All aboard for a positive August

[Beccy1974]

okay I hope I'm not treading on anyone's toes but as the proud owner of a July AF I'm posting early. Any seconders for a BFP filled August are very welcome.

Is my bday in August so fingers crossed. And by my calculations my ov this month should tie in with dh's 30th birthday.

so paws crossed

becky

becky do you know when you ovulated?

well i got the usual ache and the ewcm about wednesday 12th or thurs 13th i think.. although i also have a diary note showing mon 17th but i think that is where i was counting back a max of 16 days from expected af date, as i read you cant really have a post luteal phase of more than 16 days if you're 'normal'..

.. somewhere around then but not sure of exact day..not much help am i

right becky you could have started to ovulate on the 13 and your body was not ready so delayed it till 17 so that means your on 14 days after ovultion, and it says if youve 18 of a hight temp you could be pg but you dont temp do you, ? so there is still time for your hcg to build up does that make sence?

trace, i hope so.. i'm not totally clear on what it means re temp but i know the terms you mean which is more than i did a few months ago.

tks for thinking about it for me

on a bright note (ish) the awful wind has stopped. just as well as i think i would have got the sack before much longer

Sorry about your dh's results wannabe and sorry that things aren't that much clearer for you wrighty. Thoughts are with you both..xx

Glad your doc's apt went well Natty at least you can make some steps forward.

Keep your chin up Beccy, I had brown spotting with dd. Fingers crossed for you and fingers crossed for everyone else who is testing.

Babydust to all xx and thank you all again for you congrats. xx

Morning ladies, not in a good mood today. Started the day with a fight with DH and he stormed off to work and left me in tears. It is all because I am so annoyed with him because there has been no BDing for over a week now because he cannot be bothered in spite of my constant initiations and I am in my fertile days at the moment. He sat on the couch and watched 24 for 4 hours solidly last night and then told me there was no time for BDing!! He is not interested in the science of it all so there is no point explaining but I bet that if nothing happens this month, it will be down to me as far as he is concerned and not the fact that you cannot get pregnant if you don?t have sex! To top it off, it is our 2 month anniversary today (though we have lived together for 4 ½ years). Just feeling low about it all and a bit too sensitive I think. My own insecurity kicks in and I think; is it because I am too fat, too frumpy, too this or that grrrrr! Thanks for listening, who else can I vent this to if not you?!

SOL ? do you live with your folks at the mo? That must be hard but it must make you feel a bit naughty too!

Coggy ? thank you for making me laugh, it is not that bad (I am having visions of the Catherine Tate sketch at the swimming pool ? do you know the one?!) Hope that was OV pain and not gardening related! I?m still waiting for EWCM but temp went up slightly this morning but only by a couple of points and I think that might be more related to my cold than anything else.

Trace2, Tili, Wrighty, Bellie & DD1 ? feeling for you all.

Beccy & Desperate ? fingers and toes crossed for you!

Bubblez ? Nice to hear from you and all baby dust much appreciated!

Feeling a bit happier now I have had a dose of MN and able to do some work!

hiya mrs mcj

my dh not really into the biology of it either; you are not alone. and i have to encourage him at bd time

am in right grump as am sure is af and not anything else.

i worried myself a bit as thought, maybe i should go to docs, as am rh o neg, and blood etc.. just if pregnant (v v unlikely).

told best friendly female colleague, but bodged it as waffled a bit and she either figured from my belly i'm already preg or just presumed as recently married.

she grinned and said 'has it been confirmed then?'

i had to go to loo and get rid of teary eyes for a bit as have cramps and am sure its af.

hi to everyone else

MrsMcJnr men! so sorry its diffrent if they was sex.

becky have you tested again yet?

Fingers crossed for you becky.

I had someone ask me at work tday too and told them just getting fatter. v. embarassing actually.

Awww, Becky. I hope you're OK and that the cramps aren't AF.

yeah am a plank; had the other digital with me and used that after her comment as i clearly look preg to others !

neg

half tempted to get a first response but not much point, just wanted equal comparison.

seems to be af. parents bit worried and coming over to take me to lunch . htink they they want to persuade me to go to docs but have no one sided pain.

just say it was implantation - shld i go to docs as i'm rh neg, just in case. . or would that be okay?

how r u trace?

Mrs Mc - been there, done that!!

I have done all the 'I'm too fat, I'm this and that....'

I use to get really upset with DH because he's do the same...watch a film and I'd say that he wouldn't feel like BDing if he stayed and watched it...he'd promise me he would and then...guess what....too tired!!!

I really feel for you..it's horrible and it's extra bad because when you fall out, even when you make up, you don't always just feel like jumping onto bed do you?
And you are SO aware of missing those two days, whereas they just think sperm goes in..it'll do it's job whenever!!!

I have been so more chilled out this time and I know that we have missed opportunities but we haven't argued about ttc like we did last time.
I think something in me has changed and I realised that I was putting DH under pressure and he just couldn't 'perform'.
I'm now after it all the time so that he doesn't know when's good and when isn't!!!
Hard work sometimes but seems to have done the trick mostly.....!!

We used to have arguements even when he tried to explain to me that he felt like he was performing because I had the attitude that yes, but that was ALL he had to do whereas I had to have jabs, internal scans etc, etc....

I don't really have any advice but I sympathise MASSIVELY!!
X

And Beccy...how are you feeling?

morning all

MrsMcJnr I totally sympathise, although I can kind of understand how dh's feel as generally we're the ones that reject them when we're not hoping to fall pregnant, and then suddenly we want them all the time and then it can be horrible when they say no. It does give some insight though into how they feel when we say "no not tonight". I do understand how you feel, but tbh you should make love when you want to, not because the fertile time of the month says you have to. From most sights I've been reading (and I've been reading a lot since dh got his results on Monday), if you have sex twice a week you are likely to fall pregnant if you're not using contraception, because sperm can survive for up to 5 days inside the woman, so even if you have sex three days before ovulation there may already be sperm waiting for the egg when it is released. Try to relax, it's no-one's fault if it doesn't happen this month, your baby will happen when it is meant to.

Beccy I found a website recently which compares the different pregnancy tests and the amounts of hcg they detect. the digital ones required twice as much hcg as the sensitive ones, and given your af isn't due until tomorrow you might just not have enough hormone present to trigger a digital test. Imo you should wait until the weekend at least before doing another test if your af hasn't arived. Try not to worry about blood group - I'm rh neg and although I had bleeding at beginning I had a text book pregnancy with no problems. Besides your baby could share your blood group in which case it's not a problem.

wantababynow, coggy, trace, sol ... how are you all?

hasnt been that busy on here today

hope you have all had a good day, i am totally shattered been up since 5. (work)
i agree about dps being put under pressure and it must be hard for them i know when i am "fertile" i make a point of saying that we need it ad if he said no id go into one massive strop! i couldnt help it lol
this time round though ttc aring in mnind its only been 1 month..dp has been more than willing EVERY day but stopped 2 days before ov (i thought id already ovd)
mind you even when we arnt ttc i was still up for it
been getting stronger stomach cramps today and think a/f is definately coming as did ebay hpt and was bfn

Hi there Wannabe, How are you doing?

Im great. Nothing new to report. Am wondering about testing. Had bloods done 2-3 weeks ago and bfn.

Have been bd like crazy. Still no af (something like day 65). Is it worth testing at all?

Grandparent at my school asked me if pg today. lol

wantababy only you can decide if you should test. If you're pg it's unlikely you would show this early, but bloating could be due to delayed af. Decide whether you will be gutted if it's a bfn and if so then don't test, but if you can accept a bfn do a test and put your mind at rest.

Not doing too bad, cd19 and have sore boobs which must mean af will be early again this month. Strange how you can go from thinking of certain things as pg simptoms to af simptoms. I remember a few months ago having sore boobs and wondering if I could be pg, but as af always arrived I figured it was best to think of them as af simptoms. Anyway as I now know it's unlikely I will fall pg, the simptoms will at least help me track my scycle as prob won't count days any more.

Thank you all for all your support, that was all I needed, some empathy . I am trying so hard not to put DH under any pressure and I think that is just increasing the pressure I am putting on myself. He sent me an email to say he was sorry we rowed but that something bleeping woke him up at 5.30am and he could not get back to sleep and is shattered today. Mmm, that will be my digital thermometer then! That is the first time he?s heard it and I have been using in everyday for 3 weeks!

Oh Beccy, poor you, you are having a horrible day, big hugs.

I can?t believe people have actually asked you that Wantababynow, how insensitive.

Wannabe, how are you feeling about things today and how is your DH?

Baby dust to all?..

LOL at you digital thermometer MrsMc!!!
Are you going to confess or keep quiet??!!

Wanta - how come you are still at school...are there no summer holidays where you live!!
How awful!! (Actually I LOVE teaching.....)

I've got that fine balance tonight of eating out vs diet tomorrow vs plenty to drink vs being able to BD vs having a damn good time!!!
Tricky!!!

LOL at you digital thermometer MrsMc!!!
Are you going to confess or keep quiet??!!

Wanta - how come you are still at school...are there no summer holidays where you live!!
How awful!! (Actually I LOVE teaching.....)

I've got that fine balance tonight of eating out vs diet tomorrow vs plenty to drink vs being able to BD vs having a damn good time!!!
Tricky!!!

Oh...that's not happened before!!

OK, last chance to BD tonight then start the 2WW. Just hope I've OV'd early (14th day would be this Friday) DH is off to work so should know when he gets back if August is the month for us.

Good luck everyone.

Good luck girls, i am on CD8 but going to start early (tonight) as DP was in my bad books last night and i think he has some making up to do.

Coggy - wannabump lives in Austraila she has gone to bed now.

coggy im guessing that in aus they have the summer holidays over the christmas period as that is when the summer is in Aus. That's how they do it in south africa anyway

Ok quick question for anyone, am on cd 19 and have quite painful af-type cramps. Am sure I ov'ed on around cd14 judging by cm although didn't have ov pains so couldn't be precisely sure. Have had sore boobs for approx last 5 days or so but my af is never (and I mean never) this early. any ideas as to what else can cause these type cramps?

Not a clue, sorry, but i do get AF pains 2 weeks before AF and as i am not regular i usually think AF is on her way .