Come one, come all: hop onboard the penis dragon bus and hold on tight for your BFP in April! PART 3!!

[MademoiselleG]

Here we go - for as soon as Part 2 is fully full. Enjoy the ride!

Thing is I don't think I've ever turned dh down until the last week but I'm most definitely on strike now serves him right the silly sod! He's gagging for it now! Not interested! if he dare to come near me I will shove a bastard stick up his arse!

I actually think our problems stem from Not enough sex. Because the only times I've become pg with dh have been when we've been dtd a lot during the month. It does make me because it's the most obvious of reasons.

It's not as if he's hesitating over ttc either he's like this all the time. It does make me feel rubbish and it's the one thing I'd change if I could. But nobody is perfect. I'm a complete bitch come pmt, which lasts a week.or 2

Frer is first response early result pregnancy test.

Oh MrsE :( have you talked about it?

We have of course had a chat about it. He says it's not that he doesn't want to and he does fancy me, he just doesn't think about it until he's horny once a month seriously if left to dh he'd be happy with once a month. He's in a stressful job, but it was the same when he wasn't. He's a bit overweight, but it was the same when he was super fit. And no he doesn't have a porn habit. And ive asked if he's gay! Lol he was the same when I was a skinny size 6, so the fact I'm a size 10/12 doesn't bother him. So to summarise he just has a low libido and I'm the opposite. So I just carry on sewing mostly to keep busy!

In other areas he is lovely. It only is a massive problem if ttc.

I used to think sex daily was the norm. It was in marriage number 1 which I'm probably not supposed to admit and we had 4 dc together, plus a loss.

Very odd because when he wants to bother dh is actually very very good at it.

If he was a woman though it wouldn't be considered abnormal. He just thinks I'm a nymph! He's probably right!

Haha well that's it. We all have different sex drives!
TBH mine isn't very high but I've just forced myself haha.

I'm going to bed soon, this shooting pain is worrying me. I know I've had similar with ibs but still.

Also meant to say, as long as you keep dtd in the right times you will have as much chance as anyone :)

I know I might have to refuse him right up until day 13, if we try again.

Which is tricky when you're a nymph!

im yhe same when my dh says no due to tiredness. I get all grumpy and upset and think he doesn't want me. its not true tho. espesh this week were hes on early shifts and im on lates. hes almost asleep by time I get home so def no dtd I wanna start this months shagathon! and no I refuse to wake up at 5am just so I can attack him before work coz then I wouldnt gey back to sleep lol

Your DH sounds like mine mrsE he has hardly any drive whatsoever, except when had a few beers which is not often these days which makes me wonder if he needs beer goggles to shag me! When we were first together he wanted me a lot then as time went on I realised it was me making the first moves. In the end I kind of did an experiment and didn't initiate to see if he would and everything kind of stopped for a while. Before ttc we were dtd 2 or 3 times A YEAR! So you can imagine how hard its become to dtd several times a week in the fertile time! Plus we both work hard and are tired and most nights I just want to sleep and so does he! He used to reject me earlier on in ttc but then we had a chat about it, about my dream to have a baby etc and we needed to do it and now he just 'lets me' everytime I initiate. I do keep saying to him it won't be for long 17 months later and we can go back to how we were before once we have a child!

Ive prob made it sound worse than it is but last 2 or 3 months it does feel like we have become closer and we do try making dtd special most of the time instead of chore. And he makes jokes when I say we HAVE TO DO IT TONIGHT! Oh how romantic....

Well I'm glad I'm not alone in this situ. I used to think it was quite odd. But I've realised more and more it's quite normal. Ladies what are we to do? I'm very certain that the 2 years ttc we didn't talk about the lack of baby very often. Only when I got drunk at a party because some idiot friend asked if we weren't having any dc together. By which point I'd hit the gin and come home in a heap of pity! I couldn't discuss it with anyone so it was a very lovely time. That's why I love this bus Some months I know we definitely didn't catch the moment. Wasn't helped by chronic thrush, that just wouldn't bugger off!

This time I mean business though. If we are ttc then ov kits, vitamins, the lot. None of which we did last time.

Sorry to keep moaning ladies. The spotting is back :( brown cervical mucus it looks like.

Go for it MrsE, show ttc who's boss!

Mrse and victoria, this is exactly the situation with me and dh,, especially the last few years when he's been on ADs.

stay strong treacle - it could be nothing.

Morning ladies

Treacle try not to worry, easier said than done! Brown spotting is quite normal for some

Interesting reading this morning.....we dtd quite a lot during the month but during fertile time dp feels pressured and can't always finish.....and it happened last night I always feel that it's my fault, he said last night that its nothing to do with me but I always feel it has to be my fault. I try not to be upset Infront of him, he was working last night so I waited for him to go out and had a little cry. So not a great cycle again for us!!

Treacle is spotting usual for you? Is it brown or red? I'm not really a spotter. Very occasionally. If it were me I'd take it as easy as poss this wkd and phone the gp Tuesday for a referral to epu. They will do an internal scan. All my pgs I've had cramps all the way through though so that alone wouldn't be alarming for me. Apparently the womb does a lot of stretching preparing itself for the forthcoming pg.

Oh spinning, not you too! I thought the vitamins had helped, until we got to ov and dtd didn't happen. Maybe I need to force feed more zinc?

Morning all!

I found this article about coping with the 2WW somewhere on another thread I think - maybe even here?!
Just read it and made me feel a lot more relaxed. We're off to France until Wednesday (7dpo) and I'm not taking a single stick with me!

I doubt we will have a good internet connection but I hope to come back to loads of incredibly good news from you all! Bring on the Easter BFPs!!

Eeeeerrrrrrrr....link:
helenabarker.com/2013/11/17/how-to-get-through-the-two-week-wait/

Oh ladies I feel so much better about stuff having read your posts last night and knowing its not just DH and me. I always wondered if we were normal and I do worry all the time that the reason we didn't conceive on our last attempt and now again is because we simply just do not DtD enough,

I feel like I'm always pressuring him and with both of us often working horrendously long hours it's just so so difficult as he's tired, I'm tired and I know he feels pressure to perform.

I'm so glad I have you guys.

treacle how are you this morning?

Madame, have fun in France and fx for good news on your return

Ahh my dp is at work and he just text to say how much he loves me and we'll try and dtd later.......think we've probably missed it now but you never know! We did dtd on Thursday night so still in with chance I guess

Morning ladies! I've been taking a break from the bus this month-but I've been waving you on from the bus stops, reading all the news and sending my best thoughts for those who need it.

I thought I was out this month as I started spotting exactly when I was expecting before my period, but my period didn't arrive. I've continued spotting very slightly but got my BFPhis morning! This is month 10 (I think) of trying for number 1 and I'll be due boxing day! I'm so pleased and look on DH face was priceless (think woohoo we've done it... Oh shit we've done it).

Sending love and hugs to everyone who needs it.

Oh,congrats CagedMango, that's great news!

Genni our working life can be stressful too so I completely understand. Having read that little link I'm not sure how I'm going to mimic stress free. So maybe acupuncture would be good for me. We work silly hours too. If I've got deadlines for orders I work through the night to meet them. If the kids are sick it's mostly my work that's affected. So it would mean looking after sick child in the day and working all night. Not relaxing. Then added to that our other company is 24 hrs. So at any moment the police will call and dh has to respond then get to the site within 2 hrs. He's missed birthdays all sorts. I know it's his job and if you've planned to dtd while ttc I can't help but be slightly disappointed. Dh is so laid back he thinks he's got all the time in the world and it will happen when it happens! it's a bit of a battle of wills!

Congrats cagedmango!!!

Thanks everyone. I don't normally spot but my periods have been bright red and this is pale brown. I am going to the doctors Tuesday so hopefully that will help.

No digi today either :( line looks about the same as yesterday on the frer... hope that's ok. I'm about 13dpo.