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Donor IUI?

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MinnieMooMoo · 09/10/2013 15:12

Hello! Just looking for a group/quiche to join but not really sure where I fit it.

I'm intending to go it alone and have Donor Insemination by IUI starting in January providing my investigations all come back clear.

Any one else in the same boat, or has done it alone in the past?

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mrswishywashy · 19/11/2013 04:56

Hi everyone,

We went for counseling last week. Very informative and helpful.

Now waiting for aunt flo so that I can book HyCoSY in, hopefully it won't mess with cycles. If all goes to plan there are only two cycles before we start treatment!

Let's hope 2014 is full of positives.

MinnieMooMoo · 19/11/2013 10:36

Oh fingers crossed for your HyCoSy! I'm still experiencing some tenderness today but nothing terrible and had barely any leakage apart from brown blood which I get at the end of my period anyways.

Be prepared for the "did you have unprotected sex since the start of your period?" question... I really did look at them like Hmm

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Frettchen · 20/11/2013 13:14

Hope you're recovered from your HSG, Minnie , and that you get your AF soon, Wishy (which seems like an odd thing to hope if taken out of context!!!)

I've had two counselling sessions now - the first was good; but was half about the counsellor explaining how things work. This week's session was a lot more of a challenge. Towards the end the counsellor played devil's advocate, asking all these difficult questions about doing AI the non-clinic way, and about the risks and complications around it all. It's stuff I've thought of before, but it's easier to tell myself that yes there are risks but there are ways of minimising them, than it is to put those thoughts into words when talking to someone.

Ultimately, the one thing I keep coming back to the same point in my mind - I want a child, more than anything I have ever wanted. I don't want a relationship, and think it would be by far the wrong thing to try to force myself into a male-female relationship just to get to my goal. Which leaves me taking things into my own hands, and unless something dramatically changes with my finances, I just don't have the money right now to be able to afford going to a clinic. So I'm doing it the hard way. And I'm ok with that - I just don't know how to explain why I'm ok with that. I suppose I feel that the end justifies the means, and that there will always be risks, no matter which path you take... So yeah, the counselling left me a bit emotional, but no less determined. I'll continue going to the counselling for, probably, the rest of the year, as I do find it helpful to have a room where I can go and talk to a person and get these challenging questions, and then can walk away at the end of the hour.

Donor picking sounds fun! Do you have pictures? Or is it just a profile of basic info?

I'm trying not to get too disheartened yet about the non-responses - there's still plenty of time before the beginning of next year, so am in no rush. I've bought 20 message credits on Pride Angel so I'll use them up, if I can find that many eligible donors, and then start looking around for other donor sites. As much as I would desperately love to rush into this and get pregnant as soon as possible, I keep reminding myself that there's still time, and there's no need for rushing!

MinnieMooMoo · 21/11/2013 21:02

Recovered now! Had a bleed a little bleed after swimming yesterday which wasn't great but nothing major!

My clinic uses xytex so you can browse the profiles without even signing up (so if you feel inclined you can have a look yourself!) but you have to pay extra for pictures of them as children and I think some provide pics now.

I'm pleased you're finding the counselling helpful, I'm not sure when I'm supposed to book mine, need to book my blood tests next I think!

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businessadmin · 25/11/2013 19:03

I stop takin the Microgynon Pills on 15th Nov I went for my first scan on 20th Nov .
I started taken menopur , took last one 24 nov, I go back today 25 nov, probs start on next meds , then go bk wednesday and friday for scans, then they collect some of my eggs, dont know when that will be yet (hopefully freeze some).
And try to fertilize them, then transfer the embryo back into me.

MinnieMooMoo · 25/11/2013 22:01

Ohh businessadmin it's all going on for you! Fingers crossed for the embryo transfer. Are you still at LWC Darlington?

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mrswishywashy · 29/11/2013 15:00

How is everything going business? And everyone else?

I'm in waiting room ready for my HyCoSY, I'm a nervous wreck. Shaking and trying to hold it together. I'm hoping results are all clear and that we can start treatment in January.

CynthiaRose · 30/11/2013 21:53

How did you get on? Or do you have to wait for results?

MinnieMooMoo · 01/12/2013 11:33

How did it go Mrswishywashy it's not terribly pleasant is it! Hopefully your tubes were clear?

Had my blood test this week, she took 5 vials -faints- waiting for her to ring tomorrow to tell me whether I'm CMV and rhesus positive or negative so I can get choosing my donor!

She's also sent off a referall to the counsellor so looking forward to receiving that!

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mrswishywashy · 01/12/2013 16:13

It was ok, no worse than a smear anyway (no idea what I got so worked up about). I did lots of reading on internet but not one said about a antibiotic suppository that was enjoyable. And I got an all clear, a written report with scan photos and it says that I'm fine for IUI. However I also got the results of my AMH test and it was 5.2 which is in the low fertility range but the consultant said that its about the quality of the egg so still do IUI a couple of times. Now need to buy sperm, if only supermarkets stocked it:-)

Minnie - I found the counselling session really good so hope yours go just as good.

Cynthia - how is all with you?

CynthiaRose · 01/12/2013 23:54

Sounds promising Wishywashy, exciting to be getting moving!

Things are good here, but currently mid house move, which really isn't easy with two small people and no time.

Frettchen · 03/12/2013 14:34

Glad to see so many people are moving forward and all is going well.

I've hit a bit of a standstill; started talking to a prospective donor and all appeared to be going well, but he's not replied for 5 or 6 days now, so is probably not interested. I'm going to keep trying to find a donor; I was expecting it to not work perfectly from the start of donor-searching, so I'm not distraught, just a bit disappointed. Onward to the next option.

MinnieMooMoo · 03/12/2013 16:45

Oh that is disappointing Frettchen :( hopefully you'll find the ideal donor just now! :)

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businessadmin · 05/12/2013 21:27

Hi MinnieMooMoo yea i am.

I had the scan on Wed 27th Nov and the Doc counted the size of the follicles and they were ready to be collected, so on the Fri 29th Nov which was supposed to be my next scan, i had them collected and they was 10 in total, on the Sat I had a phone call from the nurse, she told me 8 matured but only 3 fertilised, i had to start taking cyclogest which i dont like Sad. Then on Wed 4th Dec I had one blastocyst transfered back into me and the other 2 frozen.

So i ave to wait now Grin

Frettchen · 06/12/2013 11:35

Oooh, business that sounds like you've had a very exciting week. When will you be testing? Shall definitely be keeping my fingers crossed all goes well for you.

My potential donor is back on the scene now, and we've arranged to meet up a week tomorrow to see how we get on, and ultimately to decide if we're going to go ahead. He's provisionally agreed to 4 attempts, so there's no hideous all-or-nothing type pressure the first try, which sounds good.

Am trying to remain calm and remember that it could still all fall through very easily, but the thought of starting trying in January is so huge a thing. Esp as I've spent half of 2013 waiting for Doctors or hospital appointments and almost got to thinking that it would never happen.

MinnieMooMoo · 12/12/2013 13:55

Hello all, hope you're well.

Is it your meet up tomorrow Frettchen ?

I had my results back from my blood test, rhesus negative and CMV negative which brings my donor pool down to zero :( So I'll have to choose someone who is rhesus positive and deal with the consequences if I decide to have another child in the future.

2014 is getting so very close!

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Frettchen · 13/12/2013 12:48

Hey Minnie. The meet up is tomorrow lunchtime, so shall see if he's likely to turn from a prospective donor to a planned donor. If all goes well then that could potentially mean first attempt in 6 weeks. It's crazy how fast time is going!

Am not as nervous about tomorrow as I probably should be, but I am irritated as AF's here and making her presence known, and I'm just hoping the cramps will ease off for the day. Have planned Sunday out with a close friend and her 4.5 yo daughter, so can celebrate/commiserate depending on how Saturday goes.

Sorry to hear your bloods didn't bring back any better news. Have the doctors provided plenty of guidance on what it means in actual terms? Will you need anything extra during your pregnancy because of it?

MinnieMooMoo · 13/12/2013 13:57

Oooh I really hope tomorrow goes well for you, do update us after. Take some ibuprofen for your AF I got mine on Tuesday and it wasn't pleasant as it was the first after the dye in the tubes thingy.

My donor coordinator did tell me about the rhesus thing but I have an appalling short term memory! I think its not a problem for a first born but if I have any knocks that causes a bleed in the foetus my body will create anti bodies against any future babies. I think that's the gist any ways...

Got appointment through for counselling for 7th January so I think I'll be looking at a February start date.

Think I may take extreme measure for weight loss in January and give the Cambridge diet a go. My mum did well on it.

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businessadmin · 14/12/2013 22:30

Hi everyone,

I was given date tomorrow 15th December to test, but i tested today 14th December and i got positive result. But goin to test again tomorrow anyway to make sure.

CynthiaRose · 14/12/2013 23:56

ooo congrats! How do you feel? False positives are very very rare.

Frettchen · 15/12/2013 09:06

Congrats business - that's awesome news; what a lovely early Christmas present!

I met my potential donor yesterday, and I really don't want to pin all my hopes on one person, but he seems really nice. I'm taking some time to think about things, but I have a really good feeling about him.

Counselling date sounds really good, Minnie - I've found my session really helpful.

MinnieMooMoo · 16/12/2013 13:06

Ahhh congratulations business brilliant news!

Oh Frettchen I'm please things went well and you feel good about him. Fingers crossed it all goes to plan!

We will be having an exciting 2014! :)

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businessadmin · 16/12/2013 14:14

Hi peeps, ty for the Congrats,

I tested again on Sun 15th and it was positive again, so i phoned LWC this morning and they booked me in for a scan on Wed 8th Jan.

Im hoping things are ok Smile

businessadmin · 16/12/2013 14:16

Hi peeps, ty for the Congrats,

I tested again on Sun 15th Dec and it was positive again, so i phoned LWC this morning and they booked me in for a scan on Wed 8th Jan.

Im hoping things are ok Smile

CynthiaRose · 16/12/2013 23:54

Amazing! God, I'll never forget my early scan at LWC..."who's going to help you out with these two then..." !!