The December 2014 bus is here armed with mulled wine, mince pies, mistletoe and a sack-full of BFPs

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This bus is for anyone ttc hoping to get a BFP in December.

I know it's super early, but as I'm currently on a 2 month enforced break from ttc following a ruptured ectopic, December is the next bus I can catch.

Do feel free to come and join me on the journey.

Thanks tessie. I have over indulged and now I feel a bit sick. dh has come home and I have instructed him to hide the tin!

Tenerife is lovely spinning. Plenty of tapas, red wine and uninterrupted couple time sounds fab!

Thanks for the link dastardly. I'm not good at telling what's going on. The creamy one grossed me out as well cuppa. I'm quite pleased that I've never seen anything like that in my pants.

Ooh Tenerife. Very nice. Hope it's lovely and hot and relaxing for u spinning and lots of romantic bedroom action ;)

Thanks angelaham. Where did u buy the bcomplex from? Have only seen the b6. Let me know how it goes. It's all such a minefield! Once u start googling things I end up moving from one thing to another and then I get completely lost. There's so many things out there to try!!

Ok so advice on conveive plus or preseed. Preferences? I want to make my vag as hospitable as possible to all those lovely spermies so they go to exactly the right place this time! As I can't tell the difference between my cm no matter how many picture I've looked at (thanks dastardly!!), and how often I've felt it and stretched it etc I still can't tell the difference so I'm wondering if maybe I dont have throught stuff up there. Anything is worth a try haha.

Glad I have brightened your evening ladies . I don't get a lot of ewcm generally so have been using conceive plus for the last few months. I have also used evening primrose oil capsules and also cough syrup in the past to increase the cm I do have but no success so far with any of those this time round. I get a fair bit of creamy cm post ov but that ebbs off into nothing as I get closer to af. I also get watery cm but not really sticky (but not bothered by that as it doesn't seem to do anything anyway lol).

Good evening everyone,

AF just arrived so I'm coming over from the November bus.

I will read back tomorrow but hope everyone is well!

My stats are:

MissMrsMummy Age 30, ttc #1, cycle 9, BFP due 13 Dec

We've used conceive plus and got on fine with it, but obviously not concieved!! I also took loads of epo up to ovulation last cycle and seemed to have more watery and then ewcm around ovulation.

Sorry to see you here missmrs. I hope af isn't giving you a hard time. I saw mine in with a huge amount of chocolate!

evening all, CD2 here..... yawn

tessie my DH hates to be told when it's TTC time as he doesn't like the pressure to perform. Last month I asked him why he was so worried as he never usually has a problem and he seemed a bit confused himself. Now I try to just tell him the week at the beginning of the month so he can know why I am seducing him but I don't tell him on the day as that really stresses him. Oh and to help I'm usually a bit more attentive to his needs before he goes in

Dastardly ewwwww

oh and dozy I'm taking b complex too this month along with seven seas trying for a baby. I got them both from Holland and Barrett, I bought B100 which is 100mg of each b vitamin but I've heard too much b complex can delay ov so I'm taking 50mg now and will up it to 100mg after ovulation. I am really nervous about these as they are my first ever supplements and I don't want them to mess up my cycle... fx!!

Oh and my pee is neon yellow!

Af arrived this morning so on to cycle 12

AF is definitely on her way. I have angry, red, hard acne spots on my neck and feel super emotional. PMT for sure. So here are my Stats: Age: 35 TTC # 1 Cycle 1. Last month was the last month that my partner properly got on board with TTC. We haven't been using protection for a while but the sex was too infrequent and we didn't time it right. I knew when I was ovulating but didn't think I could pester him for sex as he's been going through a difficult time at work. I find it so difficult to open up in real life, which is crazy as he is super supportive. Now I have, I feel a lot more positive about the whole thing. He thought we'd get pregnant straight away but I'm not holding out any hope for this month. Hoping for a BFP on Christmas Day!

sorry to hear that pikz

Flashing smiley face on CB ov test this morning - whoop! Bit earlier than expected as only on CD 9, but fingers crossed for a BFP come 11th Dec!

I've been rudely evicted from the November bus. Af was 2-3 days late too. If it's going to show up I think it should at least have the decency to be on time so as not to give false hope!
I don't think we'll be trying too hard this cycle as success would mean a due date right in the middle of a holiday we have booked for next year. We probably should give it a total miss but I think (for me) it's impossible to stop trying once you've started!
I haven't read back yet so will do that throughout the day when I get a spare few minutes

kissinggiraffe 35, ttc#4, cycle 2, bfp due 17th Dec.

Not sure whether I can stay on this bus now .

DP got onto the subject of babies last night. While we're both on board for ttc, I want to start in December, which was what we'd originally agreed. He's now saying we need to wait until we see what the finances look like after remortgaging at the end of February. I pointed out that we can only have more money after remortgaging (we're currently on a first time buyers scheme with high interest rates, dropping to svr automatically saves hundreds pm). We then got on to maternity leave/pay etc and I think he was a bit stunned about the fact that I have no idea what I'm entitled to . He says we should have a plan. I'd always had the 'cross that bridge' later mindset because it could take ages to get preggers! So I don't know what's happening now. I don't want to waste time waiting, plus plenty of people get pg by accident and make it work. It's not like we're short of money but he does earn significantly less than me. Am I being naive?

Morning ladies, hope everyone is ok.

CD9 here and second day of flashing smiley on CB ov test - hc899 we are having nearly identical cycles atm!!

Feeling a bit low today. DH and I didn't manage to DTD last night as he was absolutely exhausted. I was hoping that maybe we would this morning but no. I worry that I have completely put him off by letting him know that now is the time. I feel selfish, horrible and frustrated but feel we are wasting precious DTD time!!

dizzynorthernbird is your DH saying that if the finances don't look right when you remortgage in Feb then he may come to the conclusion that you should not to have a baby at all? If so, harsh but fair enough.

However if all he means is that he wants to have all finances right in place before you start TTC then (I am sure you love him but) he sounds like he is a bit of a dimwit who hasn't thought this through. If you get preggers in December the baby won't arrive till August and your remortgage will have been in place for 6 months by then! Given that you're very likely to need at least a few months trying before you get a BFP in reality it's probably going to be much longer than that. You have plenty of time after getting up the duff to sort the financial side out.

And you're 35, does he understand that you don't really have the luxury of fannying about (especially if you want more than one child)? So what if you don't know what maternity benefits you're entitled to - they are what the are and finding out about them isn't likely to put you off children altogether is it?

Just heard on the radio this morning that Tenerife is the place to go currently for guaranteed sunshine. Thought of you jetting off as I listened. I'm extremely with envy. You so deserve this break spinning.

He's not suggesting not having a baby jessie, I think he just wants to make sure that we know what to expect in the long term money wise and that I have some sort of an idea of how long I'll be off work for and how much income we'll have coming in during and after, ie if I go part time etc.
We didn't discuss it fully as we were in bed about to go to sleep (bad timing eh!) but I think what he might be getting at is making sure we have enough money in place/contingency money for while I'd be off work, and delaying ttc if need be for a short while. I earn about 10k more than he does so the reduction in my pay will make things tight.

Sensible in some ways I guess, but yes, I don't want to hang around because of my age!

I did point out we'd have at least 9 months to save up & the fact it might take years to get pg. But I think he thinks he's got super swimmers because his ex wife got pg straight away both times! But I'm not her, and there's also age to take into account!

Will see if I can discuss it properly with him later.

Good luck with your chat dizzy. I had a family before dh and I got together and tbh it all happened very easily. However Dh and I struggled to have a child together. We lost the first and then were ttc for a further 20 months after the mc. This time we were only trying 10 mts. So I wasn't as panicked about it. But it's not as easy as you get older. I found getting of in my 20s relatively simple but very hard in my 30s. Dh is 41 now so I had him on all sorts of double zinc to strengthen his sperm and our chances of succeeding. His eldest child is 20. But it doesn't always follow it will be an easy ride. Good luck hope it goes well,

You're right tessiegirl, our cycles are almost exactly the same! Let's hope we both get a BPH in mid December. I'm really surprised that I am getting smiley face already cos my cycles are normally 31-32 days and I've been regular since coming off the pill at the end of May, so you'd expect ovulation to be around CD 15-16, not 9 which is today!

Wooo! New ebay goodies have arrived - more ICs, and a mini microscope to check for saliva ferning/ovulation. I do love a good gadget. I'm on day 15 of a 30-32 day cycle, and haven't had a positive opk yet - I was wondering if I had missed the moment, but the microscope has me at the "transitional" phase just before my most fertile, so maybe I am just ovulating later this month.

(would day 16-17 be normal for a 30 day cycle? I sense some googling coming on this afternoon)

I just wish I could remember to temp in the mornings - the thermometer is right by the bed, but I keep forgetting.

Hope the discussion goes well Dizzy. DH had similar concerns, but my argument was that if we waited for the perfect moment/financial security, it would never come. I'm glad now that we didn't, as we are several cycles in, and beginning to wonder if it will ever happen.

Jumping aboard the December bus early too. Last month's BFN almost destroyed me completely and I have a feeling I might need you bunch of vipers again this month.

On a positive note, I got my first EVER opk positive result this month. So at least we dtd at the right time.

Ttc#2, 14ish cycles. BFP due 1st December

Travelling lemon I feel your pain. Cycle 12 of ttc#2 here. Only plus side is that with af turning up today the next one isn't due on Xmas eve anymore!

First fertility appointment on Friday week. Expecting ashermans diagnosis again so would hopefully get a hysteroscopy quite quickly.

May mean I'm not on this bus and and waiting to jan but we shall see!

Good luck Pikz, I hope it all goes well for you. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you