TTC no 3? Anyone just started / about to start / about to start thinking about it?

[bonzo77]

I am absolutely not going to go nuts about it this time like I did for no 2. Because my kids have each other and won't be alone looking after their ancient parents in years to come. But a 3rd would be a bonus. And part of me doesn't care either way, and another part cannot wait for a lovely little snuggly new born. And part of me is enjoying getting my nights back, and my body, and is worried about the money, the lack of bedrooms, the need for a bigger car, having another miscarriage, or high risk pregnancy, a 3rd CS, a baby in intensive care. But then 5 months of no contraception and nothings happening..... The baby is 11 months, and we said we'd start putting more effort in once he is 1....

Anyone in the same boat? Want to hang out and worry / pretend not to worry?

Bonzo77, after a good chat with my lovely gp yesterday, he had reassured me that even if I do carry the gene it's def not irresponsible to TTC no. 3. Due to my mums previous health history, the likelihood is her condition has been caused by other illnesses and less likely the gene. Sorry your family has gone through similar worries.

So I think we're going to go for it. The testing sounds very in depth and stressful and I don't think I can live my life like that.

My lmp was 20/2 and my cycle is around 26-28 days, are we too late to try this month? I had a lot of cm around CD10.

I've read the whole thread and will post my bit tomorrow - just wondered if anyone had news?

I'm 35 and with 45yo DP. I have a 6 & 4yo from previous relationship.

When we got together I didn't think we'd have more children. DP was fine with that, then as time went on we got broody. Chemical pregnancy about 6 months ago shook us up a bit.

About to start TTC again but I'm really wobbly for the following reasons:

My 2 are hard work. They have no SEN and are with their Dad a fair bit but they drive me nuts and I struggle with the chaos and noise.

We'd likely have to change cars

We're done with nappies/bottles and stairgates

Finances are good and getting better. My heart sinks at childcare costs again.

I love spending time with DP on our own as a couple....

God I really need to think about this.

It's just that he deserves his chance to be a father. He's an excellent step-dad to my 2.

tranqulity I think you're doing the right thing, not that you need the approval off a random off the internet!

Welcome marvelous. I also struggle with the chaos and the noise, well, more the noise really. If we have another boy it's going to get a whole lot louder! We are still deep in nappies and stairgates due to DS2, bottles less so, as we're past sterilising. Maybe the father of your DC's is no longer your DP for a reason, maybe a baby with your current DP will be a whole other ball game...in a good way. It's not an easy decision, I think be guided by the way you felt after the CP.

Here, no news really. 8 DPO, AF could come any time from friday, though I'm hoping that the B6 will put it back a bit, what with needing a longer LP etc. We DTD at all the right times this month, and replaced our usual lube (sorry TMI) with something called Balance Active which DH got, it's meant to support the swimmers better than normal lube.

right ladies. look at this. Please!

Just seen the other thread. I think yes, there is a clear line x

Well AF showed. We are both fed up of trying. DH says if we're having another he'd really like to get on with it, as he's 40 and wants to feel like there is an end in sight regarding little children, nappies, disturbed sleep (little does he know how teenagers will disturb our sleep with their staying out late, etc...). Anyway, I'm 36, no contraception really since having DS who is 15 months, and definitely been trying at least 6 months, but I think actually more like 8. So I have a doctors appointment in a couple of weeks. We've agreed that we'll exhaust the NHS options, but not go private, or do anything that increases our risk of twins. I reckon I have a blockage.....

Oh wow. Sorry - was so sure it was a bfp

Hello all. Sorry about the afs. Sore boobs for 3 days now which is unusual for me and getting random waves of nausea. Also generally feeling a bit odd. Af not due til end of next week and we only dtd once around the right time this month. Trying not to get my hopes up but will feel better once I know one way or another.

Hi max. I really hope any hopes you have are not in vain! Fingers crossed for you.

Hello bonzo etc al! Sorry I have not been around and bonzo I missed your photo, but it sounds like it was not the news you were hoping for anyway. FWIW I can see a line on it! On CD16 here, of what must be cycle 9 (!), so we have been dtding. Still haven't been to Drs. Even more spotting this month and I think it is my body ageing. I did do one of those menopause tests (don't know how accurate they are), and it was negative. DH is still onboard but as each month goes on, the idea of a newborn is less appealing! If we had got pg when we started, then I would be about to have one! And if I'd got pg when we had stopped using contraception then I would have a proper baby by now. Scary. A couple more attempts for us I think, then I'm drawing the line. Good luck max. Good luck at Drs Bonzo.

I had too many things to discuss with the dr, 2 of which were higher priority than this. She made me rebook for the ttc thing, so will see her next Monday.

Not sure what CD I'm on. Or how long we've been trying in earnest. I'm still temping, and this month we are dtd every other day. Too tired for more than that, and it should theoretically be enough. DH gets sore, as do I (see my other thread I'm on a the moment). Weirdly I've had ovulation pain on the wrong side (the left) this month. Wtf is that about?!

Hey everyone, can I join pls?
I'm 32, DH 34, we have a DS 6 and DD 2 and on our first month TTC number 3! He's finally agreed that we can have a third so I'm very excited!! I have long cycles of around 34 days so have stopped the pill, had a bleed and am around CD 10, last two babies were conceived on cycle 4 so. Hoping it will be a fairly short wait again! I just need to keep DTD longer in my cycle, that was my secret last time ;)
Looking forward to chatting to you all soon! Xx

hi passthebiscuits, course you can join! I definitely agree that DTD for longer in one's cycle works. My last 2 pregnancies were definitely the result of that (one was a mc, but YKWIM).

Damn it! I've started to bleed mid cycle, I'm on day 10 now. It's old blood and a tiny bit I.e. Doesn't warrant a tampon etc but should I count this as CD 1 or stick with CD10? I can't have ovulated yet so my cycles must be a bit out as I've come off the pill. I thought I'd timed it so well to coincide with when I ovulated as well, bloody body!!

i think day 1 is the first day of red flow. no red flow.... keep counting, so stick with CD10 etc. Doesn't mother nature wind you up?!

Welcome biscuits!
CD18 here now. Have had so much spotting around ov this month. Didn't get a positive on the opk's though - same last month. Do you think this means anything? Had ov pains as normal. They are a different brand of opk's. Who knows? At nearly 39 I am expecting all these different things to be happening to my body anyway. It just makes me so glad that I already have 2. My brother and his wife haven't started ttc yet, although they say they want kids. She is my age. I so hope they have not left it too late.

Any news max?

Nothing definite to report yet but still got sore boobs and I think they've got bigger - I have nothing to boast about in the nork department but I'm pretty sure they look fuller. Still got another week to go though.

I've been reasonably good at distracting myself over the week due to work but I've got this coming week off so it might be more of a challenge. I think I'm ready for a positive result as I've been having my mandatory panic about the possibility of actually being pregnant and got most of that out the way!

It's my birthday in a few days :-)

Evening ladies, not been on here since late November. DH and I took a break in December from ttc as wanted to enjoy Christmas. We then decided in January that we were happy with two so stopped trying.
This week both DH and myself have had dreams about having a third which has got us thinking again!!! Had a chat with DH this morning and we both agreed a third would be nice but prob not the most sensible thing to do.
But now I find myself here again on mumsnet in the conception threads! Aarrgggg I just don't know, I know I would only have to say the word and DH would be ok to start trying again but do I really want a third?? Yes, yes, yes, but then no no no!

Oh ELR, bless you, it is really tricky isn't it! We are going to stop ttc soon. And part of me is really happy with that as life is getting so much easier! On 2WW but I don't feel pg at all, as usual!

Why is it so much trickier to decide to have three for everyone? It seems like such a bigger decision doesn't it? My DH has gone back and forth for ages and thinks that we're just starting to come out of the baby phase and everything's getting easier, don't think he fully gets it! Bless him. I'm starting to have a few ov like pains, I'm not sure if it's gonna be early but I don't want to use OPK's yet so I'll just have to guess I think! Fingers crossed for everyone else! Xx

I guess a third is a luxury. You have your first because you want a baby band your second to provide a sibling for the first, because 2 is company. And the third, you want to have because, well fuck it, let's see if we even can!

Over here, well my chart is like a map of the alps. Not sure why. My GP has agreed to blood tests and an ultrasound, then a referral to an NHS fertility clinic after those results are in, also asked DH for a repeat SA. She's warned me that as I've already had children they won't offer me much.

Good luck bonzo. Nothing to report here. Only that AF will be due when I go on holiday on Sunday. Typical!!!

Good luck Bonzo! And Cake; that is sooooo Sod's law isn't it! Damn it! I timed coming off the pill so that on our holiday next month I'd be ovulating, think it's all going a bit wrong with that! I keep spotting, had ov pains yesterday and the day before which was only CD15, used to ov on CD20. It never works out the way you want it does it? Xx