TTC after MC; hand holding, hugs and lots of things that can JTFO!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Did you go for a run tori? I still got a small gush of blood when I went running the first few times, even after the overall bleeding had stopped. Just try and take it easy for a bit longer.

Sorry to hear that tori - my bleeding was on and off too and it's bloody demoralising -pun intended! Don't feel bad about whinging - that's what this thread is for.

JBrd I'm so sorry to hear about your losses. I can only begin to imagine how utterly devastating that must have been, to have had three losses and get to 17 weeks and lose your baby. My heart goes out to you and your DH. My first loss was in January when I chose to terminate after trisomy 18 was diagnosed at 13 weeks. As I'm sure you know, it is a hateful condition that comes with a whole host of incredibly serious symptoms, which are ultimately fatal. Your baby was spared being born only to suffer. I know that doesn't make it easier. I'm so sorry .

I am also older - I'm 37 (this weekend) and DP is 40 in November. He drinks too much (in my opinion) and also smokes. It is becoming a bone of contention, I even told him he had dodgy sperm a few weeks ago when we were having a row. I felt awful afterwards. I don't think smoking/drinking is in any way linked to something like trisomy 18 but as far as I'm concerned it doesn't help! I'm trying not to go too batshit on his ass about it, bcos he's the sort of man who really does not appreciate being told what to do. But it is hard.

Good luck to all - no news to report here, hoping to OV in about a week.

Pinky/brown cm and feeling crampy. If it is AF, it's very unlikely that I did actually ovulate as I'm only 8dpo.
Will see how it pans out

Hope it's not af English.

Things that can JTFO today: the crowd of babies/children sitting around me at the doctors :/
Was almost in tears when I went in.

So sorry JBrd, can't imagine what you went through.

Monten, DH really struggles with not drinking coffee and alcohol when ttc. I've just given up asking now. I don't know how much difference it all makes.

I am definitely temping this cycle. Also pleased to report that the Clearblue Fertility Monitor is bang on for dates so I would definitely recommend.

Lost my baby nearly 6 weeks ago and bit the bullet on Sunday and decided to start again. Then yesterday spent the day running into loo at work to cry and feeling generally overwhelmed with anxiety that I can't cope with it all and wondering if I need more time still. Am I totally mad? Has anyone else still been really low after several weeks? Torn between wanting a baby and too scared to contemplate it all again...

Mrsm14 sorry you are having a tough time. That sounds completely normal to me, please don't beat yourself up for not feeling 'better' yet. I think we have all experienced highs and lows and moments where we felt right back to the beginning again. There is no time limit on it. I think all of us would admit to being frightened too about something going wrong again. Hang in there, you will be fine.

Jbrd I also wanted to say - a friend gave birth to her first baby on Christmas Day last year. I found out recently that she had four miscarriages before she had him. There is always hope

p.s Jbrd she was 45

JBrd I'm so sorry for your loss. I think I remember you from last time, your name certainly rings a bell. I know every mc is crap, but to get as far as you did and then lose a baby must be extra devastating.

Well ladies, I'm sorry to report that Avalanche Sharks was a total disappointment! The acting was dire, the plot thinner than a piece of rice paper and the 'special effects' looked like something from the 80s. Still, I saw a trailer for Sharknado 2 which is out on Thursday, and that looked very promising, so I shall be watching that one and hoping for a better experience!

Despite my BFN yesterday a little part of me is still clinging on to the hope that AF might not show tomorrow as my boobs seem very full this morning, my cervix is still high and I seem to have got some creamy cm... (I won't be too surprised though if she does show up.)

I just thought I'd pop in and say hi. I lurk occasionally just to see how you're all doing...

I'm 8+2 today and haven't made it this far in my last 5 pgs, so that is positive. Like JBrd, though, I am 42 and know that having made it this far, my next challenge is going to be chromosomal abnormalities.

I am still under the care of Prof Brosens in Coventry, so taking a 300 mile round trip for scans and reviews fortnightly at the moment.

I'm on a hefty cocktail of meds, including progesterone, heparin and prednisolone until 12 weeks, am filling out all over an upside is my crows feet are less noticeable! and sick and tired.

I hope my experience, and those of other RM women, isn't too daunting. Most women who have one or two MCs go on to have healthy pgs after. Only a handful of us go on to have more, and even then, we do succeed with tenacity, time, support and a dose of good luck. I am crossing fingers and toes for us all! x

Cd41 after mc, I've had about 6/7 days of v light spotting but plenty of POAS over weekend has shown pretty definitively that I'm not pg again. Wish AF would just show up now so I could start a new cycle! House is a mess, kids running circles round me but I have signed up to start yoga next week and I have started Angus castes again today. Onwards upwards... Hope everyone else is doing well x

This is the worst day to go to a spa and lounge around in pristine white robes. I am bleeding heavily, half filling a mooncup every hour, total fucking nightmare. I honestly don't know what I am going to do to make this manageable aside from shove a toilet roll up there. God must be having an absolute hoot right now at me as he continues to put the boot in daily. I can only hope I had a bloody riot in a previous life.

MrsM - I'm sending you a big hug. It's perfectly normal to have down days, 8months on from first mc I get upset now and then.

Sebs - you poor thing! Mother Nature is a fucking bitch!

Hope the name change works wonders for you Sunbathing

English has the spotting stopped? FX it was implantation, sounds like it

Oh I'm just so cross that this was meant to be a lovely relaxing day having adult time and enjoying being pampered, instead I'm going to be stressing about blood and running back and forth to the bog. Just pisses me off on top of not being pregnant obviously!

Some brown on a liner and constant feeling that there's something coming out. Trying not to get my hopes up.... We'll see. Not going to test until Saturday.

Hello everyone, I have been lurking for aaaages but thought it was about time I checked in with you all. I felt like a bit of a fraud on the previous threads because in the 4 and a half months since my mc I think I have only ovulated once (and not even certain about that!) so ttc has been a bit of a non-starter for me. In fact I was starting to think I had just gone straight from being pregnant to hitting the menopause This month was a little bit different though, I had what I would call a "normal" af a couple of weeks ago and I have actually got a +ve OPK today on CD14. Textbook! Just need to remember to have sex at some point today and I will be in the running for a bona fide 2ww this month! Don't want to get my hopes up but it will make things more interesting at least to be in with a small chance

I am also pleased to see that some members of the thread have hit the jackpot and got themselves upduffed - jolly well done

Welcome to the new ladies, sorry for your losses and well done for being brave and taking the first steps to trying again. It never ceases to amaze me how strong women can be when the going gets tough.

sebs I hope you manage to enjoy some of your time at the spa, what rotten timing. You really must be due some (very) good luck soon!

I haven't been here all that long, currently 4.5 weeks into the WTF cycle post MMC in May/June time, but am reporting a tentative BFP!

I started to suspect a last week when sore boobs started, and today just couldn't stand the smell of OH's coffee ice cream and the rubbish made me feel a little nauseous.

OH asked when we're next testing, as last time we did 4 until we got a strong line. But today was very strong and very quick even in mid-afternoon pee. So i don't think there's any need? Just sit and wait?

Really glad I've been taking my vits, but generally feeling confused as i really hadn't expected it so soon. I had promised myself i wouldn't test until 6 wks post-bleeding, as i didn't want to know. I know I'll be worrying every day and absolutely not telling anyone for ages, it's just best not. And not joining an antenatal group either, don't want to be symptom spotting and excitement.

Sebs sorry about the spa, but hope you can still enjoy in between loo trips. Certainly wish i could have a spa day!

Welcome office lady good luck for this month!

Congrats Tannyloo i hope you're feeling good.

Congrats Dontbeblue! I can completely understand the caution. I'd let the drs know just so it's on record and then try to sit back and let time do it's thing. Hope everything is plain sailing for you. Good luck!

I've decided that when I do get my BFP I'm going to tell a few people this time. Clearly for me keeping it secret did nothing to dispel any bad luck. I'm going to tell a couple of good friends who have been a great support over the mc.

Thank you so much monten, sunbathingcat, englishgirls, officelady - you really helped me get through a feckin shitty morning. Sometimes I just feel like other ladies have some secret inner strength I am missing! xxx

ps - congrats dontbe blue