Eggcellent egg buddies - a thread for all those IVFing in January, February and March - Volume 2

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Hi all. As promised, a sparkling new thread that is going to see a lot of action in the next few weeks, I hope!

Me too stars. miserable isn't it? I like being asleep because I don't have to think about things then.

My friend has just texted me going on about buying maternity clothes. Piss off!

That's it isn't it One. Wanting to sleep is a way of escaping your own thoughts ((hugs)) back xx

Does your friend know you are TTC and struggling?!

Yes although she doesn't know we've had ivf.

She's part of the 'you've got one child stop complaining' club, even though this is her second child she is pregnant with and she was desperate for a second baby. Her dh wasn't so keen so she had to convince him to have a second.

Nothing makes it better really, that's the truth of it. There's no guarantees and no end to it. If I knew we would have to do this several more time but it would work, even if it took a couple of years, it wouldn't be so bad. But there's no end and no promise of a happy outcome.

I think that's what I struggle with most. Not knowing if it will/could happen. As I was approaching my last cycles felt that I would be ok if it didn't happen. But now it hasn't happened, again, I am finding it hard to accept and I'm not sure how I am supposed to move on and stop desperately wanting another baby, for me and dh and especially for DS.

There's no answer is there? I sometimes think I should just draw a line under it and accept it's just going to be ds but I can't. I've tried but I can't and the more it seems out of reach the more I want it.
I just want someone to have some answers for me. I'm sad that it looks like egg quality is rubbish on top of sperm not being great.

I don't know whether we would consider donor eggs, we probably would but it's so expensive.

It's frustrating not having answers. After all my cycles I still don't have answers and it's hard to know what else to do. I'm 41 and feel like I have to stop soon. We can't afford donor eggs now. But I'm reading up on it in case I win the lottery

Not yet bugs!! You are 8dpo today and I would say not to test until at least 12dpo, and if you can wait til 14dpo. Get a sensitive test like a first response. I have got a line on 10dpo once but it was very feint. Hang in there hun. When is OTD? X

If you have a real want to be a mummy, then it's never ok really is it? X

bugs I've tested on 11/12 dpEC on each of my 4 cycles and got a faint positive each time (with internet cheapie tests). 2 of them turned out to be chem pregs, but I knew that as the lines were so faint. I felt happy that I had tested anyway, as it meant that they must have at least reached blast and had a try at implanting. I know some people prefer to leave it later so they wouldn't get their hopes up over a chem preg but I never felt that way.

bad put on half to 3/4 of a stone each time. And my weight is usually very stable. I managed to lose it again though (apart from on the latest round!).

one not a single one of mine ever made it to blast and as I posted a few days ago, the embie in me was 5 cell at 72 hrs, 6 cell just before ET. But it has made it to 10 weeks.

I'm hopeful for you bugs - was your blast slightly ahead?

I'm worried that none of my fertilised eggs did well. All 5 were slow. I don't know whether it was just luck of the draw or symptomatic of a bigger problem. I ovulate every 28 days and had plenty of antral follicles so I guess I would have to speak to the embryologist as to why she thinks the eggs were slow to develop.

No it isn't ok really stars. We won't adopt. You have to have given up pursuing a biological child for two years before you can start the process and I think by then they'd say dh was too old.
I guess we could save up for donor eggs, I don't really know how much it would be but can imagine it's extremely expensive.

I'm not going back to the hospital for a negative result. I can't see the point. I will test before and then ring them. They can't make me go!

Thanks euro. I'm glad everything is developing as it should for you, heaven knows it must be your time x x
That is hopeful. I just don't want to clutch at straws. I've been looking at dr google for 6 cell embryos on day 3 and trying to convince myself it's got a shot but I feel it already in my heart that it won't work.

I hope you gave a nice surprise one. How many dpo are you today?
Why do you have to go back to the clinic? For a blood test?

Donor egg cycles abroad are anything between 2000 euros to 5000 euros (from my research recently!) cheaper if you can move fast at the last minute. I would only do donor abroad as me and dh prefer the anonymity of the whole thing.

I have to go back next Friday for a pregnancy test. Fairly sure I can wee on a stick and draw my own conclusions in the privacy of my own home!
I'm 5dpo today. Two days past a 3dt.

I think it's too late bug, I've already driven myself mad!

It's throwing it down so that rules out fresh air! I have to go and try and find my friend a birthday gift in a little while so I guess at least that will get me out the house.

Thanks mumsnetters. Not sure id survive without you!

We've got heavy rain and gales here today!!!

And here! Don't lose hope yet One. Concentrate on the embies inside you. Also, Donor egg IVF abroad is actually cheaper than doing straightforward IVF here. I would go abroad to do my next fresh cycle. To either Spain or the Czech Republic.

Euro - with your chemicals, when did you start bleeding? Hope you don't mind me asking. Am now convinced I am going to have one after the four faint lines I have seen x

Bad, when is otd? How many dpo are you now?

Bad unless the lines are getting fainter I wouldn't worry too much about them x x

If you count EC as ovulation, then I am 16 days p.o today. Or 4 weeks plus 2 days pregnant. Am so tired and the kids are wearing me down today. I could sleep all day! X