The Elderberry Pavlovas: still chasing that 'copter in the hope of a festive BFP. Thread 16 (the one where Happy was left in charge!!)

[happylass]

Here we go again.....

The smallprint –
Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 6+months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot) and def no mention of baby dust or baby dancing UGH !!! Ooooh aren’t we strict!

Charming waitwaitwait - your AF is later than normal, yes? You have sore boobs? Erm poas?!

Braking that is super insensitive. So sorry. Life is just not fair DSis3 thinks she may be infertile, but her bf has 5 DC, three of which she conceived by mistake whilst using contraception. It is just shit, isn't it.

Random q - I am thinking of starting to eat meat again. Does anyone know if this will have an effect on ttc?

"Smashing one out?" Perhaps her vagina looked like a car crash afterwards. The third and fourth degree tears do look awful, it's amazing how they manage to stitch them back together. Sorry, hating the woman and I don't even know her!

Hi all,
I've not been on here for a while so need to catch up on the thread. Not been wanting to be here all sad etc. feeling ok, but have just had the wind knocked out of me. Colleague/friend who knew about the ectopic has just told me she's pregnant. She is due the week before I would have been. I'm so sad. It's just not fair. I just needed to share the news as I can't breath right now. And I'm stuck at my desk.
Hope everyone is ok. Will catch up on the thread later.
xxx :'(

Aah Feather so sorry you have to deal with that too now :'( She must be pretty early on still, did she tell you before anyone else? Hope she is being sensitive about it all.

Barking sorry about the bump news for you too! Seems like you have a good DTD strategy anyway, FX the clomid does the trick again soon!

RP don't know much about nutrition and stuff, but I think the iron in meat (heme iron) is more easily absorbed than nonheme iron, and think that iron is important in TTC, or at least it is when you are pg.

Barking and Charming I feel your pain - more so now than ever I have - wife of my DH's best friend had her baby yesterday. Not a surprise obviously and they have been through the FC mill to get her so I should be happy and thinking there is hope!

But on Monday I woke up and, on moving, figured AF had arrived dramatically and early. Suspected, feared it was worse because I would've been in an early PIMPing position by today. Confirmed by doctor on phone just now - I called to ask about blood tests and he took the call instead of the nurse because he thought he knew why I was calling. Chemical pregnancy

I am to 'look on the bright side' though because this means I did ovulate. So that's alright then

Sorry for the me, me, me vent

Sorry MrsW I had one the first month of TTC (almost four years ago now!) I remember feeling and just knowing I was pg but then got really heavy bright red bleeding a few days earlier than AF would have been due. Doctor didn't even seem to believe me. It's not nice Hope you feel better soon and that your cycle isn't messed up at all after this

feather I'm so sorry, I know exactly how it feels to have the breath knocked out of you with news like that. I'm still avoiding the friend that is due the week before I would have been. Don't stay away if it helps to pour it all out in a post, I've done way than my fair share of sad/ranting posts recently!

mrsw that's rubbish. Nothing I can say so have some and .

Not sure about tearing after birth, think the smash one out was more a bloke's take on it. Like high five! FFS.
mrsw sorry for you. Hope you're taking care of yourself.
feather was that woman being deliberately insensitive? Or was she telling you on your own so you didn't find out from someone else?

the clomid worked......BFP!

Oh wow charming that's great news!

mrsw so sorry to hear your news - hope you can get at least a little encouragement from the consultant's words

feather poor thing hope the rest of your afternoon went quickly. I know that "wind knocked out of you" feeling- it's so cruel.

Whoop whoop charming FABULOUS news Welcome to the dark side

Waaaah great news Charming. Delighted for you

charming congratulations! That's wonderful hope-filling news!

mrsW sorry to hear about the Cp. Man, life is just so nutty and tough. I have everything crossed for you next round. Be kind to yourself now.

barking, blue and aquarius thanks for the lovely words. I have to say, she was very kind about it. Still very early on for her - maybe 9 weeks? - but she wanted to tell me in advance so it wasn't a shock down the line. We work closely together so she's one of the two people at work that know about my EP. I'm happy for her but heartbroken for myself and DP. I dunno. I just feel so removed from myself right now (does that even make sense?) and unsure about the future in terms of ttc. What do I do next? What if it happens again? Can I even trust my own body? It's been a really tough few weeks, and for most of it it's felt like I've been underwater: seeing, but not feeling what's been going on. I feel thankful that it all 'resolved itself' but angry and sad and scared and empty. I've had to hide away from MN and have drowned my sorrows in a fair bit of - probably not the smartest of moves.

I shouldn't complain. DP called my boss secretly last week and got me off work for a few days from tomorrow. He's taking me to Italy to cheer us up and think of something else. I do wish my colleague had told me next week so I could just get lost in the trip a bit but ah well, you can't control these things.

I can't really believe that we all have to go through this, whatever shape our ttc journeys are taking. But I do know this: you're the strongest women I have 'met' and your kindness and encouragement has been really important to me. So thank you. I hope we all get what we wish for soon

Anyway, onwards! I can't wallow otherwise I'll crumble. xxx

Ps. Sorry about the long 'me me me-ness' of this post.

feather everything you said rings very true, I felt exactly the same after my mc. And just as everyone said to me on the mc boards, it gets better and life takes back over, but then you suddenly get a hit out of the blue and feel overwhelmed, which is what happened to me yesterday.

How lovely of your DP, hope you manage to enjoy each other's company and get a good break .

charming Whoop!!!!!!
Score for the clomid!!!!

Me next please .

Charming!! Fantastic news, in your FACE pcos!! xxx

Feather be gentle with yourself; I'm glad your DH it taking you away, maybe a change of scenery will help bring you back to yourself a bit. You've had an upsetting loss and it will take time for you both to process it

Mrs W so sorry to hear this Not sure there really is a bright side to a CP but I know a few berries have had them. It's all just such a rough road. Makes me sad that any of us ever thought getting pg would be a cakewalk, because it's turned out to be anything but!!

Charming lady I am so pleased for you, really glad the Clomid worked and that Lovely Consultant has done his bit in getting you into the 'copter. Really hoping I can join you all up there soon; the closer I get to IVF the more scared I get that if it doesn't work, we'll be out of options

Charming congrats.

Thanks berries. Really hoping that my announcement wasn't insensitive. You've been with me through thick and thin.
It doesn't feel real, hoping it doesn't turn out to be cp as I think I'm probably only 12-13 dpo.
mrsw glad you're going away, it may help.
God, this ttc is such a roller coaster.

sid despite the BFP I know what you mean about exhausting options. My mum had 5 miscarriages before me, so I'm not taking anything for granted. I felt very sad to be having to take clomid. It was as though I'm not as good as these instadiffers. I just relaxed and had sex, but no joy. Try to focus on the positive aspects of getting help. Sending you lots of love.

Congratulations charming lovely news.

Brilliant news charming

Good work charming!!!!!

Please ignore my wobble from last night the idea of IVF being the end of the line for us does scare me to death, bc up til now it's always felt like our safety net that we were saving for our last resort. Rationally I do know that it's our best move and I feel proud that I''ve toughened up (at least a little), bc even up til a month or two ago just having the conversation would've reduced me to tears. I'm sure I'll feel better after our consultation next week. It's just a bit daunting, as when the problem is "unexplained", how can they hone in on what to fix...?

That being said, I'm happy bc today's CD13 and I've gotten a Peak reading on CBFM & a very strong line on an OPK. Our timing so far is great and it's a relief having control back of when to DTD - even if it doesn't work, at least there'll be no regrets of following instructions that didn't necessarily make sense.

sid surely now you've had your polyp removed you've better chances anyway? X

YAAAAAAY Charming!!! Congratulations! Love hearing of BFP's - gives me hope

Feather hope you can enjoy your time away - what a lovely DP you have!! Maybe it is good you have found out about friend before you left, hearing about it after might have undone all the good the trip will bring

Sid I know what you mean, we have been put straight onto IVF and only get one cycle of it. The odds of it working aren't great, I don't even want to think about what we'll do if it doesn't work Glad we get one free go at least! FX for you in the mean time!