About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 3)

[Lucyjojo]

Part 3 for a chatty lot!
3 is the magic number, good things come in 3s, so here is hoping we get plenty more BFPs.....

CD24 even. And luteal!

If you did OV on 26th, I'd be expecting a 38 day cycle ish.

Hungry your a walking pregnancy calendar haha!
kt fx for a bfp soon and no I won't find out what im having I like the surprise .

I learnt it all with DD as I wanted to know everything possible about conception to increase my chances. :-)

We won't find out either. It's awesome finding out at the end!

Congratulations on your boy, Mrs!

Kt I'm keeping my fingers firmly crossed for you.

Thanks hungry I get so confused with it all, do you count the day your most deffo likely to ovulate from there then? One app said between 19th to 23rd I was fertile, then another said 20th to 26th, 26th being the day I was most likely to be most fertile, so I was unsure. Was a BFN this morning though obviously not missed AF yet, so could still be early, but I’ve now run out of tests so at least I can’t test anymore until I really need to!

donna and hungry keeping it a surprise till the end is lovely we did with DS, but when we do have another one I will find out next time, as I have kept pretty much everything of DS’s lol so need to know if I need to buy loads more stuff!

kt I see the advantages of finding out and due to dhs unemployment I have been tempted to fimd out so I can get afew bargins in the sales but I just love the whole its a ........ at the end lol x

donna has your DH managed to find many jobs to apply for? At least theres lots of neutral things around! Yep I loved that part too, everyone was so emotional after i gave birth that they didn’t even click to check what we had! I shouted out its got a willy its a boy!

Kt, yes, your luteal phase very rarely alters in length. Or, if it does, by no more than a day either way, so the length of time between OV and AF is always about the same.

When you OV may change which can make your AF 'late' or 'early'.

I can see the convenience of finding out too. But I also love the surprise at the end. And so few people wait, when a few years ago you'd have had too, so I think it's just nice to keep something back!

Happy new year everyone!! Hope you all had a lovely christmas and new year. We were so bloody busy we've barely had time to sit down! Little miss was amazing on christmas morning though so best christmas ever here!

So sorry to hear about your loss swede how are you?

Ooooh kt I so hope that you get the BFP this time.

mrs another boy! Congratulations, a little brother for you ds!! I can't believe how far on mrs and donna are now!! Time flies.

How are things with your husbands unemployment donna?

Oh hungry I'm sorry your sickness is so bad! I can truly sympathise as mine was awful last time from 7-16 weeks and then still not great after that. How are you coping?

Im 10 weeks today, seems to have whizzed by so far, hoping time till the scan goes fast too, LO is 2 the week after next so that should aid time flying! Then the week after is my scan, I'll be almost 13 weeks but the original appt came through for the day of dds birthday so it had to get moved to the following week!

In terms of pregnancy symptoms, this time round is totally different to the first time. Fatigue like I've never experience this time but no sickness at all, quite bad headaches this time, which I never usually get. My tummy is a lot bigger this time than it was last time too, already in the maternity trousers which I didn't resort to until 15 weeks last time! Still have a niggling feeling that I'm going to get to the scan and all is not going to be well but as I've had no bleeding and my tummy is getting bigger I'm just putting that down to paranoia for now!

Sorry for anything I've missed, can't go right back to read everything!

Hello everyone and thanks for the congratulations on a little boy! Donna - yes I'm very impatient! My 20 week scan is 28th of this month which is a while to wait and we just really wanted to know. I know to find out at the end would be a nice suprise but i don't think I'm a person who could have waited. Plus it's always nice to see your baby an extra time. Oh funnily I got told at the scan that baby is an average size, not big or small so not sure what the midwife was on about when I saw her on 18th Dec and she said baby felt big. Also I have a low lying placenta which I did have with my DS but in most cases it moved by the time you're due so fingers crossed otherwise it's a c section and I'll be going to Hungry for some advice as I don't know much about those.
Hungry - I'm sorry you are feeling so rough. It must be even harder looking after your DD as well. I hope it doesn't last long for you. Have you heard from work Hungry, do you know what's going to happen there?
Donna - sorry that you're feeling poorly too! I've started today with sore throat and cold. I feel like I'm swallowing grit. I won't take anything while I'm pregnant though, or not sure what you are allowed to take. Donna are you taking anything?
We have told people we are having a boy but names are getting kept a secret from everyone except you guys on here as you won't tell. Not telling family as people are too quick to give their opinions. I like quite a few boy names, Oscar , Henry, Max, Nicholas, Jamie are my faves but of course DH needs to agree. Any thoughts ?
Kt - how was your Xmas? Interesting you ask about my sister, well I was and still am very suprised by what she did and sadly I can't forgive her. We haven't spoken for weeks but she knew as everyone did that my DS was having a party on the 28th Dec and she knew to come with her 4 kids as they are my DS's cousins and he loves to see and play with them. My mum had told her the time of the party etc and to come but on the morning of his party she decided to kick of and cause a load of trouble by deciding that she wouldn't come to his party and that none of her kids were going. I was so upset and actually cried on the morning of his birthday as it upset me so much that she would take it out on my little boy. I rang my mum that morning to ask if she knew if my sister was coming and that's when I found out , because mum told me. In the end, she sent just one if her 4 kids with my mum and dad to the party but wouldn't let the other 3 go. I have always made an effort to go to her parties and for her kids so I am extremely hurt. She had no reason not to come as there were so many people that she wouldn't have even needed to speak to me. I was sad for my DS. Unfortunately I can't forgive for this and now am having nothing more to do with her and won't unless she ever decided to apologise. If my Ds had been older he would have been devastated that his cousins weren't at his party. Oh and I text her after my mum told me she wasn't coming. I text to say I thought that was disgusting of her and that they were all welcome and to basically please come for my DS. She replied and said she would send two of her kids that wanted to come and basically that the other two didn't like me anymore sort of thing. She sent one child. She made herself look very silly anyway as everyone wondered where she was so I didn't make a secret I of saying she didn't want to come. Anyway enough on that but as you asked Kt.
How is everyone else?
Donna - how's your DH doing work wise and when are you finishing work or don't you know yet?

Mrs, I'm waiting for the outcome of the meeting from work at the moment. They seemed to think they have 28 days when it's meant to be 14, so we shall see what happens there.

It's going to be a no, I know that, so then I'll have to appeal and have another meeting. How exciting.

But I suppose for 6 weeks I'll cope.

Better, my belly is massive. Not helped by my destroyed abs which hadn't healed before getting pregnant again!

And I'm kind of coping with the sickness. And yes, it's hard with DD. I feel better if I'm actually sick, to be honest. If I'm not sick I feel utterly hideous all day.

When's your scan, Better? Mine is 27th Jan. I'll be 11+4 then, in theory.

Mrs, I'm so sorry about your sister. It sounds like you've no choice in what you do. :-( But you're not the one who looks bad. Has your mum said anything?

Happy new year all. Hope you are well.

I told myself I wouldn't think about trying to conceive too much, but I'm so excited. First cycle since I had my coil out. I'm around half way between periods so enjoying lots and lots of sex. Thankfully DD (15 months) is sleeping quite well at the moment! We get her to bed, and then have made it a habit of having a shag before dinner.. . I feel very loved up. I don't like the idea of working out when I ovulate or anything I think it would stress me out. So DP has promised me sex every day :)

Would be awesome if I conceived first cycle. It took 4 months last time, but that was coming off the pill. If I don't then we have a spa day booked for February to look forward to instead!

mrs your sis sounds like a complete cow! you know that old saying you can pick ypu friends! dont let her upset you anymore xx
dh has beem to the jobcentre today and left feeling violated he hates it and its starting to really get tp to him. on the plus sode hes has 3 fences to repair/replace with all these storms so fingers crossed he can start on his own soon.
my head cold seems to have fizzled out to nothing thankfully but I did take some paracetamol yesterday hope everyone else is ok xx

Hi Hungry - I had a similar problem with my work after having DS. I wanted to go back part time after my 12 months maternity leave but they said full time or nothing and had various silly meetings at work and then had to appeal. The answer was still no so I asked for a six month career break. After that time they rang me and said I could go back part time. I think sometimes you have to really push for what you want with employers. I hope you don't have to go back for 6 weeks, how silly!
Donna - yes my big sister is a complete cow and no I don't have any choice. My mum wasn't happy about what she did but is keeping out of it all. I hope your DH finds something more permanent soon. Good that he has a few jobs to be getting on with.

Sorry to hear about what happened mrs she sounds evil! can’t believe your own family member would treat you like that! glad the party went well other than that though! She is obviously jealous.
Happy new year to you too better! wow 10 weeks already, everyones pregnancies seem to be wizzing by! You would of all had them by the time I get pregnant at this rate!

Ah kt I know exactly how you feel! Think we are about the only two left from the original thread who aren't up the duff It does feel like everyone will be having babies before we even get our bfps. Sorry you got your bfn this morning, but it is still quite early days for you, I was wondering the same about when you count the first ov day from too....it's just down to the good old waiting game really isn't it
Congrats Mrs and can I just say it I knew it!!!!!! Two little boys, that is just going to be so cute, I bet DS will be absolutely thrilled. Hungry I would like to call yours too and say it will be another DD, although we will have a bit longer to find out about yours!!
Mrs I'm sorry you're still having issues with your sis, it's not nice when family does things like that to one another. Family can be so cruel and it feels so much worse doesn't it when it's someone that supposedly loves you causing you to hurt. I've got a friend who has pretty much severed contact with their sibling too, they are very stubborn and headstrong so while it's the older one that should apologise, I doubt they ever will. I hope one day in the future your sis realises what a mistake she has made and tries to make amends with you. Hope you managed to enjoy DS birthday anyway regardless, bet he is so overwhelmed with all the presents and celerbations of recently! My DD is still wondering if she'll be getting more presents to open...
I'm feeling a bit of a mixture today. Sad that the festive period is over, DH has just gone back to work tonight, I go back to work tomorrow and it's back to reality now. We have just rearranged our lounge though and I am being a big new year cliche and going on a healthy eating/living spree, so also feeling hopeful and optimistic for this year. AF has just about finished so it's back to DTD for me. Feels like it's been ages after my last cycle ended up being a week longer! I'm going to try my hardest to just focus on getting fit and healthy, I could definately do with losing some weight, rather than obsessing over ttc and hopefully that will get me pregnant.
Sorry I can't reply to everyone there is a lot to catch up on!

Thanks Donna about the pee sticks, that would be amazing if you are happy to get rid of them??? I have pm'd you my address xx

Hey Lucy, I am also in the 'not up the duff' club Feeling better and better. Body seems to be on the mend so fx we can start dtd soon!

Thanks Kt and Lucy for your kind and sensible words, it is very sad and most of all sad because my DS probably won't get to see his cousins now. Who knows what will happen but certainly what she's done at my little boy's second birthday is something I feel is just over the line. I do think she is jealous.
Kt - I'm sorry I missed that about your BFN and I'm very sorry but you and Lucy WILL both get your BFP 's soon and well before us pregnant ones are ready to pop. Don't you worry because it has to happen for all of us, it's just that with nature we can never tell how long these things will take. I have everything crossed for you both and hope you are both next!
Lucy - yes you were right all along about another boy! Did your DD have a lovely Xmas then and obviously loved her presents? We did still have a really good party, she wasn't missed but most important of all is that my DS had a good time. I have two very close cousins, one has two boys and the other has two boys and a girl and they all came lid my cousins and their husbands, my auntie and uncle, my mum and dad and my DH's mum and dad.
Hungry - can I just say that I am with Lucy and think you are defo having another DD! And your scan is the 27th and mine is 28th. We will text.

I'm thinking girl too...only another 30 or so weeks til we find out! :-)

And yes, definitely text!

And I missed the part of the message about your BFN too, Kt. If you did OV on Boxing Day it's too early yet. Keeping fingers crossed.

Hi all, hope you don't mind a new joiner. We're TTC DC2 and would be good to chat as haven't told anyone IRL. DS is nearly 4 so a bigger gap than some - worked for us money and space wise.

Found it really easy to get pg with DS as only took 3 months and didn't have any expectations. On month 5 this time and feeling less positive for some reason so would be good to pick your brains on what Ishould do to get the best possible chance. Sounds like a few of you have been successful so far!

mrs, sorry to hear about your sister. It sounds like such an awful situation to be in. Exciting to hear about your gender scan though.

I'm very bloated this evening, but not sure if it is just a delayed effect from all the rich food at Christmas. Had some cramping but not wanting to get too over-excited after last month. Seems like an eternity before I can test!

Fingers crossed for you too Kt.

Glad to hear that things are settling down for you Swede. Hope you are able to start TTC again soon.

Fx for you Swede, let's hope you can catch some of the fertile hormones still in your system. sorry I didn't mean to miss you out of the not pg club, just meant Kt and I were the only ones from thread 1 still not pg!! It's definately a cool kids club though, all you pg ones should be jealous of our boozin' and raw meat ways !!!!
Welcome Flight, I know what you mean about feeling less positive, it took me about 1 month to conceive DD, now onto cycle 7 for number 2. In a very weird way though the longer it goes on the better, as the average is anywhere between 6-12 months right, so, once you get past the 6 month mark do you increase your probability of getting pg??! Hungry I bet you know the answer!!

Are you using opks Flight? Having lots of sex? Not stressing out about it too much? I think that is probably all you can do.

The probability increases every month as most couples with normal fertility will be pregnant after a year. As to the figures, I don't know! :-)