WARNING: This thread is only for the Posifrickentive! Grab your trout gun, help yourself to a steamy helping of Toad In The Hole and head on in. All new TTC after MC - chin up tits out ladies!

[Parsley2506]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Hi all. On my drive into work today I got very teary and had a wee cry, twice! I felt crap all morning but day got better and after work I trundled off to the gym for a good dose of endorphins so feeling better now.
It's exactly 1 month since mc started so not surprised really.
AF due today and no signs, but I do not feel pregnant at all, my boobs are normal and they were like melons at this point when I was preggers.
Bahhh

carly, viper sorry that AF is not here yet. Hopefully not long to go. Average time is generally 5-6 weeks, so I expect it will be very soon. Once your AF is here hopefully you can then focus on TTC rather than the mc.

Hope everyone else is having a better day.

Thank you all, erpc is tomorrow and although nervous I do feel its the right decision, especially as I seem to have stopped bleeding but scan clearly showed there is loads more to come.

Very sorry to see you here officelady I remember you from the antenatal thread. And no one more roll of the dice isn't too much to ask, my friend just had number two at 43 with no issues at all.

I feel like I need a round of applause! I started my MC 28 days ago, ov'd on CD14 and started AF this morning. Like something from a textbook! And cos we're having a break from ttc, it feels fine.

Of course everything else is completely Pete Tong, I'm still off work with stress and anxiety, having terrible dreams every night, fucked up a job application and don't have my gynae appt until mid-may. But it's alright because my luteal phase was spot on.

In can see a new card in Clintons... "Congratulations on your textbook cycle!"

Cake hope tomorrow goes well and will allow you to start to move on. Tanny massive congrats on the cycle! It's crazy isn't it how good this news is but how little people understand it? When AF finally showed up for me last year after coming off the pill I was unbelievable excited, DH utterly baffled.

Argh, so it's finally happened to me. I work in a small-ish, very right knit company mainly staffed by young people in their 20s. When I fell pg last year I was going to be the first female employee to have a baby, but obv that wasn't meant to be. Today one of my team told me she is 3 months pg. I clawed my way through the meeting without losing it but am now feeling awful. No one else knows yet, she wanted to tell me first. So - it was supposed to be me. I am happy for her, she's lovely, but and and nonetheless. I was already feeling crap today as I am pretty certain AF will be here this weekend and now this. I really just want to leave work but I've got about 50 meetings.

Good luck today baker, sorry it hasn't sorted itself out naturally.

Sorry you've had to join us office, and hope you're feeling better today viper.

High five for your cycle tanny! Hope everything else improves soon. I can't remember if you'd tried counselling for your anxiety? I've got my last session next week, I do think it has helped. I'm highly strung, as my mother would say!

Blurgh, sorry about that parsley. It's just gutting, it's impossible not to wail "why not me?!!" inside. I've got away with it so far too, in a youngish office but I dread having to see a growing bump every day when it does happen.

Morning everyone! And high 5 on your 28 day cycle tanny ! That sounds like your body has recovered nicely to get you back on track so soon, definitely good news!

Welcome officelady, as others have said, sorry that you find yourself in the position of joining this thread but you are very welcome here!

Parsley urgh, so annoying. Are you close friends with her? Have you told her about your situation? If you told her how you feel she might be more sensitive otherwise you're going to get constant pregnancy updates from her for the next 6 months!

Cakebaker, I would have done exactly the same in your position. Hand holding for tomorrow.

I know nothing is going to help with your mental process in dealing with what has happened to you but at least you won't have the worry and anxiety of when your body was going to let the pregnancy go. I was on tenter hooks waiting for something dramatic to happen when I was MCing and I was scared to go out! Lots of love chick xxx

Morning all. Sorry to see some newbies here as it means you're suffering this awful heartache too. But welcome, you'll be looked after well here

I've not posted in a few days because I've been on a downer and didn't want to pull the positivity down - seems like there could be some bfps coming soon from posts I've just caught up on. Fx for you ladies! Xx

Tammy. Loving how efficient your body is at getting back into the swing of things. I think it helps emotionally to get back to a regular cycle again.

Parsley - urgh, pregnancy bombs are particularly horrid as very often you are just keeping it together when suddenly one explodes in your face. You will adjust, it's this period here that is the very difficult bit. Strangely I feel the same with celeb P.bombs. When Scarlett Johanssen recently announced her news I wanted to scratch her face lol. She has everything in life and of course gets pregnant at the drop of a hat too. Bitch lol

Anyone else wandering through the 2ww clutching at straws? I could be anything from 6-8dpo. Have been having yellow tinged opaque stretchy cm along with creamy cm but I can clearly remember having this on one of my cycles last year when I was still breast feeding and I honestly thought I was pregnant but I wasn't.

There really is nothing useful to do at this stage so you end up just pissing in pots and just sort of looking at it. Swishing it about a bit looking for some sign until (if you're me), you stick a hpt strip in it just for shits and giggles knowing there is no chance even if I was duffed, that it would show positive.

God I can't believe my life has come to this lol. So sad *shakes head

Hugs broody. So you're feeling crap though totally understandable, you are healing xx

broody so sorry your feeling down! The down days just creep up on you don't they :( however I hope this gives you a glimmer of hope I was feeling awful this time last week (mon,tue,wed) non stop crying again etc, however I am now back to my normal happy self and really hope you will be again soon :) I guess we just have to survive the rough days as part of the process and enjoy the happy days, sending hugs your way....and we are here for you to vent you don't have to stay away for fear of bringing us down x

Hope today goes as well as these things can baker

Well done your cycle tanny given how wonky mine was post mc I would have loved one of those cards.

Went to see the doc today. She was lovely and supportive. She says she will do the tests needed to get a refferalI though recommend waiting till may before doing that (I reckon I can push her to do it earlier). So booked in for 21 day bloods (or 23 due to my cycle length) on friday. Then need to go back for day 1 later in the month. She also recommend dh gets checked which he is thrilled about but needs must I say.

Decided yesterday to abandon opks for this month. I have the post ov sore boobs going on so tith tonight just in case. I was planning on not bothering next month as I thought I knew where I was. It remains to be seen whether I stick with this approach.

Thanks for the welcome, ladies
Cakebaker I recognised you from the October threads, there was a lot of sad news on there when we had our mcs, which must have scared the first-timers. I have finally removed the thread from my watch list because I don't think it was helping my mental state
I went for my follow-up scan this morning and thankfully everything that needed to come out has come out - high five to my uterus, at least it did something right, even though it took 5 weeks! I saw a lovely nurse who was very encouraging about trying again. I texted dh afterwards (was a big brave girl & went to hosp on my own) and he texted back "fancy trying for another?" without any prompting from me so it looks like it will be all systems go once I'm back ovulating. The nurse said it was generally advised to wait for one period before ttc but the miscarriage leaflet she gave me says it doesn't matter - so in light of the fact that I'm ancient, I reckon we will just go for it ASAP. I have ordered some cheapy ov sticks off tinternet but never used them before so haven't got a clue what I'm doing. I foresee lots of weeing in pots and examining of gussets. Lucky for you lot I will be over sharing all the details!

Hurray officelady good news about your scan today, glad it went well.
I've also decided to go for it ASAP, and am quite a fan of the cheapie ov sticks! from what I've seen, your first ov could be pretty much any time in the next few weeks so good to get testing. For me I got my first positive OPK this weekend at day 21 post MC.

Helloooo!!! Just pooping in after some therapeutic maniacle (is that a word) digging in the garden.

Cotton bud season has opened in our house and at 13dpo no sign yet. Thought I'd POAS to see if there's even a whiff of a line but nothing until I pushed on the window when an exciting evap type line appeared in the crushed bit. Pretty gutted as you would think if I was there would be something there by now!! Anyhoo, popped up the shop and bought another couple to try again if AF doesn't rear her fugly head!

I'm popping in. Not pooping in....that would be a bit rude.

PMSL Sal and FX xx

Office lady. Once you are showing negative on hpts you can use opks. Opks are triggered by HCG as well as LH so will give you a false positive if you wee on one with pregnancy hormone still in your system.

Here's a 'congratulations for having a fab DH' card with a 'here's hoping you ovulate soon' notelet folded inside

sal we have been missing you on the thread. Glad you made an appearance !!
hollyben great that your GP has referred you for the tests. It makes a big difference to have a GP who is willing to listen.
tanny wow what a perfect cycle!! Even if you are not TTC it still helps to know everything is back to normal on this front.

office well done to your body for having a good clear out. It must be good to have closure in this one so you can crack on again!!

Thanks everyone for the good wishes, I'll let you know how it goes tomorrow.

office I also hid the thread too, agree not great to revisit it. And well done to your uterus, would it mind having a word with mine that seems to have missed the frickin memo about the mc 5 weeks ago! Grr. Sounds like we mc'd around the same stage, glad to hear you're ok.

sebs thanks I think it's definitely the right thing for me although currently eating everything in sight as I can't eat until it's done tomorrow

The lovely consultant told me there was no increased risk now I've had one mc and that we could start trying again whenever we felt mentally ready but my mind boggles at the thought of being pregnant again and how I would stay remotely sane and not worry myself to death. I'll hopefully be popping back for some advice on that should it happen.

Cakebaker - I think it's one if those things that we are going to worry ourselves mad until 12 weeks no matter what, and probably for a long while after that too!! But mc can happen to anyone and as you say, it needn't have any impact on subsequent pregnancies so I guess we all just have to try and think positively.

I've been scoffing all day and have no excuse at all lol.

There must be something in the water today sebs, I've been really hungry all day today and yesterday too! I sometimes get like this just before AF arrives but as I'm on CD2 today I guess I'm just being a greedy pig...

Thanks ladies, I had a proper shite morning but feeling much better (relatively) now. Mystified as to why my MN app changed my faces to faces tho, I was not at all!
The girl in question is sort of my second in command at work and a lovely lovely girl. She knows about my MC and sent me a very sweet text this eve (which set me off on the train home - lucky I have the reddest eyes/nose from hayfever already so I think I managed to style it out...). Still a bit blue but just from the painful reminder of what I lost and the ever present worry that it might not happen again (pregnancy, not MC obviously).

I missed our latest newbie - welcome office and well done to your womble for playing ball. Heres hoping you're one of these mythical super fertile after MC people!

sal we love it when you poop by . FX for you! I am 9DPO with normal tits, some hormonal spots brewing & way more CM than is allegedly typical before AF but not much else. I am not going to POAS on Friday as I'm not expecting the witch till Sunday/Monday and it was really disappointing seeing the empty window last month.