New year, new thread, fresh start and a brand spanking new injection of a hot new batch of posifrickenity! This is the year where our wombs will be comfy and our babies plentiful! TTC after MC.

[Sal1977]

2014. The year of the rainbow baby. We pledge to be positive (most of the time). We pledge to cry less, shag more and swear lots. This is the one wannamummabees!

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

eewww but lol at crunchy knickers

sal I second the permission to poas on Monday

parsley fx for you. No matter how much we tell ourselves not to get our hopes up we all do. I waited for 79 days for af to show post mc and was convinced twice during that time I was pg -wrong! Then again I convinced myself cycle 1 after was the one-wrong again and I was gutted. Cycle 2 and positive opk today (the joys of poas in loos at work) so dtd tonight and tomorrow and prob sat (dhs birthday). Already done 3 days in a row as opks haven't generally worked for me so will need to find some enthusiasm from somewhere

I'm so trying this moon cup thing for ttc. It's about the only thing in project desperate I haven't tried (along with then syringe method) and I can't always lie down for ages after sex so here goes! Idea used to gross me out but I'm learning to man up now --still can't check cervix position though as still too grossed out by it.

sal POAS tomorrow not Monday!!

parsley hope the witch is a no show and I'm with you on the hope / hopeless feeling each month. We can't help but hope but at the same time feel so hopeless, not helped by the raging hormones of either pregnancy or impending period.

Thursdays are my Fridays... Too early for wine?

No way am I POAS before 14dpo. I hate the thought if saying I'm 3+ something weeks if I am knocked up!

The sucky feeling went away after eating some of those breakfast biscuits so it could be the beans I ate last night !! Can you believe that I'm 36yrs old and ate baked beans ( the posh multi bean type) for the first time this week!!! What a weirdo!!

I'm with you on the not poas before 14dpo sal as tempting as it is!!
Baked beans are fave of mine.... can't beat beans on toast! Yummy!!

Eww! Never have and never will eat baked beans!

Miss Hobart, you're missing out!!

fedup - I'm also feeling hormonal, touch of rage and irritability! But no ovulation, AF not due for over a week! (if it's coming)

hello ladies,

sorry i have been quiet...been away and have nothing really to say lol!

lots been going on and welcome to the newbies, hard place to be but you are well supported here.

im 8dpo and very much with you Sal on the no poas...i find it crushing and prefer AF which is weird but true for me - don't have any tests in the house so should be fine! got a +opk again this month so am quite sure af date on 14dpo. no symptoms what so ever for anything so who knows,

hope you get some good news sal and parsley also for those with the mood swings mine have taken three months to return to normal post mmc,

xx

There must be something in the air as I'm miserable today as well parsley, miss and fedup. I find myself longing for the days when I happened to notice when I ovd without scrutinising every symptom and I tested because 'oh hey look it's about 2 weeks since I ovd, maybe that's why my boobs hurt and AF hasn't appeared'. To top it off I said to h 'I wish could go back to not thinking about it' and he replied 'you can' Um yeah. Thanks for those pearls of wisdom. Ugh posifrickentivity shall resume tomorrow.

Also. POAS on Mon for def Sal!! Fingers crossed!

That's also as annoying as 'just relax' penguin and have to admit my husband said the same to me and just wanted to punch him.
Another birth today, sounds terrible but as I read the text I actually sighed, rather than be happy and woooop. That's terrible isn't it?! I think it might be more because this is this persons third and she pretended to be on the ttc hell journey with me but it actually only took her 2 months ttc with this one instead of 1 month with her other two. Plus I was cross as when she came over once, she was actually pregnant but pretended she wasn't and I felt so stupid talking to her about my ttc woes and opening up to her which she claimed to identify with / be in same situ when she was secretly updiffed!! Pah! Ok, now I have ranted that one out it kinda explains the 'whatever, sigh' response that birth got.

Sal you are hereby ordered to POAS on Monday!

I'm having a hard day today also, so I'm breaking my dry Jan tonight as its my birthday tomorrow. The logic works for me anyway...

Ugh. And the FB update is 'we now have 3 gorgeous girls and are thrilled to bits' talk about rub it in faces of people like me.....

Two months! I'm not surprised you wanted to punch her fedup. Yes, my DH doesn't get why I can't just turn it off either. He think I'm not trying hard enough or something. Yesterday I remembered the days when I wasn't thinking about it all the time - I wonder what I thought about then?! So much free time...but I know I worried about other things. Not such crap things of course, but I'm trying to teach myself not to worry more generally now. Going to the guided self-help NHS CBT sessions to try and change, and determined to get in to the habit of doing mindfulness sessions every day. I want to focus on work again, and on my marriage. All this TTC is taking the fun out of life.

Fedup there's only one thing I find harder than the rubbing it in your face stuff and that's when people post incessant complaints about having a baby/children. I totally get there are days that it's hard and everyone has a bit of a moan now and then but it's really hard to bite my tongue when it's ALL THE TIME. One in particular, wife of H's friend has 2 children, perfectly timed of course, and you'd think she was the first person ever to have a second child and that she was forced into having a second baby the amount she moans about it!

FedUp - That's exactly what happened to me! We were 'in it together' while she was actually upduffed with no problems within 3 months, then didn't tell me until the day before her first scan while for the previous 3 months we'd seen each other a lot, and I'd even straight out asked her at one point. Felt really fucked off! Over it now though

Sorry to hear I'm not the only one in the glum club today! Bloody hormones, why do they do this to us!?

Anyone POAS tomorrow? I think we've had one BFP a week since the new year haven't we? (Ok, it's only two weeks but still!) Let's keep it going!

I thought it was over it missh until this child was born!! Just shows I'm clearly not! I just felt she lied to me, that's what hurt more than her actually being pregnant and not me!

Oh I know... penguin. Yes it is hard but people need to understand we would give a arm (was going to say both arms but you would need at least one really to hold a baby) to be in their shoes. Fuck off I actually say to my phone!!

Right. I've had a word with myself and am making a conscious decision to chill the heck out. Might be a good thing not to get pg my first proper cycle after mc but if it happens, it happens. And if it doesn't that's ok too. Me worrying about it isn't going to make it happen any faster.

Might be a good time to resurrect my gratitude diary - just noting down three things I am grateful for each day. Helps me to keep a bit of perspective.

Ladies,
I Think we all need a little cheering up! And this has definitely done that for me! Crying with laughter as apposed to sadness!!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/1968244-Are-you-ALWAYS-sex-ready?pg=13&order=

On another note... a friend of mine who knows im ttc... she was also but alas she's pregnant, proceeded to tell me the horrific 'just relax' today. And .... 'have you tried laying with your legs in the air?' !! Of course I fucking have!! I spend all my spare time on mumsnet so know all the apparent tricks of the trade!! Also wanted to scream...'ive been fucking pregnant too'! But didnt. She doesn't know about mc. She meant it all in the nicest possible way... but still

Hope I don't get shot down in flames for this, but if a friend asked me if I was pregnant I would try to deflect it or deny it if I was still under 12 weeks. Even though it would feel deceitful. I know it's hard to feel as though someone has lied to you but I wouldn't want to tell anyone until after 12 weeks and would just hope no-one would ask. In fact when I was pregnant I missed a couple of social events in case people asked because I didn't want to have to lie

I do agree that others telling you just to relax etc is awful as well as all the Facebook stuff.

Snigger. Only read first page but clag chat and toothpaste make me laugh...! Tee hee, penis beaker made me cry with laughter so I'm going to read some more of this one later too...

That's ok deus it's a personal thing but I would tell my best friends about my miscarriage so I tell them in early preg too, I wouldn't lie and say I'm not pregnant as I would want them to be there for me too if I miscarried (if that makes sense). These are good friends I'm talking about too, and it was the pretending they were in the same situation as me that made me feel patronised to be honest! But I also understand why she did it, just wish she hadn't!

I've decided that this time round it'll just be dh and I that know until I have first scan, which for me here in amsterdam is 10 weeks.
It was too heartbreaking having to say about the mc. It's possibly easier for me being in a different country to them.
Although when it happens i know i'll prob want to tell everyone!