New year, new thread, fresh start and a brand spanking new injection of a hot new batch of posifrickenity! This is the year where our wombs will be comfy and our babies plentiful! TTC after MC.

[Sal1977]

2014. The year of the rainbow baby. We pledge to be positive (most of the time). We pledge to cry less, shag more and swear lots. This is the one wannamummabees!

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Urgh, did tax return on Friday sal. Unfun, and totally forgot (also this year) to put money aside to pay the bill. Cleaned me out.

DH and I both get acupuncture. He's a giant wimp with needles but is fine with it, says it doesn't hurt. Most of them don't hurt me, but sometimes, honestly, they do. Sometimes a lot. Particularly the womb-wards ones. I think that indicates something needs fixing though...and it doesn't hurt enough to stop going, and it does stop hurting quickly.

Sal I've been getting acupuncture for two months and I can honestly say it's never been painful. Once or twice I've felt a small jab around the ankle area which has make me say ouch but that's it. Most of them I can't actually feel. I enjoy having half an hour to just lie down and not think about too much.

Morning all! And welcome to newbies, hope your stay is a short one but as you may have gathered from my terrible rants over the weekend, this is a great place to vent!

So weekend from hell over. DH has been so great and patient with me, haven't cried that much since the actual mc but I'm guessing there were a few af hormones responsible too. Looking on the bright side, it means I get 2 attempts at ttc in January as opposed to one (how's that for posifrickintivity?)

May main concern now is trying to preserve my friendship with my pg bestie. It's so awkward, but more so because she's holding stuff back so as not to upset me. Obviously I'm riddled with envy but hope I would never let that show.

I know just what you mean sundance - things aren't the same between my sister and I as they were. We're still really close, but there's a big elephant in the room that's stopping us talking about the things that matter most to us. I know she's not talking to me about her pg as much as she would if I wasn't having trouble with it, and I'm not talking to her about how painful this is, which I used to do before she got pg. It hasn't affected our relationship on a fundamental level, and I'm sure it won't affect your friendship, it's just sad that we can't share these huge moments with each other fully . I hate that I'm not as over-the-moon excited by her pg as I always imagined I'd be, and not as closely involved as I hoped I'd be.

OH MY GOD!!! Two lines...two lines...a very very faint second line. My heart is thumping, I can't believe it. I'm shaking so much. I never thought I'd see this again. Oh my god.

Ahh that's fantastic news!! I'm so happy for you and really hope it's nice and sticky

Thank you! Sorry, no thought filter on that last post...I don't know if it's there...though I'm sure there was one, it's now almost invisible. What does an evap line look like? Trying very hard not to get my hopes up, also still suspect it might be ectopic as can feel something on my RHS. Will try not to poas until the morning but I doubt I'll succeed!

Deus - Bfp on the 22nd Dec, mc started on 27th, finished 4 days later, my cycle it's usually 30 days +/- a couple of days, been testing for ovulation for the last five days, nothing yet, don't usually have any ovulation symptoms so not a clue of if/when it'll happen, expecting AF towards the end of the month, just twiddling my thumbs either way!

Having bloods done over the next few weeks.

Amazingly I'm not stressing! Have lots of stuff planned for the next few months, including lots of relaxation/pampering me time. I've done my time putting everything else on hold to get a baby! 18 months and three major depressive episodes, time to let it go and have some fun!

Seasides & Sundance - be honest with your friends/sister, I've done that with mine, actually told them how envious I am but also happy! I've told them all about my experiences with mc, and ask them about what's happening to them, symptoms etc, I'm more excited than them! The more you do it the easier it gets, honest!

Tell them you want to hear, talk it out, it'll be much better!

Oh and Seasides - Eek! Brilliant!

Ooooh, Seasides Fingers and toes crossed it's a true BFP!

Hmm. I took another test, of course, and now convinced the first was a glitch. 2nd was flatly negative. Will take another with FMU if af doesn't turn up before then.

You're right, of course, missH - I was thinking that as I typed. I should clear the air with her.

Stay positive seasides. Repeat the TTC mantra, 'you're not out until AF shows'. No more tests until the morning now

Ooooooh seasides keeping everything crossed!!! except legs as it's our time to get busy

Welcome Newbies. As others have said, sorry you find yourselves here on this rocky road but you're good company for the journey here.

Er you

FFS phone! Quit posting before I'm ready. You're IN good company for the journey here was what I meant to write!

Seasides fingers and toes crossed right now! It's going to be uncomfortable to type or walk until I hear your next POAS result...

I had an appt with my Gynae this morning, and more bloods taken, but he seems to think they'll all be normal. In fact he thinks I'm tickedy boo for my advanced years, with good levels of FSH. He thinks I might be someone who is "super fertile" (should have visited Dr Google before posting) and I will carry any old deformed embryo for as long as I can. This means I have a 40-50% chance of miscarrying any pregnancy...

No harm in keeping on with supplements, acupuncture (yes, it tingles rather than hurts Sal) and TTC, I just need to be prepared for more losses before a success.

With this is mind, we are happily SMEPing away, and I got a possie OPK at lunchtime, so we're cranking up to our 3 nights of going through the motions lust. DH is having performance anxiety, poor thing!

Super-fertility link (thanks to Dr Google) here

Bloody hell Seasides you nearly made me piss myself clearly at 7dpo it's a pg sign!!!

Remain calm. Or, go to nearest chemist and get First Response wholesale sized pack of tests and squeeze another wee out!!

Thank you everyone :-) Trying and failing to pretend it never happened. Analysing every twinge, of course. Have lit a fire and am burning the Christmas tree to cheer myself up. I realise that sounds like I'm dancing round a fire pit in the middle of the room, but it's in the grate! Not that mad yet. Really need to find some work concentration from somewhere!

Keeping everything crossed Seasides - this is certainly turning out to be a more succesful thread!

MissH - I had already planned to do just that, sent my friend another text this morning and will be seeing her at the weekend. I just hope I can get pg soon too so we can go through it all together.

TannyLoo - that's interesting stuff. Scary that you might be more prone to mc too though, is there nothing they can give you to help make those good eggs take over?

Oooooh seasides good luck!!! And fx xxxx

Good luck Seaside fingers crossed for you!

Fingers crossed Seasides!

Wow! Busy day on here!

Seasides how exciting!

Tanny hope you found the appointment reassuring. I have heard of that super fertility thing before (when it was on the news and all my relatives sent me the link to the BBC Health website!).

I have acupuncture, and have been going since July. I hope it helps. It doesn't really hurt, only a little bit, sometimes. I find the opportunity to relax in a darkened room very nice.

I found things very difficult last year when my sister got pg and then I was as well and I lost mine. I was very open with her about how I felt and she was very understanding. In the end it was all very dramatic as I was round at her place when she went into labour all of a sudden. I ended up being her birth partner on the bathroom floor with a couple of paramedics (who arrived with 5 mins to spare). Of all the possible people to be there, it had to be me! But it was amazing.

DPO9... tick, tick, tick....