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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Home of the very brave TTC after MC-ers. Advice, understanding and a variety or food based euphemisms. Pull up a pew, ladies!

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Justonemoretime · 24/04/2014 19:16

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

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TeaRex · 30/04/2014 11:37

Oh, fingers crossed for you holly and hello to the newcomers, sorry for all you've been through.
I keep checking to see if sebs has updated, I really should be working....

EnglishGirlAbroad · 30/04/2014 12:17

Welcome newbies! Sorry you have to be here, but pull up a pew and get comfortable. I hope you don't have to stay too long!

Fx crossed for you Holly, when will you poas??

sebsmummy1 · 30/04/2014 12:57

Oooooh Holly that sounds very exciting!!! Fingers crossed she stays away chick. Keep us updated xxx

I'm off the the hospital now to give a blood sample. Might find out later today or it could be tomorrow.

EatsCakeForNoReasonWhatsoever · 30/04/2014 13:29

Good luck sebs. Hollycan you explain please CD?
Not really up on all my terminology as we're going with the swi approach, though that may change

Cakebaker35 · 30/04/2014 13:33

Wow exciting holly, keeping it all crossed for you

And sebs hope you get some answers nice and quickly

eats cd = cycle day x

Cakebaker35 · 30/04/2014 17:15

A question for you opk experts... So it's cd16 here and yesterday and today I've had pretty strong positive opk results (having said I wasn't going to use them, here I go Blush) I'm new to using them and am using superdrug own brand ones if that makes any difference. Anyway we dtd yesterday, no chance today as dh away and he may be tomorrow too. My question is really is there any point in dtd on fri (cd18), other than just for fun of course?

Metalhead · 30/04/2014 17:38

I'd say it depends on whether you get another +ve tomorrow; if you do then Friday is still a good bet, if not it's probably too late by then (though having said that I would probably still try and dtd again, just to cover all bases).

sebsmummy1 · 30/04/2014 17:43

I agree with Metal. Generally I find that I know I have ovulated when the EWCM is gone and I am totally dry for a couple of days. When you are dry it is normally too late. But there is no harm DTD anyway, just incase ;)

Well I rung the docs surgery before they closed and they have no results for me, will have to wait until tomorrow.

Cakebaker35 · 30/04/2014 17:47

Thanks both, I'm getting a bit confused between ewcm and whether it is just dtd 'leftovers' - sorry tmi Blush I'll try another opk tomorrow and see what's what.

sebs so hope you get some results nice and early tomorrow, all the waiting must be so frustrating.

In fact ttc seems to be all about bloody waiting doesn't it, sigh.

50degreesintheshade · 30/04/2014 18:38

Hi Sebs, needing chemo for a CMP is very very rare. I however was one of the unlucky ones :-( I have been all clear for 6 months now and I am no longer a crazed hormonal woman which makes a nice change after the last 10 months.

I have a quick question about these opk stick thingys. Are they worth using? I don't live in the UK and over here the clear blue ones retail for 45 pounds a pack! and unfortunately amazon wont deliver them to me :-(

EnglishGirlAbroad · 30/04/2014 18:45

50degrees - Sounds like you've really been through the mill!! Try ebay or opks. Where are you?

Cakes, i'd probably dtd friday too, just for good measure!

sebsmummy1 · 30/04/2014 18:50

Cake - generally 'leftovers' will sink into the tissue. The times that I've been puzzled over what is EWCM and what is sperm only to find at other times of the month when I'm not fertile I never have anything like EWCM to ponder after sex. Which made me come to the decision that fertile mucus is always fertile mucus. Not sure if that made sense lol.

50 degrees it sounds like you have really been through it. I don't know enough about it to offer anything other than sympathy, but I can say that opks are pretty useful tools as long as you don't have PCOS as I think that can affect the result.

Talking of opks I poas tonight and I have more of a peak stick than my other peak sticks from the two nights just gone. So either the pregnancy hormone has got stronger or my LH is kicking in. I will try and DTD tonight but honestly I feel so sad it's really hard to feel playful. I just now to quietly weep in a corner and rock a bit.

50degreesintheshade · 30/04/2014 18:52

I am in Dubai so getting stuff sent here is difficult and there is no logic to it. I can order clear blue pregnancy tests from amazon but none of the ovulation kits...makes no sense to me. I keep popping into boots over here to see if they have their own brand but apparently they are on the boat coming over.

Just trying to get organised for trying again this month, atfer being forced to wait for 10 months I feel that I need to take control of the situation I am just so fed up of all the waiting.

Cakebaker35 · 30/04/2014 19:34

Thanks sebs that's really interesting, had never bothered to pay much attention to it at other times of the month which just goes to show obsessing over these few days means you stop paying attention to your body the rest of the time. I really feel for you lovely, I know it's rubbish but if you feel sad then perhaps a nice bit of tith might cheer you up? Or if feeling totally not into it then don't beat yourself up, have some cake and put your feet up, you deserve a break from all this x

50degrees I also have no experience to offer but just wanted to say sorry you've been through such a shitty time. As for opks, I think the jury is out on whether they are helpful or just make you obsessed and take some of the pleasure out of ttc - I think you'll find plenty of opinions but in the end it's personal choice and I think down to your personality. I haven't used them before now as I can get a bit obsessive about details and feel it might just make me even more bonkers about all this than I was before Blush I'm only using them now as I was curious to see if I'd ovulate this cycle, which is the first one since my mmc. And of course opks don't guarantee you have ovulated, they're still just an indicator. So I'm undecided. I know plenty of people who swear by them, others who have never touched them.

GailLondon · 30/04/2014 19:45

Hi 50degrees !
I'm quite a fan of opks, I found out through them that I ovulate regularly on day 20, when is previously assumed it must be around day 14 so had been dtd at totally the wrong times.
The clear blue ones are expensive, I use the 'internet cheapie' ones from eBay or amazon and they work perfectly - the ones that are just a little paper dip strip. Can you get those where you are?

Witchesbrewandbiscuits · 30/04/2014 19:46

?? at Dtd leftovers!

Congrats otters, wonderful news Thanks

Witchesbrewandbiscuits · 30/04/2014 19:46

Oops that was an iPhone emoji. Meant crying with laughter.

Viperama · 30/04/2014 19:54

Thanks for antibiotic info Metal that puts my mind at ease a bit Thanks

silverine · 30/04/2014 21:03

Hi gals,
50degrees I'm one of the people not that keen on opks. They've never really shown strong ov for me but I do get the mucus. So I think that and temperature charts are a better indicator. Also opks would make me too obsessed about dtd on specific days, which can be stressful. Dtd every other day throughout the middle of ur cycle is probably just as effective.
I've been stressing and obsessing about ttc lately so I'm going to try to take it easier now, dtd as often as possible but not stressing if we can't...
The long weekend break was really good and relaxing, lots of nature walks etc. So we should both return to ttc reinvigorated soon.
Cd 21 now, expecting AF in the weekend and will resume acupuncture soon after. I sound all positive now but ask me again next month!!! Wink

sebs good luck with the results! Don't beat yourself up though if u want to take a break. It may do u the world of good!

Jo178 · 30/04/2014 21:11

Hi ladies, I'd like to join please if that's ok!
I'm ttc #2 since Dec 13, CP 8th April.
I'm currently in the 2ww and feeling very 'meh' about it all.
I'm 5dpo today and usually I'd be bouncing of the walls and symptom spotting like crazy by this point.
CP has knocked me a little and for some reason I just feel that the same is going to happen if I did get pregnant again. Sad

LittleMissSunshine33 · 30/04/2014 21:25

Hi newbies sorry you find yourself here but it's a great place to stop and chat for hopefully a short while!

Sebs poor you how frustrating!

50degrees I couldn't get on with other OPKs was never sure the line was ever dark, clear blue is v expensive but I find them really good especially the ones which tell you your high and peak fertile period and you can start humping as much as poss from to to peak!

Has anyone tried grapefruit juice to show more EWCM? I have tried it this more and much more and clearer EWCM results!! Plus really symptoms spotting and it's worse than it was before MC because now I'm comparing it 'did I feel this last time?' 'Did my boobs hurt this early before?' ... Think I may need a tiny fish slap

LittleMissSunshine33 · 30/04/2014 21:27

I have tried it this *month Smile

Littlelady33 · 30/04/2014 21:41

It's a tricky one 50degrees they don't work for everyone although obviously it's nice to have the option and very annoying you can't buy then there. The month I got pg I had strong ovulation signs, dtd, got my BFP but failed to ever show a positive on an opk - perhaps wrong time of day etc but it's quite hard to get out of the office to poas more than once an afternoon! They work so well for some people so worth considering but plenty swear by temping which can also be quite a good indicator. Interesting point though Gail about them showing you when you ov. I also spent a couple of months giving up after cd 14 before clocking on to fact it was more like cd 21!

silverine · 30/04/2014 22:09

Jo I had CP 8 months into ttc after 2 MCs. Because it had no physical symptoms, I thought I'd be fine but it really hit me hard mentally... to the point of struggling at work.
I would say, try and switch off a bit, take a break maybe. ..

That was 2 cycles ago now and feel much more positive now. Tomorrow I have an assessment with bereavement counselling services through which was suggested to me after the CP. Has anyone had those, what can I expect? Do you think it might only set me back again?? Hmm

JonesSchool · 30/04/2014 22:14

Hello all, I have been hiding away for a while.
Have been to the GP's today ( who was rather handsome and charming and probably my age, why wasn't he old and grey, would have been so much easier!) I went to check both early miscarraiges were recorded so if it does happen again it's all on record, at EPU I very much felt I had to prove to them that I had really been pregnant.
He didn't offer a lot if help, as expected explained he couldn't do anything until 3 miscarraiges but did agree it was strange that I fail to get past 5 weeks. He tried to explain I must have a very efficient body that recognises very quickly when something isn't right! Not sure about that one.

I talked to him about taking baby aspirin and he agreed it wouldn't hurt to take it even before a positive pregnancy test so will give that a try. Has anybody else done this or had experience with this, I read very mixed reviews.

I have also started reflexology, again not sure if this will work but a very nice expensive foot massage.

sebs I really hope you get some answers soon.
50degrees do you have a close trusted friend who could forward a package of OPK's, they are so much cheaper on amazon. DH has no problem with them, we have a chuckle about it and he knows when there is 2 dark lines it's time to do the deed!