Newbies TTC #1 gather round :)

[patienceisvirtuous]

Anyone want to join me?

I'm 36 yo, ttc #1 and very excited about it. It's something I have wanted to do for a long time but it took me a while to find mr right!

l know I am no spring chick so I have some anxieties around that but I am trying to do everything right (eating well, exercising, cutting out alcohol/caffeine etc) and I want to start off optimistic :) am a seasoned pessimist/worrier!

Have been tracking my cycle for a good while. My periods are pretty regular and I thought I could feel my ovary twinging (strongly) when it wad supposed to. This has synched with positive opks so I guess I will soon be starting my first 2ww.

*sooo

Sorry to hear you haven't been lucky this month either. Mine arrived on Tuesday after convincing myself I had some pg symptoms and I was more disappointed than I thought I wuld be too. Here's to better luck next month :)

How are the rest of you doing?

Can I join too?
Just read your messages and coming to the end was sad to see af had come for some of you I assume so hopeful!
We are just starting TTC 1st cycle... I am 27,married 2 years. Came off my implant in Nov but we waited till now as know Dec is earliest could deliver! Feel naively optimistic and just so excited. This has been my fertile week so will have to wait and see if anything happens! Tried Opk sticks but not convinced by the lines etc...

Oops silly phone *assume was meant to say was!

Hi all and welcome Lk265. Sorry AF has arrived for some of you ladies......I am having a rather odd cycle, no AF yet cd35 which is late for me (normally 30/31 days) however due to my odd 3 bleeds last month I am not sure if I am late as a result of that really.

I have all the symptoms of AF and even wore a pad the other day as I felt I was going to start.......but nothing - just a bit when I wiped (sorry if tmi) but it was a darker colour. I did poas on tuesday and bfn so I am wondering when af is actually going to arrive!!

Can I join in? I'm 23, I'm having my implanon took out tomorrow so will be TTC from then! Have only told my friends who have all told me what a bad idea this is so that's a bit of a downer. I have the book Taking Charge of your Fertility and I am looking forward to being in tune with my body again after being on contraception for 8 years!

Also I'm a student midwife which is why everyone tells me it's a bad idea but when your body needs a baby what can you do??

Hi Patienceisvirtuous

Sorry to hear of your disappointment :( and also to baking mad

I forgot to mention in my first post I also was having pregnancy symptoms before Af was due last month (my first cycle ttc) and then started Af a day earlier. I must of kidded myself into thinking id prepared for it and wasn't that dissapointed as later that week it hit me quite hard and I had a few down days. My close friend had also not long announced her unplanned pregnancy so I was finding it all a bit tough.

Due Af next week don't want to sound negative but not holding out any hope as don't think we caught it at all around ovulation. Will wait and see what happens xx

good luck to you all on here
xxx

Hello. I've been on and off these boards lurking around and posting ab und zu but by no means regular!

I'm 26 and ttc #1, this is my 3rd cycle. I say cycle rather than month as my cycle is delightfully 39 days long, so this has been slooooooowwwwwwwww and lots of waaaaaiting which is crap as I'm the original little miss impatient!

Anywho, been peeing on super-spendy clearblue digi sticks (I honestly only bought them during last cycle 2ww to invoke the law of sod - I.e. If I spend £30 on plastic stuff Sod's law is I'll be pregnant and won't need them! Didn't work) and after 4 days of flashing smiley (and cursing his smug little face) today I got a solid smile! Feel like I've won half the battle.

Good luck to everyone! Here's hoping the good news starts rolling thick and fast.

Hi Icy121

That must be veryyy frustrating having a cycle that long. After last months disappointment i told myself not to want it to happen this month as my due date will fall in December. will have to wait and see if the sods law worked this month. Like you im also trying to conceive #1.
I am only on cycle 2 but very impatient much to dismay of my non ttc friends so don't really feel understood. lets hope it happens for you soon :)

best of luck to you and all
xxxx

Urgh non ttc friends, who haven't had kids, add nothing I've found. I have 2 close girlfriends who say every few weeks "are you pregnant?" And when I explain it hasn't worked and cycle is long and I find myself stressing the advice was "try not to think about it". At which point I took a deep breath and decided that I'm not going to let them talk to me about it again.

Actually as an aside, my partner and I aren't married and won't be getting married any time soon. Both of the girls are engaged, one in particular has unintentionally (I hope!) said a couple of quite patronising things like "oh well when you're engaged you just feel so much more secure in your relationship". I had to therefore bite my tongue back from saying "when you're trying for a baby, you'll understand!" I don't want to be that person!

Grr tho. Although, I'd rather be worrying abt ttc than worrying about spending £25k on a wedding right now. Compared to that the £30 on plastic sticks is nothing!

I would also like to join. I am 35 years old, unmarried but with my ALB (made it up - Absolutely Lovely Boyfriend) for 11 years, and TTC #1. He already has a teenage son so is rather more chilled than me, but I am really quite excited. Worked out in theory I could have a BFP as early as 1st May - but not that bothered if not - the plan in my head is to not fret for the first six months - what will be, will be... Good luck to everyone now and hope you all enjoy the first T in the TTC as well!

Icy121, I'v had that too "try to relax/ don't think about it, it will happen when it happens, think posotive" then in the next breath "are you doing opks,ooh 2 week wait, oh not long now, Have you got preg tests ready, you need to dtd more!

I have 2 close girlfriends i talk to about it. One is without kids, one with. The one with kids, not meaning to sound horrible has always had it happen quickly so i feel she doesn't really understand my frustration as it seems so easy for her but i don't want to say that as i don't want to sound begrudging, as im not and really love her kids. Plus shes pregnant so don't want to make he feel guilty.

Its all so frustrating having the ttc conversations as i don't feel understood and quite isolated as feel im the only one going through it. The alternative though, is keeping quiet and having it all going around in my head or driving my partner barmy with "baby talk" lol.
I have very caring friends who talk about it whether i want to or not so they know im not holding it all in. I do know its all well meant and said with a good heart.

Im sure your friends are well meaning too with there advice regarding ttc as frustrating as it is.
I really hope your friend didn't mean the engagement comment as it sounded. Could you have a chat with her and find out the thinking behind that and just explain how it made you feel, hopefully she's a friend you can talk to without worry.

And regarding spending out on a wedding Yes im with you on that one!

keeping my fingers crossed for you and all on this board xxx

HopefulMum ....I love the ALB! nice one.
Wow 39 day cycle....thats serious patience required!! Wishing you all the best.

Hehehe pregnant or recent Mum's are funny friends to have and they almost all say 'happened so quickly I had no idea it could happen so easily'....bleugggh....dare not tell anyone I am TTC but hubs.

I am in the limbo stage....7 days until AF normally comes, been 8 days since I calculated ovulation (gave up on the OPKs) and googling everything about what early pregnancy/implantation feels like...haha.
I did feel very like 'heavy' like pre-period a few days ago but that's gone. Just gotta wait it out and see but I really want to know, but if I do get pregnant promise I won't be smug!!!

Hi everyone, so nice to see other people are as excited as I am about ttc!! Bf and I made the decision to start trying about 6 weeks ago, just had first natural AF after 10years on the pill....keeping fingers crossed that I don't have to wait too long for a little one :)

Hopefulmum - love ALB! I have the same 6 month non- frettage, halfway through now eeeeeeeeeek

Lk265 - hope you are pregnant! Be smug! Its so life-consuming... So a week to wait.. Have you looked at that 2ww website, all these women upload their "symptoms" 'day 1 nothing, day 2 a stuffy nose and a headache, day 3 nothing...' It's total pseudo-science but I find it compelling along the 'oh well now you mention it i do have a stiff shoulder..' lines! Although your heaviness feeling sounds more likely! I tend to get that day before AF, so given you've a week to go sounds promising! Good luck!

Impatientlywaiting - I think she's just tactless and never means harm. It was months ago and I wouldn't raise it with her because I wouldn't want her to think I'm begrudging her upcoming nuptials. My OH has been divorced and had (and we still have) such a fuckwittagy nightmare off the ex, getting married right now isn't on his radar, and whilst I'd like to, it isn't a deal breaker at all if we don't get married. But as such I don't want her to think I'm envious - and then have her pity me. I guess it's the same with your friend with kids. Of course you're happy for her, but, like, come on now, don't rub it in!

I've told OH we're on 2ww now. He was cute about the clearblue sticks "have you got another smiley? Isn't flashing smiley better than a solid one... Like, more excited looking?"

Tbh I was worried the opks would put pressure on him, but we're on holiday at the moment, and I've tried to ensure that when we dtd it's not at all in the context of babies, it's just sex. Lucky that in an ideal world he'd have sex 3/4 times a week, work and exhaustion usually means 2/3 times (manageable!)

The 'happened so quickly' bit would make me rage. When I sent a text to the girls when I came off the pill along the lines of "this is rubbish, no period yet, it's been 6 weeks, honest to god I wouldn't worry if you missed taking pill a day - or a week! - nothing seems to happen!!! Frustrating" I got back "I know people who've come off the pill and got pregnant right away, so think I'll still be super careful". What did I say - tactless! I'm just going to avoid talking to them about it, it doesn't help! No doubt as and when they ttc it'll be automatic and quick and "what's the problem?"!!

Meh!

Hello Ladies,

Hope there's room for one more. My first post on here! :D

I'm 29 and this is month 2 of TTC #1, currently in my 2ww and am spending every waking second searching the internet for early pregnancy symptoms! I'm driving myself nuts symptom spotting.

Here's hoping we all get our BFPs this month! :) xx

Lovely to see lots of new people have arrived :o

Hopeful, loving ALB :o I have one of those too!! My plan is/was to be laid back for six months. Must try harder!! :)

I'm into cycle two now and this is my fertile week. I'd better put the work in :o

Best of luck everyone. Keep posting.

I have told a few friends but they've been great and said we won't keep asking for updates, you can just speak about it when you want. Best way I think...

Just wanted to say Happy Monday to all TTC ladies. Can't happen this week for me, but next week will be a potential "baby-making-week". Maybe an Easter baby in the making- could forever tell my child it was brought by the Easter bunny!! Good luck to all!

hi ladies.... im new to all this so not sure what im doing lol.... im in my 1st month ttc and been driving myself mad with symptoms... ive done 4 hpts (cheapy ones) the most recent being 2 days ago (im very impatient)
af is due today/tomorrow. i have no symptoms at all in fact i feel pg! but is that all in my head? i want to test again today but really dont want to see another bpn :'( any advice will be appreciated x

can I jump in too?

TTC #1 after miscarriage in March.

I'm on CD7 of cycle, I have no idea how long my cycle is after years on the pill - I conceived in cycle 2 last time in a "whatever will be will be" fashion. I wasn't tracking anything.

I had a little bit of mucus yesterday, but nothing but negatives on my OPK. I'm taking pregnacare vitamins and trying not to obsess!!

DH is great, although he's doing 2 jobs at work since his colleague left and is stressing like mad.

I would like to stress about work, but since I lost my little totey baby, I don't care about anything insignificant - I'll do enough to keep them off my back and walk away with my pay packet and add somw of it to the baby-fund once the bills get paid! !

Good luck & baby dust to you all!! :-)

welcome jbee1979

IM so sorry to hear of your loss :( I cant imagine how it must feel.

I was on the pill for 8 years up until Jan this year. I wont suggest anything regarding tracking your cycle, unless you would like the advice, as its a slippery slope to obsession (Im already gone im afraid) :)

I heard pregnacare are good, is it the conception ones? they also do a his and hers but OH wont go in for anything that questions the "manlyness"

Regarding work i'm glad your not going to let it stress you and taking a relaxed out look, I know that must be difficult.

I wish you all the luck and baby dust too xxxx

HI Icy121

Ok that's good to know glad she just wasn't thinking (if you know what i mean). Yes i suppose if it was a throwaway comment then it would look a bit odd you bringing it up months down the line or like you held a grudge. Sorry to hear about the nightmare ex, fingers crossed things are sorted soon.

My friend hasn't actually said it happened so quickly, its my view of it i suppose. I haven't been able to give too many details as don't want to identify myself. Only one of her pregnancy's were planned including this current pregnancy. So of course if your not planning, waiting and wanting it would seem like it happens so easy. Its a difficult subject. i think shes trying to be sensitive, at the same time she doesn't really feel she can talk to others and wants to talk things over and i need to return that favor (as hard as it is) as shes always there for me. I don't feel she has rubbed it in . but i know what you mean it can seem that its being rubbed in without anything thoughtless actually being said or no matter how tactful the other person is.

keeping my fingers crossed for you
xxxx

Can I join ladies?

Im 27, will be TTC #1 a week on Weds (counting the last of the Microgynon day by day!)
I've already downloaded two period/ovulation calender apps & have been lurking on here for months, so Im sure before long I will be shamelessly symptom-spotting & going through nervy 2wws!

I've been trying to keep it on the low-down, normally Im a shameless jabber-mouth when it comes to my life, but I don't want to jinx it, so other than a couple of close family members & my PhD supervisor (had to check he wouldn't disown a preggers student!) Im trying to keep quiet. Which is why it's so nice to come on here & swap notes!

Fingers crossed for BFPs all round ASAP

thanks for the lovely welcome impatientlywaiting14 :-)

DH has his pregnacare vitamins, I hope their goodness will seep through his bedside cabinet and into his body, then into mine, cos he hates taking tablets and they're big! lol I keep him going, that his baby-making-germs will be dusty and he should revitalise them, but he thinks he's fine, they worked okay the last time in his opinion! lol :-)

I welcome any tracking advice. The obsession ship has sailed!! I have to recharge my phone at work halfway through the day - because when I'm not with a customer I'm on mumsnet! lol :-)