Just catching up on all the chat from the last few days, it’s been busy in here! I've been stuck on the Sofa of Pity for the last few days, feeling a bit too glum even to post. I wish I could just escape my body and the whole ttc saga for a short while at least!
barking the postcode lottery is very unfair. There was going to be a move to a national policy for IVF but it would have led to increasing the numbers of people eligible beyond the point of affordability for the NHS and so they chickened out and left it under local control. It is a bit of a catch 22 - if your area offered more cycles, the waiting list would most likely end up being much longer to accommodate the increase in people having second and third cycles so there would be lots of people who would miss out due to the waiting times. The other option of course would be for the NHS to invest more in fertilty but that is never going to happen when there are issues like the obesity epidemic. I also live in a one cycle area 
happy where are you that there is an 18 month waiting list? It should be 18 weeks between referral and treatment time for all referrals in the NHS and I don’t think IVF is any different.
gill I think the success rates are at least 2 years behind – the latest data I could find was from 2011, and they are improving all the time.
rp doh to the ipad damage, but best just to pay up and put it out of your mind quickly!
funky, pip agree that being told ‘relax and it will happen’ is VERY annoying. I had this recently from a pg friend and I was ready to throttle her – apparently she conceived after she stopped thinking about so much, and this was despite being very overweight and her husband being the unhealthiest man I know. I also find it a bit upsetting that she was insinuating that it is somehow my fault that I am not pg, and that I could just sort it all out by doing a bit more deep breathing or something! I wouldn’t have dreamt of commenting on her lifestyle before she got pg, or if she had struggled to get pg.
parsley sounds like af weeks is the same here. A few tears, followed by blue cheese and wine!! Had a couple of glasses over the weekend to drown the sorrows.
sid and kuma sorry you are both feeling blue. Today is nearly over at least!!
I have had a shite day and am feeling grouchy. Feel as though I can't get away from babies - facebook, organising baby shower, pg colleagues everywhere. My current distraction from it all (making stuff) has become about babies, as I have been asked to make a patchwork quilt by a friend who is having a baby. Just keep telling myself that it is good practice but sounds a bit hollow at the moment. Oh and tried to book my hsg but they refused to book it in advance because I hadn't called on the first day of my cycle, even though I hadn't been able to get through any earlier. So have to wait another month. grumph.
blimey, I realise I've just written an essay. Still, I do feel a bit better now!
Hope everyone is ok!