Donor IUI?

[MinnieMooMoo]

Hello! Just looking for a group/quiche to join but not really sure where I fit it.

I'm intending to go it alone and have Donor Insemination by IUI starting in January providing my investigations all come back clear.

Any one else in the same boat, or has done it alone in the past?

Thanks so much taydex for researching the numbers for me... Will study them later when I have a functioning brain. I still have a cold but it is teh cough bit that is really getting me down - I slept through though until 6am when I may have done another POAS

FMU is first morning urine. I often get up in the night and almost sleepwalk to toilet and forget to take sample Hence my question on holding for some hours.

pickle I completely hear you regarding scar...I would recommend using bio oil once scar has healed plus sunbathing - both did wonders for mega scar I have above lady garden from ovary removal operation.

caution I nearly had a good cry reading your story - your mum sounds lovely!

I just cried my way through Forest Gump with my 10 year old nephew.

3bfn in a row...

Worst thing about having a cough is that it lingers :( I had a chest infection before Christmas and still have a slight cough now, especially in the mornings. I wish I knew some good cough remedies to tell you to help you shift it :(

Haha bless your heart! My mum is lovely, she's only 45 but has such an old soul. Can't wait to see what she conjures up with her knitting... She's amazing at it, too!

I've managed to break my wisdom tooth no pain yet (touch wood) but the fact it's broken is annoying me!

Oh Kwick I'm so sorry to hear you've got another bfn :( when are you due for AF? Fingers crossed she doesn't show and it's just taking a little longer for it to show on a test!

AF is due on Wednesday but clinic gets you to test 16 days post iui, which is tomorrow for me. The progesterone gel that I have to "apply" twice a day delays the onset of AF so in theory if I do not get bfp tomorrow I should stop using the gel and AF will arrive in a couple of days. I think that I might be a silly fool bit more prudent this time and if I get a bfn tomorrow and carry on with gel until day AF due, test again and then given up if I have a BFN. If a miracle were to occur and I get a BFP tomorrow then I have to get to the clinic - they will run bloods to see if I need to carry on with progesterone.

I also have decided to go forward if I do get a bfn with IVF - not sure if natural or medicated - will depend on what the consultant says. The dream of having a baby is too important for me to give up on just yet even if I do break the bank!

My mum was telling me today about a beauty ingredient that they have banned in Sweden as it can negatively impact fertility - so far I have found 5 products with it in which I will now stop using... 4 of which are brand new!!! I really hope my online spree at Boots does not contain CYCLOPENTASILOXANE.

Ouch caution your poor tooth! Hope you can get it sorted before it starts hurting!

Oh kwick :( keeping everything crossed for tomorrow! Are you able to go for ivf straight away if need be or will you need to save up? Big hugs sweet x

Oh I see... If you were to get a BFP, how long would you continue with the gel for? This may seem really naive, but if you do continue using it until you're 12wks say, does it decrease the risk of miscarriage?

Definitely try IVF if you can. It will probably work so much better for you - what's this, your fourth or fifth round of IUI? I don't blame you at all for wanting to try it - the dream of having a baby and being a mother is one I share with you. I know how important it is, and how much you want it. I can't imagine what it's like to see BFN after you've tried IUI :(
For me, realistically, I know it's highly unlikely for me to fall on the first try of IUI. My mum and Nan were very fertile - as in, fell within 2-3 months with all their children - and I'm just hoping that it's the same for me!

What kind of beauty products are we talking about...?!!! I'm definitely going to check all mine and see whether they contain that chemical/ingredient. It may not be doing anything but you can never be too safe!

I'm going to the dentist early next week pickle - I'm not going to give it a chance to hurt! Thanks lovely x

caution yes they test the progesterone level after getting a BFP to see if you need to keep on with gel - potentially to 12 weeks.

Sorry missed this bit about a broken tooth - hope you get this sorted and pronto... toothache is the worst!

I will go straight on to IVF - cannot really afford, especially after the tax bill I just got, but time is of the essence!!!!

I found the dredded ingredient in Body Shop Vit C capsules, in Rush hair serum and hair protector, bloody Garnier body repair and in Loreal Mythical hair oil!!!! All of which I was really enjoying using!!!

Thanks for all well wishes... I need them!!

Ah that's cool. I didn't know about the progesterone gel - you learn something new every day!

It's really annoying me that I've broken it :( I'm going dentist at some point next week to get it sorted. They'll probably just take it out - not looking forward to that in the slightest!

That's not good at all :| why are they even allowed to use a chemical/ingredient that can reduce fertility? I'm going to check everything I use - fingers crossed there isn't any in them!

I really hope you get you BFP tomorrow Kwick. I'll have everything crossed. X

Kwick sorry about your BFN. I don't know what to say really that won't sound trite.

I've made a list of the up-side of getting a BFN so that when the time comes it might (I naively think) take the harsh edge off slightly. My list: I can have a drink, eat rare red meat and play badminton (among other things!). It must be hard to see the benefits after multiple BFNs though :(

Maybe a hycosy is in order before you spend any more on treatments? As well as checking that your tubes are totally clear the investigation itself has been shown to have a positive impact on the chance of fertility treatment working as the procedure puts the tubes in the best possible condition to do what they're supposed to.

Thanks for mentioning cyclopentasiloxane. I'll check my moisturisers for it. Your hair might thank you for stopping using it anyway! I've cut out all silicones and since doing so my once frizzy-mess-of-an-excuse-for-hair has become shiny curls :) Shocking that it's in the Vitamin C capsules though!

Anyway that's enough from me. Take care of yourself, eat cake and make plans for your next step.

Thanks ineednewshoes. It is definitely a bfn - I tested again today with a frer

I like your idea of a list but as I am staying on wagon for no alcohol and red meat that only things I have are swimming and hot yoga which are not very compelling

I will ask about hycosy however I am not sure for ivf if that is needed as they bypass the tubes? I probably should have had one months ago when I started!

Oh Kwick, I'm so sorry that it's a bfn. I had everything crossed that you'd get your positive - I'm gutted for you :( x

I am very gutted too! I am at my clinic waiting to see consultant to discuss next steps...

Ooh how did you get on Kwick?!! Are you going for IVF like you want too? X

Good afternoon ladies,

Apologies for the delay in replying, it's just so much easier on a laptop than my phone.

Kwik - So sorry to hear another BFN result . I feel your pain. I know what a disappointment it can be. Stay strong sweetie. It's good that you had your next step either way sorted in your head before all this. It's the best position to be in after your bad news (sorry, I'm not really sure how to write that, I hope it comes across how I hoped). I think my wife and I are starting to come over to that way of thinking too.
Thanks for the tip on cyclo..... (can't be bothered to write it all) - I will definitely be looking in my smellies cupboard to see if there's anything I should stop using. How did things go at the clinic today?

Pickle - Good luck with the ebay thing. And also the leg surgery. I don't blame you wanting to get it fixed, I would be the same. It's a very personal thing, and if it makes you self conscious then it's worth fixing (IMHO).

CautionHormone - I love that your mum is getting involved and all excited. I keep thinking about maybe telling my Mum but haven't got round to it yet. I'd want to chat to her face to face about it if I did say anything and they live ~2 hours drive away. Whenever we do meet up it is pretty full on and busy weekend (would rather it just be me and her over a coffee/spa type thing). We'll see...

Any luck with the doctor's appointment today? And how is the poorly tooth - hopefully not causing you too much discomfort. I also had to do the progesterone gel like Kwik when I was doing IUI. It's not pleasant, but well... if it does the job it's amazing what us ladies will go through. I can go in to more gory details if you need...

I Need New Shoes - I do exactly the same. I have a big list with things to do / eat / drink if I get BFN. I personally find that it eases the pain somewhat. I didn't get as far as BFN in my last cycle, I ovulated prematurely before the follicle was viable. However, last week (following this news), I broke my dry January with a nice bottle of red wine, ate medium rare steak, had lots of caffeine, and eggs Benedict. Mentally for me, I need a treat after such news so I find it helps, but whatever works for you really. I can dig out my list if you want to see. That said, if you're going straight on to the next cycle then you've not really got much time. I think I've had my week or so off now and will be back to being healthy once I've finished the last glass of red from the bottle tonight.

Big hugs ladies, sounds like most of us need right now.

TD xx

Sorry to hear this kwick!!! How did you go with the consultant?

Big hugs to all! I def need one-hating stupid work at the mo just want to tell everyone to fxxx off at the mo and that I can't fxxxing do everything I'm not superwoman but suppose I should just be grateful I have a job
Sorry not feeling great so won't bring my negative vibes into the post....so wishing everyone well and I'll come back with more positive xx

I waited to get home so I could update on laptop rather than phone... which also drives me insane!

Firstly thanks for your warm wishes. Taydex you came across beautifully :)

So had a long chat with consultant and have opted to go with stimulated IVF. This means taking a shed of drugs and also handing over my life savings. It is quite complicated but success rates are much higher - 38% but consultant thinks higher as I do not have any known fertility issues - and in the 38% you have a lot that do.

A very very intense day... tomorrow I have to see the nurse - for the meds and consent forms. The whole process takes 2 months - my next big milestone is a 3D scan probably next Friday - depending on when af arrives.

I was EXTREMELY tempted to get a lamb shish on the way home - apart from 2 exceptions I have had no red meat since September... I think I may treat myself before intensity starts again.

Caution is your tooth sorted?

Pickle I am glad you vented - it is best to get it out!

Thank you

Sounds positive kwick, wow 2months but from what i remember of the pictures at my seminar it's pretty amazing what they are able to do...and I think(!!!) more success when don't have to freeze the eggs for someone else to use (altho it was a few months ago, I may have got confused) hopefully it won't be any more tricky with work than the iui's have been so can still go incognito without too many peeps knowing

Evening, ladies!

taydex - Mum is getting excited but cautiously so, because she knows it can take a while. It's lovely that she is, and understands why I want to do it solo - especially because I'm only 24.
There wouldn't be any harm in telling your Mum :) I do agree with it being a face-to-face job though, rather than on the phone. You'll have to make plans to go and see her and have a clear schedule for the weekend - I'm sure she'd be super supportive and so excited at the thought of getting a grandchild (not sure if it'll be her first, but even if it was her 20th she'd still be excited, I'll bet!)
Haven't been to see my GP yet - I actually have an appointment tomorrow morning at the sexual health clinic with my cousin. The only reason why I'm going is so I can get these bloody blood tests done - I thought it might be worth a go there before my GP, seeing as I was going with my cousin anyway (I'd have to take her and pick her up). If I get no joy I'll go to him Wednesday or Friday - either way, by the time this week is out, I will have those blood tests done... I'm a determined woman!
Ooh, tell me more about the progesterone gel... I'm quite intrigued now!

Kwick, I'm so glad you've had a decent chat with your consultant and managed to come to a decision about IVF. Scarier than IUI, I'll bet, but it'll be definitely be worth it when it's successful. Great news about the success rates too- everything is looking positive (although your savings might not haha!) and I'm excited for things to move forward for you.

Surprisingly my tooth isn't giving me any pain. I booked in at the dentist anyway and couldn't get an appointment til 9th February :| good job it isn't giving me any bloody pain!! I hate the dentist too :( thank you taydex and kwick :)

Arghhhh the bloody sexual health clinic have cancelled my appointment because they've got too many drop ins!!! Surely that's not fair?! Just gonna go see my GP I think, saves a lot of hassle!!!

I've decided to bypass the whole 'sexual health clinic doing my bloods' shiz. I'm going to my GP tomorrow - so nervous! I'm worried he'll tell me that I'm being silly because I'm "too young" - although if I don't do it now I'll be doing it in years to come anyway. Doesn't matter whether it's now or ten years in the future - this is the way I want to do things so hopefully he'll understand and respect that and send me for those damn blood tests 😂 X

I am currently sitting in kebab house waiting for my lamb shish... What a day!

Terrible night, awful cough still and I feel alone/lonely and overwhelmed... This is all so compliated!!! Why oh why couldn't the iui have worked???

Have another business trip from tomorrow, which I need like a whole in the head.... Still need to pack but cannot be arsed to do that tonight.

Very :( and ... Mainly with myself... Why did I leave things so late? I always knew I wanted babies!

I don't blame you for getting a lamb shish Kwick - sounds like you could do with some nice things right now!

I'm sorry you're feeling so alone/angry/sad etc... You're never alone - you have us lot :) I know it's not an awful lot but at least we'll understand.

I'm a big believer in fate - and even though you have no reason for the IUI not to of worked, maybe it just wasn't the right time. The IVF will more than likely work wonders - there's always a hidden reason as to why things happen. I know that doesn't help, but maybe believing everything happens for a reason will help you a bit.

How old are you Kwick, if you don't mind me asking?? You're not old, and you haven't left it too late - my Mums friend has just fallen pregnant naturally at 43 after trying for 6 months. It may take a little longer but it doesn't mean it's a never - it will happen for you, you just have to believe

Thanks caution. I REALLY appreciate your support and that of other mns... Not sure where I would be without posts and camaraderie.

This shish didn't even touch the sides.... And I was hungry I did not savour the delight of lamb after a 4 more absintinence... Am now being really naughty and having a lemsip but am feeling so full of cold it is the only thing that can knock it on the head.

I am 41... Nice to hear about your friend... I will try and keep positive mind but I am a bit down in dumps... It will past as I have a naturally psoitive disposition (other people's words not mine).

So not sure if you guys remember that in the lead up to the last iui I developed a massive gunge exploding lump on my right boobage - I think it was just a blackhead that got much much bigger than usual. Well that is finally dying down.

For about 18 months, might be 2 years, I have had a lump on my left boobage. I had it checked out by a specialist and had a mammogram etc - turns out it was a lypoma and nothing to worry about. Well I noticed that it has been getting bigger again... Maybe as a result if hormones? I will ask my go next week - I have to go get thyroid checked over for ivf - clinic suggested I try with go as will be free.

Oops sorry for epic post!

Oh kwick all sounds a bit sh!t at the mo, def think it's worth getting the lump checked out.might just need proper drainage. If it is more cyst type thing then hormones could def play a part in size/gunkage
I dropped the "sick leave" bomb at work about may need time off for leg surgery but considering we have no staff at the mo they were ok at the prospect-thought id warn in advance.

We are here all the way with you (&everyone) x

Thanks pickle. Glad that work were okay about your sick leave. When are you going off?

So I just chose 2 new donors and have asked embryologist to tell which is best alongside my old one...

Think af is on its way :(