TTC when DH works away

[SingingSoftly]

So DH and I are now officially TTC :-) Although, according to my phone, it was pointless, because this is not a fertile day. July and August it won't line up either. He will be here for one fertile day in September. We won't have a really good opportunity until October. It's so frustrating - I'm so excited and just want to get on with it now the decision has been made!

Anybody else in a similar situation?

the symptom spotting has begun and is in full swing!!

time to get overly excited (crazy) for the next week!!

what symptoms to report so far? I'm awaiting ovulation then I can join you!!

since ov .. way way more CM than usual. sorry tmi! headaches!! i haven't had such headaches since stopping the pill! and I cried at some makeover program on TV! it must be! 9 days til testing in seriousness though I thought we timed it well, then Dh went away for our days and the first two days he was gone I think I ovulated (late). hopefully enough swimmers were still around who knows!

anyone else symptom spotting?

Hm well I read somewhere that the two days prior to ov were better than day of ov itself so sounds like good timing NewLeaf. The countdown to testing begins! So do you test before AF is due?

Couple of people at work are off on mat leave. Today my boss said, 'We'll have to put it in the contract for you women, no going off having babies.' He was joking of course, but I felt bad, like I had a guilty secret!

haha.. he was probably testing the water to see your reaction!

yes the last time we were in the UK I bought a pack of forty cheap pregnancy tests from Amazon... so I've usually tested around 10dpo onwards just because I'm impatient, bored, wishful!

I really hope this could be our month, suddenly feel impatient again and we were relatively lucky with Dh's schedule fitting in this month.

fingers crossed and good luck to everyone!!

how is the tww going newleaf? i wish i knew where i was in my cycle was meant to ov last week but from Thursday, cd15 to Monday i had what i would describe as a really light period two weeks after my last one which was 3 weeks late. so don't know whether have started a new cycle or not. so frustrating.

any ideas welcome......

hi ladies!

singingsoftly when are you going to test? FX for you!!!! do you test before AF is due or do u have some patience?

swimming argh! that must be so frustrating! i guess just keep monitoring that CM/temping and try figure it out that way, or just DTD as much as you can!! my cycles never shorten just lengthen and AF is super light so sometimes i think i haven't had a full reset (if that makes sense!) between cycles.

today is CD29... going to test on sunday even though I'm only due on tues/wed. i felt i had all the symptoms... and now, nothing. feeling a bit despondent and down about it all. must pick myself up and stay positive!!

DH is back tonight for one day then off again for four days. at least i can do some sneaky POAS action on my own to feed my POAS addiction...

Hello, can I get on the DH works away boat too?

We haven't been trying too long and my job is flexible in that I can plan my diary to be where he is when we need to DTD - but so far we've only managed to be together two fertile periods in the last six months.

Just bought myself a basal thermometer so I can plan EXACTLY when we need to DTD!

hi spangila! welcome!

I started temping halfway thru this month although I'm not sure I have a very good thermometer... just a normal one to one decimal place not two. so far its confused me more than helped me but I guess u need a couple months info not just half a month ;)

happy weekend to all u ladies! x

NewleafExPat - I bought a 'BabyMad' one from Amazon for a fiver and it arrived next day. I've only used it once properly so not sure how accurate it is. I suppose later in the month...

I'm not feeling like I'm pg this month even though the timing was so great - he was here when I ovulated! But I have no symptoms! I have just bought a thermometer too but only took it once this morning out of curiosity. It was under 37 so I was thinking low temp = not pg even though I suppose you really need to know what your normal temp is to compare. I don't know if it is worth starting to record the temps now or if I should wait til day 1 of next cycle.

I don't really know when to test if pg but the box I have says you can use them from first day of missed period, but this is no help to me with my irregular cycles. Do you need special ones to test 10 dpo or can the normal ones pick it up?

Hi Spangila! I was going to ask if anyone had gone to the extent of travelling to their DH's place of work during ovulation. It's not on the cards at the moment but if I were faced with months of dates not lining up for us I think it would get tempting!

what cycle day are you? I would test 3-4 days before period due. I use the most sensitive tests u can buy that are internet cheapies.

offhand I can't remember what sensitivity they are but apparently quite reliable.

I am due on Tuesday/Wednesday and tested today. bfn... how annoying. I'll test again on Tuesday if no AF but I had some AF-style cramps yesterday so pretty sure I'm out.

funny how TWW goes from 1-3DPO symptom spotting and excitement.
4-10 DPO convinced its another bfn month.
10dpo+ AF symptom spotting...

oh what we put ourselves thru... :)

Hi all....my DH has just left for 7 months. We have been trying for 2 years (1mmc) but I worked out we have had about 7 chances out of 20 (I'm not always regular) due to him being away!!
Our fertility consultant has been brilliant and arranged to have DH's semen frozen so we can have a go at IUI whilst he is away this time. Fingers crossed.
Congrats to Claire...how I long to see that second blue line xx

hi calibee best of luck to you and welcome to our gang.

hows everyone doing? Anyone testing soon? did you test at all singingsoftly?

DH is away for four days. I am now 4 days late on CD36 and slowly going crazy! not impressed! I tested on Tuesday BFN so now just waiting for that stupid AF to arrive.

hello everyone!
oh newleaf how frustrating! have you tested again? it can take time in some people for the hormones to build up enough to be detected

This is probably not helpful, it maybe it is but I'll type it anyway
I used a persona monitor for contraception. Anyway it worked perfectly for 18 months for contraception. I forgot to test one day before dtd, tested after and there was a red light - meaning fertile, don't have sex. "Who falls pregnant first time?" I think to myself
Um... Me. Wasn't meant to be, but for anyone trying I can recommend it, obviously it's back to front if you are trying so red light is a big go and green a no. Cheap on eBay

Well I've only been monitoring BBT for a week and using my OPK for a couple of months so was surprised to ovulate on CD11 (aka yesterday) and not CD15 as my fertility app had predicted. Purely by chance, DP surprised me with a visit at the beginning of the week so I'm now on a 2WW

great news And lucky timing spangila I am still awaiting AF what feels like forever ... think I'm on day 39 now :( not happy! going to test tomorrow if she isn't here yet...

I keep thinking I've come on, rush to the loo but nope... period type cramps every so often And I think finally, AF will be here soon so I can cross off this cycle And start again, but nope..... tested yesterday but nope....

gggrrr!! so frustrating!

Sounds very promising NewLeaf!! I haven't tested yet. AF could be due any day from today so maybe I'll try tomorrow... I've been totally exhausted the past few days, like going to bed at 7.30pm, and had an unusual skin breakout, but hey that could be just PMT.

Good thanks for the tip, I'm guessing the monitor works like an OPK? We ladies need all the help we can get!

singing that sounds super promising! unfortunately I got bfn this morning but I had already resigned myself to believing it was bfn so not too much of a let down. I hope for you its a bfp!! let us know! :)

squiffy month/cycle for me so now I just want AF to come so I can start again.

part of me wants to do all I can for the next cycle incl stopping coffee and cutting down on my intense workouts but another part of me thinks "stressing about TTC" is the problem and I'd be better off just 'forgetting about it'

I did go for Asian "reflexology" on Friday which is basically just a foot massage here I don't think they take it too seriously. anyway an hour only costs equivalent of six quid here at an upmarket place so im going to go every week for four weeks and see if it helps to regulate my cycles/destress hahaha good excuse anyway :)

Ladies!! Could this possibly be, do you think??

OMGGGG! i just logged into pc instead of app - just to see this picture.

its a bfp!! I'm sure you can do another one today to cement the thoughts and actually believe it but i reckon its a bFp!!!

woop woop woooooop! best you be spreading the love for us ladies too :-)

I can see a line too!! :) yay! congrats Singing!!!

go on then - we need to know symptoms etc...............

has anyone else tested/due to test??

I have no idea where I am in my cycle, have resigned myself to the fact I am just going to have to sit it out until AF turns up, just hope it doesn't take too long, but at the moment I have no PMS symptoms so wont be anytime soon..............

Thanks ladies! I couldn't quite believe it as I felt totally normal until a couple of days ago, I was convinced we hadn't managed it this time, even went out and bought the thermometer etc ready for next cycle. I re-tested today and yep it's definitely a BFP.

I hope this will turn out to be a lucky thread for all of us! I have my fingers crossed for all you ladies!