TTC After MC: The home of hopeful nipples, ovulation eyes and the most determined Mummawannabees around. Chin up, tits out!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Welcome fergie, may your stay be short and sweet. I had an mmc in March, had erpc 3 weeks ago, bled for 2 weeks and we haven't dtd since. Both feeling a bit scared of it at the mo but hoping to get the courage up again soon as we do want to try again, just still working through the emotional stuff. As other wise folks on this thread have said, everyone's experience very different so try not to worry if things seem a bit all over the place, that's why it's called the wtf cycle

viper not sure about you, but in a weird way I'd rather wait a bit to see if AF turns up than poas again and get bfn, felt weirdly more miserable after a bfn than when AF arrived when we were trying last time if that makes any sense at all. Then hopefully if you just wait for AF to arrive and it doesn't then you'll never see a bfn and get a big fat bfp if you test a bit later....positive thinking for you

sebs brilliant I'm hoping my horny cow feeling will return soon! Yippee for new wheels to accommodate 2 children, go for it. Xxx

Hi everyone,
Congrats meryl - very exciting for you, and exciting for the thread to keep on having BFPs!

I think someone was asking about going on bc after mc (maybe triple?)... Well, I took the pill for one month after mc, got withdrawal bleed as expected after the three weeks, and then, according to my temp chat, I ovulate on CD18 or CD20. This is about normal for me, as I have a short luteal phase in a 28 day cycle. So, although it was intially frustating to take bc, I think it was probably the right choice for me.

AF is due on Monday for me, trying very hard to be patient and not poas. With my late ovulation is definitely too soon to see anything anyway.

Tbh, no real symptoms, apart from phelgm in my throat (but probably just a cold)...

cake, just saw your post: I completely agree, I think I'd rather have AF arrive than poas and get a BFN... Hence me trying to be patient until Tuesday morning (when I will definitely poas if no AF)

It's funny as it's sort of exciting to POAS at 9dpo because you can kind of pretend-see-a-line and kid yourself that tomorrow there might be a squinter. For me with a short LP it was always fucking depressing to not see a line at 10/11 dpo as I knew that that really was a negative test and of course AF would arrive two days later.

So whilst I enjoyed the drama of it on the one hand, the kick later when I realised I wasn't pregnant was horrible. PLUS I drive my OH mental thinking there is a line at 6pm and by 7 pm saying there isn't, then I can hardly sleep overnight to test again in the morn to say there isn't a line, then in another light ooooooh maybe there is. You can imagine three days of this gets very very wearing. So I promised him no more.

sebs, how short is your LP? I keep on reading different accounts on whether or not a short LP is really a problem.
My doctor didn't seem concerned at all, as he says I got pg, but as it ended in mc, I wonder if it's linked..

Zah. Mine is acceptably short at 12 days. Average is 14. Anything under 10 days could cause a problem from what I understand however doctors won't acknowledge luteal phase defects for some reason.

Welcome newbies sorry your losses and hope your time here brings you BFPs!

OMG to that thread penguin I'm 30 and still acknowledge I know very little about TTC I knew nothing when I was 20! English your message about it made me LOL

I can def see a line Meryl congrats :)

I can never wait for AF I always POAS with a little hope which is silly because when I did get my BFP I even got a BFN the day before my due on date but still I like that little bit of hope and anticipation whilst waiting for the line ... or lack of!

So I have just majorly over spent in next for my visit to see my besties baby tomorrow :/ and then ended up in tears in the car on the way home as I really thought that I would never have to buy stuff for anyone else's baby, without having my own, ever, ever again :( life's so cruel :( oh well still can't wait for a snuggle with her :) x

I'm sorry you're feeling down Carly, it must be so hard for you. Life's a right b*h sometimes! I hope your baby snuggles tomorrow will bring you some joy, even if it is bitter-sweet. In the meantime, have some or chocolate and maybe try and distract yourself with a Friday night movie. x

Ladies I've been thinking about this all day as I felt proper shite after bfn this morning, I'm not going to test until the day after AF is due, which will be Wednesday. It's just so heartbreaking having an inanimate object tell you no you can't have it yet. It is much less a let down when it's via AF, I think it's because it's doing something, rather than some stupid stick.
Bad stick!!

I was out with friends I haven't seen since before mc tonight, was so nice to catch. I was naughty and a glass of red wine with my dinner and a rum&coke after. Invoking law of sod?

Viper sounds eminently sensible. We are still in sync with our cycles I think. AF due on Tuesday here.

Obvs hoping yours won't arrive, but if it does we can share a hot water bottle and a bar of dairy milk...

Carly that must have been really hard. I hope that although today will be bitter-sweet that it's not too painful. Thinking of you.

I've been asked by a friend who knows about my mc to help organise a baby shower for my SIL whose edd is a week before mine would have been. She has been sweet and said no pressure but would I be an awful person if I said I'll come along but would rather not help organise? I don't think it would be quite as hard if the scan on Mon goes well but staying pg this time wont erase the baby we lost. I just feel selfish thinking that I want to say no.

Tany it's a date x

7dpo here. Have been having quite thick creamy CM since 5dpo, hoping it's a good sign but dunking my head in a pond full of carp because no doubt it won't be.

Penguin that sounds absolutely reasonable and I'm sure she will be understanding. I assume she doesn't know you are expecting again? I think at this stage we just have to be as kind to ourselves as possible and not potentially set ourselves up for upset.

It's difficult for non-pregnant/non-mc people to get it, and hopefully they won't ever have to, but there's a chance in the future they may experience similar themselves and then it will be a lightbulb moment for them.

I had similar in the week whilst keeping a dental appointment with my hygienist who I have known a long time and knew I was TTC without much luck. No sooner had I told her that I unfortunately miscarried in February she said 'Oh dear. Well Tracy here is pregnant' and of course that led onto a ten minute conversation about her pregnancy, how excited she was, baby stuff etc. Lovely, and I made sure I congratulated her on the way out, just felt like a kick in the teeth as she wasn't showing any signs of a bump yet or anything, so I probably didn't need to know.

Perhaps she was trying to make sure my news didn't worry the pregnant assistant, like it might have been catching or something. All I know is it felt quite insensitive.

Penguin I think you need to do what's right for you, and if that means not helping with the organising then that doesn't make your selfish. I'm sure it'll be hard enough attending the bloody baby shower (is this now compulsory? No one behalf these when I was pregnant with DD), so give yourself a break.

sebs that is totally insensitive and out of order of your hygienist! Why on earth did the she think that was an appropriate response to you telling her about your mc?! I really wonder what goes on in people's heads sometimes...

I think my join you in the carp dunk. I'm getting a fair bit of blobby white cm too, and have felt just a bit achey and 'full' in my pelvic region for the last few days. Trying hard not to read anything into it though as 7dpo is still so early.

Jeez, not sure what happened to my spelling there! No one had baby showers, and I think I might join you...

Tany I'm going to have to cancel our date AF just got me

Bumbaskets viper . Warming a virtual hot toddy, fluffing your pillows and breaking into the kids easter eggs for you. x

Fluffing your pillows sounds wrong now I read it back!

Me too Viper . My lovely DH tried to comfort me while I sobbed from my guts this morning. I know I'm not alone but every time AF arrives I'm so angry, frustrated, jealous and sad. I just keep thinking how far through the pregnancy I would have been if things had carried on normally and how much I hate being back in the symptom spotting, knicker checking and organised Dtd routine (obvs not in that order).

Your hygienist doesn't sound too sensitive Sebs. Well done for holding it together while listening to that!

Me too Viper . My lovely DH tried to comfort me while I sobbed from my guts this morning. I know I'm not alone but every time AF arrives I'm so angry, frustrated, jealous and sad. I just keep thinking how far through the pregnancy I would have been if things had carried on normally and how much I hate being back in the symptom spotting, knicker checking and organised Dtd routine (obvs not in that order).

Your hygienist doesn't sound too sensitive Sebs. Well done for holding it together while listening to that!

Oh crap I'm so sorry Viper and Inca

Sorry the bitch got you Viper and Inca .

I'd have probably walked out of the appointment sebs... or said something along the lines of 'oh...thats nice' and started rambling about my teeth. I really just think people don't know how to react to it.

Nothing to report here... cd9... 'low' on cbfm. Don't expect much change until at least cd12/13