April TTC girls zoom into August - Roll Up Roll Up Get Your BFP HERE!

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Apparently we have an anusually high number of BFPs

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Success Stories (so far...)
Ducky23 TTC#2, cycle 1 BFP on April 17th EDD 25/12/14
Cupcake92 TTC #2 Cycle 4 BFP on July 22nd 2014 EDD 05/04/14
LuluJakey1 Age 35 TTC#1 Cycle1 BFP Late May?? EDD 04/01/15
bearsinmotion ttc#2, BFP 26 June, EDD 25/02/15

Still waiting (and temping, and humping)
iamdivergent ttc #3, heading into cycle 8 (BFP/AF around about 22/08)
MrsPopple29 ttc #1, cycle 4 (?)
Me624 cycle 4 (?)

Sorry, I've probs forgotten loads - but hey, new thread! [tea]

GBBO new series. DH says he is taking up baking. Reckons it looks pretty doable. Is starting tomorrow.
PIL are coming up on Friday - he is making afternoon tea he says. Scones and Victoria sandwich cake and sandwiches. Good for him. Can't wait.
I am expecting to be impressed.

Told DH I wasn't going to pick him up from work so he moaned and said he'll have to walk home as he had no money as he spent it on milk and loo roll!!!!
Which is the biggest lie ever. This morning in his wallet he had £140 in there, and a tenner in his work trouser pocket.
So to tell me he had no money was a complete lie. And I saw the taxi drop him off down the road tonight. Hmm....
Also I made a chicken dinner and he went off to eat his and I put DS to bed, as I was eating mine DS started crying and I heard him chuck his dummy, I stared at DH as if to say "go sort him" but he said to me..." I can't do anything with him"
So I had to leave my dinner to go and put his dummy in his mouth and lie him back down. How DH couldn't do that with him is ridiculous.
I hate men sometimes. No actually nearly all of the time.

Cupcake, what a fucking dick

He must be wiping his ass with gold toilet paper!!!!

It's not fair that he treats you like that and he doesn't do anything to help out

It's amazing how some men can treat their wives (especially when pregnant )

Can you sit down and have a serious chat with him? Tell him to get his shit together? Cus his behaviour is disgusting!!!!

Cupcake thats awful what happened to the man providing & support his family ?!!! Team effort this family thing as far as I'am concerned !!

Honestly Cupcake, he is so mean to you. Does he ever do anything with DS? It all seems to be you. £150 and he couldn't buy milk, loo roll and cat litter, or give you £75 of it at least - but he can get a taxi home. Why couldn't he get a bus home? Or why can't he go on a bike?

Between you and Ducky, I don't know how you cope with those two.

I can never sit down and have a serious chat as he never lets me speak all he says is "don't like it u know where to go" and he'll just repeat that until I stop talking.
And lulu him give me £75??? No chance. He moans if I even ask for a tenner!!!
I know I'd be far better off financially if I wasn't with him.
I just hate him. He's horrible to me.
I know some of u may be think why did we TTC, but we actually both wanted a second child. But I thought he'd grow up and he hasn't and I hate being treated this way. I don't want DS turning out like him at all.
I just wanna make sure this baby is okay and wait for the first scan before making any decisions.
But I wouldn't know what to do, or how to go about it?
I wouldn't want to move from this house as it's near my family and a great school for DS.

Oh dear! I know it might seem hard but why don't you wait until after the baby is born? While I don't doubt your DH is useless and frankly a waste of space, before the pregnancy hormones you must have liked him enough to want to bring another child into this world as you said.

Perhaps you might feel that way again once baby is here, although to be honest I don't think any woman should edurr that kind of relationship. Xx

Just wanna know the baby is fine. I'm never good at making decisions lol.

I've woken up and can hardly move my back! :( I'm in agony!! Every movement is really painful :(

He should be helping you Cupcake- with everything. Could his mum help you get through to him? Does she realise how bad he is?

Don't do anything without having given yourself time to think it through properly. You have too much to deal with at the moment.

Are there no painkillers you can take in pregnancy? What about those heat pads from the chemist? They are good.

Lulu his mom has tried to get through to him for years.
And I won't make any irrational decisions, baby is the most important atm :) I'm still super happy tho, I'm so blessed to be expecting another child!! :)
And yeah I've taken paracetamol, think they are the only painkillers allowed in pregnancy :s
I had this backpain with DS in early pregnancy so if it's the same it should die off at 9 weeks

Backpain is the worst, a recent study is suggesting paracetamol doesn't really help very much if at all for back pain! Which is even worse because as you said it's the only thing you can take.

I hope you feel better soon and try not to stress too much xx

I had what's called a fall back rise today, I was really expecting my temp to sore but it didn't so then I frantically searched online and apparently fall back rises are normal? I hope my temp goes up tomorrow :/ I've been having all the signs of ovulation including pains randomly in one side.

I really would like this to be my month ladies, I'm going away to France the end of the month and I want to be able to give my parents in law some good news while we are on holiday with them.

Another flasher today. didn't dtd last night, stayed up late watching a movie then fell straight asleep thankfully DH did too!

he needs to pull his weight cupcake, it's not fair on you! my DH worked 12 hr days when dd1 was very small until she was about 2, he has a mich closer relationship with dd2 as he was unemployed when she was small. He said he found it difficult as I was bf so he couldn't help with the feeds, but he'd let me sleep for a bit in the day and did bathtimes and bedding when they got that bit older. It's difficult I think if maybe your son seems to prefer you but that will be because it's you who usually does go to him. It took my dds a bit to get used to it when DH took over iykwim?

re your backpain, hit water bottle or one of those heat pads?

Good luck Siarie! How lovely that ur going to France bet that'll be nice :) really hope u are able to share some good news!

Iam, that's like mine, DS isn't as attached to DH as I've been with and done everything myself for DS since he was born. And a few days after being home after his was born I was rushed back to hospital and had to take DS with me and we were in there another week. But DH has spoken to me today and has said "I want to be more hands on with our next baby. As I don't think DS is close to me as he is to u"
I hope he is more hands on tbh.

As for back pain I went and got the hot water bottle! lol ! Feels a bit better now :)

Cupcake, I hope you took the opportunity to turn it into a conversation about what you need from him as a parent- financially and support wise. I think you are right- he just isn't mature enough yet but he does not have time to grow up; one baby is here and another is coming and YOU need his help.

I was telling DH and he says he was awful at 21. Had no idea what he wanted to do, worked on a project with disaffected teenagers (basically occupying them with sport) and spent his nights drinking and playing football. Did not want any responsibilities. Pulled himself together a bit at 23 and went to uni. He says he could not have managed a marriage and babies and it would have been a disaster.

You sound lovely, devoted to your little boy and really coping with whatever you have to deal with. I hope your DH grows up. You deserve better.

We had a little chat lulu but I think it'll take a few more till he listens. But yes he has a lot more growing up to do. A lot.
I'm a very different nearly 22 year old woman! I don't think or act like a 22 year old at all. If u ask my friends and family they say I'm a 30 year old woman trapped In a 22 year olds body haha. I've never really had that stage of going out on the town drinking and things like that as I just never really liked it. I'm a bit strange haha!! I've always wanted family life tho :) I think that's the best. I love my son so much and will love this child just as much too. For me my goal was always to have children. I just love them haha.
I always cope Lulu. Got a strong head on me. :)

I was 18 when I had dd1; so was DH - we like to say that we grew up with dd1 which made the whole experience easier for us all

Wow all you nice young mums! I'm 27 and if and when I get my bfp will be the first of my close friends to have a baby. DH is 35 so some of his friends have started having them, but none started until their early 30s.

Hi ladies just catching up been really busy at work.

Hope you are all well

Cupcake sounds like you are having a rough time with dh. You deserve better.

Well cupcake, what ever you decide we will be here to cheer you on I know it's a load easier said than done about leaving.

Oh been meaning to ask those still ttc on this thread have you given up alcohol?

I could really do with a glass of wine tonight not touched a drop since ttc but one glass occasionally can't hurt can it?

Thanks everyone :)
So glad I have this thread! And I'm glad most of us have stayed on after bfps :) before u know it the whole thread will have their bfps :)

21 I was supposed to quit alcohol whilst TTC but the red wine was just too tempting ! Make the most of it I say!

Anyone else had or gets headaches whilst pregnant?
I seem to be having one a day at least and get very dizzy.
All my symptoms this time round are so different! With DS I had practically nothing !

I did cupcake terrible migraines. I suffered with them before but they were worse and more frequent while pregnant.

Touch wood I've not had one for ages. Hope I dont suffer next time.

I still drank when TTC, think it was the only thing keeping me sane!

I had headaches early pg cupcake has been totally differnt this time aswell, maybe it's true about boys no ms and all that