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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Come one, come all: hop onboard the penis dragon bus and hold on tight for your BFP in April! PART 2!!

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Owlie84 · 03/04/2014 11:53

Here we go, all aboard!!

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spinningirl10 · 07/04/2014 09:46

I worry about that as well MrsE, I wish the fertile window was longer!

MrsExtraOrdinary · 07/04/2014 10:13

I think the window is actually very small. If I think about my mammoth ttc battle last time. Dh worked v long hrs so I certainly think lack of sex or sex at the right time was a factor. We actually got pg when we got snowed in one Xmas without interruptions from work and dc. There wasn't much else to do. Blush

I think the ov predictor is going to be crucial this time if we stand a chance. I was hopeful dtd daily was going to be easy this month. But dh is fading already! Sad

broodysnoopstie · 07/04/2014 11:08

Well I rang docs receptionist said blood tests are back and they are 'normal' so I'm not pregnant I guess... I've no idea what is going on. My last AF was 5th of Feb. I'm 4 weeks late for my 9th March AF. It's totally shit.

MrsExtraOrdinary · 07/04/2014 11:19

Broody I'm so sorry. Are you going to make a dr apt regardless? To see what can be done to get you on track with a regular cycle. All that waiting, it's so hard Sad

lindamagoo · 07/04/2014 11:32

Aw broody that sucks. Get back to the docs and see if there's anything they can do for you...

gennibugs · 07/04/2014 11:42

broody that's rubbish. you poor thing in limbo like that. I'd also suggest seeing the doctor again to see what they say.

broodysnoopstie · 07/04/2014 11:44

Yeah I will go back and see I presume I must not be ovulating.. I'm just so disappointed. Sad

ZebraZeebra · 07/04/2014 12:06

Oh broody that must be so hard :( It's one thing to keep having AF month after month - but quite another to have hope dangled in front of you by AF none-appearance and to have no idea why.

When TTCing last time, it made me wonder how anyone ever gets pregnant accidentally because of the teeny window of actual possibility. So much of it is down the sheer luck. DH also works very long hours and is self-employed. It's difficult because we're not officially TTCing, just DTD lots and not using contraception. I don't feel able to express the disappointment I've felt these last few months of AF coming when he's under so much pressure to keep money coming in. He must know...I know he must know...but he doesn't need me to say it out loud. I don't know.

ZebraZeebra · 07/04/2014 12:09

toots sorry to hear about AF arriving. Onwards and upwards to next month. I'm on DPO 13 and have had cramps and don't hold out much hope. I think it is very likely I'll be joining the May bus.

Those using CB monitors - are they very expensive?

ZebraZeebra · 07/04/2014 12:13

Sorry, third post! I keep thinking of more things to say. I'm in a group of women who all had our babies at the same time two years ago. About half are pregnant again. I feel sick every time someone announces their pregnancy. Weird guilty feelings like irrationally angry they kept it to themselves, the obvious jealousy, desperately willing myself to say/write something congratulatory, a weird sense of betrayal from those who said they weren't TTCing and now they're pregnant. It's messed up. I force myself to smile and tell them wonderful news, I'm so happy for you. Them being pregnant doesn't take away my own ability/possibility/probability of getting pregnant again but it messes with my head. I feel very bad about my own private reactions - I love these women, I know some are desperate for another child and would find it hard to hear me announce a second DC. It does horrible things, this TTCing lark.

MrsExtraOrdinary · 07/04/2014 12:16

Zebra I had 3 cycles of not using cb digi, then after last month with pg tests going positive negative thought enough is enough and got everything going to ttc. This is a new tack for me this month. We are on his/hers pregnacare and using cb digis. A box of 20 tests was about £30, but I think you can get cheaper ones that don't flash. These show the changes. One box is supposed to do 2 cycles but I'm happy to use the whole box. This month trying to work out my cycle to the dot. I'm keeping a diary too. I haven't started temping as with my thyroid I'm not sure it would be accurate.

bellaboo88 · 07/04/2014 13:03

:( need a refund or credit note on my ticket please!

Gutted, dm&d are off for a 3week holiday around time of edd if we conceived this month....so that's 2months of avoidance now.

Gutted but my mum can't miss her first grandchild being born, I can't do that.

Roll on June bus :-(

Was all psyched up, ready for marathon too. Xx

kurama · 07/04/2014 13:14

ebay is good for getting cb digi with flashing smileys, i got a 2 month supply for £25. i have a diary as well MrsE . I know how you feel zebra ive had 6 ppl i know fall pregnant without even trying in past few months.....

EnglishGirlAbroad · 07/04/2014 13:20

MrsE & Genni - don't worry too much. Th cb ones are designed to be used in the morning and they build up a knowledge of your hormone levels. By using them twice a day it could give you a false 'peak reading'. My advice would be to use them as the instructions say. Once you have a peak, dtd that day and for a few days after. The peak indicates that you are likely to ov in the coming 24-36 hours. Maybe use ic opks in the afternoon alongside the cb ones.
When I got my bfp, I had a peak on cd15, but my temps show ov at cd 18! so def keep going. We dtd everyday from cd15-18.

Bella - i think you should continue ttc. It doesn't guarantee you'll def fall this cycle. And maybe if you did fall dm&d might postpone the holiday? The thing is, you could keep putting it off, if you let other people determine when you start again.

MrsExtraOrdinary · 07/04/2014 13:27

Thanks English, I was hoping you might be on the case. I'm new to all these ov thingys! Lol Grinbut I'd really like to not be trying for 2 years this time around. Confused

gennibugs · 07/04/2014 13:44

Thanks English - need to stop trying to outdo the sticks and trust in the digis! Smile what you say re forces my thoughts that we stopped dtd a little early as you're right ov can take place later than the peak.

Bella are you sure you don't want to try this month? Just in case? We weren't going to try this month for various reasons but have thought sod it, what will be will be!

MrsExtraOrdinary · 07/04/2014 13:46

Oh dear, have I messed up my readings this month ? This morning still saying flashy! I'm clearly just an impatient twit

victoria401 · 07/04/2014 13:55

I'm on my first month with opks. Mine says not to use fmu so I'm doing them when I get home from work. They are just cheapy sticks not digitals. Don't know what I'm expecting to see/find yet

Talking of others falling preg... I have a friend who was ttc same time as me back at the start of my journey. We were both due to go on hol last May (not together) and were worried about flying preg. As it happens she did go on her hol with a bump and I didn't and she now as dd2 who is 7months. Found out off mutual other friend that she is preg again and is having an abortion as didn't want 3 kids. This has choked me up big time. I'm glad friend has not told me herself as she knows we are having some difficulty getting pg. I just wish I could take her little bean and put it in me to keep it safe....

Metalhead · 07/04/2014 14:16

broody I'm sorry you're having such a WTF cycle. I had one too at the end of last year, went two months without AF and it was driving me mad! I hope your GP can suggest something to kick start things again for you.

victoria that must be hard to hear about your friend. Life's just not fair, is it?

I'm 2dpo and heard this morning that I didn't get the job I applied for last week, so now I've got nothing to distract me from obsessing over getting pregnant anymore...

broodysnoopstie · 07/04/2014 14:22

Thanks All. It's very confusing. I've just been to the loo & looked at cm and bloody hell I think it's ewcm.. which would mean I'm ovulating on cd62!!?? I don't know what on earth is going on but I'm going to dtd tonight and see what happens! !

EnglishGirlAbroad · 07/04/2014 14:36

Bloody hell Victoria. Think some people need to take birth control a little more seriously if they don't want more children. Especially when they already have children.

Broody, hope your cycle sorts itself out. I had a longer than usual cycle this month. Got ewcm and OPKs last week and then AF came. I know I didn't ovulate though.

I'm sure you haven't messed it up MrsE, just keep DTD just in case. I seem to have far too much time on my hands and know far too much. Think I could become a bloody expert in all things TTC!!

CallingAllEngels · 07/04/2014 17:25

That would definitely upset me victoria.

I keep hearing of people who are pg with DC2 who were pg the same time I was with DS and am so jealous.

Only cycle 2 for us since mc, but started ttc in July last year. DS took a year and a half and can't imagine another year of this!

lindamagoo · 07/04/2014 17:32

Broody have you not got any opk's in the house? Maybe start testing to see if it is ov, I really hope it is after all this time Smile

lindamagoo · 07/04/2014 17:35

Victoria that's an awful thing to hear about your friend Hmm When I was younger and thought I couldn't conceive a friend of mines got pregnant and had an abortion cause she wasn't ready for a baby, her choice I know but she got pregnant straight away again and kept the baby, I was so upset Hmm

Sparrowlegs248 · 07/04/2014 17:55

Thats a really awful thing to hear victoria I don't know why your friend would tell anyone if thats what she was planning?!

My hopefullness is vanishing. Had some browny coloured stuff when wiping today, more coloured discharge (sorry...) than spotting but as AF is due friday i fear this is a bit of an early start. 1st day back at work after a week off and really hating it too so that made me feel worse.

Sorry to hear about the job metal I'm torn between changing jobs because i am not enjoying mine, and sticking it out as the mat. leave etc is so good where i am.