The Elderberry Pavlovas: still chasing that 'copter in the hope of a festive BFP. Thread 16 (the one where Happy was left in charge!!)

[happylass]

Here we go again.....

The smallprint –
Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 6+months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot) and def no mention of baby dust or baby dancing UGH !!! Ooooh aren’t we strict!

Because's post reminds me.

Radio 4' Woman's Hour tweeted the other day 'should people be offered counselling after failed IVF'. I replied that we were offered it after our failed session. A couple of days later a woman tweeted me and asked if I had tried acupuncture or reiki. I replied 'thank you for the suggestion but I'm not an alternative therapy kind of girl'. I'm not, I know a lot of people swear by it but I'm more about science. She then replied saying 'well that says it all!!'.
So this bitch has inferred that the reason I'm not pg is that I don't believe in acupuncture!
Silly thing is though that she tweets in her real name including the name of her business.
Here she is: www.facebook.com/pages/Reiki-Lyme-Regis/325542600897164

Shame we can't dislike her page!

Ouch, pipbin! That's a daft thing of her to say.

To each their own - I credit acupuncture with helping me regulate my cycles, which used to be all over the place but have now been steady at 31/32 days. But I'm happy to accept that not everyone believes in it. As long as it helps me, even if it is placebo effect, I don't mind!

Exactly Because if it helps you or gives you comfort then there is no crime in it. But I think we need to understand that some people don't believe. What she was was like saying to me that it's because I don't go to church or something.

What a hagbag pip

Good weekend peeps?

Knocked out by a cold and with terrible PMS...and I haven't started my Xmas shopping yet!

Oh God it is Christmas next month, isn't it?

Aw because, have a and an early night.

Also you don't know it is PBS!

Ah RP, you are right...the boobs feel really hard rather than just painful and I had some bright red spotting on DPO 7...but I don't want to get my hopes up!

Because I wish I still had a link to the days before my bfp. I seriously ate my words!!!!

pip because I had accupuncture the cycle I had iui. Obviously I'll never know whether it really helped but I found her to be so comforting and reassuring. She was the breath if fresh air I needed although perhaps doing the job that the fc nurses should have been doing. For my next pregnancy I will definitely use her again.

Pip that woman is brainless; it always amazes me when someone tries to score points on a stranger on the internet and uses their real name linked to their business....she could easily have said something supportive or neutral but chose to go with a put-down - what a moron. each to their own & all but I wouldn't think the best place to diagnose a perfect stranger's fertility woes would be twitter...

9dpo for me here and have just set my polypectomy appointment for the 19th. Fingers tightly crossed that if AF does show, she doesn't show late, as the consultant is out for 2 weeks starting the day after my procedure - so if I'm still bleeding by then and it has to be reset, it won't be done til Dec

Yikes, Sid, that's cutting it fine - hope if you do miss the appt that it is for the right reason!

Pip, that woman sounds like such a snobby cow! Isn't reiki supposed to be all about 'good energy' and stuff? Ha, that speaks volumes then. Lyme Regis is just up the way from us - I promise to glare at her if we ever drive past her shop!

I just got an e-mail back from ITV (I wanted to watch that bit on This Morning which was mysteriously cut from the programme, damn it! - so I complained inquired about it) They stated that it was 'removed due to compliance reasons'. Well, I'm still non the wiser, but thought I'd update you berries anyway.

Pip, Because I would also say that I am not one for hippy alternative therapies, but I did read a German study the other day about how acupuncture improved the success rate of IVF when preformed just before collecting the eggs and just after putting them back in. There is an acupuncturing lady who actualy comes to the particular hospital where we'll be treated and does her thing right before/after the treatments. Sounds interesting, so think I'll be investigating that side of things a bit more...

Well, my temp crashed this morning and AF has arrived. Our FC appt is Friday - I wonder if it would be too late to start any sort of treatment straight away for this cycle? I'm sure that if I told them that I need a baby soon that they would comply!

Ugh. Way too much baby talk in the staff room today. Our school is due to be inspected in just over a year so it seems that every female member of staff of child bearing age is planning to get upduffed shortly so as to avoid it. One even took her last pill yesterday. Looks like I'm destined to be surrounded by bumps for the next year. Oh what it must be like to have the luxury of planning exactly when you're going to get pg

Oh happy that does not make for a comfortable staff room. I can't help but feel sorry for their naivety though, doubt they will all find it as easy as they think! We all know what planning did... bugger all!

foody it's always those ones that do get pg just as they'd planned though . Or whinge and moan because it took them a whole four months to get pg and it was awful not that I'm bitter about my friend who told me she understood what I was going through as it took them 4 months to get pg

The current bump at work was planned in order to get away from the head. She'll end up missing our next ofsted as well. I've still got a slim chance of missing Ofsted if they come next September rather than the summer term!!!

Work has been scarily busy and by the time I finished gave up on my lesson planning last night I was too tired to log on to the berries!

I'm on clomid day 2 . rp you asked me how it was feeling. It feels a little strange to be honest. It's been so long since we were last ttc (4 months) and there have been such highs and lows in between that it's partly quite depressing to be back here again, but I'm also more hopeful than I could mamage to be whilst stuck in no AF limbo. Part of me is desperate for a bfp, another part thinks I wouldn't be as gutted this month about a bfn as I'd prefer to not have an August baby (but would obviously be very happy to have one anyway!!) Then we get to Dec and I start thinking that if I was going to get a bfp before our wedding I'd ideally be 12 weeks by Feb and therefore less stressed when we get married, but it's too late by then so actually maybe it would be better not to be pg as I could spoil the whole event of the wedding by being stressed about the possibility of mc'ing whilst getting married.....

I should really just take the tablets, dtd and stop over thinking things shouldn't I?!

Barking totally understandable to overthink all of this; you've been down a long road these last few months you're sounding much stronger lately and getting back in the swing of TTC I think will help. Sometimes when I think of not TTC, I honestly can't imagine what that would look like day-to-day - can't envision a time when the "what if"s won't be hanging over me, or the next hurdle/appointment is being arranged/waited for/analyzed...so if you're like me, TTC is your "safe place" where you know what you're doing, and anything beyond that is kind of scary.

Have just finished the clinic paperwork; it only took 3 hours

Imagine the belief that you could just magic up a baby so as to get you out of a stressful period at work must be nice to be that innocent! I still can't believe that enough time has passed that MotherofCleo has had her baby!!

I hesitate to say yes barking but... yes! I'm an awful one for overthinking and can report it has done me precisely no good at all.

My pre seed arrived Friday (thought I'd try it while we wait for next step of medical bits) Was torn about telling DH - but did - hope his reaction errs on cheering up not just TMI...

DH: So what is it?
Me: (explanation)
DH: (brandishing applicator and using comedy Euro accent) Aha! Now zen fraulein vee make zee babies!

He's a one for setting the mood my DH

Sorry, trying to catch up on my phone...

pip I can't believe the rudeness and downright lack of necessity in tweeting you that response!

sid fingers crossed for the best timing!!

birdy is this your first appointment? If it's anything like my first appointment it will be just to check in and start the further tests, won't matter where you are in your cycle.

mrsw nice to see there's still some fun ttc happening!

barking yes goddamnit, pop the pills and get shagging!!

Funnily enough, I had exactly that conversation about August babies with a dear friend who took forever 3 months to get her bfp. She asked if I was going stop trying this month? I was all like because my haggard old eggs are withering apace.... so that would be a no, then!

So, 8-10dpo, no implantation bleeding, no symptoms that could remotely be interpreted as pg symptoms. I feel weirdly at peace with imminent AF arrival lies silly

Exactly! I'd prefer not to have an August baby as they are so much younger than others in their year (I'm speaking with teacher hat on, it's been noticeable with a lot of my august pupils), and they never get a birthday party with all their friends as it's always in the holidays! However, after 2 years of trying and being aware of not wasting eggs or clomid, am I going to skip this month? Bugger that!!

Sid as someone who's been trying NOT to conceive for the last 3 months I have to admit I'm finding it a relief not to live my life in 2 weeks blocks, constantly obsessing and stressing over every little thing. I have no idea what cycle day I'm on at the moment and I couldn't really tell you when my next AF is due. It feels amazing and very liberating! As much as I want a baby I'm actually dreading starting back with the TTC again, but I know it's a means to an end. Having said all that I am still a teeny bit of all you other Berries who still have the chance at a BFP every month.
Oh and I just checked the dates and if by some miracle I mange to get upduffed in Feb, March or April I will probably miss our Inspection too. That's obviously why it's taken me so long, it was meant to be

Just to weigh in on the August birthday thing; I've got 3 children in my class this year with August birthdays. One is very able, one is middle ability, one is a little lower but not terrible. In the previous 2 years, I taught some extremely bright August birthday children. It was lucky they were August as they'd have been bored stiff in the year below!

My point is that I wouldn't sweat the August baby thing at all now, although I never liked the thought of it before teaching.

Yeah, I'm a very late July baby and well clever, so not too fussed about that

I'm a European December baby (so the youngest of my group) and did rather well, in fact so much that they considered having me skip one year but decided against it because I'd end up being practically two years older than the rest of the class!

I'm PMS-ing for England today. DH very mildly objected to my wish for a crazy expensive (CRAZY EXPENSIVE) bag and I burst into tears.

But at least now I get to buy the bag