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TTC After MC: The home of hopeful nipples, ovulation eyes and the most determined Mummawannabees around. Chin up, tits out!

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Parsley2506 · 24/03/2014 12:38

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

OP posts:
HollyBen · 07/04/2014 15:27

Woo hoo seasides fx for a nice uneventful pregnancy

Thinking of you missh

Seasides · 07/04/2014 17:11

How did it go this morning, missh?

Triplespin · 07/04/2014 17:45

missh thinking of you.

MissHobart · 07/04/2014 18:22

Hey Ladies! Thanks for all the thoughts, much appreciated! I only weeped today which is a step up from all the wailing yesterday! I have also just had a HOT bath! Grin

Sorry for the following copy&paste if you're also on the BESH thread;

Scan was ok, as expected, think I actually miscarried last week and it took a while to come out, barren womb on scan, negative pg tests. Staff were lovely, put me in a room and came for a chat. Not sure they're used to someone so well informed Hmm There were also some ladies there recruiting for a trial called TABLET (Thyroid Antibodies and LEvoThyroxine Study) so I've had bloods taken to test for thyroid antibodies, can't hurt right! if I don't it's another thing to cross off the list! If I do they'll give me drugs to take for my next pregnancy. I have been reffered to the rmc clinic and will get an appointment in about 8 weeks. Not allowed to get pregnant again so looks like I'll be getting the coil put back in. Think I will continue to track ovulation for the information and am getting my GP to print off my test results, all to take to my appointment when the time comes. I will get onto BR to have his tests done now, again!

On the plus side, this is the end of my mental 15 month ttc journey, it is currently out of my hands. I will not be getting pregnant for at least 5/6 months so am going to relax and have fun for that time. Also I appear to have lost half a stone! Bonus Grin

I have to go make dinner now, I will try and catch up with everyone over the next week, I'm back at work tomorrow and start nights on friday, plus the in-laws are coming to stay this week so may be awol but lurking!

Sending lots of woo vibes and sticky thoughts! Grin

EnglishGirlAbroad · 07/04/2014 18:59

Glad the appointment had a helpful outcome, if not the positive one we all hoped it could have been MissH. You're now at least on your way to figuring out the cause and hopefully finding a way round it. You seem very positive which is great. Enjoy the next few weeks not TTC, I hope the appointment comes through quickly for you.

Viperama · 07/04/2014 19:43

Big hug MissH, glad you are moving in the right direction to your BFP, which you WILL get one day x

Cakebaker35 · 07/04/2014 20:14

MissH I'm so sorry but glad they were kind and that you are now going to get some answers that will help you to your bfp. Do keep lurking and keep us posted on how you're doing, I really hope you get your appointment soon xx

omama · 07/04/2014 20:14

Sorry it wasn't the outcome we all hoped for, but really glad the wheels are in motion to try & find out what is going on for you MissH.

Seasides - congratulations!

Seasides · 07/04/2014 20:24

I echo the others - and it sounds like you're being so strong about it. Excellent attitude to enjoy these months, knowing that they will find the answers and you will get there. Really hope that happens quickly. xx

Metalhead · 07/04/2014 21:21

Well done on getting through today MissH, and I'm glad you're getting the right help now. Try and enjoy the ttc break, and hopefully once you come back to it you will get your BFP very soon. x

broodylicious · 07/04/2014 22:39

Wow, I've been away for a few days (hubby ran Manchester marathon yday so been up there - he did great, PB of 3hrs 10mins, v v proud wife!) and this thread has gone mental!

missh so sorry to hear your news but I'm pleased you've taken the positives from this horrid situation and can relax a bit now. I'd be interested in hearing about the thyroid thing. I had blood tests a while back, before I got pg (the one I eventually mc) and results showed some interest in thyroid and the doc invited me back for repeat tests...which I never got round to as I got pg. BlushBlush I just wonder if....Sad

seasides big mega wahoo for you!!!!! Would love to be a fly on the wall when your dh picks up your voicemail!

broodylicious · 07/04/2014 23:37

Ok, just did a quick dr google of thyroid issues. I'm matching up to a fair few symptoms. Guess who I'm calling at 8am... Fucked off with myself for not getting the re-tests when I should've done three months after the originals (sorry for language). Maybe I could've saved myself, dh and my family from this heartache....

Penguin13 · 08/04/2014 07:17

Broody don't blame yourself. If I had got pregnant before getting the re-tests I'm sure I would have done the same thing as you. I do hope that the tests provide some answers though.

MissH. Good to hear the appointment went as well as it could and you now have a plan. I'm sorry you've had to go through so much to get to this point but hope your investigations turn up something that can be fixed.

I am feeling a bit ridiculous this morning after my dramatics yesterday as I poa cb digi and it's still saying 3+ weeks Blush I still have a gut feeling that something isn't right and I know that it doesn't necessarily mean everything's fine that HCG hasn't dropped yet but at least it doesn't mean something bad. I failed to get hold of the mw yesterday so am wondering whether to self-refer to Wycombe epau where they saw me last time after my mmc. My instinct is to wait it out till 6 weeks by which time they might see a bit more either way. I think if I go in now and they can't see much they'll just tell me to come back in a week anyway.

I really appreciated all your advice and support.

tannyLoo · 08/04/2014 07:29

Penguin I'm really pleased to hear it! I know it's hard, but try to see this as the positive it is, worrying yourself silly won't change the outcome (which already sounds better).
I think getting an early scan at 6 weeks sounds sensible. In the meantime, "Today I Am Pregnant" should be repeated often, some deep breathing and stepping away from the sticks are my recommendations.

Really Grin the digi has stayed up. I didn't even get to a 3+, so you're doing well.

Cakebaker35 · 08/04/2014 07:30

Penguin, step away from the cb digis, was told by my gp that they just mess with people's minds and she wishes they were not on sale. I think you're wise to wait a bit before a scan fwiw as it can be hard to get any sort of answers at an early stage, but obviously if you just feel you absolutely have to get seen or have any other symptoms of concern then go for it. It's a horrible waiting game and I'm keeping everything crossed for your sticky bean xx

Triplespin · 08/04/2014 08:02

Penguin 3+ is excellent. So you need to stop worry now. Like tanny I have never made it to 3+ and with my first mc, I actually had a drop from 2-3 to 1-2.
Wise to wait till 6 weeks if you can. That would be ideal. Wouldn't it be on Friday? So just need to get through the next few days.

Broody good idea to get the tests done, especially if the GP is offering them.

missh glad to hear you are feeling more positive about the break. I saw the leaflets for the Tablet study. I wonder if I should have volunteered.

Hope everyone else is well on this sunny day!

Justonemoretime · 08/04/2014 08:43

Penguin, if you're near Wycombe I'd go into London to Uch Epu, where you can just walk in and self refer. They scan all comers. Walkable from Euston, EGA wing (round the back, down 2 floors in the lift). They are much better than local bucks hospital services (seriously, its like going into the future by comparison). Good luck.

sebsmummy1 · 08/04/2014 08:45

Penguin Grin

Seasides · 08/04/2014 09:10

That's good news penguin! You must be worried sick, but I know how easy it is to persuade yourself something's wrong through fear. I keep doing the same with random twinges, but I think you are best to leave it until you can see something on the scan that will reassure you.

Do you ladies mind if I hang around until my scan next week? I'm driving myself mad too - been awake since 3am, and when I did drift off for half an hour at 7 I just dreamed of AF arriving in torrents. It's all I've wanted for so long, but there are so many milestones I'll need to get to to feel reassured - like holding a healthy baby in my arms!

Broody - I too tick an awful lot of the boxes for thyroid issues, including randomly losing a stone from stress for no reason. But I had it checked and it's normal, so don't let Dr Google make you feel bad. I felt exactly the same about the fallopian tube scan, which it turns out was wasted self-flagellation.

Penguin13 · 08/04/2014 10:22

Thanks for the info Just. Does anyone have any experience of going into epau without bleeding or pain? I might try to bring my private scan forward instead so I'm not delaying scans for people who really need them.

Seasides I know how you feel. I sometimes think that trying to have a baby is like a particularly cruel game of snakes and ladders. Sending the stickiest of thoughts to you and your bean.

Littlelady33 · 08/04/2014 10:42

Penguin it sounds as though the tests you've had so far are positive but that it's time to step away from the cb digi. I know that my EPU would be happy to see me from 7 weeks again, was this ever mentioned to you last time? Crossing fingers for you

sebsmummy1 · 08/04/2014 10:47

Gosh Penguin I used that exact analogy to my partner about a week ago re. snakes and ladders. At times it truly does feel just like that.

HollyBen · 08/04/2014 10:53

After I had my first MC the EPU told me that when I got another BFP I should phone them straight away. I did and they booked me in for a scan at 8 weeks (which seems to be the earliest they like to scan) This time I rang them at 5+3 due to bleeding. They said leave it a couple of days. I phoned back at 5+5 and they said to go in for bloods. When I got there they said they had a free scan slot so would try that first. They could see the sac and no issues and rebooked another scan at 8 weeks. If I was you'd I'd phone them and see what they say. They might offer to do bloods or book you in for an early scan.

I really hope your worries are unfounded x

Penguin13 · 08/04/2014 11:53

Spoke to my local mw team and they said I couldn't have a scan as I wasn't bleeding. They then rang back and gave me a scan on Mon morning. I think they could tell I was quite distressed the crying as soon as I started talking was the giveaway. Sort of relieved to have a date to focus on.

HollyBen · 08/04/2014 11:59

Glad you have a date penguin I'm sure Monday seems a long way away so just focus on each day as it comes. How far along will you be on Monday?