I don't think he realises the sort of effect alcohol has on sperm, despite me telling him. It's taken a long time to get to this stage but yes, he wants a child. He's admitted he wants to change his lifestyle and he's keen to have a child but he can't see that the lifestyle needs to start to change now.
I'm not sure if it's a drinking problem as such because he can easily go without alcohol. I think he drinks/goes to the pub out of boredom and he's now got into a routine. He has a physically demanding job and he struggles to relax, yet at the same time, he's too knackered to go to the gym, etc. To give him his due here, he drove home from two family events this weekend and didn't have a problem with this at all whereas in the past I'd usually have driven home, at least from one of them.
I genuinely wouldn't mind if he went out and had 2 pints. It's the fact that it's never just 2. It's always 3, sometimes 4 and at weekends it's just stupid amounts of alcohol. I'm no innocent either - I can drink a lot too and I haven't completely cut out whilst TTC, but I've really cut down and I don't drink every night.