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TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :) new thread!!

989 replies

m33r · 07/05/2014 19:41

Hopefully we'll see more BFPs on this one!

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Ladyboluna · 24/07/2014 15:12

AF is due on Saturday and I'm trying to resist buying a test today...

Would any show up as BFP or is today too early?

lildottie · 24/07/2014 15:18

hi ncs, nord and lady. sorry you are all having to join us but hopefully you will find the support helpful.

lady I gave up testing early forever ago. it messes with my head too much. but a frer or an ic (internet cheapie) may pick up a bfp that early. but don't do it to yourself!Smile

lildottie · 24/07/2014 15:19

ahh hadn't finished!

Vic - so cool that you can check your own results! can you tell from work system if they've been sent to gp yet?

victoria401 · 24/07/2014 15:26

I agree, testing early is bad and you're more likely to pick up chemicals and false negs. Its less heartache getting af then getting a bfn, in my opinion anyway.

Welcome Nordic I remember your name off the buses. Sounds like you've been through an awful lot over the years to get your family. I can't help with any advice on conception as I've not been pregnant, plus we have male factor. I now consider myself to be a mini expert in immune response male factor infertility and referral requirements for the greater Bristol area now, if you have any questions!? Lol

Nordicmom · 24/07/2014 15:47

Thanks Victoria and lildottie . I think this might take us a while if it ever works out so can't just keep on changing busses and watch others jump off with their quick BFPs without heartache so I think I need to be here too !

Ladyboluna · 24/07/2014 16:03

Lildottie you're right I really shouldn't. I've just been TTC for too long now (12 months in a few days) and keep hovering between desperation and giving up. One of the worst thing to happen was a friend (who knew I was TTC) told me she was pregnant after only trying for 3 months after stopping her pill. But then she told her closer friend that actually it took her well over a year since stopping the pill. It just makes me upset that people I know seem to see problems conceiving as something to cover up/lie/boast about so just want a BFP like everyone else!

Phew. Vent over. Carry on ladies.

Metalhead · 24/07/2014 16:23

Welcome ncs, nordic and lady! I remember your name from the one monthly bus I was one nordic but I gave up on them pretty quickly as I couldn't handle all the BFPs. Even on the ttc after mc thread I'm on there have been quite a few ladies recently who literally seem to have come on just to hop off again with a BFP, and I'm afraid to say it makes me feel like shit.

As for testing early, I promise myself not to do it every month, and every month I cave and do it anyway. I think for me, I just want to know as early as possible so I can get over the disappointment, and usually by 13dpo a BFN is pretty reliable for me. (5 days to go this month...)

Glad your results were ok vic.

victoria401 · 24/07/2014 16:52

Weirdest thing... I've got a letter from my GP's saying that I need to phone up and make a TELEPHONE APPOINTMENT with the fertility clinic! What's that all about?! I assumed me and dh would get an appointment and go and speak to someone at the actual building! I work at the hospital for goodness sake! Why on earth would I want to have a phone appointment? Its very hard to take private calls during the day as I work in a lab and there are rarely empty offices. I usually have to call the GP from the fire exit stairwell or hide down in the store room in the basement. Not the atmosphere for my first fertility assessment! Grrrrrr

GingerbreadBabyPlease · 24/07/2014 22:50

Arr vic it really is just one thing after another with you! Is someone playing some sort of cruel patience testing game on you!? Does it not just mean you have to ring them to make an app? Give them a call and play hell with them! It's getting bloody ridiculous.
Blue glad your hycosy went as well as expected, and glad they seemed happy for you to keep dtd. Get shagging and crossing those fingers! Hopefully you can go and join m33r.
Metal have you tested yet so far this month? I am similar to you I think, some months I don't bother testing, but this month I feel happier about seeing bfns than getting full on AF, helps me prepare for it a bit more. I POAS this morning, I knew it was pointless as only 9dpo but it has set me up a bit more for expecting AF next week. and also made me feel totally shit. I'm convinced this is never actually going to happen for me. Got another appointment with the Dr tomorrow to see if I can speed up my gynae referral, not due to get an app until Nov Confused Also to discuss DHs SA results with her, the nurse on the phone told him they were fine, but this is the same nurse who told me my blood results were fine, when they were actually suggesting I wasn't ovulating.
Hello to the newbies, but sorry to see you here. Lady I think a test could maybe show a BFP the day before AF is due, depending on which one you used. nordicmum what an awful journey for you, but a happy ending, and hopefully an even happier one soon.

lildottie · 24/07/2014 23:28

Vic I'd phone the gp first. then go to the clinic in ur lunch break if its in the same building! do u think they havevur results already? surely thats too fast to have got through post system.

lady hitting that 12 month mark is shit, but it will soon start to feel better when u get into tests and referral. we've been ttc for 21 months now, male factor infertility. we've agreed that when if we get pregnant, be it on our own or the icsi, we will be telling everyone what a long road it has been to get there. I think its important that ppl know what we've been through to educate them in the hope they are more respectful the next time they consider asking someone "when are you going to have kids then." I suspect ur friend wasn't trying for a year, maybe she was off the pill a year, but surely someone trying that long would know how much it would sting someone else to hear that 3month line. or she's just not a very nice friend!

cd20 here and still haven't ovulated. # impatient!

Lauraqc · 24/07/2014 23:41

Evening ladies...

Vic bloody hell. So pleased you took control and found your own results - and WTF is a phone appt?!? Is it like a test to see if you're really dedicated and then they'll deign to let you speak to a real person?! Grrr I feel annoyed for you!!

Lady thank you! This is one of my pet hates! I have friends who've lied to me about how long it's taken! Friends for gods sake - if more people would be honest about it I think it'd would help us all!

Hope everyone else is ok today! I went back to work today and had a good day, af is calming a bit and I'm feeling more positive than I have been in a while. I feel like it's going to happen soon - and DH and I have already agreed we're going to give it all we've got this cycle for a May baby!

ncsmummy · 25/07/2014 11:04

As we have been ttc for nearly 17 months since the m/c I am thinking about biting the bullet and seeing a doctor. I have got a couple of qs tho, will they do the tests etc even though I already have 2 children? OH doesn't have any. Also I am worried they will blame the vit d deficiency and tell me to come back in a few months?, I don't want to waste their time.

victoria401 · 25/07/2014 12:50

I agree lil I'm going to tell everyone about our struggle! A girl in work is getting married in a fortnight and everyone's saying to her, oh you'll be having babies soon then blah blah. I'm not saying a word! Bets are on for who's next all the time at work. Mostly people say me, so hurtful! 5 other people have got preg, 4 of whom have babies now, since we've been ttc (21 months)

Called the clinic, the phone appointment is to make an actual appointment! The receptionist didn't really understand it either! Also called the docs to ask about my cd3 bloods. A male GP called me back unfortunately. Had to explain about the spotting versus real af and getting my dates wrong. He asked me if I was regular, and I said well between 26 and 32 days with spotting, and he said 'that aside, are you regular? Can you predict when you'll start and know if you're late'?! Wtf?! That's what I was trying to say, I can predict it to a week but confused by spotting issues! Anyway, long story short he said my bloods from the fake cd2 Wednesday were good enough. In my diary today is now cd1, and flipping agony!

ncs I don't see why they shouldn't start testing you now. Its a different relationship to your other children. It may mean you can't get fertility treatment like iui or ivf on nhs but you will get tests for free. Although some clinics have the rule that one partner may have kids from a previous, mine accepts that, but lots don't. You've got pg before in this relationship so chances are you will again and its something that can be sorted. Maybe its just that you're a few years older and its taking longer.

Lauraqc · 25/07/2014 22:28

Soooo....I feel like a complete ferret. Been moaning on to DH to arrange his SA and chased him to speak to dr to make appt. He finally was getting ready to go
Dr this morning and I got out the analysis pot before he went and noticed a letter with it...complete with his appt for 2 days ago!!! Arggggghhhh!!! So have now rearranged for 13th August and our first infertility appt is at hosp on 20th so fx we'll have results and can talk about them on that date! I'm very organised in my daily life I can't believe I didn't see this and I feel so awful I missed the appt!! Hospital were fine though, phew!!!

Ladyboluna · 25/07/2014 22:36

Did a test this evening even though I had a wee only 2 hours before because I'm a silly sausage.

Maybe theres a line if I hold it in the light a certain way and squint while standing on one leg, otherwise its negative. Will do one in the morning because I shall have my BFP! Sad

victoria401 · 26/07/2014 06:48

Laura don't beat yourself up about it, it should have been your oh's responsibility to keep his own appointments not yours. Men are just crap. And there is plenty of time to have the result ready for the 20th. They write the report same day and I presume the sa is done at the same place as your fertility appointment and if necessary they can get hold of the result on the day if for for some reason it hadn't been sent out.

ncsmummy · 26/07/2014 07:20

Thanks Victoria. I suppose theres no harm in asking! I knew we would probably not be able to get any help such as ivf if needed, which is fair enough really.
Good luck for your test Lady!

Ladyboluna · 27/07/2014 00:03

Still no AF and no signs of its arrival, backache for two days has led to nothing so far. It was due today but I've been 2 days later than my normally clockwork cycle before... did a test this morning and it was negative. I'll wait until Monday/Tuesday now unless AF makes her appearance!

Ladyboluna · 27/07/2014 00:22

Well that ruined it. Just went to the loo and here is af and 2 babies born this week all over Facebook. Bought myself some new shoes and going to keep smiling... Sad

maybug3 · 27/07/2014 07:52

Sorry lady. Af arrived for me too this morning which officially takes me into cycle 29 of ttc.

Also collected my third 'day 21' result yesterday. .. Still too low although again did not manage to get day minus 7... minus 5 again now af has arrived.

Ultimately means we'll now finally get our referral and with male factor as well suspect there's no point in clomid etc.

Feeling blue today but will be putting on a happy face for the for dh as he's made a real effort for a lovely day out canoeing today.

Hope you all have some lovely happenings this weekend as well as putting up with the same old shit we discuss on here.

X

Ladyboluna · 27/07/2014 11:16

My OH wants us to go and see our friend with the baby today (the one who lied about how long it took) and I really can't face it.

I've ordered the clearblue advanced fertility monitor (the new one that came out last month). Buying the ordinary opk sticks and working it out myself will stress me out too much. With this its just one stick and the monitor tracks and interprets it for you. Poas once a day for a few days of the cycle and that's it. Today marks 12 months and ill try the monitor for a while before going to the gp. I think cause I'm so young ill struggle to get tests until I'm more than the usual 12, especially as I was on the implant before and they say you don't count the 6 months after that.

lildottie · 27/07/2014 12:26

good luck with cbfm lady. I got fed up of poas every morning for almost 3 weeks a month. u have long I regular cycles so I was having to do 20sticks. might dig mine out again next cycle and give it another whirl.

camping this week and ov yesterday. haven't DTD since Thursday so not holding out much hope this month.

lildottie · 27/07/2014 12:26

I have long cycles! not u! lol

victoria401 · 27/07/2014 13:13

Sorry to hear about your results may. Fingers crossed for a trouble free referral.

How old are you if you don't mind me asking lady? Why do you think you're too young for testing?

Sorry to hear you both got af too.

Ladyboluna · 27/07/2014 13:45

Victoria I'm 23 and he's 24. When I went to see the gp about my early MC he asked my age then chuckled and said I have plenty of time before I should start to worry and that was in march.

lil how long are your cycles? Mine are 26 days roughly.

Trying hard not to cry today.