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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Home of the very brave TTC after MC-ers. Advice, understanding and a variety or food based euphemisms. Pull up a pew, ladies!

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Justonemoretime · 24/04/2014 19:16

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

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Triplespin · 01/05/2014 07:10

jones glad that the GP gave you some advice. There is indeed mixed views on the cant hurt aspirin. If you don't have a blood clotting issue St Mary's and Prof Q both think that it can do harm. Others of course happily suggest it on a cant hurt basis.

fifty ouch that is expensive for opks. Maybe you can ask a someone close visiting the UK to buy a big stock. I don't know what I would do without them. They have worked well for me three times, so the bean did not stick.

Triplespin · 01/05/2014 07:11

holly fx for you. When will you poas?

sebsmummy1 · 01/05/2014 07:50

Could really do with some answers today. Lines are still there and going nowhere. Considering I was pregnant for about three days in total before I bled out I am amazed this hormone is still around! I think it proves just how crazy sensitive these ICs actually are.

sebsmummy1 · 01/05/2014 08:33

So my doctor has just rung me and attempted to congratulate me on my 'early pregnancy'. Apparently my numbers have doubled to 108. I said that my maths isn't brilliant but my understanding is that 66 and 66 make 132 so 108 is less than double particularly when I am meant to be near on 6 weeks.

He was trying to be all happy, I was not happy in the slightest as this makes no sense at all and I can't make is make sense without the end result being a bad one.

I give more blood on Friday and find out the result on Tuesday!! Perfect.

I have no bleeding, loads of milky white discharge, no pain. If it's not ectopic could it be a miraculous conception? Am I growing a baby prophet in my bare, unstripped uterus? Could I be having a phantom pregnancy like a Labrador? Answers on a postcard please.

EnglishGirlAbroad · 01/05/2014 08:38

Sebs... Could you possibly have got your dates wrong?? Try not to think the worst. If on tuesday they've doubled again I would demand a scan. It must be really confusing for you, but try not to stress. I'm ever the optimist (usually), will keep my fingers crossed for you that this could indeed be good news. Hugs

Cakebaker35 · 01/05/2014 08:41

Blimey sebs well it's not exactly doubled but almost, I guess that's what the gp is getting at. But for now you are pregnant! You can analyse away but unfortunately you won't get any answers for a while, so so frustrating for you. You're not in pain, you're not bleeding, these are positives to cling onto until you know more. Now have a tiny minnow slap and try to eat cake and distract yourself as much as you possibly can til tues. Keeping everything I can cross crossed for you xx

sebsmummy1 · 01/05/2014 08:45

Nope, sadly not. I had sex on the 2nd 3rd 4th 5th April, ovulated on the 5th and this was confirmed by opk and temp rise on FF.

I then got my period one day late on the 19th - no sex at all in the intervening time. I was testing faint positive two days after my period ended -so the 24th April. We had sex again on the 23rd and 27th April. That's it! No late ovulation, no hot steamy teenage sex session I've forgotten. Bollocks.

sebsmummy1 · 01/05/2014 08:47

Thanks cake but this is no way a viable pregnancy sadly. The numbers are so ridiculously small.

He said they won't scan me until the numbers get way higher and if I can pain or funny bleeding to ring the hospital. Marvellous. Let's just wait and see if she ruptures. Got to love the NHS.

Cakebaker35 · 01/05/2014 08:50

Pay for a private scan if you can sebs, I think this would really help x

EnglishGirlAbroad · 01/05/2014 08:55

If the numbers continue to go up... i'd perhaps feign pain!! Little bit of over exaggeration won't hurt. Or yes, pay for a private scan if you can.

Metalhead · 01/05/2014 09:23

sebs I totally get why you're expecting the worst, but here's my thinking: if you tested negative on the 19th you can't have implanted much earlier than that, in which case I think your hcg levels could still be in the normal range. And the fact that they have as good as doubled is encouraging. So if you ignore the bleeding (which I know seems crazy!) I can see why your GP is being positive.

Having said that, I know none of this will put your mind at ease. Is there any way you can pay for a private scan? I think that's the only way you'll get the reassurance you need. x

sebsmummy1 · 01/05/2014 09:35

I think ignoring the bleeding is one of my main problems!! Does anyone know if the lining continues to increase during pregnancy. Say by dome sort of miracle I am growing an egg in there, would my lining be getting thicker?

sebsmummy1 · 01/05/2014 09:36

Thank you all by the way, I am just trying to process this without FREAKING OUT anymore and just writing stuff down helps.

Cakebaker35 · 01/05/2014 09:55

Scan scan scan sebs it will help with the freaking out x I paid for a private one to confirm my mmc (hosp couldn't fit me in for ages) and it was a very ££ spent.

Cakebaker35 · 01/05/2014 09:56

That was meant to say worth every ££ spent

sebsmummy1 · 01/05/2014 09:58

Cake - I am researching now to see if there is any scan particularly geared towards ectopic. With such low numbers I can't see anything would be visible and so I'd be left with more concerns rather that answers if they see nothing in my uterus.

HollyBen · 01/05/2014 10:00

Sorry you are still in this awful limbo sebs No wise words or advice but I am thinking of you.

The answer to my question yesterday was Yes you are setting yourself up for disappointmentSad I have had some bit of red spotting when I go looking for it so looks like just more changes in my cycleAngry I will phone the gp later and get an appointment to get the fertility clinic referral going

Cakebaker35 · 01/05/2014 10:05

sebs I think you're near Cambridge? Sorry if I got that wrong but if not I found these links which I hope might help...

www.eastangliaultrasound.co.uk/

www.fetalcare.co.uk/

Xxx

Triplespin · 01/05/2014 10:18

sebs while not textbook, the increase in your hcg sounds positive. There are lots of cases with slow rising hcgs where things have turned out ok. I agree though instead of waiting for numbers to double, you may want to get a private scan. At least you can relax if they find a sac in the right place?

50degreesintheshade · 01/05/2014 10:27

Sorry to hear what you are going through sebs the waiting really is the worst part. I have no idea what a scan costs in the UK but they really did use to put my mind at rest.

I might allow myself to buy one pack of overpriced opks (I cant get them sent from the UK as I do not want anyone to know that we are trying again) I got addicted to buying pregnancy tests as after the chemo nothing made me happier than seeing a negative test!

sebsmummy1 · 01/05/2014 10:41

I'm trying to work out whether anything would be visible at just over 100. I could end up having a scan where they see nothing in my uterus due to it being too early and all I'm going to do is assume it's in my tube instead!

sebsmummy1 · 01/05/2014 11:25

I've rung the fetalcare private scan company based at Addenbrookes and just waiting for a phonecall back from one of the midwifes. If they say it's a waiting game I will just have to sit on my hands.

Triplespin · 01/05/2014 11:27

I think they can't see a foetus with such low numbers but they should be able to see a sac in the right place.

sebsmummy1 · 01/05/2014 11:28

Thanks triple. I was thinking the same xx

TeaRex · 01/05/2014 14:52

sebs sorry you've still not got a clearer picture about what's going on

And holly hope it isn't bad news and AF stays the hell away from you

And opks don't seem to like me either 50 but you won't know till you try :) and you could be one of the lucky ones they really help

Having the shitest day at work, been crying in the loos, it just gets worse everyday here :( anyone on this board actually like their job?