Home of the very brave TTC after MC-ers. Advice, understanding and a variety or food based euphemisms. Pull up a pew, ladies!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Cakebaker - that was the advice I was given on MN when I was upset because stupid people kept asking if I was going to have another/when was I going to have another/it would be so nice for DS to have a baby sibling. I took it and it's really really helped. People who are asking for the right reasons are lovely and supportive, people asking for the wrong reasons get all embarrassed and that makes me feel better too. I'm really not a very nice person sometimes, but only anonymity on Mumsnet will ever get me to admit that ;)

There will be a couple of people at the party who were with me the day I miscarried - my bestest friend and a good mutual friend who was with her when I called and who happens to be a midwife, so I think they'll both be quite sensitive. Getting quite emotional thinking about it all though and I thought I was past that. Another unhelpful point being that the last time I saw the new mum was the day before my MC, so the very last night I went to sleep thinking 'OMG, I'm finally pregnant'. So so nice to have MN to vent on.

At least we're finally trying again, though if we fall this month DC#2 will have almost the same bday as DC#1 (and about a hundred of my in laws) so practically speaking it's not ideal...

I was asked recently re. 'just having the one' and I said I would love another one but unfortunately it's not happening for us. The person swiftly changed the subject lol.

I keep staring at these bloody hpts and the line has got stronger over the days. Not strong like the control line, but it does seem more distinct now. I keep mulling over if there is any possibility whatsoever that this is an early pregnancy. Like could I have ovulated and then the egg hid for a but and implanted post AF (I swear there are stories of this on the internet lol!!!!).

The only two credible explanations are chemical or ectopic. I will get my answer tomorrow (or else I will be told the blood level has doubled and I will be back here asking exactly how that can be).

sebs I can only imagine how frustrating it must be, but I don't think you're going to get an answer by staring at old hpts as the lines can fade/change colour over time. So step away from the pee sticks!

Hopefully you'll get a clearer picture of what's happening tomorrow. If your levels are still rising and they still refuse to scan you, could you pay for a private one?

Well, my opk was negative so the cramps and pink cm were definitely not ov-related, which I'm quite glad about. Still would like to know what the bloody hell caused it though. I hope this isn't going to be new thing now - it's bad enough I get random cramping during the 2ww, I don't want it constantly, thank you very much, stupid body!

I hate the odd wipe of blood that you notice whilst TTC and of course would never have noticed before because we were normal people before who didn't piss into containers and stare at our toilet tissue/pants every time we had a wee

Thank you for the fish swipe. You are correct, staring at days old hpts is a stupid thing to do.

That's the spirit ladies, nothing taboo and no shame in mc's, tits out and chins up and eats you're allowed to be emotional and have a bit of a wail if you need to, glad there are people in rl who will be there and understanding.

sebs have a bucket of cod for looking at old sticks. That is indeed the route to madness! So bloody frustrating for you, I so hope you get some clear answers tomorrow and I'm trying not to get exciting and woop for you in a very un-mn way just in case it's a sticky bean

Hi pls can I join?

Mc 5+, dc, mmc 12+, mc 6+

Having rmc tests at present, and booked in for d&c.

Will be ttc once cycles go back to "normal"

Sebsmummy, have you looked into a cheaper distance learning option? If you google access to nursing distance learning centre, access course will come up. It's approx £900 and you can pay monthly. It's a reputable course. Both uni's I have enquired to accept it.

fish...swipe...?

Oh my goodness, the whole frigging world seems to be pregnant or holding a new born at the moment. Nearly lost it totally this am in mother and toddler group as woman with 1 week old (and older DC) came and sat with me and DD for coffee time. Soooo hard. .

EDD is looming next month and I'm not doing well today. Still had a smear yesterday and so hopefully will get results soon. Chin up, tits out indeed.

Welcome to the nut house witches. Sorry for your losses. I hope you get some answers soon.

Eatscake - fish gets lobbed at anyone over analysing pretty much anything. If its understandable and rational you might get a sardine.... if it is ridiculous expect a tuna round your virtual chops!!

Sebs - hope you get some answers tomorrow. I know i'd be a right mess if I was you!!

I'm also of the mind set that telling people about the mc is better than hiding it. It wasn't my fault, I did nothing to deserve it and the more people talk about it the more normal people who do unfortunately suffer mc(s) will feel. CUTO ladies

Only been here a short time but I love you lot already

I too have shared my mc news with people. I found it gave the baby we'd lost a level of recognition which was very comforting. It also opened the door for other people to share their experiences and a lovely friend who miscarried the month after me was able to confide in me which was cathartic for us both. It feels like a weight is gone when you don't have to pretend to be fine.
Sebs- hope all goes well, you're doing so well - the 2ww wait is bad enough, this must be agonising. Good luck for tomorrow

Hello ladies. Big wave

Would it be ok for me to join in please? TTC dc2 since Nov last year and mc on Friday at 10wks. Currently feel like a zombie fluctuating between being ok and not ok!! Looking forward to starting again so to speak. . .

welcome new peeps, may your time here be short and sweet in the nicest possible way.

eats glad you like it here, if we have to be in this horrible post mc limbo land then this is indeed a great place to spend it. And yes you'll get plenty of fish slaps or gentle sardine taps here depending on your level of bonkers-ness.

So I had a nice surprise this eve, thought dh had to stay away for work tonight but no it's been moved to tomorrow and so we've managed an early evening tith session! yes yes I know, tmi, but feeling rather excited as I had a pretty positive opk today....ok ok and I need a fish slap even before i start bloody convincing myself this is the month that it will miraculously happen without even trying....argh...just chucked a bucket of haddock over myself.

Lots of love sebs, very un-mn of me but I just so want you to get good news x

Metal you've reminded me of something, when I conceived back in January, we'd just started trying half heatedly (typical) nit expecting it to happen so soon. I'd just come off an insane 3 day megadose of antibiotics to kick a parasite I'd caught in South America over the new year.

We think I conceived 4 days after my last pill. Could this of affected an mc? Something I've wondered.

And omg otters, so chuffed for you!!

Just popping in to say Sebs I really hope you get a clearer picture of what is going on today. You've had a bit of a roller coaster few days. Hugs to you.

Hello,

I'm new here, hope its ok to join :-)
Here are my stats, TTC#2, Complete molar pregnancy discovered july 13, 4 cycles of chemo, given the all clear this month to try again.
Just got my AF today, feeling crap.

Just catching up. Otters congrats! Sebs good luck today.
Welcome newbies, waves to everyone else. 7dpo.... yawn.

Good luck sebs hope you get some answers today :)

Welcome newbies good luck Sebs let us know how you're getting on

Hi 50degrees - sounds like you've been through a wretched time. I know how awful the AF feels when you've been waiting and waiting then you get to try. Just be nice to yourself, eat lots of chocolate, watch films that make you cry and indulge yourself. Ignore anybody who says you need to cheer up. x

Viper - not sure which bit you think might have affected the pregnancy, but I would imagine it's pretty unlikely. Strong anti-biotics can play havoc on your system though. Have you been taking lots of pro biotics and live yoghurt to rebalance yourself?

Hi 50 degrees. I had no idea you needed chemo for molar pregnancy? I'm so sorry you have been through such a dreadful time. My GP mentioned a molar pregnancy to me, I'm not sure why though as I don't seem to tick the boxes.

I did another test again this morning and still exactly the same as the other ones (about 10 lol). I have read that sometimes with chemical you get a rise before it dips again. So ideal scenario today would be that it has halved. Nervous that it might have slightly risen, however if so I'm hoping Fridays result will show a drop.

Can't see me ovulating this cycle which pisses me right off

Good luck today sebs, and welcome to all the newbies.

viper I checked with my GP re: the antibiotics and he said its fine to take them before ov as they don't affect the egg, it's just once you've conceived that they could potentially harm the embryo.

Hello newbies. Sorry you find yourself here but it's not a bad place to hang out to wait for that bfp.

Hope you get some answers today sebs

So cd33 in the hollyben house. DPO12 and no spotting (usually dpo11 since mc). Ridiculously painful post ov boobs (another post mc fun experience) are now just a bit tender (usually goes a few days after af arrives). Been feeling a bit nauseous now and again...... So is it possible that the edd/anniversary tith has done the trick or am I setting myself up for a big disappointment?