Um hello, newbie, ttc, needing a place to talk to people :)

[Fruityb]

I've been reading the site for ages but decided to sign up as need an outlet and place to talk as ttc is quite secret and it's not something I have loads of people I could talk about it with. Plus I'm quite shy and my ovaries aren't something to bring up at social gatherings!
I'm 31, came off pill in October and me and boyfriend have been ttc since. I didn't know how long it would take to get back to normal as had been on pill for eleven years. Turns out it took four weeks, and am now on third AF since coming off, so annoyingly normal in one way! I'm getting my head round all this tracking stuff but don't want it all to get clinical with the fella as it takes the fun away!
So just wanted to say hi and hopefully share in people's stories. It's not all as straightforward as I always thought, and I'm always the one that would start panicking something was wrong with me. I'm pleased I found somewhere I can just write it down if nothing else.
So, hi, and hopefully can take some good advice away.

Binky - glad to hear af hasn't appeared. If it helps I felt murderous (as usual) and sort of still do!

Hi all! Still no AF today and I've run out of tests (this is a good thing I would have bankrupted us the way we were going) but DH and I are now 99% sure I'm pregnant. Will test in the next day or two. Bit scary! Assuming we're right, it puts the due date at early October, a day that falls between my 33rd birthday (well that will be a fun day!) and what would have been my gran's 98th birthday. Very auspicious timing.DH and I have already had an argument about the price of a bugaboo...

Kiki hope the sickness lets up! I am starting to feel queasy so I'm a bit worried I'll end up sick as a dog. When did it kick in for you?

Well that's ruined that theory for me Kiki! No not too long off until your scan at all really now. It's nearly Feb and time is flying I think! Thanks for the crossed fingers. I'm feeling better about this cycle because there's been no spotting or anything unusual so hoping my body has settled down a bit after coming off the pill. But obviously I know it still might take a while regardless.

Gennz- have you thought about ordering some sensitive tests from eBay?!

binky- good luck holding out until weekend and I hope AF doesn't show up!

well I think AF is on the way!! Gaaah after all that! At least I can have a wine or several tonight.

So weird, I think something must have happened for my period to be so late and for all the weird symptoms. My body is obv going a bit crazy!

Boooo Gennz that's so rubbish. Don't know why our bodies decide to turn against us when we're TTC!

Lesson learned for next month though. I think we should make a pact to not poas until at least a few days AFTER af is due and if it's a bfn we should presume af is just late until any further notice! Don't know about you but if I had to go through symptom spotting and several bfns every month I'd start to go a bit psycho!! Hope I stick to this because the tww is just about to start for me!!

Happy wine drinking!

Oh Genz, that's so unfair!! I'm sorry. I wonder if we're just very unaware of our bodies when we're not trying to conceive. I don't regularly note down my period dates or anything like that.

I think that's a good philosophy Helen. It's soooo tempting but I swear early testing is more trouble than help. Good luck with the 2ww (i would keep having sex just in case!)

Yeah I think you're right weebairn. The whole ttc thing does drive you crazy.

The last couple of days I've heard quite a bit about still born babies and it's really upset me. I know it's rare but it would be so awful.

Haha yeah we're going to keep going for a little bit longer!

Poor you Gennz :-( I really feel for you! My cycles have been 26/27 days for the last few months. This month I'm on day 31. POAS tomorrow so I'm hoping its a BFP otherwise I'm with you guys next month and will try to be a bit more relaxed. It's so frustrating [anger]

ahh sorry Gemz- let us know if it is the evil AF!

good luck binky, fx :-)

AF is due next Weds for me. I'm hoping she doesn't arrive and if not will poas next Fri, so 2 days late.

Good luck binky and misskgb- keep us informed!

Well the plan to DTD most days is not going great, been hectic these past few days with DP working lots of hours and me going to bed alone! So back on it today (haven't DTD for four days and on CD15 I think). I've been using OPKs, no positive yet But I'm guessing I'll ovulate late (if at all) because my last AF was 40+ days long. So the plan is just continue to DTD as much as poss until AF arrives! Hope everyone's okay

Helen totally agree re the poas thing! I'm not buying ANY until AF is late. I'm not too disappointed - it's only cycle one after all - but I don't want it to take too long as I really REALLY don't want to have a January or February baby - it's the heigh of summer here and being heavily pregnant would just be awful. So fx for next round.

After being all laissez faire and "we'll juts shag and see what happens" DH is now kicking into high gear "ok you need to get those ovulation kits, let's do this properly". It's going to be like a military campaign! I feel exhausted just thinking about it!

OMG it was a BFP this morning! Trying to stay calm and level headed as v early days. I actually dreamt last night I got a BFP but my reaction was a bit different to sitting on the toilet crying going 'I cant do this'! I am happy though just such a shock!

OMG binkybunny!!! That's so exciting! Wow, this is a very lucky thread. You must be so thrilled. Have you told your DH yet??

Eek!!

I am 6 weeks today and feel proper pregnant, hormonal and sick. I am eating very weird food at very weird times. Boobs haven't got bigger or sore yet which is a massive bonus, they were awful last time. Perhaps it's because I'm still breastfeeding.

6 weeks feels like a significant milestone so I'm very happy :)

Going to see my brother today and will pretend I have a virus or something! I will tell him but maybe not till 9/10 weeks. Feels a bit early still.

I have a midwife appointment for 19 Feb. My parents are also coming to stay middle of Feb so I'll probably tell them then. I wouldn't want to wait until the 12 week scan to tell my close friends and family, if there was a problem i'd like their support. But right now it remains my little secret :)

Yey!!! I actually had my fingers crossed whilst opening this thread hoping that it was your bfp!!! Congratulations, such good news What cycle were you on?

Gennz- I wonder if DH has realised how much he wants a baby after thinking you were pregnant for a few days?! Fingers crossed for next cycle for you

Sorry you're feeling rubbish weebairn. But I was speaking to a friend the other day who said she wanted to feel something in the early stages so she knew she was still pregnant which I suppose is something!

Yeah I think I would tell closest before scan but after a good few weeks. Do you know when you're due?
Yeah this is a very lucky thread isnt it. BFP due for me around 14th feb ao keep your fingers crossed!!

It's ok Helen - DP is being very kind and doing most of the childcare/housework and letting me lie down a lot. I am also on a very well timed holiday (my job is a bit nuts and physically/mentally exhausting so very grateful). I agree, horrible as morning sickness is, it's quite reassuring as well.

I am also VERY HORMONAL and shouted at DP for having a poo yesterday He is taking it in his stride. I also keep bursting into tears and saying "I don't think I'm really pregnant" and he says, "yeah, this isn't pregnant behaviour at all is it…" Haha!

Provisionally I am calling my due date 27 Sept (which is 3 days before DD's 2nd birthday!) but due to irregular cycles I won't really know until I get a scan.

That's valentines day Helen, it would be a perfect day to get a BFP! I will be thinking of you!

Thanka guys. It feels so surreal and scary. I just hope it sticks!

DH knew I was doing the test and I think the whole street will have heard my exclamation. I was so shocked! Going to do a different test just incase the first one was wrong though.

Helen I think it was 3rd cycle after stopping pill 1st one trying.

I can't believe how protective I feel though. Was meant to go snowboarding today but actually glad the weathers bad I really dont want to bump myself. I think I'm going to be a nightmare for DH

Weebairn sorry your feeling so sick I hope it doesnt last too much longer for you! It must feel nice knowing its there though!

Helen a Valentines baby would be soooo romantic. Keeping fx for you!

Congrats binky!! :-) fx for u n me next helen!

Congratulations Binky! I'm so thrilled you got your bfp!

Kiki were you surpised at your reaction? I've been hormonal all week but since finding out I seem to have cried rather a lot. Not sad tears I just can't stop suddenly bursting into tears!

I'm absolutely terrified now too of something going wrong. Trying to relax so going for a walk and trying to take my mind off it...not sure how successful that will be though

Oh, the spontaneous tears! Yep, I had them pre-bfp and they've continues sporadically since; and it really is for no reason most of the time.
I'm feeling slightly less worried now, but it's taken the three weeks since the bfp to feel like that. I'm hoping once I meet the midwife on Thursday my level of calm will improve again - I mean, I know there's nothing I can really do to stop things going wrong if they're going to, but I think talking to somebody face to face (other than DH) will help.

Enjoy your walk! Trying to take your mind off it really does help enormously!

I'm a pathetic mess who attempted a mini-shopping trip this morning and had to admit defeat after an hour and go home. I cannot wait for the nausea and horrific tiredness to pass (for a while!), but I'm clinging to the fact that the fact I feel dreadful is likely to be a positive sign for little bean. I felt 'off' since almost the beginning, but at 5 weeks exactly it went up a notch, and since hitting 6 weeks on Wednesday it's a whole new level of feeling grim - the only time I don't feel ill (and hungry...) is when I'm asleep!

oh massive congratulations binky!!!

I babysat my friend's 7 month old last night... she slept peacefully for a couple of hours and I was feeling all smug, so texted my friend saying "no need to hurry home, all under control here.". Ofc almost at that exact moment she kicked off massively, didn't need a nappy change, didn't want a bottle, didn't want to be carried or held - just SCREAMING and whacking me in the face. Eventually I put her back in her sleeping bag (which took ages as I didn't know what I was doing an put it on backwards initially - poor little thing was like "WHO IS THIS AMATEUR") put her down again and managed to get her back to sleep. Felt soooooo proud of myself but was the most stressful 40 minutes of my life! All this to look forward to girls!!