April TTC girls zoom into August - Roll Up Roll Up Get Your BFP HERE!

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Apparently we have an anusually high number of BFPs

Some stats; feel free to add some more below!

Success Stories (so far...)
Ducky23 TTC#2, cycle 1 BFP on April 17th EDD 25/12/14
Cupcake92 TTC #2 Cycle 4 BFP on July 22nd 2014 EDD 05/04/14
LuluJakey1 Age 35 TTC#1 Cycle1 BFP Late May?? EDD 04/01/15
bearsinmotion ttc#2, BFP 26 June, EDD 25/02/15

Still waiting (and temping, and humping)
iamdivergent ttc #3, heading into cycle 8 (BFP/AF around about 22/08)
MrsPopple29 ttc #1, cycle 4 (?)
Me624 cycle 4 (?)

Sorry, I've probs forgotten loads - but hey, new thread! [tea]

Got a flashing smiley on my cb monitor today full of the cold though, this will be some sexy love making tonight just for practice until we get the solid smiley then DH is in for a treat!

Does that mean it's ov day Iam? I haven't used the cb ones good luck! And hope you feel better soon!!

It means I am at 'high' fertility, it needs to be solid before I am at 'peak' fertility lol. still going to dtd

Having a little family BBQ this weekend for him :)
And yes it's my booking appt, I love getting my green notes as well hehe :p

Ducky I'd pack it now lol! :p so exciting packing a hospital bag!

Iam good luck ! :D

Ian Have fun!!! This cycle I am going without the OPKs. My LH surge the last few times were on day 11 and day 12 so going for the every other day option around the time. Can't cope with every day!! Hahaha.

Ducky how's ur DH?
As mine is on his man period again!!
He's just been so horrible to me! I'm sick of being spoken to like a piece of crap on the bottom of his shoe. Always being bossed about to do things. Like if I'm in the middle of feeding DS and DH is hungry he'll say "I'm so hungry. U can make my lunch now if u like"
He is perfectly capable of doing it himself!!!! He NEVER talks to me. It's always "I'm trying to relax before work" or "I'm trying to relax I've been at work" or he just plain ignores me. I get no hugs no kisses nothing. If I so much as touch him with my arm in bed he quick moves his away so that I'm not touching him.
Hate to say this but I don't want to be with him the rest of my life. Can't be treated like crap all the time.
And today we've run out of toilet paper, milk and cat litter. I have no money at all as I brought the new car, he's just been paid, I asked him to get some and he said to me "I can get toilet paper and milk I can afford it, so I'll get it when I can be bothered. Ull have to get some for u when ur paid"
So I can't use any of them?
See what I mean!! Grrrrr! I hate him I really do!

Sorry for the rant :(

Cupcake he's been ok actually! Touch wood! But he can be very much like your DH at times, I get paid more, I pay every single bill and he gets shopping which he conviniently forgets loads of stuff and always says we need to do it on a budget so I end up paying for that too so he can buy himself things

Hope it works out whatever you decide. Maybe me and you should run away together cupcake and let out dh's have each other

Money arguments are what we argue most about , I earn way more and in order for me to have mat leave dh needs to double what he currently earns ( he owns his own business) up until now its been all happy because of the baby and I havent mentioned it but come september think I am going to have to have words !!

Perfect idea Ducky!!!!
I used to earn the most, he had no job! But when I got pg I made him get a job and then we agreed he'd lay most of the things and I'd have time off work for the baby and only go back 2 days a week. Then we agreed we'll have one more child and after that I'll go back properly. But he gives me absolutely NO money at all. I pay for everything still. I'm in nearly £2000 debt as I've had to pay for bills shopping the cat the car DS everything. And he has so much cash to splash it's unfair :(

Oh no Cupcake. I think your DH needs a good old shaking. Sometimes I think men have things too easy now. They no longer have to be sole breadwinners. Yet many still don't get involved in sharing all the other chores and child raising and don't have to put their bodies through pregnancy.

Sometimes I think women got screwed by feminism!! Ugh.
Can you agree a fixed contribution from each person which goes into a shared account to cover bills, food etc?

DH and I keep separate accounts (I insisted on this when we got married as I need ownership over my money and distribute to the joint account from my main account- DH wasn't happy on this insistence but I wouldn't budge and so we make a fixed contribution to mortgage and all bills).

It is not fair for you to be in debt so he can have extra money to splash. He is NOT being a team player at all.

Sending hugs to you. You deserve more support.

Ducky. Wow some of these DHs have tricks. We should put them on an island together and do a reality tv show.

I once knew someone who used to lock her shopping away from her partner. Initially I thought that she was just mean but when she told me what used to happen I totally understood why she did it. He would never buy groceries and eat hers and would not contribute to any bills or rent or anything! Yet he had money for regular nights out with mates, video games, clothes, shoes etc. She eventually kicked him to the curb.

Ducky. Wow some of these DHs have tricks. We should put them on an island together and do a reality tv show.

I once knew someone who used to lock her shopping away from her partner. Initially I thought that she was just mean but when she told me what used to happen I totally understood why she did it. He would never buy groceries and eat hers and would not contribute to any bills or rent or anything! Yet he had money for regular nights out with mates, video games, clothes, shoes etc. She eventually kicked him to the curb.

CP he needs more than a shaking!
Don't know why he thinks being a prick makes him look cool.

I was watching yesterday's this morning and they were on about staying together for the kids. And they kept saying if the woman was pregnant "don't make any decisions until the baby is born. Bring the baby into the world safely first then make ur decisions"
Don't know what to think about that tbh

For fun how about we try out names for the reality tv show for these DHs.
How about
Husbands behaving badly...

Not very original. Any other suggestions? Haha

Cupcake I think it is a good idea not to do anything rash or spur of the moment. It is a big decision so you need to take your time. I disagree with the whole staying together for the children though. Children are not stupid and can tell when things are seriously wrong.

Tori that's how finances work with me too!! Hehe. Although DH very naughtily buys clothes from the joint account. But as he buys his stuff in Asda I don't complain too much. Let's just say that my treats are a little more pricey and involve leather :-)

Nice to see all the higher earner ladeez . I earnt way more than DP in the early days, he's overtaken me now though!

Happy birthday babycupcake!

I have my first appointment at the high risk clinic tomorrow, then scan next week, then I'll finally be able to tell people!

Cupcake your DH sounds like he is behaving very badly! I'm the higher earner too (though not by much) but DH and I just have a joint account for everything, we don't have any of our own separate accounts. It works for us - what's mine is his and vice versa. It's good for when I do get my bfp and go on mat leave as some of my friends have hated being in a position where they have to ask their DH to transfer them some money.

CP I like that name husbands behaving badly! Hehe :p

Bears how exciting!!! :D hope the appointment and scan goes well!

Me I hate having to ask DH for money! He never gives me it tho. And if DS needs nappies or milk I ask DH to buy them sometimes and it takes a lot to make him buy them! Then he goes on bout how HE brought his nappies etc

Pregnancy symptoms.....I'm so exhausted!!
Put DS down for a nap and hoping he falls asleep as I'm so desperate for my own nap !

We share everything but do have some separate money dh has a large overdraft and I have a healthy savings account !!

We have one account both salaries go into. It has 3 accounts within it. Immediately, anything over a set amount is swept into the savings account bit to try and help us save something every month. The other account is an automatic top up account so we can't go overdrawn- it tops up the daily account if it falls below £200. This is 'our money' and it pays for everything- bills, food, holidays, clothes, house things,pet insurance, car. We both spend it and unless it involved taking money from the savings bit we would not ask each other. I earn more.

In addition I have an ISA and another account where I keep money I inherited from my mum and an aunt- not much but something. DH has a savings account where he keeps money he inherited from his grandad- not much again- and he has an ISA.

I have some money coming from a savings insurance I took out 15 years ago which has matured. That will go into my account as I have paid for it and mainly before I met DH. It's not a lot as the financial mess of stock markets saw to that, but it will boost my savings a bit. We never touch the separate savings accounts and try to add to them if we can. It is a bit of security.

We will find it harder when I am on maternity leave but we are pretty good managers and don't buy things like computer games, flashy cars, labelled clothes. The house is not flashy either. We don't spend much on going out or alcohol. Neither of us smoke. I admit to having spent a fortune on Magnum ice creams!

Cupcake, I don't understand your DH. Sometimes he sounds nice and sometimes he sounds really immature. FFS he has responsibilities and he should be stepping up to them. I don't know how you deal with him. How is he expecting you and DS and the cat to go to the toilet if he won't buy toilet paper and cat litter? It's not like they are optional items.
Ducky is right, you and her should look after each other and the two DHs should live together and see how they manage then.
Ducky, yours just astonishes me. On what planet does he think what he pays for is fair. You must have the tolerance of a saint or be very good at detaching yourself from it. I would not be able to not have a go at him

Men!

We just have the joint account that all money goes into and all money goes out from. That way 'we' pay for everything etc. It's relatively new for us (within the last year) but I prefer it. I check online banking every day and mark off all our bills on a spreadsheet lol! We are allowed treats (he will buy tobacco and I will buy books) but we discuss bigger purchases beforehand so we can make sure we won't be left short each month. He earns more than double what I do but I'm only part time, if I was full time he'd earn about 6k more than me. I don't see me going full time EVER until my girls are at high school (or future baby is at primary). I will def go back to work though after ml if I am lucky enough to get pg, I really enjoy my job plus as I work for LA I gave good training and career prospects

Just happy I got my smiley face this am means I must be ovulating! was so paranoid that I wasn't!

Great news iam! Happy dtd tonight!

We have a spreadsheet too, financial geeks together hooray!

I'm confused today as I've noticed quite a bit of cm, but should have ov days ago unless my cycle is getting messed up. Mind you there does not seem to be much rhyme or reason to my cm so I'm not going to get too fussed about it!

I don't think tere is much to observing cm! I found I had more and thougt I ov'd later than I thought (strange cus I was using opks) but I didn't!

Money eh? we used to do a spreadsheet when I was working and DH was on a normal salary. But we moved away for DH work so we decided I would leave work to stay home and be a house wife. I need to be flexible as DH is the main earner and to be honest even though I'm educated and do very well in a career setting, I won't ever earn as much as DH does. I'm happy being the flexible one though, it's what I've always wanted to do.

These days were fortunate that there isn't much point recording income anymore.

I can't wait to add to our family with a little one, it will just make everything complete!