About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 3)

[Lucyjojo]

Part 3 for a chatty lot!
3 is the magic number, good things come in 3s, so here is hoping we get plenty more BFPs.....

Well, am definately not stressing, trying to have plenty of sex at roughly relevant times of month. Not used opk before - last time cycle was straight in to regular 29 days so easy to roughly predict ovulation. This time seems a bit odd - shortish cycle and less predictable start to periods so should probably give it a go - what do I need/do/recommendations please?!

Sorry about the bfn kt. It may be too early. When is period due?
Swede how are u feeling?
Mrs - your sister really is out of line. Hold your head high and be the bigger person. Another ds is exciting. I'm convinced I'm having the same. As ours will be 21 months apart in some ways two boys would be better so they can play. Though I might have to go for no three...ahh!!
My 16 week midwife appt in 10 days. Desperate to hear the heart beat. I get so anxious pre the feel it move stage. Telling work next week which I am not looking forward to!!
Welcome newbies! Goodluck! Who will be our first 2014 bfp?!

Thanks Lucy! Yes I am really hoping for some extra fertility now. Got to get something good out of this me thinks Now I am visiting DD's god parents on their farm, it's good for the soul.
Toothpaste, I am feeling much better for sure. Not feeling so sorry for myself today which is a clear improvement.

Hi all,
Toothpaste - Are you 16 weeks already? I'm 17 weeks and one day. I know exactly what you mean, when you can't feel the baby move yet and not many other symptoms it's easy to forget you're pregnant and so reassuring to see/hear the heartbeat. I think I'm going to have to have a word with myself as I'm becoming scan addicted or obsessed. It was amazing to see our baby moving and the heartbeat last Monday but now I'm itching to go for my 20 week scan and it feels so long to wait until the 28th jan! It's too expensive to keep going for scan after scan though really.
Toothpaste are you thinking another boy too? Ours will be two and a half year gap so also nice. Just think, I'll have a 16 and 18 year old boys! I think we'll be stopping at two DC.
Hungry - how's the sickness?Are you planning to stay at home after your next baby? If so we can be stay at home mummy buddies and must get together with our babies. I wonder how far we are from each other. Are you near Manchester?

Sorry posted too soon!
Hello and welcome to Flight! I hope you get your BFP soon.
Hi Monster - yes my sister is not very nice but she has done all of this herself. Cramping may be a good sign? Can that be a sign of ovulation? I'm not sure but Hungry is our expert.
Hi Lucy - your cool kids club sounds good. I did miss smoked salmon on Xmas day and Brie with crackers and prawns.
What's everyone up to this weekend? Looks wet and dull here at the minute. Still full of cold and awful sore throat for me but plodding on.

I had smoked salmon on Christmas Day! You don't have to avoid it. :-) I'm not a fan of soft cheese either, so that didn't bother me.

I'll have to get part time work, mrs, but I'm hoping for it to be at weekends mostly so we don't need to pay for child care.

And yes, near ish to Manchester. The train is about 80 minutes...it's apparently the oldest trains in the country in daily service on the Southport - Manchester line!

The sickness hasn't really shown its face since lunch yesterday. Starting to worry because my symptoms aren't as bad. :-( I'm also aching on the right a bit, so might ring the EPU on Monday for advice.

Toothpaste, are you finding the sex out at your next scan? Is your sister going to find out? How's she feeling now?

Interesting what you had to do with work, mrs, in relation to your part time request. Mine is to work from home 2 days a week. But they were negative from the word go, so I know what their answer will be.

There's a very useful website here for those looking to find out probability of getting pregnant per cycle:

www.countdowntopregnancy.com/tools/age_fertility_calculator.php

I had a heart-stopping moment early when I had a few tiny specks of pink after going for a wee and wiping, but I think it might be because I have thrush. I'm hoping that's it, anyway... I've got an appointment with my GP on Wed so hoping I won't have any more spotting until then, if I do I guess I'll have to ring the midwife centre and see if they can help.

Hungry I know how you feel worrying about symptoms decreasing, I haven't even got many yet and still I'm thinking "I'm sure my boobs hurt more yesterday"! If it's any consolation, my friend who's 5 months pregnant now was really worried as she only had a few weeks of sickness and then suddenly nothing, but all was absolutely fine.

Ooh Metal that is useful and interesting! This month I have a 79.03% chance of getting pregnant which sounds pretty good to me!!
Hope you have a clear run until your GP app, and all the way through to 9 months too! Spotting is normal in early pg anyway isn't it?

Hungry I really wouldn't worry, I know it's so hard not to but there is nothing you can change about any of it. Just take each day as it comes and enjoy being pg right now. ( and you can throw that advice back at me in about 2 months time hopefully!) It's a bit like symptom spotting when ttc in a way, you are paying way too much attention to your body and trying to focus too much on symptoms that probably come and go as normal. Try and relax!! When will you have to go back to work then if they make you go back? Could you not just take the time off inbetween as annual leave? Or surely apply for parental leave- I was under the impression you could get up to 15 weeks is it of unpaid parental leave every year.

Mrs there really isn't long to go until your scan. You have all the dates I was hoping for when we started ttc. I was hoping to finish work end of feb and have a baby born in may/june so there would be 2.5 years between my babies. Ah well, the best laid plans and all that. Not long to go now for you til you can see your little boy again and then hopefully you will feel a bit happier and relax into the pg a bit more once you can feel the LO squirming around lots!! 16 and 18 sounds like it will be fun for you!! Do you think you will be tempted to try again for a girl at some point in the future? I would like to not have to go back to work after baby #2 so we can definately be stay at home mum buddies!

Despite what I said yesterday I am struggling to relax about ttc. AF has only just finished and I am worrying already how I will feel if it doesn't work again this cycle, I am just so desperate for another tiny baby. 79% though so fx!!

It's daft, isn't it? I'm back to feeling yucky now. Not sick, just urgh.

I had a speck or two of blood about where you are now last time, Metalhead. I put it down to, ummmm, TMI, a vigorous poo!! It didn't happen again anyway.

It feels wrong by saying hopefully it is thrush, so hopefully it's nothing to worry about. Sounds better, doesn't it?!

The problem is, when I go back it's my qualifying weeks for pay, so I'll miss out on increasing my mat pay if I take parental leave. It's a bit of a pain really!

I'm sure I can cope with 6 weeks. Fingers crossed.

I'm hoping to piss them off soon so they decide to pay me off. If they haven't responded by Monday regarding the meeting I'm going to raise a grievance. That'll annoy!

79% is good odds. Fingers crossed. :-)

And I agree, you're right about thinking too much about what our bodies are doing. I need to stop doing it!

Haha, thanks hungry!

I've got my fingers firmly crossed for you Lucy, and 79% are pretty good odds! You're right about symptom spotting, first you do it for ttc and then during pregnancy, it's mad!

I'm back to work on Monday and have already started thinking about when the earliest date for starting maternity leave would be...

What's your due date, Metalhead, based on OV? I'm basing conception as the day after my positive OPK as I didn't have a proper period and therefore LMP to use!

Based on my +opk, my due date should be 10/11 September - just a few days after my 35th birthday!

My nephew's birthday is 10th...good date! :-)

Or maybe you can share a birthday!

How many weeks are you now metal? Has the spotting continued? I only ask as I had some around 6 weeks and it went as soon as it started with no futher issues.

Wil reply to everything else tomorrow! !

I think I'm only 4.5 weeks Better, but I haven't had any more spotting since yesterday, thanks for asking!

Oh and Lucy, I meant to say if you're not doing it already you might want to try putting a pillow under your bum for half an hour after dtd this cycle. I know there's no scientific proof it helps, but I did it when I conceived DD and also did it the one time we managed to dtd after my last +opk, do for me it definitely seems to do the trick!

I'm going to call boy for you, Metal, I think. :-)

I'm feeling crap today. Yay! And I'm so thirsty overnight. I'm sure it wasn't this bad last time. Maybe I need to drink more during the day?

Well, if the thing about male sperm being quicker swimmers is correct you might well be right Hungry, seeing as we only managed to dtd once on the day of ovulation! I think according to dates last time DD was conceived quite a few days after our last shag.

Sorry you're feeling crap today, but at least it's a good sign.

That's what I'm basing it on, Metal!

With DD we DTD the 3 days before the smiley and the day of. This time it was 3 days before, 1 day before and the day after, so it wouldn't surprise me if you're all right about it being a girl as we've really gone with the same pattern.

Time will tell. :-)

Will you find out the sex, or wait til the end, Metal?

Oh I'll definitely be finding out, I'm far too impatient to wait 9 months!

It's weird, I'm impatient in every other aspect of my life, but I love the surprise of finding out at the end!

The way I see it is like finding out what you're getting for Christmas beforehand. I'd be momentarily excited to know, then gutted that I'd ruined the surprise for myself!

I can understand the desire to know though. :-)

Can I join you? Just decided to ttc for number 2 - number 1 took over a year so I could be here a while.

Hello ladies, how is everyone? Had a busy morning cleaning the house, took our Xmas tree down and DH took it to the tip with a load of cardboard boxes from Xmas. Just giving DS a bottle and hoping to take him to the park soon, then going to come home and make a Sunday dinner. How's the weekend going for everyone?
Hungry and Metal - Please don't be worrying about anything. I know I'm bad but I think I'm slowly getting better and learning to relax a bit more. I don't think a tiny but of pink spotting will be anything to worry about Metal unless you are rhesus negative blood type like me so I would have to go to hospital for anti D injection.
Hungry - apart from my growing bump, I have no other pregnancy symptoms. Oh and tiredness and need to wee more often but that's it . Re work, I'd try become a bit of a nuisance and they may well pay you off. I think my place of work eventually gave me part time to shut me up as I was talking about a woman's rights to return to work etc. my problem is that I don't think I will manage working 3 full days with two children and I don't think my mum will want to look after two for me. My mum and dad love DS and have h two days a week for me and my DH has him one day a week while I'm working but I think my mum and dad are looking forward to the break at end of feb. It will be hard saying bye to two wages but DH is planning to do more hours and we will just do our best, plus child tax credits maybe more and child benefit. Don't think we get much at the moment with two wages. Would your work not agree to part time Hungry, maybe 3 days like me but working two from home if you pushed for it?
Lucy - I'm so sorry you feel it's difficult to relax about TTC and I wish you had got the dates you wanted. I really mean it when I say that I never expected to fall pregnant as quickly as I did and I expected to wait months for periods to return first like it did when I was TTC with my DS. It will happen for you soon, I know it, and then we will be stay at home mummy buddies! Fingers and toes crossed for you. Are you DTD every day? I don't know if this helps but we DTD a lot in the mornings but tried to DTD every day and not every other day. I know time is an issue and more difficult with one baby/ toddler but we just had quick sex for those reasons.
Welcome to Purple! It is different every time when TTC so don't assumed it will take ages this time. I was. 7 months first time and two weeks this second time. How old is your DC?

Hi Purple!

And no, mrs, my job is definitely full time only, end of. Which is why I've asked to work from home two days a week.

I'll definitely be a nuisance, don't worry about that. :-) They'll be sick of me very soon. :-)

Sounds like a productive day for you. I've just ordered a new wardrobe for our room and we are going to move it around to make more space. We are going to have a good clear out too as the house is rammed at the moment and hard to keep tidy. Drives me to distraction.

Our house has been bought by a buy to let investor, so we don't have to move. We do have to make it more able to take baby 2 though. So that's our aim now. If it's twins - I really hope not!! - then we will have to move!

Hi ds is 4 months - oh is mid 40's so we decided not to wait long.

Hungry - do you fancy giving mr some tips our house is. chocka