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Euro, I don't actually know I'm still waiting to find out when my first midwife appt is. I'm 9+2 and I should have a first midwife appt between 8-10 weeks but my midwife is on holiday. She's back and taking a surgery on wed, I really hope she can fit me in (i'll find out on tues). She only comes into the surgery every other week, so if she can't fit me in next week I'll be 12 weeks at the first midwife appt. I'm not sure how long it takes to get an ultrasound appt after the midwife appt? Ho hum, I just have to be patient! (Sorry for the long ramble )

I have no brain, I meant Nobeer!

Euro 17 weeks! Fantastic! X

Bad news i'm afraid. BFN just feel numb & broken.

MaryP - - no words will make you feel better today so here're and .

So sorry.

MaryP I'm so sorry about the BFN. Sending you lots of hugs xxx

Turq congrats on being PUPO!

Bears welcome

Great scan news Bunny

Res I'll happily share some of my extra thick lining with you! Fingers crossed it starts thickening up.

Fab lovely to see you hope you are doing ok x

Beetle are you still lurking? Hope you are ok? How did the beta tests go?

Sorry I'm not up to date with the full thread. I've not been on mn for a bit. I'm just waiting for AF to show her face so I can get cracking. I should be due on Tuesday but I've not got any of my usual signs so I'm thinking she's going to be late. My op was mid cycle so I think ovulation will have been a bit later. No chance of a miracle BFP though as we were told not to dtd 2 weeks before and for 2 weeks after the op. It's the longest we have ever gone without dtd, DH is feeling very sorry for himself

MaryP I am so sorry. You've really been through the mill on this cycle. I'm gutted for you and sending you a hug.

Hi Cups. I've attacked the lining issue in earnest today - pomegranate juice, Brazil nuts and raspberry leaf tea!

Maryp: saying I'm sorry to hear your news seems inadequate. It's a horrible feeling. Be kind to yourself and I hope you are being looked after today. Xx

Res: I've heard that about the Brazil nuts, but not pomegranate juice or raspberry leaf tea.... Interesting.

Nice to meet you cups

Euro: I confess to having followed this thread for a while so i know you've had quite a journey getting to where you are now (and can understand your hesitance to accept its really happening)... I wish you the smoothest of pregnancies

Bunny: hearing of success stories is always lovely on these threads. Best of luck.

AFM: I've had EC today they managed to get 8 so waiting to hear how many fertilise. As this is my 3rd EC I felt I know the drill but was a little unnerved that the anaesthetist was late in and I was on the table just waiting ... I started panicking that I was going to ovulate (?!) there and then and all the eggs would leave the follis's so let the doc prep me. Felt a new level of awkwardness (and I thought this process had taken me to all levels already!). Was truly grateful to finally be put under. Anyway, its done now and am back home having a relaxing day in the sofa.

Waves to Brooker, no beer, turq and anyone else I've missed. Hope you're having a good weekend.

Cwtch: and thanks for the positive thickening vibes. I need them!

Bears - ouch for the awkwardness - however 'routine' it becomes to have things/people up and around there outside of sex, it's still always a bit awkward!

Mary I'm so sorry honey, bless you. Look after yourself.

Beetle - hello - still doubling betas so sending you quiet congratulations!!!

You do leave your dignity at the door with IVF .... I remember being a little when I was pregnant with DS and having a dildo scan (with dh present) at 12 weeks. I hadn't known that scans were carried out that way so was a little shocked. I look back on that now and laugh at my naive self... The number of docs that have now had a look up my foof beggars belief!

Beetle: the waiting for news on fertilisation does feel torturous, and is only beaten by the 2ww. There is just so much waiting during this process isn't there.

I hope your beta results continue to rise and this is smooth pregnancy. How many weeks are you?

I have spent most of the day on the sofa (watching come dine with me on repeat, something I never normally get to do). It's nice to get looked after. DH is making us dinner and am curled up with DS watching David Attenborough's Africa... Only drawback is a rather numb bum too much sitting! and the flash back to being In stirrups being 'prepped' whilst what felt like the clinic's team waltzed in and out.

Haha Bears totally no dignity in this process. Apparently I asked H loudly if he'd had a wank in front of the nurse three times as I was concerned they'd forget to do it on my egg collection day. I was off my tits on sedative so I have an excuse.

I'm back -I was Onelittlebugbear and had a failed cycle in January.

I've had a read through the thread and have lurked on and off.

MaryP, sorry to hear your news. Nothing I will say will help as I can't make you pregnant but you have my sympathy x x

Turq, hope the embryo you have turns out to be the one

Bears, hoping to hear of a good fertilisation rate!

Euro, glad things are going well, will you find out the gender?

Res, hope the lining thickens up nicely for you.

I am trying to decide whether or not to go for a second try. I know it isn't sensible and I still have my gut instinct that I won't ever be pregnant again. This instinct which has been proved right so far is still my biggest reason for not wanting to try again. However other reasons include: it will cost £6k, I had a horrific rash last time in response to the stress and it still hasn't gone completely and Im living on antihistimines, the cycle will fall over ds's Easter holidays and effectively ruin them, my blood sugars have only just gone back to normal (diabetic), first cycle wasn't very promising - 9 eggs, 8 mature, 7 fertilised but only one was 6 cells by day 3. The others were perfect but slow developers. They were at 4 cells. None made it to blastocyst. Basically dh's sperm are crap and my eggs are no better. So I suspect our chances of success are very very very low.

However if we don't go for it this cycle I will have to wait until July as we have commitments in May and June which means we just can't fit in an Ivf cycle. Unless we just cut our losses and accept No More Babies. Which is what I should do especially given this feeling of absolute certainty I've had from the minute of having ds that I would only have one. This feeling had no basis at the time and yet it appears it was right so perhaps I should just believe it and accept my gut instinct.

Any advice?

maryp I just wanted to pop on and say how sorry I am. If anyone understands how you're feeling right now it's me.
All I can say is please spend the time to hide away and let all of your hurt out before trying to face the world. Don't keep it in.
It helped me to book a weekend away, just to have something to focus on and look forward to, I hope you're able to do the same.
Love you lady, pm me if you need to xxx

One - really pleased to see you here again. Now I'll read your post!

Thanks res x x how are you?

Done - you know my views - go for it - we regret the lost chances when we don't act not the things at which we tried but failed.

OK here - well, to the outside world! Inside stressing over shit lining and fact that this is the last chance we can afford. In 2 weeks the dream of DC2 will be here or gone forever. I could murder a bottle of wine (but won't, obvs).

Are you hoping for ET om Tuesday? X

No, that'll just be lining check and if OK I think ET will be 5 days on as embies frozen Day 5 and I will have to restart the bloody pessaries!

Hi Moon. We've not met before. I understand feeling like its not going to work as I thats how I am feeling (this is round 4 for me.... And I've had 3 BFN of ICSI after 22 months of TTC #2). But I gotta say that I agree with Res. its better to have tried than not at all. You don't want to regret not giving it your best shot. Good luck with whatever you decide is best.