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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Tanny the midwife did say that actually. She said they are often presented with complaints of one sides pain and it is generally cysts on the ovary that ovulated.

Now I am quite excited that I caught on the cycle where we replicated the sex timing of the previous cycles that resulted in conception. I think we may have a formula brewing!! So my recommendations is sex every other day over the fertile window but when you get a peak on your opk you want to be having sex that evening and the following morning. Then you can either have sex again that night and the next day. Or just sex the next day.

This has worked for us three times now, so we are going to arrange it that my partner goes into work late once a cycle so we can DTD that morning (unless it falls on the weekend obviously). Am just really really hopeful I can find an egg that sticks.

Btw anyone know how long it would take for an hcg level of 66 to go down? I should be ovulating in three days time and am getting EWCM. I wonder if I'm likely to ovulate this cycle?

sebs - the info she is giving is correct in that you need an hcg of 1000 to normally see an embryo/foetus. But that doesn't imply that one cannot be scanned before then. Your case is different as there is possible threat of an ectopic.

Surprised its Addenbrookes given how well regarded it is.

Welcome newbies sorry you find yourself here I hope you have a happy but short journey with us!

Aww Sebs poor you! The not knowing must be the worst thing! Would it still be worth going for a private scan?

I am now in the long and boring two week wait. Who is testing Friday?? I need to live through others!

Morning everyone,

I've been lurking and keeping up with everyone's news but I thought I should pop in to tell you all that I got a very faint frer bfp yesterday and this morning. It's very early days, AF isn't due until Thursday and I'm showing not pregnant on the digis still. After over two years ttc I'm trying not to get too excited and I'm doing my best to ignore it for now (and failing miserably - I've peed on about £60 worth of sticks!)

If you don't mind I'll hang around a wee bit longer - it could all go t**s up still I know!

Oh Otters!! Thats fantastic news!!! . Very tentative but MASSIVE congratulations!! Will be thinking of you! Really hope this is your turn to vacate this motley crew, you've been more than patient!!

Wonderful news otters tentatively extremely excited for you!

How exciting otters So pleased for you. Iwill keep everything crossed for a sticky bean x

Brilliant news otters :) :)

Ooh Otters! Really really good news! Keep us posted on everything x

OMG OMG OMG!!!!!! That's the best news ever Otters . I am made up for you darling. Everything crossed for you that you can be shouting about it from the rooftops in no time xxxx

Hooray Otters!!! That is wonderful, wonderful news. Congratulations. Fingers crossed for the most boring pregnancy ever.

Hooray Otters!!! That is wonderful, wonderful news. Congratulations. Fingers crossed for the most boring pregnancy ever.

Thanks everyone

You've brought a tear to my eye. I really don't know what I would've done without the support of this thread over the past 6 or so months. I'm trying hard to stay positive and not to freak completely out. The irony of course is that this month I stopped going to acupuncture completely, I stopped taking any vitamins, snake oil etc, and I bought an extremely tight fitting wedding dress for my wedding in July!

I don't feel like I can allow myself to believe it yet, but I hope that I soon can. for you all.

Huge congratulations otters, so lovely xxx

sebs how are you doing today? What a mad few days you've had, really hope you're feeling ok today.

Not a lot to report here...except I caved in and did an opk which was a bit daft but showed a fairly strong positive....but dh away! And we aren't supposedly even trying. Now of course I'm being ridiculous as we dtd 2 days ago but won't be able to again til thurs so I'm just annoyed I bothered with an opk...was not even intending to use them ever again and just wanted to go with the flow but seems I've failed on that front already

Congratulations Otters, it seems the law of sod got you there! I hope you have a happy outcome and a textbook pregnancy.

I think after my suspiciously normal first cycle I'm now having another WTF cycle. CD10 today and I'm feeling all crampy and got some pink cm! What the hell is that all about?! Haven't even started opks yet as I don't usually ov until CD19/20. Maybe it's a very delayed end of AF (proper bleed stopped almost a week ago), or maybe the shortest cycle in the history of the world... who knows. Might do an opk when I get home tonight just to see what it says.

Hi girls, I'm fine. All quiet here, hpts still the same faintness so pretty confident I was right with my first diagnosis of chemical. My body loves hanging into pregnancy hormone so I suspect even with a score of 66 it will take a week to zero out!!!

Cake - bloody typical that you get a good opk stick and your OH is away. I can understand why he is less than keen to try again. I think he is trying to protect you from more harm and also himself though he wouldn't probably admit that. Give it a little but more time and I suspect you will both feel ready to try again.

Metal - could it be OV blood?

I suppose it could be sebs, though it would be over a week early for me. Also if it is we'll have to write this cycle off as I'm on a week-long course of antibiotics at the moment which you can't take when ttc.

Glad you're doing ok sebs and it sounds like you were right all along. You are indeed the wise one and yes you're right about my oh, he's rubbish at saying how he feels but very protective and wants everything to be ok and for me to be happy. So he is doing the equivalent of sticking his fingers in his ears and going la la la la la! When they were writing cliches of how men behave in difficult situations they based it on him

[metal] sorry you seem to be having a wtf cycle! but hopefully all will return to normal next month and you'll be off the antibiotics so you can get on with some serious tith

Uff. Been invited to a (not terribly close) friend's birthday party on Friday. A friend who started trying at the same time as me more or less, and will have her 3 week old twins with her. I'm a ridiculous jealous idiot, I know, but life really is unfair sometimes and I'm going to have to go and look all 'omg they're so cute' when really I'll just be an ugly mess of emotions I'll be ashamed to admit to, even to myself.

And how do I deal with this situation? Oh that's right. I offer to make the fucking cake.

Afternoon all,
Congrats otter and good luck!
Glad you're hanging in there sebs
eatscake that's a tough one. Can you get in some nice wine/good book/some other non child treat so that when you leave you can head home and relax and hopefully a tiny part of you can think thank goodness you're not dealing with 3 week old twins? Try and get that part to over ride the part which stamps it's food shouting 'life is not fair'!!

Oh dear eats, a tough one but you'll get through it, it's so bloody hard sometimes though. Hopefully you can sit in the corner and drink and eat the lovely another option is just to tell people what's happened to you - it's not for everyone I know but I've just started to tell people about my mmc because I find carrying the baggage around really hard and sometimes I just want to shut people up with their questions about when's #2 coming along. So far I've been pleasantly surprised with people's reactions and I've also discovered loads of people who've also had mc's but never told anyone til now so it's been pretty liberating all round.

Oh eats you poor thing :( you've just done the classic over compensate thing :( why do we do it to ourselves?! By the way you're not ridiculous or an idiot, it's natural to look at someone who has what you wanted and think why not me? Be kind to yourself and you will get through the party (somehow) and be glad you did it and at least you'll have a good reason to eat cake....lots of cake.... X

Cakebaker I'm coming round to your way of thinking that when people ask me 'awkward' questions about when baby 2 is coming along that I should just tell them the truth. Mainly because I had been behaving as if I had some huge shameful secret when a MC is not something I should be ashamed of, or should be taboo.
And when people are being particularly annoying it does shut them up quite quickly....

Agree with you Cakebaker, DH and I decided that from now on, if the subject of #2 comes up we will just tell people the truth. I'm sick of lying or being evasive, it's just another stress that I really don't need.

Hey, I read this article in the Guardian this morning, and thought it might chime with some of us, although I find it a bit classist tbh...

Guardian Article

And I've told everyone IRL about my MCs, but no one on FB. There everything is a bed of roses. And I agree, people are generally terribly understanding, have their own histories and are much less likely to be bull in a china shop about it all...