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Donor IUI?

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MinnieMooMoo · 09/10/2013 15:12

Hello! Just looking for a group/quiche to join but not really sure where I fit it.

I'm intending to go it alone and have Donor Insemination by IUI starting in January providing my investigations all come back clear.

Any one else in the same boat, or has done it alone in the past?

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Germ20 · 21/12/2015 19:26

We are very excited. Thank you for the luck.

Yeah that's not a very good thing. I hate people knowing my business. Think we will be keeping it to ourselves for a while.

Hope your next round is more positive for you Kwick

Kwick709 · 22/12/2015 17:41

Merry Christmas everyone!!!! Xmas Smile

pickle162 · 24/12/2015 07:49

Merry Christmas everyone :) 1 more day to go Xmas BiscuitXmas Smile

Kwick709 · 27/12/2015 20:53

I have now managed 2 injections of Menopur - day 3 and day 5 of cycle. Similar experience as ovitrelle injections except this time they have given me a sharps box and I have to fill the injection myself.
My aunt sat me down on Christmas Day - she thinks I should go straight to ivf... I am reluctant to do this... Even if this cycle of medicated iui fails... I guess I need to do some soul searching over the next few days and decide what I will do next. This is a wrestle not just because of the cost difference but because of the medical difference...
Anyway I am going to start back at yoga tomorrow and hope I get some clarity Xmas Confused

pickle162 · 29/12/2015 17:25

Hey all,

Did u have a good Christmas?
How long do you have to inject for kwick?do you pick a day with the clinic and hold things off till then?
Only you know what is right for you and how stressful the process is,if ivf isn't something you want to consider ag the moment then go with what you want. You'll have ur own list of pros and cons and sometimes the end point isn't what it's all about its about how you get there ,hope you enjoyed yoga!
Good luck and we are with you all the way Smile

Kwick709 · 29/12/2015 19:32

Hi Pickle: Christmas was okay - how was yours? I am glad I still have some time before going back to work,although I will likely have to do a few work things before then.
I had my day 7 scan today - 3 follicles, 11mm, 9mm and 8mm - this is a good growth for me at day 7 - that is what the injections are for to make the follicles grow bigger and stronger. I read somewhere that a lot of infertility is down to poor egg quality. I was told to inject again today- which I just did. I have another scan on 31st and we will see what time of growth I have then.
I did go to (hot) yoga.... I prefer non-hot but nowhere near me does drop in classes... I could barely walk today.... I have not done a class since the summer!!!!! Really naughty, especially as it would no doubt help with general situation....
I also downloaded an app that contains positive affirmations and hypnosis to help with "project baby". I did about 3 rounds last night!
My auntie spoke to me again today - my cousin in law was also there... She spent years doing iui and ivf... In the end they adopted. She has endometriosis and is now going through the early menopause (at 42). They did not do an ovarian reserve test (ort) until the failed iuis and ivfs which sounds CRAZY!!! But goes to show that methods differ (she was in Puerto Rico).
I got one of the really nice scanners today... She is so nice but I nearly started crying as she has seen me too many times! I said that to her - that I was taking a long time and she said that others take longer and that I was one of her favourites :)
I do hold a certain affection for the clinic (CRGH)... I still have hope that my miracle will come from there!
Wow this is a long post... Sorry about that!
Take care & my best wishes.

pickle162 · 29/12/2015 19:53

Awe that's really sweet and nearly made me cry. I love that your auntie is there for you,I talk to my auntie mostly about all of this too.
Xmas was good,was away for a week in Wales and got back today but at my aunties until Saturday then dreaded work again on Monday :( so not ready for that.
Keep us updated for how you get on :)

Kwick709 · 31/12/2015 08:54

What a night... Had a 3 glass milk binge last night and then slept really badly including stomach pains... Then found a massive lump oozing puss near armpit... Sorry for TMI but for the love of God!!!!
Just off for day 9 scan - will report back later on...

pickle162 · 31/12/2015 09:10

Ouchie, don't worry about too much info, I'm a wound specialist podiatrist so see/hear about far worse lol
Good luck this morning

Kwick709 · 31/12/2015 11:47

Thanks pickle162. Gunge is still coming out...
So had scan - 15mm, 13mm and 7mm. Lining at 8mm. They took bloods - To see if I have surge if so IUI will be tomorrow, if not I have another scan on 2nd... So trip away with family off the cards. Just as well as just had barney with my mum... She never asks me any questions relating to treatment and if she does it is to relay messages from my aunt or in a disapproving way... I was trying to take the high road but I feel so crappy that I could not contain myself and like the teenager that I am (i wish, I am 41!) hung up on her, then sent her call to voicemail and then sent her a text... All very juvenile but I am finding her lack of enthusiasm very hard to handle especially as I feel like shit right now.
Another duvet day for me....

pickle162 · 01/01/2016 21:50

How you feeling kwick? Did the iui happen today?
Have you spoken to your mum? She sounds like mine-haven't even discussed with my mum as she will be so negative about it all and don't want that around me when do start.
Happy new year all

Kwick709 · 02/01/2016 09:29

I am going for a scan later today to see how my follicles are doing... i hope that I have iui in next day or so as side effects from injections are not pleasant!
My mum offered to come with me today but I said no thanks. That is not the support I am looking for... I just want her to ask questions and get informed and not always sound so disapproving when I mention any related discomfort and not eavesdrop when I am trying get info from others who have had similar experiences!
I will report back after scan :)

Kwick709 · 02/01/2016 16:24

So all systems are go for IUI number 5 tomorrow!

INeedNewShoes · 02/01/2016 22:42

That's good news Kwick . Glad your scan went well. Hope for you that this one does the trick!

I had my hycosy scan and was relieved to be told everything is in perfect working order! Looking forward to my first IUI but not for a few weeks as I want to have a bit of time between the hycosy and first attempt to ensure all the dye has definitely gone.

pickle162 · 03/01/2016 07:18

Ooh exciting kwick
Eeek ineedyourshoes how exciting,glad hycosy results were good.
Good luck both of you :)

Kwick709 · 03/01/2016 15:30

So I am back frim 5th IUI. Thsi time is was my actual consultant that did it! She advised me to take 75mg of Aspirin each day, which I am jsut about to do. I have already eaten the pineapple and am keeping my feet warm :) now for the 2WW....

Ineednewshoes glad you have done the hycosy and that they saw all was good. When will you start IUI?

Kwick709 · 06/01/2016 19:10

I hope my previous typos did not put you all off? Where has everyone gone?!

pickle162 · 06/01/2016 19:47

Hey
I'm here,sorry when I got home on sat eve found my boiler had broke so it's been a rather stressful cold new year.its got me down as well as the money I'm going to have to spend out on it could have gone towards paying off credit card ready to start saving :( feel like I've gone back 2steps.
How you getting on,have your abscess things settled down now?any other new symptoms?

Kwick709 · 06/01/2016 20:49

Poor youpickle.. what a bugger! Really sorry to hear about your boiler issues... Wouldnt life be so much better if money was not an issue!
I am just thinking out going into major debt to fund IVF as I am not ready to give up motherhood dream just yet....
Boobage bump is much less sore and has gone down a bit - thanks for asking :)
I do not know what I feel... Definitely very sick in the early hours but this is a progesterone side effect... Am just trying to keep feet warm and eat pineapple each day and laugh and hope but not too much...bloody rollercoaster!

pickle162 · 06/01/2016 21:22

I listen to heart radio saying win £10k, win £100k and I go into little dream world of what I could do with that.
Have you decided to go for ivf after this try(if needed)? I really hope you won't need to and that those extra pennies can go towards your bambino.
It makes me cross cos my friend HATES her husband and says how she can't bear to even be around him yet is somehow 4/12 pregnant "oh it wasn't planned" bla bla bla, it makes things complicated, well love some people would kill for a bubs, you had sex love it's a risk but soooooo jealous and hate that so easy for people that don't even want another one :( sorry sound like a huge bitch but just makes into the green eyed monster

Kwick709 · 06/01/2016 22:08

I hear you pickle someone said something very wise on another thread - something along the lines it is not as though there is a limitation on bfp - ie the fact that someone else is having a baby does not impact your chances... I find comfort in that :)
I often day dream about winning the lottery! I think it will have to be IVF next time...but if that does not work.., what then? I will speak with consultant again anyhoo.
BTW did you see Masterchef USA started on Watch? GR is as brutal as ever!

CautionHormone · 07/01/2016 01:49

Hi all! Kwick, I was wondering whether there was room for me?!

I've read that you've just done IUI #5 - I've got everything crossed that this is your cycle! You're about to catch a break sooner or later, huh?? Smile

I'm 24, and I'm thinking about going it alone. I know most ladies on here have 4+ years experience on me, but for personal reasons I just can't trust males... Plus I avoid people at all costs unless I know them!!

I posted tonight before I saw this thread, and I was going to go for IVF. But reading this, a lot of women are going for IUI - can I ask why, instead of IVF? Just me being curious, I hope you don't mind!!

Another thing is, is I have bipolar disorder. Diagnosed at 18, I've got a good few years under my belt now of dealing with it and have been stable for three and a half years. Do you think this is likely to throw a spanner in the works? I've already enquired about egg sharing and they've told me no because of the bipolar - but seeing as I'm self funding, do they have grounds to turn me down?? I'm really worried about this because since last January, this is all I've been able to think about. I'm nearly in a position where I can go ahead with treatment and I don't want this throwing a spanner in the works. I thought I'd scope around and see what other ladies thought before I went and did it all formally.

Sorry for interrupting your post! X

pickle162 · 07/01/2016 07:02

That's a nice way of looking at it kwick :)
Yeh I saw a bit of the auditions,they are so mean tho,the bit I saw they were telling a young lady that she was prob too young,why does that matter most apprentice chefs are very young. I love the judges on masterchef oz which is part of it for me lol

Hey cautionhormones, welcome-the more the merrier :)
For me Ivf is quite a surgical procedure and requires more ££/more stress on body/more time off work. As I'm 32 in 6wks I'm hoping to be able to try a few medicated iui 's and then if that doesn't work I have the option of egg share hopefully before I'm 35.
I went to a seminar at London women's hospital where they explain all the procedures and was a huge help in understanding it all. For both men and women (sperm and egg) there is a really small % of donations that would be able to go through to actual donate and look at préexisting medical conditions- so maybe bipolar is one of them,I don't know?! They shouldn't be allowed to refuse you have ivf but may not allow egg share as they find most of that for you... You have to go for a counselling session at the beginning (& can have throughout if you chose to) where they discuss different things with you
Have you told anyone like your gp?(I haven't-just curious) don't know if your on any meds for it but might be worth looking into that as some meds used to be bad for preg women. Good luck :) x

pickle162 · 07/01/2016 07:03

Fund not find-stupid autocorrect

Kwick709 · 07/01/2016 08:30

Welcome cautionhormones!
I started with iui as much less intervention/cost but has much lower success rates... :( I think my 5 iuis could have covered an ivf and then some. Defo agree with pickle - go to as many clinic seminars as poss to get as much info as poss. That said I learn something new every day about this process - now mainly from threads on MN!
I am not sure how egg sharing works as an too old to make the grade!
Anyway off to do affirmations b4 another great day at work!
Have a fab day everyone!

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