2 was saying that her and her DH we're disappointed they conceived 1st month as they wanted more of a go at it! I had no words!!

Ridiculous question... But to confirm on dates... If I had a +OPK on Wednesday, should I assume ovulation was on Thursday, therefore I am now 2dpo? Or do you count the ovulation date as 1dpo?

Bovnydazzler - I might be wrong, but I always count the first day after I think I ov'd as 1dpo, and treat the day of ov as cd whatever. So, in your case, if you think you ov'd on Thursday, you'd be 2dpo today.

Your friend's reaction to getting upduffed on cycle 1 is sadly all too common - what I find really hard is that try as they may, people who've never had it tough on the ttc front just have no idea what it's like to go through months of disappointment and heartache, and almost invariably end up saying the wrong things. That's one of the reason I love these threads so much. It makes me realise I'm not alone and that what I'm feeling is (for the most part) perfectly normal.

Did my first test today....bfn. oh well. AF is two days late now but i guess it's my cycle settling down. Onwards and upwards!

Just catching up sorry to all those who got bfn, fx your testing to early. Only 3dpo for me way to early.
cariad I have also lost friends over the no child situation been ttc 10 month and it does really get you down. Your time will come

Boo sorry for the bfn. Maybe too early?

Cariad, big hugs for you. We all get down sometimes with ttc especially when we've been trying for a while and everyone around is announcing pregnancies. I really hope you get your sticky bfp soon

Victoria, enjoy your pampering even with the wet jeans.

Frolic, haha I will think positive thoughts and I will get my positive opk soon, Monday would be fab as we can dtd lots from tomorrow onwards

I'm training until 7pm for my new job, still don't know my hours so I'll have to find them out when I start at 1pm to be sure I can do it! No line on an opk before I came out, hoping I might get a faint one later.

Have a good day everyone

Nice pampering session thanks! Had a hydropeel facial thingy. Kept my eyes shut and relaxed into it. Got my monthly reflexology session on Tuesday too. I chat to the lady about all my woes too so it doubles as a counselling session! Highly recomended!

I was speaking to my sister in law last week telling her since coming off the pill my cycles has been all over the place and that we were trying for a baby, her response was that she had gone to the doctors to see if she could try for a baby as she is on medication for epilepsy and that could affect her if she got pregnant , she then said that she had a feeling she would get pregnant easily once she came off her tablets , that made me feel like a total failure as she knows we are struggling, wish I hadn't said anything to her,

Sorry for so many bfns. Let's hope it's just a bit too early....

I was one of those annoying people who laughed at how easy it was to get pregnant. Then I ttc baby 3 and I could not believe how stupid and naive I had been. It was honestly the most stressful, heartbreaking and lonely time. It does seem like no one understands.
It took about 3 years but DC3 is the most wonderful child and was well worth the wait. really hoping #4 doesn't take anywhere near that long tho

I feel super old today. My oldest applied for college I can't believe she's old enough for that....

cd19, 5dpo so not much to report apart from the squillions of symptoms that only really exist in my head

Can anyone help. I'm easily confused and today is no exception! I've been doing opks since cd 9 and still no positive. I'm using cb digital ones. On thurs I had fertile cm and today Ewcm. I'm cd12. My cycle range from 25-32 days.
Do I assume the opks aren't working? I've never used them before.
I'll crack on and dtd later anyway but I'm confused.

Goodness me, so many posts today. I must try to check in more often!

Sorry for all of you finding it tough and having insensitive friends. Really doesn't help.

Thankfully we haven't been frozen out by our friends who are parents but they always invite us out with their kids or to their parties but DH and I just come home wanting babies even more!

I think I am 2dpo here and still dtd out of desperation as we didn't get going eearly enough in the week! Still not sure if my temps show ov but have attached here for anyone who'd like to cast an eye! Don't fully trust today's temp as barely slept and woke up loads in the night.

Anyone got nice plans for this eve?

Ps also sorry for BFNs but they were pretty early so don't be disheartened!

Nutella id say you might not have ov'd yet but not sure why you had fertile cm earlier this week. Sometimes your body gears up for ov but it doesn't happen, then happens later.

Hi I have just joined the site. TTC number 2 since july. Hope november is my month. To early to test but havr had a headach,runny nose and cramps for days now and this morning I managed to set the oven glove on fire. Im doing some solly stuff. Prob just hoing mad

Angela completely ignore your sister. Sisters I know because i have one can be so very ! She's probably came over all prickly as actually it's probably going to be quite hard for her with epilepsy. She will have been told probably some scary things. I have a friend who is epileptic and it's been a very difficult path indeed. But generally ive never known sisters to be anything but competitive with it comes to babies. It's such a delicate subject for so many. Chat to us instead we will talk about ttc forever!

Any one using clear blue digital opk. I havehad 5 flashing smileys in a row but no solid smiley yet. Im on day 19 of cycle?

Hi everyone, havent posted much but have been following the thread, disappointed there were no bfps this morning.

10dpo today and I was expecting af as temp has been low the last two days, but this morning I woke up realising id slept with my mouth open so took temp again after I fell asleep after another two hours and temp had gone up again so ive kinda dismissed my charting as I don't think it's v accurate.

Cheapo sticks fell on my door mat this morning and mil picked up the package, thank fully the envelope didn't give much away as nobody knows we are ttc. Poas just because there are 15 in the pack but bfn. Evenif I ddon't get bfp this month, am keeping fingers crossed for longer lp

Oh no angela that didn't sound very sensitive of your sis In law.

I know that if I get pregnant soon that although I'll be happy I'll also feel guilty because I know two of my friends are ttc and one has been trying for over a year. So I really hope that she gets her BFP before me. Maybe we'll end up at the same time which would be nice but I genuinely would be upset for her if it was me first. They've had tests and its come back fine so far so not sure why it's not happening for them.

Thanks Mrs E and Dozy, she has been told it will be about a year when she can start trying after coming off her pills and taking out her coil and checks, i fully understand it will be hard for her as she may go back to having fits , just wish i kept my mouth shut about it all, one of my close friends has a baby and she has gave me advice which is just acting normal in my daily life and that it will happen and to stop worrying, it took her around 6 months and she has been so lovely to me, and my other friend who is pregnant and i am totally excited that she is having a baby as she has been so broody and didn't think it would ever happen, it is so nice to be around people that are supportive and wishing you best intentions also like all of you on here, I'm so pleased i have found this site and all of you lovely people

My mum said I was conceived in cycle 1 and my sister in cycle 2, rub it in why don't you mother! My sisters first dd was an accident from a missed pill! We've been doing anything we can for nearly 2 years, no fair. My best friend also conceived cycle 1 and hoped it would take longer as it was her dh's wish to start ttc as soon as they married. But she "knows how I feel" because her 2dd took 6 months. Hmmmm not quite the same.....

Victoria you are in the same company as us, i have been trying for 5 months which is not long at all i know, i was so naive thinking first month and id be pregnant, now if i see a pregnant lady i have a respect for how much she may have waited to get pregnant , we will get there one way or another

AF due today - no AF but BFN :( ah well haven't been trying long

The first 9 months we just had sex! Then I started looking online why we aren't preg and found mumsnet! Thought, hmmm this must be more scientific than I thought and started tracking cm and plotting in apps on my phone! I never dreamed all this went on behind people's closed curtains! Lol!

Angela - what your sil said was totally insensitive and unnecessary. The one thing I will say though is that I have also come off my epilepsy meds to conceive and I am willing it I happen quickly because being off the meds is terrifying. So she might be doing the same - that it might take me a year or more is something I honestly can't face up to and if she feels like that too what she said might be what she wants rather than really believes. That said she shouldn't have said what she did to you - totally uncool and shows a serious lack of empathy because what you are going through is so hard. Dont know if that helps at all?

cariad

I don't have words but know that I am thinking of you.

Farewell ladies. AF arrived yesterday (a day early) and now I'm at the airport to fly to NZ for my grandfather's funeral so everything seems very grim indeed.

Best of luck to you. I'm out.

Evening ladies,

I've just read back over the past couple of days. My brain is mush after spending the day sorting out our new house so I can't remember who has said what, I do apologise.

Sorry for those with BFNs, I reckon you're all too early. I stopped poas early after spending a fortune on tests, including around 12 one month when AF was 9 days late.

Hooray for everyone who's ovulating/ovulated/DTD. I quite like the first week after ovulation, the stress is over about whether we'll get to dtd or not and I shouldn't really be symptom spotting although I always am anyway, pregnancy cramps at 1dpo...standard!

Cariad hugs to you. Most of my friends have babies and whenever I see them one of them asks when I'll be joining the 'baby club', I really want to say something sarcastic about their exclusive membership or just slap her.

I am meant to be going to a country with high risk of malaria later this month, I'm due to go when I'll be 11dpo. I'll poas that morning but if it's a bfn then would you take the malaria tablets or risk getting malaria? I'm thinking I'll not take them, cover myself im deet and stay in an air conditioned room for the whole time (only 24hrs) and hope I'm safe from mossies.