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TTC and still Breastfeeding? You are not alone - come to our bf-friendly cafe for a chat and some cake!

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MisterSafetyCatchIsNotOn · 04/01/2014 12:50

Over here all breastfeeding ttcers! Welcome to our thread - a place for us to come for support, information and to talk about the extra challenges of ttc while still breastfeeding (or expressing like myself).

I thought I should go ahead and start the new thread as the old one is about to fill up and I didn't want anyone to get lost (hope that's ok Waiting and that you haven't already done this and I just missed it!)

For anyone who is new to the thread or needs a reminder, here are a few links to some useful websites (thanks Waiting for putting these together)

kellymom.com/bf/normal/ttc-while-bf/

kellymom.com/bf/normal/fertility/

www.llli.org/nb/nbmayjune04p114.html

www.fertilityfriend.com/Faqs/Fertility-charting-while-breastfeeding.html

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weebairn · 19/01/2014 06:49

Hello! I thought I would hang out here more but obviously trying to conceive makes me mental so I thought I'd give myself a bit of space from the internet Grin

Anyway, my period is due today (well I think it was due yesterday). I don't feel remotely pregnant. I don't feel remotely premenstrual. Possibly it will be a bit late, my cycles aren't entirely regular yet, and I think I ovulated around the 8th (just a guess though).

I hope I ovulated at some point. I feel like I am ovulating. My cervical mucus and that changes throughout the month. I've had sex practically every day (enjoyed that bit!!) But this is only the first month of trying since having my coil out.

I'm trying to just carry on as normal and what will be will be. I'm still having a little glass of wine with dinner. Still having sex. Trying not to think about it all…

Eeek!!!

weebairn · 19/01/2014 06:51

Ooh thanks for adding my stats MisterSafetyCatch!!!!

I could say -
weebairn - ttc no 2, 15 month old DD, periods returned after 1 year, feeding morning and night, first cycle after coil out

junebaby2011 · 19/01/2014 14:25

Hi everyone-haven't had a chance to read through this thread but hopefully will later on. I lurked on the old thread and posted a couple of times but now we are actively TTC.

My dd is 31 months and feeding lots-day and night. Periods returned at 25 months and we started TTC three cycles ago. First month TTC I fell pregnant but had an early miscarriage at 5 and a half weeks. Have had two more cycles with no luck! I am 37.

Hopefully this month!

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TeacupTempest · 20/01/2014 08:53

Hope everyone is doing well and feeling positive.

Isn't it funny how quickly ttc takes over. I was going to be all laid back and chilled but actually I am over analysing every single twinge in the 2ww. Due on the 28th but that's an estimate based on my regular cycles before conceiving DD. Who knows this time.

I have always been an early tester as I am impatient but I am off on holiday for just over a weeks now so won't be in the UK until the 29th.

Better finish packing!

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MisterSafetyCatchIsNotOn · 20/01/2014 12:06

Thanks for the support Painty. I am actually in the middle of reading the hunger games series (a christmas present from DH) which are quite addictive to read although not particularly upbeat! I have trouble putting a book down once I have got into it which is not helping with getting work done but at least it's a distraction from the 2ww.

I don't mean to feed the obsession, but I have got a load of pregnancy tests free on amazon vine, have you heard of it? Basically if you write enough reviews that people rate as helpful amazon invite you to be a reviewer and you get to choose from a list of free stuff every month, they send it over (also free) and then you just have to write a review. We have had all kinds of things from them, baby bottles + breast pump, a big box of wipes which lasted about 4 months, pregnancy tests (cheapies & digitals), ovulation test kit, nappies and lots of non-baby related things too.

Hi junebaby, nice to have you with us. Very sorry to hear about your miscarriage, I hope this is your month. Where are you in your cycle at the moment?

weebairn have you tested or do you plan to? Or just going to wait it out a bit longer? No AF is a good start anyway! I'm sure I won't be able to resist if AF doesn't arrive on Wednesday.

Enjoy your holiday Teacup, hope it's a good distraction from that last week of the 2ww!

I stupidly went and bought pregnancy vitamins yesterday to start taking, am getting my hopes up far too much this month but I can't seem to help myself Blush

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junebaby2011 · 20/01/2014 15:58

Hi mister and painty-thanks for replies. It's so nice to know there are others going through the same.

We do sound similar painty!

I am currently on day 5 of this cycle.

I have gone and purchased OPK this month as last cycle was 25 days instead of my usual 28-30 so must have ovulated earlier than I thought...hoping it is that and not a short LP or messed up cycles due to MC.

Will keep following thread and keep fingers crossed for BFP. For everyone. It does become an obsession!

radiatormesh · 20/01/2014 17:15

Good to hear from everyone (and welcome to the new people!) and glad that I'm not the only one who struggles to not POAS if there's one in the house. I had a whole bunch and threw them out a few days ago: too tempting... Only internet cheapies though: not the £££ ones!

Very jealous of the holiday :)

No idea what's going on here. I'm fairly sure I O'd last Sunday/Monday (EWCM which has dried up, crazy skin break-out for the last week and hot ears at night (weird, but true - a symptom of progesterone for me!)). I've been feeling pretty d*mn pregnant since, to be honest: nauseous, throbbing boobs, hungry etc etc. Yesterday afternoon I had 10-15mins of feeling like death (just like I felt once during the tww with DS, which is when I think he implanted) and have had constant dull backache for the last 48hrs too. Yesterday evening I got a few pinpricks of blood. Then this morning I got a big lump of, basically, snot. Yellow-tinged snot. Which looked like a mucus plug. DH and I had DTD last night but I've never had this after sex before (plus it sank which apparently semen doesn't??). Have had constant underlying nausea all day today too...

So I'd like to be hopeful but there are so many explanations other than pg I don't quite dare to be. Really hoping it's not just the progesterone though: I don't want to feel like this every cycle before I get my BFP!!

g0ldie · 20/01/2014 19:26

Yes teacup ttc does take over very quickly!
Good luck radiator sounds promising!
First day back at work done and we all survived. Was so pleased to see ds.
So stopped taking cerazette just over a week ago and now have read lots of horror stories about how long it can take to get fertility back! I hate the uncertainty of it all. Oh well. What will happen will happen regardless of how much I stress about it.
Welcome junebaby!

weebairn · 20/01/2014 19:38

Hey mistersafetycatch - I'm trying to wait it out. My philosophy is a 5 week miscarriage would be very upsetting for me, whereas a 1 week late period wouldn't be. If period's still not here by the weekend I'll test. I'm trying not to get too excited. Conceiving on the first cycle seems too good to be true (4 cycles last time - but that was after coming off the pill - I wasn't half so obsessed last time!)

I've only had three periods since they came back, so I'm not too sure of my cycle. I could easily be having a 35 day cycle or something. Last two were 28 and 23 though and I'm on 31 days now...

I have stopped drinking wine (normally have a little glass with dinner) after a dream I had a baby with lots of facial deformities last night! God, talk about a guilty subconscious!

-toasts you all with lemonade-

weebairn · 20/01/2014 19:50

Good luck junebaby and I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage, that must have been tough. Hope you are surviving the night feeds! I don't do that any more, (which is not to say I don't have to get up in the night !!)

Still getting used to the acronyms Painty and rather like the one swi!! I have visions of poor Mr Painty being pounced on in a sick bed Grin

teacup I was also adamant I would be very chilled, that I'd had one baby so I knew I could do it, I'd have relaxing sex for a year and accidentally find out i was pregnant at some point --- nope!! Every twinge, as you say! Enjoy your holiday!

I think you guys all know a lot more than me about TTC!! My regular sex plan is the one for me for now - but like Painty says so so tough when you are all ill.

radiatormesh wow, that's a whole load of symptoms! So hard to know if anything is significant isn't it.
Last time I got pregnant I wasn't charting anything at all or even aware what time of the month was good to have sex. I think I had symptoms from the first day of my missed period though. Nothing before that, I don't think. Boyfriend keeps asking at the moment if I have symptoms, and I say, "well, I'm shattered, and I get upset easily…" - then we both laugh, as if that is any different to the normal state of affairs around here!

g0ldie I was on the Pill (not a progesterone one) for 17 years and got pregnant after 4 cycles - hope for the same result for you.

Thanks for the welcome all. I will let you know if period arrives!

radiatormesh · 21/01/2014 22:52

How's everyone doing? Any news??

I'm even more confused today. This afternoon I had a few spots of blood followed by really bad pains right in the middle of the bottom of my lower abdomen (basically - behind where your pubic hair is just above your pubic bone). Maybe 5mins of these followed by two huge waves of nausea. And now everything is back to normal.

So I have zero clue what on earth my body is doing. My last AF was four weeks ago, but I had a scan two weeks ago which confirmed I hadn't yet O'd and from OPKs/cm/skin break-outs etc after, I'm sure I didn't O until the Sunday/Monday (i.e. 8/9ish days ago). So if this is a period I have a very short LP (which I haven't had so far post-baby: although my AFs have been crazy light, they've been 14 days exactly after I've had O pains).

So I don't know. Since my test sticks are now in landfill somewhere, all I can do is wait...

Did people find that their bodies were as dramatic as mine seems to be in getting back to normal, or were they calmer about it all??!

eggsnbeans · 22/01/2014 08:01

Hi all, thought I'd pop in and say hi and BFP wished to all Grin (esp Painty Smile )

Pg going well but DD self weaned at at 16w Sad I had no milk anyway and BF was really starting to make my skin crawl! Even now the thought of BF the baby is giving me the hebes Confused so really hoping it's just the pg hormones talking! Early on I was really committed to tandem feeding, but hormones got the better of me. I read adventures in tandem feeding from LLL which reckoned that only 30% BF women make it all the way through pg!

Saw upthread someone was asking about boob changes during 2ww... I had none until I stopped BF! With DD my boobs were huge and sore during 2ww every month, but this time nothing! Was quite worrying really.

Is it wrong that I'm already thinking about ttc no 3 Blush ??? Haha super broody Wink

mrsdiddlydoo · 22/01/2014 08:16

Just a quick hello from me everyone. Will have a proper read and reply later on.

Well done G0ldie for surviving day 1 of work. We've our 2nd settling in session today. Had to go pick DS up early from his first. Never felt so guilty for enjoying myself before. I had assumed he'd be fine until nursery called.

And Radiator - my body is acting pretty crazy in this whole getting back to normal phase. I had such early symptoms being pregnant with DS that the hardest bit so far is trying not to symptom spot like crazy. The first symptom with him was some crazy short lived pain that I ended up thinking was wind, but on reflection could have been something to do with implantation. You're doing really well with the whole waiting business!

Right this isn't doing breakfast or getting us to nursery!

KokoLoko · 22/01/2014 17:54

Hiya everyone!
How are you all? I'm sorry I've not had a chance to catch up with you all but hope it's going well for all and good luck to everyone Smile
I'm super confused at the moment and need someone else's opinions so I'm hoping you can all talk to me about this.. So DS2 knocked the feeding on the head over the weekend, which was sad but not unexpected as he really wasn't very interested anymore and preferred talking as he fed and looking around. On Tuesday I had some (sorry TMI) brown stained mucus in my pants and a little bit of blood when I wiped. My mind is in overdrive but I've had similar in 2 of my 4 pgs and it was implantation bleeding! However, I've been doing internet cheapie opks and they've not shown I've oved so it can't be can it?? I did an internet cheapie pg test yesterday andgot a bfn but I did another one today and I'm sure if I squint just right there might be a line?? I've just looked again and I think it's wishful thinking tho, lol. I'm getting a few cramps as well so it might just all be a precursor to AF reappearing anyway, I don't know.
I'm literally going mad here and just needed to 'talk' to someone.
I'll keep you all updated but please keep your fingers xed for me!!
Koko

KokoLoko · 22/01/2014 18:33

Oh, I was wrong! Bloody mucus was on Monday. And just to add I did the pg test today at the same time as today's opk, so 3pm ish. The opk was negative and I'm sure I read somewhere they showed positive for pg as well as ov. I really need to stop getting my hopes up!!

radiatormesh · 22/01/2014 22:20

Koko - have you been doing the OPKs properly? Only ask because my best friend fell pregnant the month she didn't ovulate, according to her OPKs: it's really easy to miss your surge...

If you implanted Monday-ish then you could be getting positives by now. It does sound like it could be IB, or it could just be everything reacting to the stopping feeding. I totally get how it's so so hard to know.

I'd POAS again tomorrow.

radiatormesh · 22/01/2014 22:23

Sorry - missed the bit about the OPK being negative at the same time.

OPKs do turn positive in the presence of hcg, assuming they're the same sensitivity at the pg test you're using. But if you only implanted Monday you might still need a few more days to get enough hcg. You've still got reason for a bit of hope I think.

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KokoLoko · 23/01/2014 11:16

Thanks radiator, sounds like we're in similar situations Smile

It looks like it was just wishful thinking on my behalf, fmu gave a bfn today, and DS2 is back on the feeding. It was fun to dream though and fingers crossed that we all get bfps soon!

manderel · 23/01/2014 14:39

Hi all, sorry have been MIA but don't often get a chance to go on the lappy and typing on my tablet gives me a headache as the keyboard appears to be a bit wonky and I end up with awful spelling mistakes. This is a bit of a long entry sorry, but don't like my chances for this month due to my idiot husband (he's not really an idiot but am still a bit mad at him!).

Anyway, last weekend we were away at a family wedding. We managed to DTD on Friday night. Am pretty sure I ov'd on Sat as nipples were sensitive when feeding. We were going to try and DTD after photos and before the speeches (which they had before the meal) except they bloody brought the speeches forward by half an hour so we lost our window Angry. So inconsiderate!

Anyway, the meal was lovely, DD was so well behaved, but she'd had it by 7.30 so I went back to our room to feed her. DH was meant to come and relieve me at 8.30 so I could go back to the celebrations for an hour or so. At 8.30 there was a knock on the door but I couldn't answer it as was mid-nappy change upstairs. I knew my FIL was downstairs in his room so I thought he'd answer it. Wasn't sure if he had but carried on putting DD to bed (turned out this was hubby as he'd eventually remember the next morning). At 9pm was wondering where DH was. At 9.30 realised DH was probably drunk. I was getting tired so got undressed and into bed. At 10pm there was another knock on the door. DH, drunk and swaying. I was FURIOUS and asked him what happened to coming to relieve me at 8.30. He reckoned it had only been an hour since he left. I burst into tears, ran upstairs and got back into bed, crying my eyes out, telling him I couldn't believe he'd forgotten about me etc etc (am not usually one for tears but was soooo upset!). He was full of excuses then told me I could still go and enjoy the party, but I was so tired by that point (and also an emotional wreck) that I didn't want to go back out. Told him he'd ruined my night. And of course I was also upset because he was too drunk to DTD.

The next morning I was still really upset, so no DTD then either. I was presented with a huge birthday chocolate cake at breakfast and tried my best to look impressed but was still feeling so emotional, firstly because I'd not been able to enjoy any of the evening activities, but also because I knew we'd missed several good opportunities to DTD.

We went out for my birthday dinner that night, by which time I was feeling slightly better. When we got back to my in-laws I ended up going to bed at 10.30 and he said he'd be in shortly (we'd previously agreed to DTD that night). He eventually came in at 11pm and I was a bit mad again but tried to keep it in check as I asked if we were going to try and have a quiet shag. He said he thought we'd be too noisy so didn't think it was a good idea (his mum is going deaf btw), then he said I'd said I didn't know when I ovulated anyway so did it really matter since we DTD so much the prev week. We'd actually set out a plan for DTD this month which included the entire weekend so am annoyed he either didn't listen to me or was too tired to DTD but didn't want to admit it.

So now am in the 2ww but not that hopeful really. I really wanted to be up the duff before I went back to work so I think that's why I am so emotional about it this month (go back mid-Feb).

Anyway, sorry for my rant. Fingers crossed for everyone, esp those with all the crazy symptoms. Sounds like your bodies are getting ready for action!

mrsdiddlydoo · 24/01/2014 14:26

Manderel - don't apologise for long posts! It sucks when plans don't go to plan. I would have been fuming if in the same boat! I had really hoped to be upduffed before I go back to work (start back week after next) and it's not going to happen quite yet, but I know it will eventually. Just means more time for stinky cheese and wine this weekend. At least you managed to SWI on the Friday so you never know. Could still be your month! How was the chocolate cake btw? Huge chocolate cake at breakfast sounds fab! I could do with some of that now!

weebairn · 24/01/2014 16:14

Hello lovelies

The lots-of-sex approach has worked for me! Got a BFP today 6 days after missed period. So far feeding absolutely fine (better than when my period comes, she got so miserable…)

I am very happy. Thanks for support.

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