Donor IUI?

[MinnieMooMoo]

Hello! Just looking for a group/quiche to join but not really sure where I fit it.

I'm intending to go it alone and have Donor Insemination by IUI starting in January providing my investigations all come back clear.

Any one else in the same boat, or has done it alone in the past?

taydex your TWOT must be over soon right?

What is af kwick?hope all works out with timings!
MIB films are good,silly but funny. I've just got back from a huge meal for my birthday (which is tomorrow) been to a beach today down in Dorset way but have to come back tomorrow and then back to work on Wednesday
Caution-glad ur mums recovery is going well!
Taydex-hope your coping alright with the dreaded 2ww

af = auntie flo = period
Happy Birthday for tomorrow pickle!!!! I love Dorset - it has been years since i spent a few days in Lyme Regis - oooh the cream teas

anyone watching the Bachelorette... I know, I know but I am a into crappy TV

BTW I strongly recommend you watch this documentary called The Great Sperm Race - I am very relieved to be doing IVF now!
www.dailymotion.com/video/x1cdwzv_the-great-sperm-race_tv

Ah of course-dur!

Thank you :) we went to Lyme Regis last yr for my birthday. Was so lucky it was so sunny but did soooo much walking over the cliffs and beach my hip hurts so bad

Ooh I'll have a look at that when I'm home,glad it's been positive for you :)

It is on ITVBe on Saturdays I think

Ah i see! Then is it egg collection and then embryo transfer next cycle kwick? Oh no! I'll have my fingers crossed that AF comes quickly so it doesn't clash with your business trip.

Happy birthday for tomorrow pickle & thank you for your comment about my Mumma :) x

I just thought I'd report back on my first IUI, in case my experience is useful for anyone else!

I had my first IUI 21 hours after I got a positive OPK (because I got my LH surge at 8pm I had a choice between IUI at 21 hours or at 38 hours).

On Sunday night I got a very faint line on a pregnancy test, but this morning (today is my official test date) the test is negative.

It is apparently quite common for the egg to start implanting but not successfully stick, and women would be none-the-wiser if we didn't test before AF was due! So generally we are advised against very early testing because of the disappointment when this happens and feeling that we 'lost' it when really it hadn't really properly begun.

But for me, I feel like I got useful information from the faint positive I got at 12dpo as I can only assume that this means that the IUI was successful in that the sperm met the egg and implantation began, it's just that then it didn't 'stick'. So it seems that for me my decision to go for IUI at 21 hours rather than 38 was the right one, although I'm hoping that this cycle I'll get my LH surge at a more convenient time of day so that I can make sure I'm in the 24–36 hour window.

Ineednewshoes many thanks for sharing. I am so sorry that you got a bfn...especially after a bfp like you said at least you have learned something. I am interested to hear that your clinic allowed you to choose the time... how did you decide?

pickle HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!

Caution I am still waiting for blasted af... if it does not arrived in the next day or so then I will be in dire straits - business trip on 9th March - I am currently forecasting transfer for 7th March (but that is if af arrives this minute!!!). I am trying to not get stressed as that will just delay things more!!! For the LOVE of God!!!

I am going to have my first bath (don't worry have been having showers ) in 2 weeks...so looking forward to it!!!

Thank you lovely, feel a bit sick-think I've eaten too many bad things in the last week and some rubbish happening at work so mixed with anxiety :/
I'll write more tomorrow x

Thank you for sharing your story ineednewshoes. I'm so very sorry that it didn't stick - you must be gutted. Hopefully the next cycle will be more successful, and like you said - the sperm clearly met the egg and tried to implant so that's positive.

kwick arrrggghh no!! Has AF arrived yet??? I so hope it has. What will happen if you can't go through with the transfer?!

pickle happy birthday for yesterday, hope you had a lovely day.

taydex what's happening with you?!! Xx

Hi All,

Oh my goodness you have all been busy while I've been away. For some reason I've not been getting the emails saying that someone's added a post to here. Weird.

Anyway, let me try and catch up...

Kwik - Any sign of the lovely/dreaded AF? Must be odd to actually want it to come! The Men in Black franchise is the way forward - I love those films. Mind you, that might be because I used to have a bit of a thing for Will Smith! I love how you called the 2WW TWOT. I've no idea what it stands for but it made me laugh a lot! Not seen Bachelorette but I love trashy TV so I'm going to hunt it out. Also going to take a look at that documentary you sent but maybe not right now as I'm at work! Ooh, a bath, I am going to add that to my list of things to do if test comes back negative (I have quite a lot on it this month!).

Caution - Glad to hear that your Mum's op went ahead finally. Must be a relief for you all. You're such a good daughter looking after her and holding your family together.

Pickle - Happy birthday!!! I love that you went to the beach for your birthday. I love the beach. Hopefully one day we will live a bit nearer to the beach.

Shoes - Really useful update on the IUI. I'm sorry it didn't work for you this time Must have been heartbreaking after a BFP. I had heard also that sometimes the reason for the delay in testing is due to the trigger drug still being in your system. I did think that might have been baloney seeing as it would be about 2 weeks before... Your reason sounds much more feasible. I have loads of tests at home from the clinic (they give you 2 each time and I've never used more than 1) so I might test early tomorrow...

My 2WW is going pretty well. The distraction of being on holiday in Italy helped. But then on the flip side I wasn't able to be as good with food etc as I would have been if I were at home. I still think I did a pretty good job and didn't have any booze, only had I think 1 accidental full-caff coffee (I asked for decaf, he said yes, that's not my fault, right?!). I also did a lot of walking which I have no idea if that was a good thing or not (I'm guessing probably not). The last day or 2 I have felt like AF is on her way. Sore boobage and feeling a bit emotional. There was a 3rd thing but I've forgotten that now. Still trying to stay positive. You never know... These last few days are always the worst I find.

TD x

Fingers crossed for you Taydex

I'm a walker too and I really don't think this can be bad for our chances. I just can't believe that being a couch potato for the TWW would do either us or our reproductive health any good (though I did heed advice to not play badminton or do Pilates during my tww).

I'm having unmedicated IUI so I know that my 12dpo BFP wasn't trigger-related.

Chemical pregnancies apparently happen when there's a chromosomal defect in the sperm or the egg, so I'm trying to reassure myself that it isn't anything I did that caused my potential embryo, and that if there was a defect of this sort it was the best thing for the pregnancy not to continue.

Bloody hell, you have to be mentally robust for this fertility treatment process, don't you!?

pickle I hope you are feeling better.

taydex TWOT = two weeks of torture
cannot believe your clinic gives you tests... do you have to pay them? I have to buy my own - I get the cheap test strips for run up to 16 days and then a FRER.
Hang in there! Do not worry about the caffeine or walking.

My af came!!! YAY!!! IVF here we come!!! I am trying to take things one day at a time at the mo...

Fingers crossed for you Kwick

It must be exciting to be taking the next step in your process!

Hey ladies,

Shoes - makes sense re your BFP. These things all happen for a reason as you say. It's for the best. And yeah, this IUI/IVF journey is tough as fcuk at times. Excuse my French. We're all here for you (and each other) though. I think I'd really struggle if I didnt have you guys to chat to about all this.

Kwik - all of the tests my clinic gives me are sh*t to be honest. They may be free but they are cheapy rubbishy. The ovulation strips are hit and miss. The preg tests strips I've mostly already known thanks to AF on the day of the preg test. So it's just been confirmation if I've even had to do it at all. Yay for your AF finally arriving. Here's to the next step...

No other news here. No AF but following previous cycles it's been equivalent to arriving tomorrow, possibly Friday. Todays Crinone applicator came out with a few flecks of reddy brown on (TMI sorry!) so we'll see what happens there. Still trying to stay hopeful and positive...

Night ladies,

TD xx

Hello ladies,

Latest from me... So, it's not officially time to test yet. I had my IUI on Friday 05 Feb. One piece of paper from the clinic says test tomorrow, the other says test Saturday. Seems they can't agree on whether turkey basting day is day 1 or if the day after is day 1. Not the first time we've had this from them. Anyway, as I had loads of strips I tested this morning anyway and had a feint second line. So that's potentially a good sign, but then I did use Ovitrelle so it could still be that. Will test again tomorrow, and probably Saturday too. On the flip side, as I was manually removing a little of the Crinone this morning (just a little bit close to the exit as it's going to fall out during the day anyway), it was slightly browny dark reddy colour, which would indicate that AF is on her way. So basically I am now confused LOL. Will see what happens over the next 24 hours or so. It's anyone's guess right now.

Toodle pip.

TD x

hello,
i am looking for the best ivf center, as i was diagnosed by the problem in the fallopian tubes. many of my friends suggests me this hospital: swcic.com/index.php. could anyone suggest me about the IVF process

Welcome!

I would recommend you take a look through the HFEA website, particularly the "Choose a fertility centre" page. This will show you all clinics close to you, alongside their success rates:

guide.hfea.gov.uk/guide/

Let me know if you need a hand deciphering it, it can be a bit confusing.

Thanks,

TayDex

Hey,
Thanks for all birthday messages :) had a lovely time at my aunties for long weekend but then had projectile vomiting Tuesday night :/
Kwick-so pleased Af came and all back on schedule. How has the ivf process been? When I finally have enough saved I'm going to speak to the consultant about egg share vs iui-such a tricky decision to make!
Taydex is it testing day tomorrow?

Taydex , it could be implantation bleeding. From what I've read many women do still get spotting around the time AF is due but can still go on to have a healthy pregnancy.

Fingers crossed for you! It's a delicate balance between allowing yourself to be excited to see the second line and keeping a cool head until you get to your OTD (my clinic it's the day after AF due).

Good luck!

wrote a lengthy message on my phone on the way home but then my phone decided to go one a break!!!!

Taydex really sorry about mixed signals but like shoes says it could be implantation bleeding. Please test again a few more times and I will keep my fingers crossed for you. BTW no such thing as TMI on this thread... especially after my graphic description of my boobage bump eruption

pickle how are you feeling now?

For some strange reason I thought my recent op might have magically cured my really heavy af... but no such luck. Also cannot even take my drug of choice due to IVF.. can only take paracetamol which just does not cut it
I am going into for the baseline scan tomorrow and also to see nurse for medication plan and injection training ...

Oh no Pickle, being poorly on your birthday sucks. At least you got to have a lovely break away for the weekend. So, testing day... 1 piece of paper from the clinic says tomorrow, the other says Saturday. I will test both just to be sure (assuming AF doesn't make an appearance in the interim). Still no more sign of that yet. I started the week with some of my normal pre-AF symptoms (that I have experienced on previous unsuccessful cycles) so wasn't massively hopeful but as the week goes on I am a little more positive. Or at least sat on the fence half way!

New Shoes - Yep, you're right, it could be implantation bleeding. It hasn't increased. Teetering on that delicate balance right now... eep! What's OTD?

Trying to remember timings for me for previous cycles. I have definitely had AF before test but not every time and not sure if that would be today or tomorrow... I'm thinking too much about this!

I'm just working on the things to do if negative list too, just in case...

TD x

Kwik - Looks like we managed to send messages at the same time! [Smile] I will definitely do more tests. I have plenty! My plan is tomorrow morning and Saturday morning. I am right in thinking that it's best to do after 6 hours+ of not weeing, right? So no point really me doing any other time than first thing?

Eugh, paracetamol is sh*t. I've never really rated it and now we're limited to pretty much that and nothing else... I still don't think it hits the spot...

Best to do with FMU (first morning urine) - so after holding for 4 hours or more (always a problem for me as I nearly always go at 4am...). BUT if you have loads of cheapie tests to spare...

That said best advice I can give is to do with FMU with a FRER - they are super sensitive and reliable.

Thanks Kwik. I'll look into those.