How do you manage the monthly disappointment?

[Portlypenguin]

Dear people,

I have a lovely DS aged just 3 and we have been TTC#2. In 2ww of cycle 4 now. I know it is a very short time but last time we conceived ( by good luck) on cycle 1 so i am inexperienced at waiting. I have had one v early miscarriage recently (feb).

Any tips? I seem to convince myself i am pregnant every month and then am not.

All of DS' little buddies already have siblings and people keep going on about our bigger gap. It was a work/stress/mood related gap decision which was inevitably but now i feel guilty for some unknown reason and like it is my fault i am not pregnant yet.

I know we are lucky to have one child and there are many of you who have been ttc for much longer - perhaps it just gets a bit less disappointing with time.

Advice or just 'cope with it' statements welcomed!

Feeling my usual AF impending symptoms of extreme hunger and uncomfy tummy :(

Suspect this month won't be for us. However, will wait and see what happens in the next couple of days

I'm with you on that Portlypenguin I'm on DPO7 today & AF due to arrive Saturday. The 19th try! Feeling down today

hi ladies reading your post has helped me a little but unfortunately I cannot even get angry if AF shows up because it's been 4 months off BC and nothing and being told just sit and observe nothing doing given it's only 4 months but trouble is I'm going to be 40 in 3 months so looks like no good news in sight. really bumbed out.

wish i could go into hiding especially since at work everyone is pregnant even the guys have wives that are pregnant and they are just as chatty about it. i could just scream.

Frustrated. I'm just so impatient. This is cycle 6 and I am 10dpo now. I'm horribly stressed about various family illness and exams at present so Dh is saying not to worry if not this time.

Everyone I know seems to either have their second or be preg. Three more announcements this week, all from friends with Pfc significantly younger than ds. GRRR. Happy for Kate & William but also teeny bit jealous ( tho not of the sickness!).

Anyway rant over. Hugs to others in similar situations.

Hi Portlypenguin I know exactly how you feel. We've been trying for number 2 for 19 cycles now and everyone who was pg with their first at same time as me or after me has gone on to have a second & some even a third! Most recently a colleague pg with second, first has only just turned 2 & she got pg as soon as they started trying.

It's hard wanting something so badly and for so long and seeing everyone else get it so easily. It's hard not to be a bit jealous.

Thanks for the hugs, I know I just need to be patient but it is So difficult. I am naturally quite impatient. I think if I had had to wait a bit longer for DS (2nd cycle) then I could be less anxious about it.

Oh well, will have to plug on. I only bought 6mo of folic acid initially...need to buy more...

Good luck all and will report back.

Sniff. Period arrived. Round we go again.......

Hoping others have more luck :)