WARNING: This thread is only for the Posifrickentive! Grab your trout gun, help yourself to a steamy helping of Toad In The Hole and head on in. All new TTC after MC - chin up tits out ladies!

[Parsley2506]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

It is an awful place to be triple The same happened to me. I first went to EPU at about 5+5 as I had been spotting for 4 days. At that point they could see a sac and no reason for the bleed. They hold me I COULD come back at 8 weeks. I asked for an apt them and there. At 8 weeks the sac was the right size but irregular shaped and no heartbeat. I then had to wait another week for it to be confirmed. It is a complete headfuck. Perhaps see what happens over the next week and ring them see if you can go in earlier though 8 weeks does seem to be the recommended time. I am so sorry you are going through this xxx

hollyben ditto here. Went at 5+5 and they were trying to give me false hope by saying all looks normal and that I should keep taking folic acid. When I read the notes they had written that the sac looks more in line with 4 weeks gestation.

Good idea though. I will see how next week goes and will then give them a call to see if I can come earlier.

Bloody hell Triple that's awful they told you all looked normal while writing something different on the notes! Hope over the next wee while you can try and keep your mind off it for a while x

sebs have fun Had a much needed tith free night last night and feeling raring to go again later! I am praying to fall pregnant soon though as months and months of this would be insanity!

I think in the early stages they know the margin for error is large and they are trying not to alarm the Mother. I would assume they need to wait until a certain gestation period passes to be sure a pregnancy is not viable. If they started offering medical intervention earlier they could risk snorting a healthy pregnancy.

I can totally understand the frustration of limbo land though . Once you realise the pregnancy is not viable it's natural to want to start thinking about TTC again.

I can remember knowing my last pregnancy wasn't going to work out and just wishing is never fallen pregnant on the first place as that time felt wasted. Absolute head fuck.

*aborting

Hello! Still lurking, just as busy as a busy buzzy bee!

Triple I feel for you! Just feels like such a waste of time doesn't it!? I'd be tempted to keep badgering them until they do something!

Shit day! Best friend currently in labour with her third :( am dreading the lovely new born photo and all the updates :( aren't I a selfish cow! But seriously 3! In the 6 years we have tried...I really thought it was our turn! Life's not fair :( sorry for the self indulgent post :( hope everyone else is more positive than me x

Carly I'm sorry you're having a tough day. You are in no way selfish for your feelings about other people having babies, it's completely normal and natural, especially after such a long journey. I haven't had nearly as rough a road and I still have those 'why me?' moments.

Thanks penguin, I feel awful for feeling like this, then get more upset for being so mean, but I am so jealous and dreading the babies arrival, that's got to make me an awful human being surely?! I really thought it wouldn't hurt when she had this baby because I would finally be having my own...how can life be so effing cruel?! I am so fed up of everyone saying next time it will be ok...how do they know there will even be a next time or that it won't be another 6 years! God I am such a misery today! I feel awful for ranting on here to because everyone else is going through the same thing, my pain is no worse than anyone else's :,( but I feel as though everyone Irl is over it now and just being overly positive when I can't seem to find that positivity at the minute :( sorry ladies for moaning x

Absolutely no need to apologise carly, this is what we are here for. It doesn't make you a bad person to want something so bad it hurts. You rant away, hun, we got you xxxxx

Thanks broody :) awful day today, not stopped crying and don't know who to talk to as everyone just says it will be ok...but how do they know? :( x

Carly don't worry I think it's normal. I have heard about so many preg ppl in last few days, including a colleagues wife preg with twins - that seems worse somehow I would be happy with one!

Also since our 1st wedding anniversary is coming up and we saw old friends this weekend we got lots of questions about when we would try and what were we waiting for etc!!! Well meanig but horrible. Oh and I also got two letters in the last two weeks from my first pregnancy inviting me to a breat feeding workshop and a health visitor wanting to come to my home!!! Have made a stern complaint!

Lacey it's awful isn't it :( I got one from a private scan I booked and subsequently cancelled today :( why can't we all just have our rainbow babies when they are so wanted and would be so loved :( x

Carly, one thing I find that helps when I start to feel guilty about how I'm feeling is to think about what I'd say to a friend in my position. I can almost guarantee you're much kinder to others than you are to yourself.

penguin your right I would certainly understand if the boot was on the other foot and my friend felt the way I feel! although from some of the things she has said/done since we lost the baby not sure she can empathise at all with us lol x

Thanks for letting me vent girls, feeling a little better now :) x

Aww Carly it is natural to feel this way, especially with such a tough journey you have had. I hope it is your turn soon. Yes people IRL move on very soon. I find even DH has both times just forgotten it ever happened after few days and told me off for still moaning about it. Hope you have a better day tomorrow.

lacey I remember getting my 12wk and 20ek appointment letters the day after my mc and it felt awful. This time I glad I never booked in with my GP and midwife. At least saves seeing the appointment letter.

triple thanks! I hope your doing ok today as well???I can defo second the hubby just getting over it in a few days I am likely to smash his head against a wall if he says 'it will be us next time' once more! Lol. Men!! X

Carly I think it's totally understandable to be jealous of other people who are able to do something so easily that you want so badly. I am not going to say it will happen for you as none of us know. What I will say is there is so much that medicine can do to help now and your condition is understood so much better than it would have been in our Mother's time. So there are lots of positives, I guess you just have to try and find fulfillment elsewhere while you are waiting.

Well I think I have done my final session if TITH and promptly fallen out with DP lol. I was trying to be all sexy and alluring with massage oils etc and he just couldn't stop pissing himself laughing. I decided to take it personally and told him that he makes me feel like he doesn't really fancy me. I wonder if I'm just hormonal.

Hi all, no news from me, just waiting for the witch to bugger off, i am reading though :)

viper you still poas today? If so fx for you

triple so sorry for you, limbo land is no fun at all, doctors have to give things time I understand that but it really is just an added injustice in the whole process if you ask me.

and I hope you feel better soon carly bad days happen and I think we need them to vent all our anger/frustration so as everyone's said, vent away on here :)

Hey everyone.

Carly I hope you feel a bit more like yourself today. I think you are entitled to have the odd shit day. It is shit.

Triple so sorry to hear. I am "lucky" in that I have had spontaneous mc for all of mine. With my BO I had to wait about a week and a half for it to start, which was horrible, but I would still do it again as I'm not a fan of too much intervention. I hope things get easier for you soon.

Our weekend away was lovely. Sunny beaches and afternoon sex whilst DS slept. Yum.

It's been shit since though. Anxiety and stress have hit me hard since getting back, and I'm premenstrual. Took me 3/4 hour to change a plug yesterday, I was so clumsy. Am also angry like a banshee. AF isn't due till next Tuesday

I have counselling this morning and have to finish off a job application this afternoon. Neither filling me with joy.

Hey ho. Chin up tits out...

tanny sorry to hear you are going through a tough time. You have been through quite an ordeal. Maybe it would be good to take a break from TTC. I am in two myself but think it would be good to just get on with other things which have been out on hold due to ttc. Will you be having any further tests done with your local rmc?

viper good luck.

Haha sebs. I normally promptly fall out with dh too after my last session and then become very nice when it is fertile time again.

Worst nights sleep ever! Had to come down to the sofa at 3.30am and have been awake since. I'm so effing anxious and worried about another mc that I'm probably going to make myself I'll and induce another one!!

Literally just 4 weeks along now so too early I think for morning sickness-not that I know as I never had it with other 2 pg's, though I constantly feel slightly nauseous which must be bloody stress, and keep bursting into tears every few hours. Fucking mc's have completely scarred me and I guess I never knew just how much until I got the bfp the last few days.

Sorry ladies, don't want to sound like an ungrateful cow, but this really is a whole other can of shit to deal with! Any advice welcome!!

sundance I was feeling the same last week. Pretty much up every night etc. can't really give any advice, other than to relax and take it one day at a time. I know it is easier said than done though.

Yep. I always said that when I fell pregnant the second time it was a whole lot stressful than TTC had ever been.

I did a lot of the stressful waking too. As time goes on though you do calm down and chill out a bit. It was a bit different for me as I kept getting small bleeds in the pregnancy I lost, so I didn't get a chance to relax much at all. Huge fingers crossed for you Sundance xxxxx

Doesn't help that I couldn't get a doctors appt until next week, though I'm going to have to ask for some sort of tranquiliser at this rate too.

We're in the middle of packing to move house, have work deadlines and we've decided not to tell anyone about the pg this time until we know for sure what's what. My mum got all upset and started acting weird last time I had a mc, and so I guess we're trying to save other people the worry. Jesus, I'm ranting like a mad woman.