Eggcellent Egg Buddies - a thread for those IVFing in November, December and January

[eurochick]

New thread. Welcome back to all the regulars. Welcome to all the newbies - please come and join us if you are IVFing or thinking about. The regulars are a mine of information at this point!

Do you realise that this will take us through a year of egg buddy threads? I believe Karbea started the last one around Xmas time last year for those cycling in 2013 and I immediately jumped on it as I was about to start my first cycle in January. Blimey.

Well done Nobeer - I had 17 too - one arm ran out after about 13 vials so we had to swap to t'other arm - I was amazed it was all able to be squeezed out as normally I'm terrible at giving blood but it's official - drink a litre of water before giving blood makes a massive difference

I feel so badly for those with insensitive family and friends as I've been really lucky with mine. Generally speaking my mum had a track list of insensitivity but with our infertility journey she's been fine thankfully. The only person who was bad was my old boss who complained about me taking time off for a miscarriage and said I wasn't to do it again!!!

Ps can't remember who said it but one of the reasons why I liked this group all when I first joined was that it was anti-babydust bollocks! Just writing the b word makes feel a little but vommitous!

Well done on all the bloods Nobeer - you are a brave warrior woman! I feel a bit better today on the drugs but very sore and flaky eyes. Dunno if that's related or if it's lack of sleep. I was a right sweaty Betty in the night. Thanks for thinking of me Wish and Fab and whoever else it was - sorry I can't scroll up to check. I feel a bit guilty moaning about my mum, because I think it's just her way. She is a tough no-nonsense Geordie who is always the one to say 'pull yourself together'. I'm a bit like that with myself, to be honest. I get fed up though, because I am seen as the 'coper' in the family. My sister is the anxious type and I just know that my mum would be more sympathetic if it was her going through IVF. Enough moaning from me. Fab - I can't believe your boss said that to you. If my boss had said that to me after any of my losses I would have screamed at him to 'Go f*ck himself'. I'm assuming it was a man who said that. How awful. Although I don't like my Headteacher, he's been great with IVF and the three weeks I had off after my most recent tube removal. When I say great, he just finds the whole situation very awkward and can't really deal with it, so mumbles 'you must take off whatever time you need' and tries to get rid of me. I think it was also me who joined the thread due to the lack of vom-inducing baby dust. Eucchhhh! Hope everyone is doing okay today. X

Fish how are you doing today? I was so saddened to read your news. I'm still keeping everything crossed for you. I agree with everyone that you have been so strong xx

Euro I'm also keeping everything crossed for Thursdays beta test.

Choco don't you dare go anywhere missy! We need you here to share your knowledge and wisdom!

MaryP is Friday your OTD?

Nobeer I'm impressed at your self control, I would have had the churros after all those blood tests!

Bad down regging made me so angry/emotional/over sensitive. I remember when the nurse told me I would have to DR for another few days to accommodate other patients. I burst into tears and when she gave me a tissue and patted me on the shoulder I yelled "don't you dare touch me" I've never been so embarrassed in my life. I apologised straight away and starting crying again! She laughed it off saying most people get a bit crazy on the drugs. I was super thirsty as well.

YY to a dummies guide on how not to upset your friend/family member struggling to conceive. I would add a chapter on what is not acceptable to post on Facebook. Weekly bump pictures are not good. I also hate those "like if your children are your world" or "life is nothing without children" thanks so much for that one DM and DSIS!!

Sorry for not being around, just done 5 double shifts at work so have not been on mn in a while.

baby dust, baby dancing, hubs, bubs etc all that crap makes me want to vomit

Fab your boss is a jerk! Can I ask how much nutmeg etc you put in the hot milk? I tried it when I was stimming but not sure I did it right. Can I use vanilla essence?

Bugs protein, water and milk are most important during stimming for egg quality and to help with OHSS. I started it all during down regulation to get in the right frame of mind. I made sure I had at least 2 litres of water, a litre of milk (I had it in smoothies, milkshakes or hot drinks). I tried to have chicken/turkey/pork and eggs/cheese every day. Brazil nuts are really good but I'm allergic to nuts unfortunately. I also made sure I had 5-10 portions of fruit and veg.

Brooker how's it going?

Wish I sympathise with you working with children, I'm a paediatric nurse and I also lock my emotions away. I really have to turn it all off to manage at work. I work with nearly all women as well so there is always a few pregnant colleagues at work.

Thinking of sending you all some baby dust for Christmas ducks to avoid barrage of flying insults

Hi cups! I'm good thanks. Have our bfn review on Friday so putting war & peace together at the minute. I may get short shrift from my cons though. He is a v'eh no nonsense, straight talking kind of person . I shall be wearing my wilful head on Friday (a la Worzel Gummidge). Your 'don't touch me beatch' story make me smile - sorry. I felt exactly the same when DR'ing & tried to avoid everyone for fear of such a reaction. Damn drugs.

Hi all,

We've had it confirmed - blighted ovum. Empty sac still going strong as are the pregnancy symptoms.

I'm planning on surgical removal as I cannot handle another natural and neither can mrfish.

Thank you all so much for the support - I cannot tell you how much it has meant to us. I don't think we will be having another cycle as this is just destroying me. I probably will not stick around as I feel like such a bad omen but I will pop in to cheer you all along!

Thank you for the pm's and the good wishes. To those of you cycling etc I wish you all the very best and to those pregnant I wish you the same and reassurance that I am your 'one' so you shouldn't worry.

Fish.x

Fish - you poor love.

Badhair - I must clarify that although I've had two ectopics I have only lost one tube. The remaining tube is totally mangled though hence the ivf. I kept a log when I was doing ivf just so I could look back next time and see. I remember down regging made me very sweaty at night and grumpy! It wasn't terrible though. Oh and you asked my age. I'm 32 - I had my first ectopic almost exactly 2 years ago (emergency surgery with repair), second ectopic 8 months later (which resolved) then scheduled tube removal, hycosy etc and on to ivf. Completed first ivf cycle last month.

Fab - I just need to say your boss is outrageous!! I'm lucky my work have been great (in contrast to some parts of my family - although they mean well).

Brooker - I hope your review goes well. Do report back. I have mine in January and I assume they will just say it's luck - try again. I have no real questions and expect little but do let me know if you have any essential suggestions.

fish I'm so sorry. Take some time out, forget about ttc and regroup - that would be my advice. Big hugs. x

Fish I am really sorry. Of course you will need time away from all of this, we all understand that. You are not a bad omen please don't think that. Life is fucking unfair at times. I'll be thinking of you and your DH xxx

Ooh good luck for Friday Brooker, I only had 2 pages of questions for mine

Thoughtful sorry I forgot to say hi! Sorry to hear about your ectopics.

Ooh cups I'm allergic to nuts too! I had loads of sunflower and pumpkin seeds. And loads of egg and cheese. In hindsight, I should have drunk loads more water. So definitely do that bugger.

Oh Fish - I am so, so sorry to hear your news. I have tears in my eyes typing this for you. It's so bloody unfair. Be kind to yourself. Life is so damned cruel sometimes. Thinking of you lots xxx

Thoughtfulone - it's still rotten luck having two Ectopics. My second one in January was a lot less serious than my first one and they offered me the Methoxdrate chemo shots instead, but said it might not work. The consultant told me that I'd be at high risk of a third ectopic if she didn't take it out though, so I think I just howled 'take the fcking thing out then' and had the operation that evening. I had my first Ectopic in Melbourne, visiting my DP's family whom I didn't know very well. It was much worse than my second one though and I harboured a good deal of guilt for wrecking everybody's Christmas, although it sounds ridiculous to think I felt like that now. I hope your review goes well - ( yours too, Brooker*!) I think they'll probably tell you it was bad luck and that you should go again. Do you have any frozen ones left? At 32, you still have a really good chance of it working for you.

Marypops - is it your turn next to test? Keeping everything crossed for you. And you, Euro for your blood test xxx

Cups - meant to add that your story made me laugh as well. That is exactly how I feel right now. I feel well arsey! I've just got an e mail from the Head to all staff saying we 'must keep the learning going until the very end of term' which basically means no fun or watching DVDs and eating Quality Street with the kids I teach. I feel soooo angry about that! Irrationally so! I fully intend to watch DVDs with my pupils on the last two days of term and will snarl at anybody who dares challenge me. Grrrrrrrrr

Fish your post really touched me. Am thinking of you and Mr Fish.

My OTD is on Monday but we have the MIL arriving on Saturday and there is no way that I could cope with that and a BFN so have decided to POAS on Friday. That way I'll have some time to get my head round whatever the outcome is before the festivities begin.

euro how are you doing today?
brooker good luck for Friday
nobeer I would so have had that churros. You must be a saint
Cups you had me in stitches!
badhair hang on in there!
thoughtful hello! I don't think we've met but slap me if we have
Fab hello my dear

Good luck, Marypops xxx

Hello Maryp - I've been around since August but mostly a lurker. Thinking of you for tomorrow. Could handle MIL at a time like that you are a great wife!

Oops I mean Friday!

So sorry lovely fish xx

fish my heart goes out to you. Take care of yourselves and try not to make any plans at the minute. Join us when/if you can. We'll be here when you're ready. Huge hugs xx

Lovely fish, words fail me so all I can do is give you an enveloping cuddles and a hair stroke. Xx

I'm thinking of you too, Fish - bloody awful for you and Mr Fish. Xxx

Hope everybody is feeling well today. AFM - am still feeling irritable. My DP used up all the milk this morning and I felt like crying! How ridiculous. Am heading to hairdressers to get my highlights done. The reason my moniker is Badhair, by the way, is because pregnancy loss has caused me to lose my natural curls - it's really odd. Lots of women's hair changes during and after pregnancy but mine went straight after my first loss. I bloody hope they come back!