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TTC First Time - Anyone else?

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HippyStar · 30/04/2014 13:47

My husband and I are TTC! I have been off the pill for a month now and have started taking folic acid and calcium with vit D to ensure if anything does happen I'm as healthy as possible. Limiting caffeine and alcohol but not cutting it out completely as you never know how long it will take! All my friends have just fallen pregnant really easily, but I have a feeling this will not be the case for me. I can't remember when my last period was either which is annoying as will need to wait for the next one before I can chart etc. Hmm Is anyone else out there TTC now? We could all share our stories and encourage each other! Smile

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DurhamRed · 05/05/2014 09:03

Morning, well I did an early test this morning and is was a BFN. Looks like AF will be visiting soon Sad

Katybear123 · 05/05/2014 09:16

Oh sorry to hear that Durham. This whole thing scares me senseless. 9 days till I join the roller coaster. Have to be away with work all this week abroad, I do hate it so feeling blue to :-(

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Katybear123 · 05/05/2014 09:43

Hey Gemerama yes very sunny - Dubai. Maybe it will raise the mood, I'm the same as you though a real home bird not a fan at all of my routine being thrown out! Never mind back Friday and then into baby making near enough. X

sianilovesbeingamummy · 05/05/2014 09:43

My partner and i are also trying to conceive. I have recently had the mirena coil removed, only had this in for 6 weeks before removal. I already have 2 young children, a 2.5yr old and a very soon to be 1yr old, from a previous relationship. I wasnt actually trying when i fell pregnant with my first 2 children, my second was cenceived whilst on the pill and i didnt actually find out i was pregnant until 18weeks gone, i am pretty laid back with my body! I have recently been feeling very nauseous and also had alot of sickness this past week. I started to gain weight, which is another issue for me, but i have lost quite alot very rapidly these past 10days. Pregnancy test are negative although 2 have shown a very very faint positive line. I do not want to take another test just yet as i have just had a short bleed after having the coil removed but i am on the understanding that this is usually the case. TTC is a whole new thing for me, even with 2 children. It definitely is a roller coaster. I think the best thing to do is to just be as healthy as you can and just sit back, or in most cases, lie back, and wait for nature to take its course. Good luck everyone

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DurhamRed · 05/05/2014 10:58

Gem - you're right, I know it is a little bit early to tell and should wait for AF. I guess I've got myself into negative thinking after reading loads of articles (I really should stop) stating how statistically less likely you are to conceive when aged 40+.

Katy - not sure I could cope with overseas trave. My job is stressful enough as it is, I don't think I'd cope if I had to travel too!

Sian - It definitely is a rollercoaster of emotions.

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DurhamRed · 05/05/2014 12:27

Tell me about it Gem. According to the papers and some websites my eggs are way past their use by date...who knew?!

I'm now going to try not to stress too much and attempt to be more relaxed about it. Easier said than done though.

jdear · 05/05/2014 13:43

Hello waves

I'm a first time TTC-er!

I'm 26, hubby is 27. Got married last year, didn't start TTC straight away as hubby wasn't quite ready. Have recently been on a long-haul holiday and we 'stopped preventing' whilst there. EWCM started the day before we went, I got the most of it on the day we went (which included a looong flight) - this is the day I think i ovulate as I usually get AF 2 weeks to the day after this. I then get a couple of days of lighter EWCM.

I honestly thought that I would feel relaxed - the plan was always just to 'not not try'. We used condoms previously so haven't had to worry about coming off the pill or anything. BUT I am finding it harder than I thought!! I deep down thought I would get pregnant first time but AF arrived today booo (2 weeks since EWCM as usual).

Trying so hard to not get myself stressed.....I am meant to be preparing for an interview today but all I keep doing is googling TTC.... :(

jdear · 05/05/2014 13:46

Meant to also say we first did unprotected on the first evening of our hol, which although technically was probably the day i was ovulating, due to time differences and the long flight i suppose we could have missed the egg if they sometimes only live for 12 hours?!

greenwolf · 05/05/2014 14:07

Hello jdear

I know what you mean about 'stopping preventing' rather than 'trying' - which doesn't appeal to my romanticism!

On the recommendation of two friends I've just bought the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler, and I'm considering beginning charting, which I remember hearing about before and thinking, oh no, I am already in touch with my body, I know what's happening in/down there. But now I'm having doubts about the extent of my self-knowledge, especially as (mentioned a few days ago) AF came early, but now I'm nauseous / dizzy and wondering if it was implantation bleeding, and profoundly confused (pregnancy test was negative so prob just early AF).

Not feeling stressed (yet), but I guess this is unfamiliar territory, and after all those years of trying not to get preggers.....

Katybear123 · 05/05/2014 16:07

Hey Durham yep travelling doesn't ease the stress, this should be the last time till sept though by which point hopefully I'll be preg :-) I can only hope which should then give me a very handy excuse to reduce travel if not stop!
Jdear, I understand the stress been reading these boards a lot over the last 2 wks now we have decided to really try and it makes me realise it could take a little longer than I wanted.
Let me know what that books like greenwolf I'm a complete novice on my body, whilst I'm fit, healthy and active I'm lost on futility having been on the pill for 17 years!

LuluJakey1 · 05/05/2014 16:30

Hello- we have finally made decision to TTC our first baby. Been married 4 years. Both 34- almost 35. DH very keen and excited now I have finally said yes. I stopped taking the pill at xmas but my mum died a few weeks later and we have used condoms since. Mind you, we often don't use anything because we can't be arsed! Have started Sanatogen thing for Mums To Be. Not doing anything else- just going to enjoy lots of dtd for now and see what happens. I feel a bit apprehensuve- have had treatment twice following dodgy smears and wonder if that will have affected anything. Neither of us smoke or are big drinkers. Eat pretty healthily. Don't live life on the edge exactly! Grin

Katybear123 · 05/05/2014 19:05

Hi lulu, your situation sounds similar to mine. I'm 32 oh 34 and we have decided the end of this pill packet is time. I'm counting the days. Just ordered a thermometer as don't have one and wasn't sure if I should be doing the whole temp thing. I have no idea on cycles as been on pill for 17 years. Both oh and I are healthy, non smokers and not big drinkers. I'm a gym bunny and healthy weight so really hopeful we could fall quickly but it sounds like its a bit of a lottery :-(.

LuluJakey1 · 05/05/2014 19:24

It does Katybear. Just have to see. Have just caught DH ordering something called DoubleBlue double pregnancy test from Amazon. Bit early for that ! He said he had read on Mumsnet that Amazon is much cheaper and just wants to be prepared. What is he turning into?[grins] He has only ordered one which is optimistic to say the least.

jdear · 05/05/2014 19:26

greenwolf was your AF lighter than normal? Even when my af started today I was clinging onto the hope that it might be implantation bleeding but nope, fully blown AF with the nice usual intense cramps just to rub it in further!

You'll have to let us know how you get on with charting.

Exciting times for us, let's all stay positive - it's early days! katybear hope the next few days pass quickly for you! I was actually quite nervous after dtd the first time without protection, even though it was me who had been ready for a while.

I suppose I'm quite lucky that out of all of mine and DH's closest friends, only one is pregnant and none have children so don't have the pressure at the minute (the pressure is just coming from myself ha). But we are keeping ttc a complete secret from everyone - it's nice to have our own little secret :)

LuluJakey1 · 05/05/2014 19:28

Grin not [grins]. I am leaving him with the ipad so he can do his research on it all. Am off for a bath. Have a feeling he is going to become an 'expert' and drive me mad. He like to tell me things he finds out about. I will try to be tolerant for at least a few weeks Grin

jdear · 05/05/2014 19:35

lulu that made me laugh. You are the exact opposite of us! DH has no idea of the extent to which I am researching things....in fact he has no idea i am on this forum and he's sat right next to me...

Katybear123 · 05/05/2014 20:04

Jdear my oh is the same, and I feel the same little nervous and excited. Let's all stay positive as you say, may the force of Mother Nature be with us :-)

DurhamRed · 06/05/2014 16:44

JDear - we are exactly like you, I'm sitting right next to my OH writing this and he has no idea...he'd probably just roll his eyes at me if he knew Smile

Katy - you right, staying positive is a good thing. I'm sure a BFP will happen for all of us soon Smile

Ikkleme · 06/05/2014 17:39

I've done so much research too I feel as though I no everything that's going to happen off by heart!

Gemerama · 06/05/2014 19:05

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LuluJakey1 · 06/05/2014 19:49

Well, this has been a great start to TTC. DTD last night- lovely. DH then gets up about 2 am and I can hear him vomitting in loo. Eventually, I go along and he is in bathroom cleaning his teeth. Thinks he might have eaten something dodgy. Spends rest of night up and down vomitting. Has not been to work. I have just come home to find him looking a bit better and he said ' Are we on for later on then? Don't want to miss a night do we love?' Well.......actually......I do want to miss a night. I don't want to catch the bug.He is looking hurt. Hmm

LuluJakey1 · 06/05/2014 20:31

And I have a sore throat, achey boobs, and feel like AF about to start- don't think is due for 10 days! Just want to go to bed, alone, and sleep. DH wants to tell me about the things he has been researching today while poorly- best things to do to conceive. Say he feels much better after his bath and rest. Oh go away!