Donor IUI?

[MinnieMooMoo]

Hello! Just looking for a group/quiche to join but not really sure where I fit it.

I'm intending to go it alone and have Donor Insemination by IUI starting in January providing my investigations all come back clear.

Any one else in the same boat, or has done it alone in the past?

Ivedropped 20kgs in a year and consultant recommended me drop 10kg more although he would treat me at current weight the more weight I lose the better really as the general risks lower. I follow the low gi diet and threw a tantrum at the weekend when my partner ate a piece of toast, good practice for unreasonable pregnancy hormones.

I need to lose weight, the PCOS makes it harder to lose weight (and boy have I been using that excuse to justify my lack of effort) so I'm hoping the metformin will counter that aspect of the condition and help me lose a bit. Also the tablets will eventually need to be taken three times a day, with meals; thus making me think about my meals, rather than skipping breakfast then having a big lunch and grazing throughout the afternoon.

I've tried low-carbing before and quite liked it, even though I didn't lose any weight. Might have to look into what I was doing wrong and have another bash at it. Might weigh it up alongside the low gi diet and see which looks the most workable.

I've lost 4 stone over past two years albeit very slowly but have come to a bit of a standstill, would like to lose another 2 stone really. I was doing calorie counting, it seemed to work for me. But as soon as I lose weight I reward myself with food, need to get out of that mindframe and reward myself with non-food items.

Congrats on the weight loss, even if it's been slow. I think I've put on 2 or 3 stone in the past 3 years. It's been comfort eating and I've used stress and the PCOS, as I said before, as excuses for letting it happen. I think now that I'm starting to put plans in place for TTC I've now got a 'someone', albeit a someone who's not yet been conceived, who I have to answer to. I have to get a bit fitter/slimmer for my baby, not just for my own benefit.

Maybe you could reward yourself with bits of baby stuff - not to buy right away; I know people can be quite superstitious about buying things early in the pregnancy, but maybe set up a wishlist on Amazon, and every time you hit a weightloss milestone you get to do some window shopping and put some more things onto your wishlist.

That or books - you can never have enough books, and books as prizes sounds like a good idea!

Haha! You must know me from another life I'm surrounded by books (actually I have a single mother by choice book on my wishlist!), but the baby stuff is a great idea! I'm not superstitious so that could work... I say that whilst I eating a bag of popcorn.

My clinic has a max BMI of 35 so as long as I stay below that I'll be okay!

But hopefully we can encourage each other as well, we're all working towards a similar goal of wanting to be healthier for our babies :)

Is that the Single Mothers by Choice book by Jane Mattes? If so, I was looking at it just last night!!! It went straight onto my 'Baby' wishlist along with a DIY Doppler, Bio oil and pregnancy tests (a 2 pack of the fancy ones and a bulk bag of the super cheap ones)

I plan on getting myself a semi-private Xmas gift of a few baby things; some pregnacare vitamin tablets (the pregnancy ones - I should probably already be taking the conception ones by then and need to be on the folic acid as of now - will pop those on my shopping list), that book, and maybe some little baby booties, even if it'll potentially be another year until they can be used. Only my very best friend knows I'm going to start trying, hence the semi-privateness.

Definitely agree that we can help each other through the keeping healthy. Just being part of this thread has made it all wonderfully real. I've known this was the plan for a long while, but now it's really happening; I'm looking at donors (have found a lovely-looking gay man who's looking to donate, so am thinking of getting in contact with him) and my headspace has gone from 'someday, when I have a child...' to working out when baby would be born if I managed to conceive in January/February etc...

Yes that's the one! I also seem to have to added Choosing Single Motherhood by Mikki Morrissette to my wishlist also.

I bought a rip off version of the bio oil, I think it's basically the same thing but cheaper. Think I found it in bodycare.

Yes I must admit I used my app to work out when my child would be due too! I need to rein it in a bit before I get carried away

Just been to Sainsbury's and picked up some Seven Seas Trying for a Baby, they're reduced to £2.99 for four weeks supply, if any one is interested :)

Oh wow that is a huge savings. Might get some at weekend if still on offer as the Pregnacare are double that price.

Oooh, great tip - shall pop in and pick some up after work tomorrow as I'll be passing a Sainsburys.

I think we're allowed to get a little carried away at this point, Minnie , after all this time next year we'll (all going well) either be rocking our maternitywear or we'll be exhausted new mums. And yes it might take longer and there might arise some unforeseen complications, but now's definitely the time to revel in the excitement of starting that journey.

I keep talking about names with my mum, and she actually listens! I think she's excited too :)

I've done some non-stop eating today, really need to focus on losing the lbs.

I've got my initial consultation in a week! It's come round so quick, I'm excited to see what happens, but I suspect there'll be a smear so that won't be so fun.

But there's also the bloody test in which I'll find out if I'm rhesus positive or negative and CMV pos or neg and then I'll know which donors to look at!

My mum's... well she accepts that this is what I've chosen to do. She wishes I'd 'found a nice young man', but will support me if/when I need it (she took me to the hospital to have my scan when I got dx with PCOS, and she's willing to do some of the childcare when the time comes. Plus she's a whiz with the ol' knitting needles and has SO many baby patterns!)

I have names chosen - first and middles for each sex. Both are just perfect for me. I keep thinking I'd prefer a girl, but only because it would be more convenient/easy when it comes to dealing with the whole puberty thing. Would be just as happy with a boy; would just have to get advice from male family members!

I already know my blood type from giving blood, so need to remember to ask my potential donor his (am working up to making contact... writing a long list of questions.)

Have had three meals today, and only snacked on satsumas, so am happy with that. Although an evening of dog vomit did stifle my appetite somewhat.

Exciting about your initial consultation! Less so for the smear. I suppose we're going to have to get used to baring our bits to all manner of medical professionals eventually.

I keep dreaming of baby names, although not sure whether I willl use them as some were pretty far out!!

I got my BFP on Monday. I'm still in shock, and also had a massively stressful week, so hope its still hanging on in there. I keep looking at the June antenatal boards thinking about joining but it doesn't seem real yet.

Ahhh sleepingdragon great news although understandable to be apprehensive, you're welcome here at long as you want to stay though :)

Frightchen do you not have back ups incase of twins! When my clinic said they do medicated I was a bit shocked and thought oh no I'll have to think of more names.

My names aren't firm though, they change depending on the weather! I'm sure I'll know when I see BabyMoo.

I've always wanted a girl but have been working with a boy lately and I've completely warmed to him and now I'll be happy with either.

Congratulations dragon - that's great news! And hey - today's far out names might seem just perfect in June.

Oh, Minnie I'm in a very healthy denial about the possibility of twins. Especially as the two names I've settled on begin with the same letter, and I think I'd find that a little too twee... It would be karma though; I spent much of my best friend's pregnancy teasing her by saying 'what if it's twins?' - I've probably set myself up for it!

Congrats sleepingdragon, amazing news! Do you get an early scan?

Congrats sleepingdragon, exciting times ahead.

Just found out that Lister is offering the chance to win a IVF cycle with them www.infertilitynetworkuk.com/docs/Lister%20Fertility%20Clinic%20free%20cycles%202013%20press%20release.pdf I can't enter as I'm not an UK citizen yet but someone else might be able too.

I picked up boots ovulation sticks today am hoping they're easier to read than the other little sticks I had.

That's a lovely link, wishy I can't apply because I'm not eligible, but hopefully some other ladies on here will see it and can enter into the draw!

Ah I'm not eligible either, but thanks for posting it!

Hope the new ovulation sticks work out better :)

Hi peeps, i ad my consultation yesterday at LWC , ive chosen to go down IVF route. I was given Microgynon Pills to take, i go bk on 20th November for my first scan.

Went shopping with my mum today and picked up two packs of the Seven Seas tablets, so will start taking them from tomorrow morning. Talked a fair bit of baby talk, mainly to normalise it with DM. She still would rather I found a husband, but is slowly coming to terms with my plans/determination. She is, however, more upset that I won't move in with her whilst I'm pregnant/for the first few months of having baby. (Moving in would involve getting rid of my ferrets, and so is completely unthinkable.) I've suggested she look for houses I could afford in the village and I'll move closer... Seems reasonable.

Oh great news businessadmin keep us posted on the scan.

Oh well that sounds more positive Frightchen at least she's talking about it all as a given and its good she's willing to offer support by wanting to be near to you.

Is your consultation tomorrow, Minnie ? How're you feeling about it? Bet you're excited!!!

I get paid on Thursday so will be rewarding myself with some message credits on Pride Angel, arming myself with my (extensive) list of questions for prospective donors, and will start to see who's out there. In the meantime, back to the househunting!

Thursday! I'm very excited! It's all starting to feel very real now as I've been discussing it with other people.

Feeling a bit worried that I didn't lose enough weight for the consultation as I'm so very nearly on the cusp of BMI 35 and if my scales are out and theirs are completely different it could take me over! Gah! And I might be an inch shorter than I think I am!

How's everyone else doing?